Three weeks ago we filmed this episode of Minutes With with Emily Atack. We originally scheduled it for release later in the year, but we felt it was an incredibly timely piece given the current national conversations. With Emily’s permission we are releasing now with the hope of opening up and contributing to further discussion.
the best way to look at it or how I look at it rather is rather some level of feedback or establishment of confirmation of the idea of sufficiency - if a person is looked at as having a face or having shown their face and someone calls them ugly, that reasonably would be sign for an end to relations; in as it pertain genitalia, one would want or like to have genitalia that their partner would want or like and for a reciprocal to exist which should I'd say ideally. in a culture such as this one or one we have that is supposed to be developed with adults who are unlike children we ought not be averse to appearance and if there exists disgust of a person toward a person concerning highlight then that is reasonable and immediate knowledge or information concerning the body of the human and what are or have. people don't want to be said or treated as being gross but interrogated rather for confirmation or establishment of something okay about pertaining or concerning the condition of any human male or otherwise
Nobody should have to put up with this kind of shit. You’d be terrified to leave the house. Massive respect to Emily for talking so openly about this topic.
Imagine if there where consequences for unsolicited nudes and sexual harassment online. Prisons would explode over night with people from all walks of life. It would be undiniable proof of the deep seated flaws of our society. Maybe then we could get the populous to work together to bring about lasting change.
Prison sentences wouldn't really work there. Sexual harassment awareness courses, community service and put on the sex offenders register would be better.
I am a Father of 4. I have 3 middle teen boys ans a 2 year old daughter. I have warned my boys that if I catch them being inappropriate with girls online that I will drive them to the girls house, set them down in front of the Dad and hand him their phone and they will have to explain to the girls Dad why they are acting in such a way. It will be different when my girl gets older. Now I dont understand why a woman wouldnt just send the wives a screenshot of the messages they receive, its not theur fault, that falls 100% on the guy sending the messages.
Cause she doesn't want an angry woman at her door. It's culture it's pork it's all these things that dehumanize and objectify women and men don't stop it. It's all over on line
She's a strong woman who absolutely does not deserve any of this abuse. No woman ever does. As a man, I'm really grateful for women like Emily who are willing to open up about their experience with sexual harassment or sexual assault. I could never truly understand what women go through everyday. It's another layer of pressure for them throughout their lives that I am lucky to be free of. I hope you ladies stay safe out there! Much respect to you all!
@@riptideog8783 Sure, men get sexually assaulted too. But are you seriously gonna act like a man thinks about this possibility when they leave the comfort of their home? Come on now. No man ever worries about getting sexually assaulted unless they've already had such an experience. Women on the other hand have to worry about this every single day, and it starts at a very young age. It's just not the same. Men are simply not worried about this. Try not to be a dick...
@@uatu3751 honestly thank you so much for your comments its sometimes hard to find men who truly understand at least on the social media I digest and the men I'm surrounded by, its comforting and reassuring as a teenage girl to know their are caring people like you in society.
I am appalled by this. No one should have to face this type of abuse online or otherwise. Emily is an intelligent, funny, beautiful & brave person and is appreciated and respected by many men and women alike. It is sickening that individuals behave this way. They clearly have no respect for others or themselves. My respect for women came from my parents, my father adored my mother and took great care of her util her last days. Likewise I saw my mother look after my father and the family emotionally, spiritually and practically putting others before herself. That translated to the way I treat my wife, sisters, female friends and colleagues. I want them to feel comfortable, free and relaxed around me and I appreciate being able to care for them, protect them when necessary but also engage with them, laugh, cry and appreciate them. That whats good people do.
I think she should definitely get in contact with the partners of the blokes who do that kind of thing. Might make them think twice about doing it to other people
All social media accounts need to be verified. This way you will be held accountable for your actions online. No one needs to be subjected to this type of abuse. I wonder how these people would react if their mother/sister/daughter was the recipient of such messages?
@@robs4988 mate you have been replying to like 30 comments calling outing people stupid, saying repercussions are childish, saying it shouldn’t be a criminal offence and generally acting like a prick. Seems like if people decide to out these sex offenders then you will be on a good few lists. Why are you so against sexual harassers not being allowed to sexually harass people may I ask?
It would be impossible to verify all of those accounts and it would also give up anonymity and privacy. Censoring messages does exist, but should be at the forefront of protecting users, not verifying each user.
