Dying young: 'It's not what you think' | Death Land #7

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Joe is 34 and is facing his own death. He was given a terminal cancer diagnosis and has already lived longer than doctors predicted. He tells Leah how dying was nothing like he had anticipated, and he and his friends discuss the impact this unexpected turn has had on how they view life
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@theGuardian 4 года назад

Update from Leah: Joe died on 27th December, less than two weeks after filming. He was with his parents and his wife. Thank you all for your lovely comments

@johannak1440 4 года назад

The Guardian ❤️❤️

@jinxterpinxter 4 года назад

Whats his last name?

@bigmort6916 4 года назад

😕♥️

@emilyllewellynbrown7659 4 года назад

Rest in peace Joe. Your story has touched me.

@jeancater1388 4 года назад

The Guardian Rest In Peace Joe.♥️

@stacyhaynes4832 4 года назад

My son was diagnosed at 12 with a brain tumor that came back about a year and a half later. He fought for exactly three years and passed the Friday before Mother’s Day in 2012. He was 15. I wish I had known about these you tube videos on subjects like this. These might have helped him to feel less alone. He just wanted to go to school and be with his friends and have no worries about mortality. My Angel. I yearn for you. Always

@18photonerd 4 года назад

Stacy Haynes I’m so sorry for your loss and may your son Rest In Peace and your heart find healing.

@rumiexpresse9049 4 года назад

I am so sorry, bless him

@denisepaulsenful 4 года назад

You are loved.

@eviandaj 4 года назад

so sorry for your loss, rest in peace to your son :(

@stacyhaynes4832 4 года назад

FutureAirman93 thank you for the kind words. Blessings to you and your family

@kelly-mariemoore7080 4 года назад

My husband was diagnosed with a terminal condition at 19. He’s now almost 43. He was told he wouldn’t c 40, but he’s doing well. We know he won’t live til an old age- but every week is a bonus. I love and adore him whatever

@barb4645 4 года назад

Kelly-Marie Moore what a lovely uplifting post. I sincerely wish you both much happiness

@kelly-mariemoore7080 4 года назад

Jacob Creek thanks :-)

@honeygolden9015 4 года назад

My fiancé has a terminal illness as well. He wasn’t supposed to live beyond 12. He is 36 now. He is the funniest person you will meet. Every day is a blessing and nothing is guaranteed.

@stacitaylor1064 4 года назад

Kelly-Marie Moore you’re beautiful 💔

@BalliBee 4 года назад

💚🧡💛❤️💙💜

@rebeccah.4983 3 года назад

Reading that Joe passed away soon after this filming, made my heart hurt all the more -- his face lighting up when he was with his wife Louisa was so poignant as were his remarks about death being hardest on those who love him. My deepest sympathy to his family, wife and friends who gave Joe so much loving support -- he was a very wise young man.

@lucidsnow4110 3 года назад

Where did it say he passed away shortly after filming? Sorry if I missed I am just curious

@michellestella7477 3 года назад

@@lucidsnow4110 top comment from the guardian

@lucidsnow4110 3 года назад

@@michellestella7477 oh my bad 🤦🏽‍♂️

@JesusGodHolySpirit3 3 года назад

Thanks for ruining my thoughts of him still being alive right now t.t"

@rebeccah.4983 3 года назад

@@lucidsnow4110 Sorry, I'm only seeing your question now. As Michelle says here, Leah sadly reported his passing and the Guardian site then updated their story here in the Comments section.

@Alipore70 4 года назад

He is so articulate, intelligent and sympathetic and insightful... wish someone was writing his memoirs for him.

@mechloe8528 4 года назад

And u my friend, sound the same n I wish all the best for u :)

@bayborn510 3 года назад

I thought the same thing. It’s a gift not everyone has.

@jaredkinley8302 3 года назад

Exactly the words I could think of

@philancell884 4 года назад

As my dear deceased Grandmother used to say "never spend a worry bout death! There can't be anything wrong with it! Everyone is doing it! Enjoy each day alive as fully as you can!" She lived until just beyond her 93rd birthday.

@thisorthat7626 4 года назад

Phil Ancell, your Grandmother shared wisdom and wit. I love this and shall remember to say this to myself often. Blessings.

@taradactule6052 4 года назад

Your grandmother sounds like a lovely lady!

