dusties don't get a lineage - reacting to homeless single mom with 4 kids under 4 

Ladies, please listen to Elle and get the highest education you can. My grandmother told me when I was a kid, “pretty and stupid is pretty stupid. Pretty and smart is pretty smart.”

We can't end misogyny, but we can breed them out by leaving them alone 🤭💀

it seems women can never choose right. if we aren’t selective enough we are blamed for everything that happens to us, but when we are selective our standards are too high and we’ll die alone. at this point i’d rather die alone than be stuck with a life i don’t want.

My father himself would literally tell us to grow up to be independent women bc he didn’t want us to “”end up”” like MY MOTHER & HIS WIFE. She was literally voted most likely to succeed in her senior high school yearbook and is the reason his business grew to what it is. She was the (unpaid) brains of everything we have. Ungrateful, brutish man. I would rather die than end up with a man like that.

As a black woman who grew up poor, I knew immediately that if I ever wanted to live a better life, I needed to 1) not have children young 2) not have children with broke men 3) surround myself around successful people and 4) to go to college and study something that will make me money. Now, at 35, I have a law degree, I make $200,000 per year and I have a toddler. I am no longer with his father but guess what, I don’t need him!! When the relationship started to fall apart, I was able to pack up my stuff and move me and my baby into a new home with no problem. I don’t need child support or a dime from his father. Luckily, his father is actually a great dad and is super helpful but I know for a fact that my life is easier because I don’t rely on men for ANYTHING. Men only dissuade women from getting an education and a career because we are harder to control when we have financial and intellectual freedom. Stop letting men turn you into an easy slave.

I just matched with a guy online and did background check. He went to prison for chocking his ex and did 2 years behind bars. Choking cases are 700% to turn into homicide in the future

My grandma wasn't allowed to continue high school because of the law at the time. She was a bright, straight A student. My mum got her bachelors, but sacrificed taking her masters to support her family and my father's career, despite being recommended for the program. Their advice to me was to get educated before anything else. I'm going to achieve what they could not. I refuse to let anyone or anything stand in my way of doing this.

ladies, your womb is sacred. it's literally a portal. Only a truly worthy man who rightfully, legally and spiritually claims you- deserves his seed (his legacy) to be brought into earth

Ladies, don't have more children than you can comfortably take care of on your own. Statistically, it's the women who take care of the kids whether they're married or not.

I highly suggest that everyone (including myself) volunteer at a homeless shelter or women's shelter/batter women's shelter. You will learn REAL quick how life can be crazy.

The redpill community will still try to convince you HER situation is still better than "dying alone with cats" 😂 Yeah right.

As a single mama with little help, it is challenging. However, it is exponentially better than being in a bad marriage.

Even if you are happily married and your husband is an amazing man that provides financial, emotional support...you are one bad car accident/sickness away from being a single mother so never judge! My cousin's Godmother woke up to find her husband d*ad next to her. They were in the US on their own with their children...the police implied she had somwthing to do with it...autopsy showed pancreatic cancer no one knew was there...she was so lucky her father is a pilot and could easily find work. Her mother stayed home with the kids and homeschools them since she was a college professor, her father brings home money and she started nursing school. If she had to come back to the home country with the kids they would have been lost...they barely speak the language, their lives are in the us...I cannot imagine those poor kids having to give up the home and country they grew up in after also losing their father...btw...he was not even 40 when this happened. They are so lucky to have her parents as a safety net at such times.

I've got two friends: (1) well off who believes poor people shouldn't spread their "stupid" by having children. (2) a person who grew up poor, married a well off husband, had 5 children, saw him immerse himself in meth, they divorced, and now she is a "poor single mom with 5 kids" that my friend would look down on. Her life is rough but she's making it and I'm proud of her. Single motherhood SUCKS. You *have* to be careful who you sleep with. Don't pick dusty men and don't shame other women for making a mistake.

I agree wholeheartedly... education culture should be the norm!

Thank you for touching on this! Growing up in poverty while being conventionally attractive, and having a neglectful father set me up for disaster. I was groomed by an older man and didn’t know how to tell him no . I knew I deserved better and made it my business to not get pregnant by that man by secretly taking birth control. I’m so glad I did that. I’m able to live the life I want child free but I feel for the girls that were trapped in.

I worked at social services years ago and yes poverty is a generational cycle. Its said but so true. And as a woman who grew up in lack and a dysfunctional household, this is the reason I dont have children. Refuse to bring a child into instability because being poor sucks.