Really f*cos me off when guys of today belittle women when they talk about this stuff, they don’t get what it is to be a woman. The moment you left your house you’re being preyed upon by men twice your age, them staring at you and making you feel uncomfortable or getting too close to you. Men shouting disgusting stuff at you, being sexualised when all you wanna do is go to the f*cking shop to buy some milk. Men don’t have to think about what clothes they wear or check how dark it is outside and decide whether it’s safe for them to leave their house. I know men have issues to with things like toxic masculinity and that really does need to change because it’s killing men globally, I just don’t like it when men shut women down over this stuff, they don’t get it.
A good litmus test for men if you're unsure whether or not what you're doing/saying to a woman is wrong: just think how you would feel if another man did the same to you. If you wouldn't like it or it would make you at all uncomfortable, then you have your answer: don't do/say it.
But what if you're trying to be romantic/sexual if you know what I mean. You wouldn't expect a guy to act the same way towards you compared to a woman? I'm very respectful with women but don't know how to escalate or what to say to them
@@realeyesrealisereallies97 then be open enough to say you are nervous and don’t want to stuff it up. Be honest and tell that person what you honestly think and feel about them and how they make you feel and what you feel when you around them. No one wants to be lied too, because behind each lie is a really nice person wanting what you want. To be loved.
Movies and TV shows when they’re casting the actors for roles will usually have a project title on the scripts that is nothing to do with the actual end title
This is such a common occurrence for most women. Im just under 5ft, blonde with big boobs. I stopped going out because it just became too unsafe for me . Men would literally watch and laugh as I was harassed and assaulted. I'm too small to fight back so I just stay home. The trouble is home isn't much safer as my depression gets so bad i become suicidal
They aren't proper men if they laugh at you been harassed and assaulted there's so many idiots and complete freaks in this day and age it is beyond belief
I was similar blonde big boobs a bit wild but then all of the seventies I was in my teens I did a lot of hitchhiking back then I never once felt in any way scared about anything I had loads of attention from the male species you have to realize some women like being talked dirty to they have banter with you.women need to be honest with themselves why go out in skirt up to their backside low top showing your breasts who are they trying to impress its to attract men I should know not all women mind but be honest
@Judy parsons are you blaming me for my assaults? Are you suggesting wearing a skirt is inviting it?? It started when I was 9! Was I inviting it then??? Good fckin god ! Every woman I know dresses for themselves. How dare you blame the victims. How disgusting! Clothes are not consent !! How about we teach men manners? How about we teach them NOT to objectify us! Vile fckn person! WOMEN DO NOT ASK TO BE ASSAULTED EVER! Even wearing a bikini is not inviting it! Wtf do these men do at the pool or beach? Stop making excuses for sexual predators! How dare you say it's my fault!
@@CyanideSunshines didn't say it was your fault of course men who physically assault a woman should pay the price what I'm saying is all women are different and like different things me personally like the rough and ready type of guy and some women like their men like that and I know a lot of women like the gentle type so all in all at the end of the day we are all different
The internet really does bring out the worst in people and particular men. As a bloke myself it fascinates me as to what they are expecting the recipient to do when sending stuff like that, I can only think it’s some kind of power/dominance thing that they are missing in their real lives. Depending on how they are contacting I’d just have a complete social media abstinence and not let them take any of my time or attention and do something I enjoy in the time. I feel so old after realising how long ago the inbetweeners started 😱
I''ll never forget this.... On one of the worst days of my life I pulled up to a hotel, got my bags, and headed in to check in to my room. Before I could even get through the front doors I was stopped by a group of 8 men who refused to let me pass until I smiled for them because "I'm too pretty not to smile". They surrounded me. I was terrified. I didn't come out of my hotel room unless I absolutely had to and I looked over my shoulder the entire time. Mind you, I went through horrible abuse as a child. This moment just really sticks out to me because they simply didn't care about me at all. I was a court jester, not a human being going through a human experience.
WORST CASE OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT! Several years ago I took on a bright, young & talented female salesperson, who announced shortly after starting that she was lesbian. I was very pleased that not a single person had any issues with that, within 3 months I was approached by 2 female members of staff needing an urgent meeting with me, both announced that our new female member of staff had been touching them both 'daily' inappropriately! It was the worst case of sexual harassment I'd ever heard of in 35 years of employing many hundreds of members of staff.