@philancell884 4 года назад

@@taradactule6052 she was the greatest. Everything a grandmother should be. I was fortunate enough to know both!!

@philancell884 4 года назад

@@taradactule6052 thank you she was a treasure. 💓

@carmcam1 3 года назад

i would print that on a shirt.

@deadgrl7740 4 года назад

I got my terminal diagnosis 5 years ago ago. At the time I was told average prognosis is 7-10 years. It doesn't change anything, not for me. Other than not having much quality of life, I agree with this guy. I don't feel like someone who's dying. I'm just a regular person who will probably die sooner than I normally would. Its what you make it

@jasenkavukelic5047 4 года назад

Sending you my love!

@peters.8243 4 года назад

Whats your exact diagnosis If I may ask?

@Sarah-dk8je 4 года назад

Sending love. Live while u can, make the most of it while your here. I hope ur OK. Much love from the uk❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@handmadestuff157 4 года назад

jacob blanchard how is that funny ?

@handmadestuff157 4 года назад

jacob blanchard how do u know shes dead

@caboosebrooks757 4 года назад

Death is inevitable.. I'm more focused on living.. On a grave stone is the year of birth,a dash and the year of death. . Its the dash in the middle that matters.

@alicek7420 4 года назад

I used to think that, that life was the dash in the middle. I now think of it as boarding school where you’ve been so long, you’ve forgotten where you’d come from. You get to go back when you graduate. It’s important to do your very best in school, to gain knowledge and learn love and kindness.

@josephhaddakin7095 4 года назад

A dash of life.

@Trrippy_Shades 4 года назад

Alice K can I ask was there one experience that brought you to that conclusion?

@barbarapeller 4 года назад

Caboose Brooks, yes it does matter and it matters what we do with it as well, for, in the end, it will be counted.

@josephhaddakin7095 4 года назад

@@barbarapeller Faith through works?

@daquaw16 4 года назад

I don’t think we’re scared to die, but we’re scared of not knowing what’s actually life after death

@roxannerodriguez7075 4 года назад

I like your idea! See, I don't think we're afraid to die either. I think we're afraid of how much we will miss our loved ones, and the life that we loved- that we will be leaving behind... I think we fear what we will miss...

@josephhaddakin7095 4 года назад

Fear of the unknown. Exactly.

@camerontaylor7471 4 года назад

Ronald Smith the scary thing about death, is that you won’t know that your dead... I was never afraid of dying, in fact I was depressed/suicidal most of my childhood... but now as I get older I see myself aging, and I can’t believe How short life is! I’m already 27 and I still feel like I’m 17! Lol ... but I took my mind into that moment of death, it’s like going to sleep and never waking up, never going to being able to see another sunrise, to hear music, to eat food, to think, to feel, to see my loved ones again... just absolutely nothing, and that is absolutely terrifying! ... and then I think of all the evil in the world, all the pain and suffering people have gone through, and death being the only justice for victims, because they no longer have to feel... and how unfair that is! That we can just go and use others as slaves, and hurt each other with no consequence... and then I realized that either way, I wouldn’t want to live forever... and that is the only way I have been able to come to peace with losing my loved ones and myself dying ... because no one wants to live forever.. there’s a limit to enjoyable life experiences you can have, and eventually that will get boring... so death is like the ultimate savior... because no one wants to live forever!

@ThalesPo 4 года назад

Biggest fear I think is that you spend your whole life working to accumulate knowledge, abilities and wealth, just to then lose everything.

@k0smon 4 года назад

@@ThalesPo //// Knowledge and abilities you take with you. The wealth you leave here.

@PutyourtrustinAllah 3 года назад

"All of the stuff that used to bother you doesn't bother you anymore. None of it matters" Joe, 2019. Thank you Joe for teaching me this. You are very wise beyond your years. RIP Joe.

@elizabethbeauchamp6580 2 года назад

Thank you Joe and family... I'm so sorry about your diagnosis. Thank you for words of wisdom.

@suecondon1685 4 года назад

I once read that we have all been dead before, because it is no different to how we were before we were born. Now I don't fear death quite so much.

@maybrittrnningen580 4 года назад

Me to think that to die Will be just AS the same IT was before we dere born.Just darkness.But at the same time id would like to be surprized , and wounder if IT could be something afterwards. But this guy is to young to die , its terrible.

@Mjl449 4 года назад

That’s a really interesting way to think about it. Thanks for sharing.