It’s really interesting how people who are most likely to shame poor single mothers are mostly “men” who say that women should have babies as soon as possible in their lives because what’s the point of education and career when men don’t care about that but about their looks and youth and so on. This shows how much inconsiderate they are about the risks that women face when entering a marriage-perhaps if they were aware of them they would stop b*tching about how men don’t want to marry bc of the allymony. Another thing is often the same people treating marriage like some kind of trap, and pregnancy as a way of luring them into that trap.

Once again, you've nailed it bestie. I learned this the hard way. Saying yes to the wrong things got me nothing except health problems. Once I started saying no to things that aren't my priorities, that changed.

If shame culture was equal... man would be OVER. We as woman don't need any more shame. We were shamed since the beginning about our bodies, manners, etc.

you hit the nail on the head with this and the brainwashing! dusties should not have a lineage. subscribing!

Yes, we should never shame... We all make mistakes and are all here to learn. Whoever shames might be put in a similar situation... So they can learn to not shame.

I hope for her and kids to found their forever home and support.

am i the only one who thinks this idea of a “legacy” or a “lineage” is really weird? like, your children are not your “legacy”… they are independent human beings with their own identity and lives. your legacy is the impact you leave on the world YOURSELF, both the positive and negative.

Girl, you re doing the work of the lord!

honestly, in my opinion I believe having children is for the wealthy. For people that have a good life to offer for their off spring. I lived in poverty as a child it sucks

I work with families going through divorce and I agree that divorce and single motherhood being “good” or even no big deal is a luxury belief. That mother on tik tok is doing a good job for her circumstances but that is not a situation any woman should aspire to ok. I would definitely encourage women not to have children unless they are with a good, stable husband/partner who will provide financially at least the minimum standard of living and they have their own marketable skills which can earn them money in some way just in case. Children who grow up in solid 2 parent households without financial stress and ideally with mom being able to prioritise their care when they are young are the most privileged of the next generation. That is giving your children the best possible start in life. Procreating with an unstable man who has mental health issues and makes bad financial decisions (or is just broke) is going to hurt your children. That’s not shame, that’s just facts. Don’t do it! We can and should collectively lift our standards.

My granny out lived 2 husbands, my mom is alive and dad has dementia, the women in my life have drilled into my brain that they didn’t care what I did with my degrees as long as I got them so that I could have a career and never be financially dependent on a man. They both had careers and still the men were not as nice as I thought they were, they said men behave better when u have choices. Poor ppl are supposed to have kids that is true historically, and most males were incels historically too.

Mom @ 15 → Master's Degree → Tech Industry . . . wondering how??? I too come from generational poverty. Born to a single parent, the oldest of 4 daughters, and all with different fathers. She knew how to keep us alive, but she didn't . . . or rather couldn't . . . teach us how to live. Being able to just provide the foundational Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs (food, water, shelter, and clothing) with the assistance of Public Aid did not make for a happy and productive childhood for a multitude of reasons -- but to my mother, that was all she believed that we needed . . . because it was all that she was given. I needed so much more than my mother could give; and because I was not shown or taught how to recognize love and respect in our household or within myself, I did not know how to defend against it when love and respect was not present in others -- including the 16-year-old boy who impregnated me. My home was not a happy home, and once my daughter arrived, my not so happy home became much worse. "You ain't gonna be shit!" . . . "You gonna be just like the rest of these bitches!" . . . "I shoulda aborted you when I had the chance" . . . and after my daughter was born, an added "Gone head and have a few more because the damage is already done!" was added to the list of insults that my mother showered me with on a regular basis. I was the scapegoat that did not know how to escape my dysfunctional family system -- but then, my life mattered because I needed to protect hers -- and then, I began to try. I tried to complete my high school education, but my grades dropped dramatically, so I was forced to go to an alternative high school for "problem children". The teachers and staff cared and encouraged me to confide in them about my home situation -- and then, they gave me the support I needed to graduate. I tried to go to community college, but because I could not find affordable, trustworthy, and reliable childcare, I kept failing my classes -- and then, I ran into a grade school classmate who told me about the university that he attended that offered wrap-a-round support for single parents. I tried to figure out how I could get into the "high-in-demand" family housing on campus, but I was told to apply for subsidized housing in the college town -- and then, I got the only unit available for an extremely low amount so long as I was a full-time college student. No one in my entire family had ever left "the hood" at that time in order to go to college; and trust, I was unsure of the outcome, but I knew without a doubt of what my life would be if I stayed -- and I wanted no part of that life anymore. In my case, it was not only men who drained me of my essence, it was my mother who did not know how to teach me how to recognize and protect it in the first place; but I learned to "just ask." It took time for me to learn the differences between "choice" and "uninformed choice" . . . "failing" and being a "failure" . . . "aspirational" and "actionable"; and it was my willingness to forego the shame of what I did not know in order to "just ask" those in position to help me learn how to achieve tiny goals one step at a time. As my goals were realized, it enabled me to understand my values, set boundaries to protect those values, and find my voice in order to advocate for my values. I understand that my story is the exception and not the rule, but I am living proof that to expel "the bad" [women and men] will make room for you to have clarity that attracts "the good."