I bet all the people messaging her aren't happy with their own life and it reflects in this situation. Disgusting behaviour 😤can't get my head around it
That's true. But I think it also comes down to them not knowing how to interact with attractive women. Unfortunately, attractive women are often objectified as things most people can't access, which results in a deluded sense of entitlement. Women's safety must always come first and more must be done to eradicate objectification.
I think sending unsolicited dick pics should be considered a form of sexual assault. It's illegal to expose yourself in public so exposing yourself to a stranger who never asked to see surely should be met with legal consequences.
Emily is lovely inside and out. Love how honest she's being here tbh. Internet can be so damaging as my Gran used to say " if you got nothing nice to say. Say nothing at all"
What I am more surprised about is there are people who sent this abuse from their real profiles with names and photos. Not the sharpest knives in the drawer. And the saddest part is they breed.
@@Nancy20012 if she does not have the time, she should just pass her social media profile to a lawyer or an agent, if she has one, to reveal the identities of all those people, it's sickening
Always thought she was an amazing actor and so so beautiful, this is going to sound weird but now i have been reminded i always wondered in future how much people would still just call her charlotte big jugs and its apparent now it has been relentlessly. some men are such horrible grim pigs its awkward for the rest of us. jeez ! Amazing woman though!!!
This is horrific. I have four nieces, and just thinking of any of them will go through this makes me worry like hell!!!! We need better men in our communities. Treat women like you want everyone to treat your daughters, sisters and mothers, it is as simple as that. All the men that use the internet to torment women are not even men, fucking bastards!
As a man I am fucking appalled with how men can get away with behaving like this. It is disgusting behaviour and I wonder if they are happy for their daughters and mothers and sisters to be spoken to like the way they speak to Emily. I apologise for what you’ve been through Emily, I am truly sorry.
I was brought up in a military family, very old fashioned and I know it's probably sexist, but my natural instinct is to protect women and children etc. This doesn't mean I don't have sexual thoughts about women, we all have that box of evil within us, but you've gotta keep it boxed up guys, be a gentlemen, be the hero in the movie not the bad guy.
It's not evil to have sexual thoughts about women. It's natural. It is what keeps our species alive. It's also not sexists to be protective of women, children or people or animals that can't protect themselves. Don't buy into people telling you those things are evil or sexists. Now what you choose to do with sexual thoughts, how you treat women because of those things or how you treat people in general because you are stronger and bigger than they are, those actions can make you sexists or evil
@@drewyetti you sure about that. Are they not called sluts shamed and treated badly if they are outward about their sexuality? Is it not spoken of as a defence in court cases to try to defend a rapist and tarnish a womans reputation. Thst even happens to underage girls in trials...i was unfortunate enough to experience this myself between the age of 14-16 in two seperate court cases as a character witness and a victim of crime. How did that turn out? The perpetrator an adult male was found not guilty of what he did to my friend who was 13 because she seemingly "consented". Then went on to plead guilty to what he did to me and was jailed for it....yet i too "consented" as he manipulated and groomed me into it.
Awww bless you Emily well done for being strong enough to let this out and admit the feelings it all made u feel some people just don’t have the ability to think of consequences of words n that makes them mentally ill hun xxxxx
she describes the affects of cyberbullying so well. Recently been cyberbullied for different reasons and the effect is just what she says: you're by yourself reading all these comments all coming at once and noone or only a few are helping you or stepping in bc it would be physically impossible to do so. its very scary
Emily Atack strikes me as an incredibly well spoken, intelligent and positive person with great acting skills! I wish her all the luck in her future career.
Spent this whole video, going yeah you're right. Still amazes me that so many men think this is ok, madness. Fair play though for not going down the "all men are arseholes" route, can see how you'd get there though.
I am so sorry. This is awful. It's not you - it's them! Some of them. You are very brave. We have to fix this in society. My boys WILL NOT be like this!!! I will not allow this as a mother. Keep kicking them in the bollocks!!!
Thank you Emily for being so open about this subject. It makes me a little embarrassed to be a man - but as was said, Emily has some great men in her life; her dad, uncles etc. Emily is a great comedian but this interview needs to be listened to and taken seriously.
As a bloke this makes me feel pretty shitty that I share my gender with these losers. Fair play to you Emily for the way you've approached this whole abusive shit storm. And on behalf of decent men everywhere, I'm sorry.