@brandyirizarry3827 4 года назад

💜💜💜 this perspective I’m scarily little obsessed with death, but being a nurse does help, I’d hope there’s more after this life so I can be with my loved ones again

@saimahhussain7723 4 года назад

You are on a journey, you came here with a purpose....find that purpose

@marial1682 4 года назад

What I believe is that we are unique and we have an immortal soul. So we weren’t around before, but we ll be around forever, we’ll just need to change “rooms” at some point... a bit like when we were born.. we cried as we were perfectly fine in there, but a new chapter needed to start and we were fine right after..

@geovannimameli3964 Год назад

I've tried to be as brave as this gentleman is. I'm scared to death of the advanced stage of cancer I have. Love is the only thing I have left in life. It's been therapeutic to see this video. Thank you.

@user-jx9ln5qo9q Год назад

Stranger I wish I could hug you and tell you that your loved and cared about

@geovannimameli3964 Год назад

@@user-jx9ln5qo9q As hurt as I am that this happened to me I can say that my natural fear that I have is something that reminds me daily that I'm still alive and life has deep profound meaning to me. Thank you Hugs back to you.

@user-jx9ln5qo9q Год назад

@@geovannimameli3964 ❤️

@rachelallison5840 Год назад

Sending you love ❤❤

@claritadeluna6609 10 месяцев назад

And love is what you’re going to find when your time to crossover is here. Apparently, love and life is exactly the same when the spirit detaches from the body. I wish you peace of mind and much love while your are in your struggle. Do not struggle, let go and just live. Live big! I don’t know who you are, but I hug you lovingly.

@NumeroLetter 3 года назад

One of my friends died of osteosarcoma when he was 18. What was remarkable about him was he never dwelled on his cancer. It was like it was a nonissue to him, despite the fact that he was actively dying from it. He had his moments in private, of course, but no one on the outside would've ever known he was sick if it wasn't for his neck brace and lack of hair. He always had a smile on, even through the most painful moments. One thing I'll never forget... myself and a mutual friend were over at his place, hanging out in his room. We were joking around and I was said jokingly, "I'm gonna fight you." And then out of left field, he hits me with, "You'd really hit a kid with cancer?!" I was FLOORED!! I didn't even know what to say!! We all cracked up over that, it was hysterical!!! I miss him all the time.

@nicolefields5917 4 года назад

Having had cancer twelve years ago, and through that process, faced my own mortality, I can absolutely understand what Joe is saying about feeling more alive and letting the small stuff just go. I am deeply grateful that I didn’t die, that I was able to see my kids grow up, and the lessons that cancer gave me stay with me every day. I am glad that this reporting allowed you a new window into death and I hope that these moments continue to soothe your heart and mind.

@Sarikayacomesin 4 года назад

Nicole Fields nothing else matters once your health is in decline. Health is wealth for sure

@gsimon123 4 года назад

*Person has cancer* Person with cancer: "I think the worst part about it is how hard it is for everyone around you." So insightful that he feels more for everyone around him than himself while having one of the worst ailments slowly killing him. A real inspiration about how to look at life.

@symesk 3 года назад

I spent most of 2019 on hospice. Nearly a year ago, I came off. I am still unwell, still likely to die before I grow old, but I’m here. I find great comfort in Joe’s words and in comments here. Death is strange. It can be terrifying to be touch and go, but for me, it has been liberating in a way I cannot explain.

@pedrosalvador1146 3 года назад

Best wishes to you, keep fighting! ❤️

@OldWizard-tt5lt 3 года назад

Sending love 💕

@poliMarilo 3 года назад

❤️💕

@mmmk1616 4 года назад

Joe seems like a really sweet guy. It's heart-breaking, his wife must be a wreck but looks so calm and not at all stressed out. An excellent series Leah, thank you!

@dani40338 2 года назад

Mmmm K -- The reality of death many times sinks in later which was the case with me after losing my father, mother, twin sister, brother and husband.

@jeannettehyke43 4 года назад

I was like you about death until I had to face it myself a little over 6 years ago. I've been living on borrowed time. I was told I had 5-6 years to live. I'm more relaxed about it and revamped my way of thinking and take each day as a blessing. My doctor is amazed how well I'm doing, I refuse to just give up.

