Easing the stress of primary school kids | On The Red Dot | My Parent, My Classmate Part 4/4 

Kenisha’s mom is a nice person, but she totally fails at empathising the situation she has thrown at her daughter. When she told her daughter to skip the one thing her daughter actually enjoys doing, I face-palmed. My mom used to be like that when I was in school. I had so many tuition classes that I was so mentally exhausted. Eventually I stopped communicating with my mom because nothing I said got through to her. It took 10 years after sec sch for us to mend our relationship again. To Kanisha’s mom: Cherish these years with your daughter. She only gets to be a kid once. Over-burdening her with so many tuition classes that is considered undesirable to her (she actually says “I hate it so much.” such strong emotions) and asking her to skip the one thing that she actually loves to do will push her further away from you. Allow her to breathe and relax and do the things she loves to do now. The fact that her mom herself enjoys PE classes because it makes her feel refreshed being in the outdoors and running around, instead of sitting inside 4 brick walls, but yet demands her daughter to go for so many tuition classes is so ironic and hypocritical.

Tejashwini is so precious and she really cherishes her mum and she's very articulate for someone so young.

Literally died when Kenisha asked, “will the MOE be watching this?” and the part when her mum said best and she was like huh? Best? DEAD.

adrianna may be not the best in her subjects, but she’s super optimistic and adorable!!

Kenisha's mum need to understand and not give her child so much stress. Sometimes, being preventive may not be as useful as you think. I think Kenisha is capable of knowing what is her strengths and weaknesses, and know what she has to do or not to do.Since this series was filmed in 2019(?), I hope that Kenisha is able to cope well this year since it's the PSLE year... Jia you! Teja is a really sweet girl, and I love how her mum is just so empathetic to everything. However, like what her mum mentioned in the end, mum should learn to let go and allow Teja to do what she enjoys doing. School is not just about studying, but it's also about accumulating all these nice experiences you have, especially when you have to take on roles and responsibilities, etc. Willis, glad that he is opening up to his mum more. Hopefully his mum can find the right method to get closer to him... Or perhaps, it's just boy's awkwardness...? Adrianna is really cute. I like how she is so determined to do her best so as to not make her parents disappointed. I also liked how her dad managed to pick out her weaknesses and troubles and is striving to work on those issues. Hopefully he sees her strengths as well! Also, CNA should do a series for Secondary Schools, Junior Colleges and Polytechnics LOL It would be good to let parents see the contrast

other countries: deducts many stress forming and strict rules from school singapore: *i serve you: pressure; stress; education; chicken. commonly known as the national dishes*

Teja is very eloquent and reads her environment well. She already has such a strong sense of responsibility at her age. She will do her mum proud.

Kenisha's mother: I loved PE, there should be more. Also Kenisha's mother: let's cut your dancing class.

kenisha's mom needs to understand that dance and gymnastics classes are a way to reduce her stress from all those school activities and tuition.

After watching this full series, this is my point of view. -Willis's Mum 1) Your son only interested to play. (Don't hold him too tight, if not he will rebel) 2) He is a type of kid that are interested in hands on stuff. Giving him more assessment practice he will avoid doing it as he hate it. 3) Explain to him that this exam, will define your future and the things he want to do. 4) Let him set his goal, if he can set his goal eventually he will be successful. *Was like him, love to play and play. Eventually i know what i want -Adriana's Dad 1) Good role model dad! 2) Implement plans that will improve her learning like (speak proper malay on monday, wednesday and friday) 3) Willing to empathise her daughter 4) Learning new skill set like piano. (It is something you will come in handy when you are in polytechnic :) ) -Kenisha's Mum 1) She is a typical Kiasu parents. Tuition is good but when you overload it, is a waste of time. As you have Homework, CCA, playtime, test, and revision. To be honest, even you (Kenisha's mum) has more free time than her. It is just utter ridiculous, you control her too much. 2) If you are going to be a parent like her. I honestly think you should rethink your ways of teaching and controlling your kid. Removing the interest of a student (for her is dancing), is like asking you to not eat your favourite food for life. 3) By being so strict, the kid will have problem socialising in Polytechnic/University, then you realised the difference (Unless you telling me you going top school like hwa chong etc!, since you are the top of the cream. Nothing to worry about) 4)More PE Classes? Haha! when closer to exam, you will realised how waste of time PE is when you can do your revision. (I agreed PE is good but when there is national exam, you will prefer the revision) -Tejashwini's Mum 1) Be confident! Don't worry about your daughter! 2) Your daughter is very independent! Dont worry! *FYI was a bad student, parents force certain way of learning i don't like. Eventually drop to EM3. After a few year of understanding of myself, eventually i know to study better. Eg: Not attending lesson i could get a D grade to a B grade. (Not saying lesson is not good, but you need to know where you are at? and how you can improve better). I did graduate from a local diploma Edited: for sentence structure