I raised a daughter without the support of her father, it was very hard for her since she and I lived on my income. All she remembers is what I couldn't/didn't do for her, it is a very sad relationship.

All of this. Plus, being an occasional binger of true crime, the most common thing people say about the victims of horrific crimes is "she would help anyone" or "she would do anything to help anyone." Being very agreeable is a poor life strategy for all the reasons Elle eloquently pointed out, but it's also a very real danger to your safety. Please read The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. Women are conditioned to override not only our best interests but also our fear at the expense of others, especially men. Getting comfortable with being disagreeable, with questioning, with prioritizing yourself in spite of the possible negative opinions of other people can quite literally save your life.

My mom of two girls,single, full time working nurse in Poland. She is my hero. But what she teach me was to not sacrifice myself like her. 35 yo, no kids, very happy. My mom does not regret having us but she is happy that we made better choices. She did a great job.

People in poverty having children make it harder for them in life. The problem is, a lot of people that are impoverished dont believe that they are in poverty and they also don't understand how expensive children are.

When we were younger one of my friends joked in passing that she wanted different baby daddies so her kids could look different...even though I was in my early 20s ,still learning myself, I looked at her like she lost her mind and said why would you do that to your kids and yourself and proceeded to tell her that I had to help my mom raise us because she didnt have any help from any of the men she procreated with she literally was always working all the time and so was I with no real childhood. Children (in the modern world) are for middle class and up, MARRIED couples! Two people that are financially, emotionally and mentally stable and interdependent coming together to help raise the next generation.

Ideally, people who don't have much money should avoid having expenses they cant afford. Its not that hard. We have too much access to information to be out here making dummy moves.

How can 4 kids under 4 happen to anybody? This is a choice No shame but let’s not reduce that woman’s autonomy of her body to chance and oopsies

Not shaming these mothers i shame the dads who put them in misery , glad im not having relationships with people in poverty esp thoes who have pickmesha or no nuance nelly

Single mom here , she right ladies. Shared this with my teenage niece bc pls honneyyy learn from my mistakes ❤

I was that agreeable pretty girl who married a minimal effort man who love bomb faked the opposite until i got pregnant with first kid 6mo in....also theres definitely a difference between golden retriever and love bombing....but i grew up with a dad just like him, so i didnt understand the difference and thought i found someone nothing like my dad. I was scammed becuase i didnt understand what i was actually looking for or at. ...i went from "trophy wife" to a sick over weight potato with 4 kids who cant afford to divorce...yet. BUT, im so happy i found you, i was already "rebellious" but needed a voice like you in my head explaining Why my insticts to rebel are correct! And im going to use you to help me raise my 3 daughters and son. This is information and understanding they All need, so thank you!!! You've possibly "saved" 5 of us from generational dysfunction and toxicity.

I met a girl who quit her job because her crush got fired. Girl needed that job, and that guy was a jerk. He tried to pawn all his work on the women at our warehouse. She's probably doomed right now.

This video hit so hard, my sister and I grew up in poverty and she married and had kids with a guy who doesn’t provide and acts like a child himself. I don’t shame her I just wish she was less agreeable 😢

Girl, you need to write a book AND a PhD thesis on this! These concepts you're putting out are gems that I think need formal recognition by the academic & social sciences world! You'd be surprised by how much what your saying is fresh news to so many people and also verbalizes nuggets of ideas people have but can't put into words concretely. That's your gift, Elle. It illuminates the path for so many. Thank you.