@doriangraya 4 года назад

Don’t give up. Never

@jeannettehyke43 4 года назад

@@doriangraya thank you. I won't give up, I have too much to live for. I have a new granddaughter 9 months old that loves her nana and she inspires me to keep fighting

@eamonnblake84 4 года назад

@@jeannettehyke43 Lovely stuff Jeannette. Carry on!

@geriebrookies8094 4 года назад

Your amazing keeping living as warriors do I to am living with cancer it is amazing at how strong we really are for ourselves and for others around us.

@jeannettehyke43 4 года назад

@sjm sjm thank you

@jaeshasway 4 года назад

This was tough. My sister died of oral cancer. It was also to her tongue. She died and I miss her terribly every day. ♥️

@annegachanja3468 4 года назад

Love to you❤

@lapis3834 4 года назад

❤🌹

@grateful1929 4 года назад

I'm so sorry about your sister. So very sorry. Please, what were her symptoms? I'm asking for a reason.

@jaeshasway 4 года назад

Anne Gachanja Thank you! ♥️

@jaeshasway 4 года назад

Lapis Arja Thank you. ♥️

@nophoazgurl 4 года назад

I can’t put in words how important this series will be as a resource for those struggling with death anxiety (common and also not so common - interesting to read the comments/views/opinions, the variety shows how human all of these emotions are). Beautifully done. This is just so ‘real’. All I could ask for is more. Wholeheartedly, after watching this series, and although my emotions were a roller coaster, I felt more at peace with the entire idea of dying. If I could scale my fear of death from 1 to 10, 10 being extreme severe paranoia of death, I started at a 9, and now feel more at a 6-7. Work to be done, but that’s on me. This is a great start. THANK YOU.

@theGuardian 4 года назад

Thanks for watching Marie

@futurethewolf5624 Год назад

Its not helping me. 🥲

@nf8498 4 года назад

I've spent so much of my life wanting to die, now that I'm healing emotionally and mentally I'm more terrified of dying and death than ever. I'm scared to go before my time and to miss out but I'm terrified of living and losing my loved ones one by one. I don't understand death at all. I'm agnostic, I don't know if I would prefer some type of afterlife or just silence and nothing. Very odd existential feelings. To know you are dying and having to face it every day knowing your time is running out- I wish him peace and little pain

@phillipmitchell6184 4 года назад

There is an afterlife it’s just how you go about your life to where you end up

@sweettina2 4 года назад

There is an afterlife.

@szqsk8 3 года назад

No one dies 'before their time'. Their time is when they pass.

@Draeber 3 года назад

we just exist to carry life on. Each of us are linked to those before and after. but we all have to die to keep life going.

@ki11aqueen5 3 года назад

@@szqsk8 no, some are taken too early and too innocent. Never even having a chance to really live life.

@brittanygolden5519 4 года назад

"You suddenly feel alive". What powerful words we should all try to heed. Don't wait until you're dying, to live.

@unicornsarereal4254 4 года назад

I too have an obsession of death, it’s terrifying to me,the anxiety and thought the of it pops into my head everyday

@hayleydryden3137 4 года назад

I'm really not bothered about dying.. But have thoughts of what if I wake up in my coffin or in the mortuary fridge.. So best I'm embalmed then this won't happen..

@unicornsarereal4254 4 года назад

Waking up in the fridge or coffin never crosses my mind but that would terrify me too.

@katiemilady197 4 года назад

@@unicornsarereal4254 we all have some fear and anxiety about death because it's the unknown. It's the suffering part I don't want to have to go through. Stay positive, try to enjoy every moment of your life while you are still on this Earth, and remember that people love you and care. Even here on RU-vid! 🙂 Stay well, my friend. ❤️🙏

@thomasjones7369 4 года назад

brenda cabral I mention the topic of death for a bit in my first video if anyone is interested to watch it

@nicholasonciul5770 3 года назад

I recently went through this, and going on r/nde on reddit really helped me.

@jmeyer3rn 2 года назад

Brother Steve died at age 18 of a testicular cancer which is usually more common in toddlers/younger boys. It was awful. Diagnosed around 14-15. He suffered a lot. Ended up in his spinal column, brain, stomach. I’m not sure how much fight he had at the end, but we just couldn’t get him the therapies he needed. Soon after his death we were told there was a new chemo that would probably, most likely have cured him. Such a guy with so much promise gone way too soon.

@tiffany3294 4 года назад

Nobody is guaranteed a long life. We could go at any time at any age we are always surrounded by death whether we realize it or not.