Carol should be more like Shri Dont ever try to remove her daughter's happiness from non-academic activities

I am so mad at Kenisha's mom for dropping her "non-academic" things when she has SO MUCH TUITION!! >:(

'My mom is precious and i think nobody should laugh at her' ohh u are so precious too!!

Kenisha’s schedule is crazy. I would have a breakdown.

I've never had tuition in my entire life, I'm in the middle of university now and I honestly don't remember anything from primary school. Secondary school is when you learn and mature, I hope the parents of these primary school kids realise that they only have their childhood once.

Kennisha's schedule is so crazy, way too much for a girl her age, I hope her mom watches this and makes some changes. Teja is so precious, such a loving daughter.

Teja is such a sweetheart. Really eloquent too. The way she was trying to look out for her mum brought me to tears. :') Kenisha takes on so many responsibilities at school and yet she performs well and has such a willing-to-try attitude. If I were her parent, I would be very proud. I understand her mum's "prevention is better than cure" attitude, but sincerely hope that for her child's mental well-being, she'll reduce the tuition load -- even if it's just by one or two sessions a week, maybe for her best subjects. Extra curricular activities also build character and can make one more employable/"have a winning edge", it's not always about being book-smart.

Haish sad to see that parents think that any external activity ie not studying is the one that is affecting them, think about it. Students spend 5days a week studying from morning to afternoon, spending more time in school than at home, and they want to cancel the activity that they find joy in and can relax after a hectic schedule, that's no way to live a life for a child. They're tired because they spend 10-12 hrs sitting on a chair and listening to a class. No one will find something boring, fun. Although studying is necessary, and is a priority for parents,i do not think it is necessary to have them studying 7 days a week and taking what they like. Even the parent liked p.e. Despite not being super sporty but yet she wants to remove a sport that her daughter loves. Its because pe allows u to move and interact rather than remain still and listen to someone talking. if u see this i hope u take it lightly and not to heart as i know what its like to have something taken away from u, and actually it worsened my grade more than it helped.Anyways i hope parents can find a better comprimise, tuition may not always be in the child's best interest, i myself was never interested in tuition, for 9 years of my life i had tuition but my grades were decent but not great. However, when i decided to stop tuition and study on my own, thats where i had more success and i had the liberty to do things at my own pace and i have friends that i could ask for help. I know its every parents best interest to see ur child succeed, maybe even not repeat the same mistake u did in the past, but always remember that u are not living their life neither are they living ur life. Make a good comprimise by talking to each other, understand one another. Anyways have a good weekend ahead.

i understand kenisha’s mom but i disagree with it. i remember in p6 when my mom dropped all my non academic activities and i got so depressed and sad and i distanced myself from everyone and i got even more depressed because of it and it has affected me throughout sec sch where now so many years later i am slowly starting to get over it and try to mend this relationship. it’s getting better but these years were so tough and hard to build myself back up. i know it sounds like a small thing and i’m just sensitive and overreacting but at such a age it really affects you

what i learned from this series: *20/20* is "not bad." 😳 typical azns

i feel like willis is not close to his mum, he gives me the reserved and rebellious vibe, and will be problematic if he continues like this to sec and jc.

When kenisha said one year of freedom... Me in sec 1: begging my mum to give me tuition becoz it's difficult

I loved when Teja said she didn't want anyone to laugh at her mom because she is precious. She really took care of her mom

I feel like Singapore’s education system is like quantity over quality. Kids have short attention span and to teach a simple theory, teachers have to use the least time consuming and boring method to teach the theories. It’s not about how much time you spent teaching a topic, it’s about using the easiest method to help the kids understand and remember the theory behind it. A lot of interaction is needed to catch their attention.

urgh if i have that many tuition and have a mum like kenisha i will just quit everything lol

i agree sitting in class too long will make me sleep

rlly hope kenisha‘s mom be reading these comments..