I was a slightly overweight child. the media introduced me to body shame, what was "acceptable" and what wasnt. i started dieting when i was 15 and just never was able to lose weight because of disordered eating - something i wouldnt figure out till 15 years later. media destroyed my self confidence and my sense of self worth. i cant get those 15 years back. the worst part is that sexual harassment is a gauge for how attractive you are. because i dont really receive much that adds to my self perception that im not attractive. which is not true. do i want to be sexually harassed, no. but media coerces you to believe that its a compliment. but its not.
How does someone send a message or photo to a random person/ celebrity. I haven't been active with Facebook for 8 years.. and I thought you would need to be friends with someone to send them something. This is strange hearing. Definitely out that guy BTW.
Its really sad how the world is now, social media has given people the platform to say and do what they want without getting punched in the mouth for it.....its good too see there's still some classy females out there like Emily still, I wish her the best.
I can relate to her so much- my online dating history I get nudes and sexual remarks without permission as well and Emily has helped me to understand it’s sexual harassment. Thank you Emily 🥀👏🏾
You should make a TV show all about hunting these dirty scum bags down and confronting them?! Your ratings would be fabulous and would make for an extremely entertaining watch!! Keep strong and your head held high!!
She’s NOT a fat pig!, She’s a lovely looking woman!, She looks beautiful and HEALTHY!! She’s a lot sexier then any skinny models and actresses!. She shouldn’t change a thing!.
I am so glad that Emily has some good strong male role models in her life and can see men who really know how to act and behave towards women.Thank god she has that and them as strong male examples of what true man can be
She's such a naturally beautiful girl getting the hate and abuse is disgusting cant believe guys like this exist, imagine if that was your mum or sister lads.
I just finished watching that video about the woman from Telford who was sexually assaulted by an Asian gang. I'm genuinely worried about what's happening with the world, why are there so many men that act this way and think its acceptable. There's a real problem.
There's a lot of very disturbing men out there. Am no expert, but they don't seem to understand anything about woman, or about life in general. I am a man, and a lot of men in my opinion seem to be stuck at the age of about 12 in the perceptions of what sex is,and attitudes to woman. Just because a woman is sexual doesn't give them the right to behave like freaks, and as Emily says a lot of these people appear to have normal lives, but they are disturbed mentally. Society in general needs to change attitudes to woman, maybe we have come a long way from the past, But there's still a long way to go!!
the most us women can do in the mean time is leave men a lone that think like that and not give them our time. Unfortunately, that has consequences too sometimes. It's hard but I do think that putting our foot down in time will keep making a change.
The shit women have to put up with is sickening. It's so gross and awful. It makes me want to vomit. The Internet is simultaneously the best and worst thing that ever happened to the world.
I hate it how creepy guys give men in general a bad name , I seriously hope Emily is ok and there will be so many men who would treat her right if they had the chance. Emily was amazing in the Jungle and I respect her 100% for her being able to talk about this. To be honest a part of me thinks she should out them, maybe that will start making people think twice and they can’t just send horrible messages to people just because they are on the tv. #BeKind #RespectEmily
I am absolutely mortified over the fact that she kind of got "used" to being abused, no one should ever get "used" to that. But I do understand why she had to take some defensive measures to not be completely broken down. But I do applaud how much courage she's showing by finally standing up to it, and she goes about it in an intellectual and well-spoken manner, so I have got nothing but respect for her. Also I realized way tooo late that she was in In Betweeners, what a legendary actress and show!
I’ve always been amazed by Emily, she is a wonderfully strong lady with a great family , her father was a great musician who I used to follow in the illegal eagles and her mum had her own comedy show on tv in the 80s and 90s, it upsets me when ladies are treated this way no one has the right to do this, thank you Emily for sharing and raising this issue it’s is massively important that we raise it and make changes.
10000% of us can relate when she said “what did you expect Em, but then why am I thinking like that in that way…” like I felt that! It’s sad it truly is.
Maybe we need some kind of system where you can report these kind of messages with the option to add them to a publicly accessible database, searchable by username/phone number of sender, with no information about who they went to. Using the reporting mechanism rather than simply adding messages to the database directly in each platform should minimise any potential to falsely add to the database for malicious reasons. Making it an optional part of each report would let people do it on a case-by-case basis and still allow them to flag messages without publicising them if they we not comfortable or were worried about retaliation. Could make for some very interesting reading and might make people think twice before subjecting a stranger to pics of their genitalia or tirades of filth. Obviously wouldn't help with anonymous accounts but might help with the others.