@selia4525 3 года назад

In the Netherlands we have a TV show called "Over Mijn Lijk" which translates to Over My Dead Body. It follows young people with terminal illnesses - How they deal with life, death and the time they have left. It really opened my eyes to see such young people with so little time left to live, living life much more intense than some of us ever will... And the amount of positivity they have. I wish there was an English version of the show, or English subtitles so more people could watch it.

@michalrzmichalrz6656 4 года назад

"I used to run, with my friend a comedy night. She came in and played the violin at the start of each night and played The End by The Doors on violin and I fell in love."

@avalondreaming1433 2 года назад

What a blessing that Joe found love before his diagnosis. A sweet and beautiful man, RIP.

@QueenieBee99 10 месяцев назад

I saw my grandmother after she passed - Don't be scared we keep going. We go to a beautiful place

@Eleuthero5 10 месяцев назад

Joe's outlook is so refreshing and objective. Even with only half a ton he spoke volumes.

@ManiKanta-jp5vl 3 года назад

Cancer is killed my mom 5 month ago. She is only 43. I miss my mom every moment of my life... It's very hard to deal with cancer 😭😭😭

@michaelcallisto 2 года назад

9:35 I'm 30 years old and dying of Soft Tissue Sarcoma and looking at old photos like this from before my diagnosis totally wrecks me. I can't do it.

@gerardmackay8909 2 года назад

Sending a virtual hug

@iaw7406 2 года назад

R.I.P. my dude

@comfortablynumb5597 4 года назад

I love this man, what a wise and gentle soul he has. Bless him.

@leejay2418 4 года назад

Joe, his wife and friends are so thoughtful and lovely.

@user-xw4od8kb7y 3 года назад

You can tell what kinda person he is from that.

@morganjames5180 3 года назад

Sorry to hear Joe died two weeks after filming. That was so quick. Farewell Joe, hope you are pain free now and souring the blue oceans of heaven. Bless you for sharing your life with us. 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚

@copypaste3526 4 года назад

What a great man. Such dignity and honsesty.

@GreekGirl102 2 года назад

Hearing that he heard her play a song called "The End," as the beginning to their love story, is very... other-worldly... considering the end of his life and their time together. Condolences to the family.

@brandyirizarry3827 4 года назад

Must be a great guy, cuz he’s surrounded by great people that speaks of his character. Sending positive vibes, courage, strength and peace.

@samanthataylor1761 4 года назад

Bless his wife. The pain this woman must go through everyday until his death is unthinkable.

@victorbela5317 4 года назад

Are you kidding me.

@noorisalih8702 Год назад

@@victorbela5317 it's always about women🤦

@aprilfisher4947 9 месяцев назад

He died a week or so after filming this and nobody suffers more than the person who is dying.

@sammccreath1 3 года назад

The first thing that came to mind after watchIng this was this quote from Marcus Aurelius; "Death smiles at us all, but all a man can do is smile back."

@alexandrasarno6394 4 года назад

Im someone who is 40 suffering from chronic pain and a severe panic disorder..my addictive meds make me feel horrific everyday..panic and depression..I feel like Im dying but Im not. I see more life in these patients than I feel inside myself...I don't think death is the worst thing to face..I think living in agony and mental distress is. Death will be my peace and the end of my suffering..

@victorbela5317 4 года назад

WOW you look so young.

@pameladaley955 4 года назад

Thank you so much for doing this for us, Leah! yes for US as you did it for you. I'm not afraid to die but I'm old (76) and quite alone - so your series has made me feel much less alone. I'm not sick but it's ok with me to die. Thanx again! You're sensitive and articulate - I thoroughly enjoyed your adventure and was right by your side as you experienced it.

@judygd8749 4 года назад

pamela daley I wish to die everyday.. Life is suffering & meaningless.. I have no purpose to live

@TT-fr7gz 4 года назад

Judy GD why do you feel this way? X

@judygd8749 4 года назад

@@TT-fr7gz I have no purpose in life.. Divorced.. After that all my relationships fail 1 after the other.. I have to work.. Got fired many times due to absenteeism caused by depression.. No one to help me do anything.. No one to confide in.. Life is pain, suffering & misery.. Life is only for rich not poor

@judygd8749 4 года назад

@Silicone Julie Tomorrow I have an interview I have to be strong I have to fight

@margaretcunningham7146 4 года назад

@@judygd8749 how are you now? Hope you are ok...