Totally on board with learning on other women experiences. Also would love to explore the topic of children becoming a luxury status symbols and hear what you have to say. Thank you, this is great advice for young women

Elle! You emanate so much power, knowledge and WISDOM in this video! I can only keep nodding at every point you made. Keep educating us, we need this kind of content in this manner of delivery. Thank you, Elle!

My Grandmother taught my Mother and me to get educated, have kids late and never rely on men financially. Being SAHM means being one accident from a disaster. Sex is not worth problems it causes. Women pay 99% social and biological cost of having a kid, do 99% of work and men get 99% of praise.

In these urban environments with all this violence, her baby's father could have been unalived for all we know. I live in Philly. I was a doula to a young lady who had three children with her man. He supported them and they had a great relationship. But he was in these streets and was unalived in 2020. She was left a single mother of 3 under 5, with unstable housing. No parents because she was a foster child, now grieving her best friend and raising her kids alone struggling to survive. Be grateful if you were blessed enough to avoid a situation like this.

Bestie I truly appreciate your approach to this discourse. I can feel the empathy & compassion displayed. Bestie I definitely got the point. Well said!

You’re the woman figure in my life to guide me. My mom made me feel unworthy, ungrateful & undeserving of princess, even bare minimum treatment. She’s always supported men & has been used and cheated on. She’s extremely independent and raised my sister and me to not rely on any man. Including receiving good treatment from men

ur approaches are always so refreshing and i can't tell u how valuable it is to be able to watch someone compassionate and educated :,) ty bestie

What i like about her is that she doesnt give up. In many videos shes literally giving herself a pep talk to keep going and honestly i relate

As someone who's been in an abusive relationship, this video deeply resonates with me because I had a lot of my life drained out from it. Your empathy and understanding is extremely refreshing and I wish I had that in my circle of friends when I was younger and running away from home. It's not easy for most people to understand how we can wind up in very difficult situations such as having four kids under four, I am really grateful for Elle to be sharing wisdom that can help the world have more love and empathy 💗

I highly recommend watching the Tyrese film ‘baby boy’. It’s a great coming age film that I think a lot of guys/gals in their early 20s need to see. The main character Jody is 20 and does nothing all day, and is already a baby father to two different women. He is a bum, and there’s a line he says in the movie to his baby daughter ‘i sure make pretty babies. If nothing else, I know how to make a pretty baby’. Soo many men like this exist, where they don’t take care of the kid or themselves. They think creating them is enough. Meanwhile his 2 baby mommas have their own places, their own jobs, etc. I just hate that one of them keeps waiting around for Jody even tho he constantly cheats on her

Elle, that part about not shaming her is why I love you and follow you. I need to say I usually never follow content like this cause I’m so skeptical, but you’re the real deal and have such a nice soul 🥰

Keep doing what you’re doing, and thank you.

As a married woman with only one child I can confidently say that when I stopped people pleasing and started standing up for myself was when my relationship with my than bf changed. I had really low standards and even lower self confidence and because of that I allowed him to treat me so poorly for so long. When I realized that he was projecting his misery onto me and that he needed me more than I needed him our whole dynamic shifted. I wish nothing but the best for that mom of 4 and I hope she will be able to teach her kids not to settle and how choosing your partner is so important. If anyone should feel shame it’s the father of those kids that choose to leave her with all the responsibility of raising those kids alone.

I refuse to believe that women didnt have any of the choices that lead them into the shitty situation of ending up as a single mom. No shame to those that came out of an abusive relationship or had a spouse that suddenly passed away but to say shit like contraception is expensive is an easy cop out to cover their fuck up. Practice abstinence in that case. And ppl take at least 7-10 years to know their partner before tying the knot or having kids. Sounds more like poor parenting than upbringing to me imo.

I love how much you are capable of expressing critics, while being respectful on a maximum level at the same time. I totally get the vibe you were talking about ❤

As someone who grew up as a homeless child and well up into my adulthood. I’m very adamant on believing that you shouldn’t have kids if you’re financially unstable. From a first hand experience to third hand experience, this is what I firmly believe. I do also understand that life happens and people have kids from all financial backgrounds and I can accept that. But my beliefs still stand.

You give great, clear, and correct advice. Better advice than people twice your age. Please keep doing what you're doing, because you are helping women, especially younger women, before they make mistakes that they can't turn back from.

IDK I actually think shame is important. If you feel no shame or disappointment around your poor decisions, where’s the incentive to make better choices? So long as that shame comes with support and education, I don’t see the issue.