I think the most useful remedy is to just be nicer to each other. Would it hurt Emily as much if most people were appreciative of her, rather than abusive? The mindset of so many people is just "punish, punish, punish". Will it help make the world a better place? I don't think so. Some people will trash talk the others either way. Some people need to feel better than the others, by labeling them as bad. Some want to make others feel worthless so they can be easier to manipulate. This toxic mindset is harmful to the others, but what can we really do about that? Not much, really. Now, don't take me wrong, I agree that the most abusive and toxic behavior should be punished. But sometimes the society goes to far and then almost everything is outlawed. And then it's sometimes hard to show any affection, and the best thing you can do, if you want to avoid repercussions, is to be indifferent to the others.
I think the issue here is not some people can not separate fiction from fact, straight men will always sexualise women which is ok, when it is not is when it becomes detrimental to the person they are doing it to. Men just consider the other person, simple.
I'm a single 50 year old man..... And would never dream of treating anybody like that.... Who the fuck has the rite to treat people this way, Glad you've got good supportive people around you 🙂
So much respect for Emily for both doing this interview and letting it be released at such an important time. Everyone needs to understand the personal side of what harassment means, it's amazing that we've received so many informative statistics lately but this will make a difference
It's about time the internet was policed.. properly, so that people like Emily don't have to suffer this kind of abuse! Because that's exactly what it is..it's abuse.
No one should be subjected to the treatment that people in the media are subjected to, it isn't limited to people In the media regardless of gender or identity and it disgusts me to know that there is people out there that think it's ok. I love that she is taking control and giving it back to those scum and it should be championed as the norm. We should all be able to call out poor behaviour and it should rest on the shoulders of people that cringe when they hear something and don't speak up.
This is terrible stuff but you gotta ignore those pathetic losers and be strong. The internet gives you the power to be whoever you want with no real repercussions. Some people will take the opportunity to be sexist, racist, xenophobic, political etc. because of that. This isn't going to change. It's either you recognize this is the state of online or limit your online presence. These assholes will not act the same with you in real life, they're all spineless and have personal issues.
The problem is with social media, even though people have profiles, theres always a feeling of anonymity. Knowing there will be almost no consequence gives the "anonymous" harrassers a false sense of courage to write this sort of stuff. Whereas in real life, if they got a chance to do the same thing, they'd either shy away, or get slapped/punched/imprisoned for it
I feel for this girl... as a dad of a young daughter I don't want her to grow up and see this shit. I don't use social media and intend to, Internet is a toxic weird place
im sorry that so many men are like this. I've always hated seeing this as a man with friends who are women and it makes it difficult to comfortably speak to new women who you might be attracted to because women have to have a wall up against strangers.
Yeah, I am maybe late to this but this is videos but I love to see that this topic got some more traction. The society need to stand up against the abuse of online behaviors that everyone can do anonymously. Sexual harassment is not ok, and we all need to do more to try to stop it both online and offline.
There is a law here in Ireland called Coco’s law that makes it illegal to harass someone online. I wish they would have this globally! Until that day, you should definitely screen shot those messages and post them. You’d have so much support. Or you could create a social media campaign based on your experience aiming for law reform. Your story is important! So many women would relate to this
Seriously who the fuck are these men !! I'm looking at so many women standing up recently and telling these stories and I'm sick to the pit of my stomach. It so makes me feel like there's some second breed of man that just exist out there that are wired differently and are completely fucked little weaseling disgusting creatures. Who is raised to act like that. This woman is an amazing actress, person, personality, she's gorgeous and she's the picture of strength and resilience, I wish she wasn't forced to feel like she needs to reclaim her own sexuality and identity. Her and so many other women, I take my hat off to all of them and I stand next yo them in pure awe of what absolute bottom of the barrel filth somehow keeps finding their way to these women online, holy shit it hurts my head !! You're a legend Emily !!
as a girl I can tell you ive dealt with this kind of shit and we all do, its so messed up. But it happens so early on and there are far more men that think its acceptable than ones that don't these days it seems. I really think women need to take a big step back and let men figure eachother out before being around them.
Good on her for letting this out and it is disgusting what she and many many other poor women go through and the vile people who commit these horrible actions