@DarkDreamsAndMoonlitNights 2 года назад

What a beautiful soul Joe was. May his spirit shine over his widow and everyone else who loved him.

@nicolesandoval5444 Год назад

I thought I was the only one dealing with death anxiety. I am Terrified of dying and leaving my child behind. It’s a very scary feeling. Thank you for these videos.

@rawlivingwithdisabilities Месяц назад

I can't believe he passed in less than a month after filming...Joe was so handsome and talented 😢❤

@MrSharky334 3 года назад

Rest in peace, Joe. You’re a beautiful man.

@leahcotton5315 3 года назад

RIP Joe - you are so gracious to let us in to see the end of your brave journey. Rest easy mate.

@markin_mask5592 4 года назад

"When bad things happen it brings people together" that was really touching

@mansoorrana4475 4 года назад

Do h recognise the soundtrack playing from 11:00 to 11:30?

@sshms414 4 года назад

What a lovely guy life is so cruel

@brookemckinley5709 3 года назад

Now this is my kind of journalism. I’m terrified of dying myself and have found a lot of comfort in watching this death land series. Thank u Leah for throwing yourself into something that terrifies u as well! And THANK U JOE for sharing your story with us, it’s very inspiring and comforting. You’ve probably touched and helped way more people then u even realize. Also, thank u to his wife (sorry didn’t catch name) for being so vulnerable and sharing your side of it with us as well. Your strength is inspiring!!

@danawilletts3528 4 года назад

What an insightful way to describe life being more colourful and vivid, because you can forget all the normal life stress. And just live for the moment. X

@rrrrmcg408 4 года назад

Sounds so peaceful and special doesnt it ❤

@cee7105 3 месяца назад

His words will resonate with many people. I actually felt a sense of what he was describing. Rest in peace my dear man 🙏

@beomgyusmcnugget1055 Год назад

Reading that he passed so soon after this video made me cry so hard, it felt like a lost a friend, somehow, which sounds strange. But then I realized that in the nick of time, he touched not only the people around him, who smiled so warmly and fondly at that table with him in the video, but he also moved the hearts of 910k people. I think I'm going to remember this moment for a long, long time. Thank you, Joe, for moving us all. I hope the other side is as warm and bright as it should be for angels like you.

@SathyAnna7 3 года назад

All my love to you Joe, his wife, his friends, and The Guardian. There is no death, just Love. Thank you all

@variatonesoundscape5592 2 года назад

I'm only 6 minutes in and I respect this man and all the insight he has had to offer. Dying or not, in the moment he still has an exceptional way of communicating and a well-rounded view of life and dying. Ill or not, a great soul. I love him.

@dragutintheslav-veliki790 4 года назад

What I had learned from death, seeing my loved ones and my young friends die, to even having a couple of near death experiences myself! What I have learned is, don't bother yourself with death, it is okay to think about it from time to time (it's all natural) but *don't bother about dying* , because if you do, you will die long before you actually die. So, live life instead, go do something you've never done in your life You want to sing in front of many people? Go to a karaoke club! You want to learn how to ride a bike? Go buy yourself one! Don't just sit there and think about how you could have done that X amount of years ago, that time won't come back, but you can make it happen in this time, now! Don't you worry about regrets, you'll find something to regret about on your deathbed, the question is: How many regrets do you wanna have once your time comes to an end?

@nicholasonciul5770 3 года назад

well said man

@Chris-kr7gg 3 года назад

Unfortunately money is a factor for people.

@LexiNc8284 Год назад

Very nicely put

@hamishwilson9787 4 года назад

I too have massive anxiety of death, when I was little I saw my grandpa pass away from type 2 diabetes, two year later my aunty passed away suddenly in her sleep, on augest 1st 2012 my uncle passed away from falling asleep on the wheel then two years after that my 8 year old step brother died from a brain tumor. It's taken a heavy toll on me mentally everyday and it's opened my eyes on how precious life is and how it can end suddenly.

@isishecate9883 4 года назад

If you are loved through any illness,you are truly loved,The real deal.

@sallyclay1974 4 года назад

It's sad when people die young. As we age, no matter what our family background is, we r never prepared to die young. We come kicking and screaming into this world, and when we r really terminally sick, we try to linger here longer. Try to keep busy, and enjoy each day Humans, r only on earth for a short time. Blessings and prayers to your friends and family.