The first 21 seconds, a WORD. I was more of a late bloomer, i have so much empathy for my friends who had the world interract with them in such a sharkish way just cause they were beautiful. Needs to be played on repeat outside school gates.

I like what you had to say Elle. I was holding my breath. I finally exhaled! I will say this to all the Ladies, really get off social media and start to look at the real life consequences of certain choices. It will teach you everything you need to know! Motherhood is sacred and pure. But this life can be turbulent. Educate yourself in everything! We are blessed because our access to knowledge is much easier.

What can you do if you're an agreeable woman who is highly educated?

It's weird but my girlfriend is basically my male protection but female protection is so much better. She respects me as a human being and we both have so much control over what we want in life I did date men before and I never felt loved as she loves me. After having seen 5 different men treating me the same way, as a sexual object only to be desired in sex, I kinda had enough with cishet men and decided to only date women xD.

You are so awesome Elle! I love all your videos. I wished I had that mindset when I was younger. I landed a financially stable life but see some of my other girlies and witnessed my own mother as a kid being drained by low effort below bare minimum men. Misery becomes the norm, it becomes a lifelong mindset until you are the one choosing a partner according to the mindset you have. Thoughts and prayers doesn’t put food on the table, nor it pays rent or anyone’s university tuition. I wish this lady to build the best possible outcome for her and her children. They are the future.

Maybe not having kids before being secure yourself ??

In this story I see 4 irresponsible men, 1 woman who's sticking with her kids doing the best she can and a society that doesn't support women.

Excellent commentary. Thank you for bringing up class in this discussion. I do see younger people getting influenced easily by wealthier influencers, but what works for a millionaire doesn’t work for a working class or middle class person (including people who make low 6-figures, since $100K-$200K is now considered to be middle-class according to the IRS). A wealthy person can easily be a single parent since they can afford help to raise children (nannies, boarding schools, summer sleep away camps), but most or all of the burden is on the single parent for the working or middle class. Thank you for educating women about getting their education and working on building their own bag. Sure, it’s fabulous to be able to find a provider, but what happens if the fairy tale doesn’t come true? Or, what happens if you do get that provider and he either dies when you’re young or trades you in for a younger model?

Gratitude for your real talk. I use that share button a ton to help out my spoiled girlie friends. It’s not judgement; it’s DISCERNMENT. And I LOVE the way you preach it🙏🏼 many thanks

“They literally cancelled these women out of existence” ma’am 😭😭

'Scapegoat child of a Narcissistic family unit here ' I completely agree with you on how people that grew up poor will usually agree on the fact that 'poor people should NOT have children' people that grew up well off, I've noticed are typically pretty ignorant to the fact that growing up poor is Traumatizing and Not fun.. My birth giver (I refuse to call that demented mean-spirited bully my mother, because she never was that) grew up wealthy with a Doctor father and interior designer mother, and she Never went without, she had no clue the value or importance of money, she married a man who made pretty much no money and had 4 babies back to back, got stressed out over the money and living poor issue, divorced him.. Made up a disgusting lie about him molesting me when I was 4 (he never did and she never pressed any legal charges) cried to her rich parents to buy her a house and she basically tormented me my whole life!!. She was so cruel!. I had 4 pairs of pants 3 hoodies and 1 pair of shoes to last me all year.. It was humiliating and I felt so ashamed... People really have no idea how bad it sucks to grow up poor and with Narcissistc parents that don't care about you is the cherry ontop of the shit pie.. Ugh.... I had a lot of toxic shame from growing up that way which lead to anxiety and isolating myself, so I never found a good partner to breed with so I've decided to not have kids. It's not fair to them. I wish more people where aware of this poverty and bullying issue. It's best to not have them, maybe in another life. Who knows.

If you can’t afford yourself you can’t afford a baby let alone 4 babies PERIOD!!!! It’s all about self accountability and self control which that woman is clearly lacking both.

Your points are just 🤌🏼🤌🏼🤌🏼🤌🏼🤌🏼🤌🏼🤌🏼🤌🏼🤌🏼

Yes. Power is Responsibilty. Unfortunately most influencers are not, these are women showing babies/ children the behaviours that are enticing and serving men. Women / influencers parading their children, lives in front a the camera. They have the money, the nannies and all the support that other women do not have yet try to emulate. Ladies learn how to say No.