1:25 : song : this is the happiest day we’ve ever had 11:37 13:00 : *are you sure about that?*

10:55 i thought every school gets the student leaders to rum teachers day.. guess only my school does

Kenisha and her mama is so precious!! Teja is such a bright CHILD !!! Speaks very well and she is so precious and she loves her mom

"I will want to add in more pe classes" Me:oh God no.

I feel so sad for Kenisha because we mum doesn't understand that childhood is precious and she is ruining it for her in Primary 5

14:14 she is exactly like my mum my whole schedule is pack because of tuition and I went dancing she was like dancing is no use It's PSLE this year one more year and they u can quit tuition I wish I can do this with my parents and I wish they can see how my life is

Exams are not the source of the problem. Comparing to others is. You do you.

I think Kenisha will have this choices 1(most positive) Speak with her mother and it changes majorly 2(positive enough) Speak with her mother and change minority or argued but still changed majorly 3(neutral) still the same 4(THE negative) She committed suicid- I don’t want this outcome. and I really feel pitiful for this girl. This mother... serious sia..

Teja speaks very well

when I was a primary school student 4 years back, Mr zhao was one of my favourite teachers (also one of the best in my opinion) and watching this 4 years later only re-enforced this

HAHAHA THIS IS THE HAPPIEST DAY WE EVER HAD ON THE AD INTRO NICE JOKE

Love love love the bond between Teja and her mum.

School stand for: S-Six C-Cruel H-Hours O-of O-Our L-Lives

No one : Me : *laughs in secondary*

I think one thing parents can take away from this is how physical activities can make children happier. So in between studying at home when you give them breaks don't let it be a 'watch television for 45 mins' but rather a physical activity done together

Roslee and Adrianna have good daddy-daughter chemistry :)

Teja and her Mom are amazing!!

bruh if my mother or dad was there with me I am dead

Cna did great on this!

End of the day, they are just kids! They have school, homework, tuition and extra activities after school which can be a little too much for any kid. It shouldn't all be about good grades especially not right now, try different activities, go play with other kids, do fun things and find your passion that's what being a kid should be about. I feel like kids are being taught to never fail, they will end up never taking risks as adults. No primary student should be stressed i mean seriously come on, maybe also teach mindfulness or meditation to help cope with all the pressure.

Just because you don't have tuition doesn't mean that you'll do badly in exams. I myself didn't have tuition yet I still did good for my PSLE.

honestly you shouldn’t need tuition if you understand what is happening in school,so Kenisha’s mom should check with her daughter on her understanding on sch work

I can't with Kenisha's mom.... she said in the previous ep that without dance she is dead, and the first thing she decided to ask was for Kenisha to drop dance? I get that she wants the best for her daughter, but she needs to recognise that burn-out is real

I want my parents in my secondary school, lol

Omg. All these kids (Teja and Kenisha) are so much like me! Teja has OCD and gets stressed when everything is not organized and in place like me and Kenisha does dance a lot like me and she is quitting gymnastics like me!!!

to all those foreigners who only see the one sided rich side of Singapore, this is what we do to get it, we work hard from a young age

Actually we should reduce tuition so that children can try to work hard and get excellent acadmic results without tuition? Isn't that what every parent want?

@12:26 my eyes gets wet...thts so sweet of her how she feel for her mom!!!...@ 12:38 avlothan bye bye "that's all bye bye"...hahahahahahahahahah...tht was damm cute of her...and she looks sweet too!!!

Kenisha: If you stay in the classroom for so long, you feel like you want to sleep Me: It is true tho...

The mother knows nothing. Wants to cut down on her daughters stress by cutting how her obligations - and tries to cut the only nice thing she has in her life and truly enjoys - dancing. Furthermore, this will essentially cut out all creativity in her life and she will develop into a rigidity individual without any way to express herself artistically

It's not difficult to drop tuition actually. I dropped my English and chinsese tuition during my PSLE year. On top of that, I still had debate competitions, choir and practices. But I fairly well for my PSLE. Giving your child more tuition is not teaching her how to manage her time. It's just giving her more stress. You shld instead encourage her to study on her free time. So she an review her topics on her own pace and not worry about having to rush to tuition.

I feel that Kenisha’s mum feels that one will confirm lose out if not for tuition. And that’s untrue. If one scores well in a certain subject and continues scoring well consistently with independent revision, then i don’t see any need for tuition.

Anyone knows the actual name of the masala bhangra music they danced during Teacher’s Day?