@RandomHippieCreations 3 года назад

My father was giving 6 months, he lived for 19 more years. Joe was right on, it is harder for the people that are around the one dying.

@marthemorais7636 4 года назад

We come to this Earth and eventually we know we are all dying but we don't know when.

@camerontaylor7471 4 года назад

Marthe Morais we will never know when, because when your dead, you won’t know your dead!

@minorcek 4 года назад

Two of my best friends since childhood died this year. One from drug related hear failure and the other was murdered in cold blood, shot in the chest while stopped at a red light. Everyday that I wake up and haven't gone completely nuts is a miracle. One of these days I'll get around to processing it. We are only 26/27

@somozamaria 4 года назад

I had a friend that was shot in Chicago in front of a stop light. They still haven’t caught the culprit.

@user-hx9cc1qh3h 3 года назад

It's almost funny how death doesn't even care about your age, health, richness, or how many depend on you. It's like a raffle nobody wants to win, but we all will be the chosen ones some day. I know it's cliché but, by watching this series and now reading your comment, it makes the phrase "Live life to the fullest" acquire a whole different and deeper meaning. Stay strong buddy, take care.

@ttbo12 3 года назад

I've heard dying people, including a family member, talk about death as "returning home'. I believe the veil to the other side is thinner for people close to death and they understand things about life that the rest of us don't. We lived before mortality and will continue to live afterwards.

@fernandomelgar892 Год назад

I really appreciate that the host looks into her death anxiety and compares where she started before to now. It is very supportive to the topic.

@yehhshhs 4 года назад

that young man has a really cool fashion style and he looks very handsome.

@kiki1573 4 года назад

I understand her fears about death, but talking to a dying person will just help understand what dying *feels* like. No one has ever came out of their graves to explain to us what death is really like. My heart goes out to the terminally I'll young man. Mid 30s isn't a full life at all. Nowhere near it.

@margietucker1719 4 года назад

I think it's more about quality--not quantity.

@kiki1573 4 года назад

@@margietucker1719 You're absolutely right about that

@mmmk1616 4 года назад

On another note, when Joe says he feels lucky, I kinda understand. I was diagnosed with MS and bi-polar disease in 2000, and I have other health problems, but I am so grateful every day for so many things. It's funny, isn't it? I really do feel lucky, for my home, my family and my friends just for a start :)

@oxblood441 3 года назад

The need to treat people respect and dignity is really important when you smile to a passer by that could make someone's day, that someone could be going through the worst pain in their life, so be nice be kind and choose words wisely! Peace.

@dishish 2 года назад

a few days after my brother passed The End by the Doors came on and blew my soul into a million pieces. RIP Matthew - RIP Joe.

@jeantave8562 4 года назад

I died and they brought me back. I was terminal for 6 years. I am finally no longer terminal. I was a journalist/ editor, runner, animal activist. And my diagnosis was literally over night. I woke up and kept having edema and it got worse & worse. I was diagnosed with CKD. It changed my life forever! Mostly for the better, but some worse. Stress does literally kill people, I never believed that until it happened to me. Hopefully his wife can help him make it to a remission, you never know he could beat this!

@sillykino 3 года назад

As a mentally ill person that has to live with constant suicidal thoughts I just wish I could give my life to everyone that's dying and actually wants to live. I feel so ungrateful.

@anahidkassabian4471 4 года назад

Absolutely brilliant series. Thank you for being brave enough to face your fears and make it. As someone with many health challenges, I needed this, and I could happily have watched a series double the length.

@isthatyoursandwich 4 года назад

So sad... He is so brave and strong.

@pedrojose3228 3 года назад

This breaks my heart man fr 😔💔 the fact that he’s thinking and worrying about everyone around him before himself while really going thru it!🥺💔

@davidr1620 3 года назад

I’m glad you got to interview such an articulate person about this issue.

@lisapesce1893 Год назад

Met my late partner in 1984, she died of cancer in 2008.What keeps you continuing are your memories and the love you have doesn't go away.I look back and think how lucky I was to have a long loving relationship.Not everybody gets that.