You're a thought leader of high intellect. Never stop making these cozy girl chat style videos 💕💕💕

This is such a beautiful and empowering channel. This lady deserves more subscribers!

She speaks Truth! I was unexpectedly widowed at 37 as a SAHM (of 17 years) with 7 children at home to still support. I am so glad I got my Bachelor's degree to fall on as well as a marketable skill/my small business. I feel so much more secure, empowered and hopeful going forward! I did receive a small amount of life insurance and assets to rely on but eventually need more pay via outside employment as my children get older and the youngest weans from breastfeeding. I am now the only one long term that can financially provide for my children. My education and marketable skills are so necessary!

Having the highest education, money or a husband can’t stop you from becoming homeless. Anything can happen and you can become homeless. So I’m happy you’re not shaming or talking down to her. ❤

“Learning from others mistakes” ❤❤❤ so true

I was the girl in underprivileged circumstances. I escaped because I am highly disagreeable, especially with men! I couldn't agree with this more!!!

It's lovely how supportive and compassionate you are 🎉

I hate that it’s normalized to shame these single mothers but not the men who need vasectomies before they go sniffing around.

All your posts are SPOT on and I was thinking about this whole concept lately ❤

Thank you I gave up on love and marriage ever since I was a child, but I do wish for protection

I have 3 fake engagement rings and I wear them to work 😂

I thought this was about Heather from Love After Lockup at first. This is terrible. Nobody should be homeless in America. We have so many vacant properties. Look at Massachusetts public housing for example. They have all kinds of empty units they just got exposed for not filling them even though the waitlist is years long.

It's really sad that we live in a world where men only respect other men, as though women are only worthy of respect if we are their property. I'm reminded of being outside a store last summer, just unlocking my bike and this guy was asking me if I had a boyfriend. I lied and said yes. Then, the guy wanted to know this supposed boyfriend's name, so I made up a name on the spot and then the guy was like, Oh, okay. Like, apparently I'm not worthy of respect as a human being without having a boyfriend or husband? Why can't women be respected as people on their own with their own bodily autonomy and agency? This world is so messed up.

So glad you brought up luxury beliefs

The comment section under these videos always make me very happy

I have sort of a counter-argument to this. It's not that poor people shouldn't have kids. Is the you should be very careful about who you have them with. And getting as much education as you can. Is a way to kind of keep yourself out of that.

Being in poverty since childhood due to my dad’s negligence his duty as a faithful father. I keep myself away from men species ever since I started to gain their attention. I can never trust this gender. The good ones are scared and impossible to find especially as a poor woman. I rather die alone with life I can afford myself than to go through the trauma.

You are completely correct! So glad I found your channel 💜

I wish I had known all of this when I was 16 😢

No problem. I love being disagreeable ❤️

I LOVED that Elle makes this videos. She has such insights while also being compassionate. Thank you for all the work you do!❤️☺️

I never liked kids, even when I was one, so I always knew I'd be childfree by choice, but I'm still always floored that for every absolute Bum guy you see (and I mean literal bums, grown men begging for money & living on the streets w Nothing), most have a kid or two somewhere out there, which means there are an absolute plethora of women out there w low self-perception/self-worth who looked at this LVM w No prospects & thought, "Yeah, this is a good candidate to create another human life with." I feel bad for them but its also kind of like " Well DUH!"🤦‍♀️ 💀

I don't disagree with the premise that one should be financially prepared to take care of their children but its also important to think about the fact that poverty doesn't impact everyone equally. There would be defacto ethnic cleansing of certain groups if they stopped having children just because of money. It just isn't that simple and its a lot more complex problem that needs a lot more complex solutions. I think the laws need to do more to hold men accountable.

I just found you because the algorithm was doing its thing ❤wow you articulated this so well and your vibes are amazing. I’m so excited to watch more!

So my ex owes me $200. He wants to get right with me and I told him if he pays me back what he owes me then I'll unblock him and agree to date him again. He only payed me back half and was like alright now come visit (4 hour drive btw) and I'm no, pay me back the other $100 and I'll meet you half way for a date. Now he is demanding a refund for the $100 he owed me that he paid back because I refuse to go on date with him until he pays me back in full. I was like no, you owed me that and you still owe me $100 more than we'll talk....now he name calling

There, I now found a family of women who are rooting for other women and supporting them so we all rise to be ultimate baddies. Thank you Elle.