There are no perfect parents. As a parent myself, even i make mistakes. Most importantly, we must always support our children in whichever way we can. Its ok to fail but it is not alright to quit.

3:38 Ladies and gentlemen, we got 'em. They predicted coronavirus

I only recently came across CNA Insider. Now I am hooked. The series it produces are some of the best I have seen by way of highlighting social issues with objectivity, respect and professionally. At a time when journalism seems to be akin to the oldest profession in the world, CNA Insider should take a bow for keeping the ethos of journalism intact. In this particular series I was very judgemental about Caroline's parenting but having seen the series to the end it appears she is training Kenisha to avoid becoming a couch zombie hooked to online games but be an active individual. As long as Caroline is caring, understand and supportive of Kenisha in her endeavours then Kenisha could become a very resilient and hard working individual.

so, kenisha likes kpop? WHAT SHE'S MY FAVOURITE NOW

CNA should make a documentary about madrasah students too

1:04 the mother fails to do splits so she will force her child to quit! Horrible parenting

Good and interesting series from CNA! Enjoyed Roslee portion the most :)

Oh god. There dancing and training is quite advanced for a school dance team. It bothers me that Kenisha is as flexible as me. And it’s a dance class, why are they doing cartwheels and contortion. Doing the splits is ok but not needles and Gymnastics.

The speaking more malay at home is like me and tagalog because I used to speak alot of english when I was at home, I have got 2 78-79s in Filipino and 1 79 in Mother tongue but when I lived with my parents (i lived with my lola (grandma) and tito (uncles) before) I spoke more tagalog and my tagalog got better, before i would get below 90 in filipino now i get stable 90s in filipino

Primary school is nothing compared to secondary 1 Trust me I know

why they have to put physical pressures on the child they are not all ready for the real issues the more they put that doctrine in children mind is too little too late for them is been done

I'm a primary student and I have been put through lots of stress,this year,I'm in Primary 4. These 3 years were so stressful. I literally didn't even do my homework! Stress is put on all primary to college students. If I could change the teachers and every subject I would change them to be this schedule: Breakfast . Playtime . Computer Stress Free Time . Last . But . Not . Least . PE!

8:12 hahah this part so cute ahah

How is pe fun everyone Thursday we need to do pt and run 5 rounds around the Soccer field

I am hong ray i am in temasek primary school now in 2020

that’s funny cus we all hated pe HAHAHA

study? nah... PE? YOS!

I was really shocked when she was happy that her mom said that then I was a bit more shocked when she said "Will MOE Be watching this?" :3

sec 1 no tuition! start in sec 2! waw helpful

Why must you shout at people so rude

Omg someone help me I read it as my pleasant my classroom

I feel the opposite I don’t like going to PE I like staying in class

I saw Mr rosle and his daughter at xishan at my school

No need tuition..... dont stress out your kids

That girl be standing up for all the students in Singapore by asking for more PE lessons.

Me in secondary school learning real life differentiation

What is the song name when it said "This is the happiest day we ever had"?

I like there parents so nice and us parents who are Asian force us to do stuff :/

#AsianSchoolsInANutshell

Omg 6.12 my dance teacher WTH

Teja is primary 4 that time I know cause I’m in the same school

Carol annoys me. She enjoys PE but removes dancing from her daughter's schedule. She's a hypocrite. Her daughter is exhausted, she only says she empathizes but she really isn't.

na varave illada samy! 12:00

Sad. Dont Kiasu, if not u defo Si. Listen to your kids, what u think is important isnt really THAT important. Nowadays, fewer companies actually look at your grades and more on your personality and work ethic/ discipline/ responsibility ....grades are but nothing, just a way to see which kid can get the top results in an exam set by a group of ppl who just want to make life just a "little" more miserable for the kids.

How I wish my parents can see what achievements I did in school...

As much as I like this series, whatttt is masala banghra???!!! As an Indian I am deeply confused 🤷🏽‍♀️

5:42 isn’t just adding it up the sides the simpler method?

I love you vedios

imo, kenisha's mom carol should've dropped the tuition w the subject kenisha was strongest in or perhaps find a way to shorten the hours.. because it rlly seemed like kenisha enjoyed her dance lessons and it reduced stress

its too repetitive the lines.when was chinese mandatory ?for kenisha mom learning in classroom is limited she needs to learn to interact.dont make the irreversible mistake ,she might never learn the joy of living. -from a survivor.