@francesgray5545 3 года назад

I’ve always been scared of dieing , but after seeing my mum die from cancer I just want to be with her and del like I’m not scared , even though she did suffer towards the end, it always seems the best people get these terminal illnesses 💔

@firoozehmohammadi3342 3 года назад

Terminal stage of cancer survival rate can fluctuate between months or a few years but definitely not decades. I am not sure about other terminal disease. As a person who has a terminal cancer, I am not scared of dying , however I cry almost everyday because I leave my daughter at a very young age, she is 7 now and my husband who has disability. I feel I have not finished my responsibility about my daughter until she grows enough to be completely independent.

@marciajones2993 2 года назад

What a brave soul. My heart goes out to his loved ones, they have to live with the loss. Hope he’s found peace. 💙

@sainthunny Год назад

Just read online Joe passed away to Paranoid Android by Radiohead, which was his favorite band. Rest in Peace Joe 💟

@myname203 3 года назад

The impending death of my sister brought me here :( Just passing the time and thinking about slightly uplifting perspectives on death

@pedrosalvador1146 3 года назад

May your sister find peace and may you find peace in your heart, best wishes to you ❤️

@Clare-ug7fq 2 года назад

I've just found this series, I am so sorry to hear that Joe passed away. I would also like to add that I think Leah handled the subject beautifully. I struggle to keep my composure but you dealt with yours brilliantly. My mum has Leukaemia and I had to leave her appointment because I became too upset. I hope Joe's wife, family and friends are doing okay. Sending lots of love. Xx

@mohsinm5854 10 месяцев назад

When Joe said he’s the luckiest guy to have these people as friends .. that look in his eyes .. maaan .. nothing but respect 🫡

@mattbrown7645 4 года назад

Great series. Thank you for bringing this subject to the surface. You're a brave and beautiful soul.

@upendasana7857 4 года назад

who is ? him or her ?

@mattbrown7645 4 года назад

I think its obvious both the host and guest encompass the attributes mentioned. However I was referring to Leah for her great journalism and the way she presented this tough subject.

@carolynhall1302 3 года назад

Only just found this video. What a lovely man! Lots of love to his wife and close friends x

@applejellypucci 4 года назад

Joe you'll never be forgotten.

@rosegreensummer 2 года назад

interesting, but i worked in old people's homes as a young person and the memory of the people lost, screaming, terrified, as they died, gave me nightmares for years after and still terrifies me - you'd call it ptsd nowadays i suppose - that's why i fear death

@patty7791 2 года назад

What a wonderful wife and friends he had! Shows you what a quality guy he was!

@beeniemen 4 года назад

It makes you realise how futile our daily problems are ... amazing serie

@tinkhubbert8213 4 года назад

Joe and his loved ones will be in my prayers

@bgray8410 2 года назад

Thank you Joe for your sharing your story and supporting a healthy conversation about life. Rest in peace ✌️

@ashotofmercury Год назад

Joe's wife and friends are so amazing!! 😭😭

@jasonchambers8010 4 года назад

Leah you did a great job.

@truth-hurts3089 4 года назад

Gobsmacked when I read info that he's only 34. Totally Devastating. Best of luck buddy

@woolsheep5359 4 года назад

When the title mentioned about dying young, I thought it would be younger than 34. I've watched a few peeps on youtube who were much younger than this.

@GUIRADE95 4 года назад

RIP Sir. You might be gone but never forgotten from your loved ones.

@maryellenblount6376 2 месяца назад

I enjoyed this documentary. It sheds so much light on death and dying. Something we will all face. Thank you for doing this work.

@brownskingirl5320 4 года назад

One day I thought felt like I was going to die. I remember looking up at the bright blue sky thinking I don't want to leave this world my home this way. I was in a little discomfort I don't think it was pain. Just an very uncomfortable feeling.

@Jess4mab 3 года назад

I agree with Joe when he said that he believes that death and dying is harder on those around the dying person than it is on the dying person themselves. I am profoundly more terrified of watching my loved ones die than I am of dying myself.

@bettyboop3353 Год назад

To the person who was worried that she will be forgotten. That is a real thing. The truth is that unless you are an Einstein or other famous person we all will be forgotten in about 2 generations. We will be just another name on someone’s genealogy chart. They will never have a clue about who the person was in life. What did you do for a living and all the things that make us human. I do genealogy research myself so I’m aware of the just names without any background on what type of person the dead person really was. In case of my own grandfather I am the only person who has met him in person. My children and my grandchildren never met him. He will be forgotten after my generation is gone.