She started to turn to Humanistic psychology and trauma informed after my critical comment last year. First she was hysterical, but accepted the facts of life - and now she has more quality features than before.
Im literally crying right now, this worked so well?? I'm always ruminating and making my emotions worse and I feel like this is a game changer. Thank you ❤
Thank You, Dr.Marks, so much for these techniques! I tried them both for the first time just now, and they helped calm my mood immensely in just a few short minutes! I've needed something like this for so long! Thank You, from the bottom of my heart, for the help! ❤️
This half-smile technique sure as hell made me smile throughout the entire video 😅 Now I understand all these people who smile only with their mouths 😝
I use this while driving to prevent road rage and it really helps. It also gets a better response from other drivers than my former rage did! Im going to use it in your other suggestions. Thanks❤️
Hello Dr. Marks, I'm completing my internship at an adult😊 drug and adolescent hospital. Also I'm doing a DBT certification course. This week our adult theme is EMOTIONAL REGULATION! Do I have permission to show our client THIS VIDEO? Also do you have any words of encouragement for them? Thanks for these gems!
This is so fascinating because I've been doing the half smile one for many years without realising lol Edit: I do the open hands ones too. This is so interesting
Hi Doc, i’m not sure if it’s been a while or there’s a new artistic Director, but these new video formats are very creative! Whomever or the team behind the creative compositions are doing a phenomenal job! That aside when I first started watching this video, I was sitting with my confusion of the feel your feelings at the same time. Don’t feel your feelings with your address towards the end of the video so that answers that long-standing question I’ve had. The other long-standing question I still have yet to get answered, is emotions are inherently neutral, and they are ways of communicating, a deep inner experience, so why do we continue to emphasize this culture of “appropriate” versus “inappropriate” emotions. Especially with neurodivergent individuals getting more recognition, I hope one day as a society we will move forward with a more open society to express emotions in healthy ways without penalty. As a stereotypical, nice guy, it’s always befuddled me that my once in a blue moon expression of anger is far too unacceptable than the person who’s day today, overall unpleasant. That individual may not suffer any consequences however, the person who gets upset once in a blue moon Has all hell to pay.
Thanks to one of your videos I discovered what neuroticism is & oddly enough I was extremely neurotic as a teen & young adult being in certain public settings (school work) around the wrong crowds made my neurotic symptoms a thousand times worse but whenever I was with the right ppl who were supportive I notice I wasn't so neurotic
*I have major depression and general anxiety along with Aspergers and I tried ecstasy for the first time the other day. never felt so good in my life. it was like the cloud lifted. I have tried over 8 antidepressants with no relief*
I had a similar experience with mushrooms a little while ago. It's obviously not a solution to anything but it was nice to be reminded of what I *can* feel like. Almost like having a target to work towards. I don't know about you but for me it was also evidence that it's not necessarily my circumstances but my *judgement* about my circumstances that makes me unhappy. I wish you all the best :)
I had it with Ketamine treatment, but it lasted only a couple of hours and then I was back to depressed again, although I did it as a part of Ketamine-Assisted-Paychotherapy, it made me feel more depressed in the weeks to follow, because I felt like myself when I was under Ketamine and I felt so good, was very relaxed and humorous like in my pre-depressed days, tasting my old self made me feel worse afterwards because I was kinda reminded of how I used to be but then I was back to my depressed normal and it was heartbreaking 💔 It’s like waking up to reality from a very pleasant dream.
Great tips! Thank you so much! 🥰🥰🥰 I like to listen to guided meditation where they say to smile softly and to turn palms of the hands up and it usually makes me very peaceful 😊 these hacks definitely work for me! 😊
THANK YOU. My therapist wanted me to go to a DBT therapy specialist. I looked up, sounded stupid but this video, I'm trying all your suggestions I have PTSD, Bad Anxiety, panic. Attacks etc I would love to have you as my own therapist. I love your channel, very informative and straight forward. I know you spend a lot of time editing. I just want you to know that I appreciate you! , 💯%
How does this work for someone whose feelings or thoughts don't match up with their bodily expression? For instance, neurodivergent people and people with alexithymia. Personally, I will half-smile a lot yet still feel hellish, and I don't clench my fists when stressed or tense (I stim with hands/ my body shakes like I'm shivering).
Had a 💡 moment when Dr. M told us to "do the Mona Lisa." Thought to myself, that's a GREAT mantra to remind us to half-smile and open our hands. Thanks Dr. Marks. This talk was particularly helpful.
This is so crazy! I instinctively did willing hands AND a half smile in an attempt to stay calm during labor. No one told me to do it... I just felt like if I could keep my hands and face relaxed, everything else could relax too. I made it through 18 hours of labor in an amazing state of peace, and now it all makes sense!
Thank you. I started using Mindfullness techniques ages ago (without knowing what what that was) at the suggestion of someone older and wiser than I ever was. The difficult part for me is recognizing the onset of excessive stress. Highly stressful situations often build out of what seems to be a no/low stress situation.
Thank you for making this series. I working on processing my emotions in counseling now. I am journaling. I was instructed to emotionally “vomit” my feelings. I did it and afterwards I was so scared of the gross violence and pain I wanted to inflict. It was pure hatred. 😭 But when my kids have been hurt SO badly I can’t help it. I haven’t been able to do it’s since because I feel guilty that I have these feelings. 🥺🥺 Is this normal?? I did feel somewhat better, but still guilty.
As someone whose kid was hurt by people as well, I feel you on that one. The good news is that the guilt can be safely simply and swiftly transmuted with ease and Grace. It's something I facilitate my coaching and healing clients to experience. You deserve to be guilt-free.
Wow...awesome mindfulness tips. My hands brought to my attention the need for me to engage in more mindful practice. I pray open minds find this video.
i've struggled with my mental health since i was little. i never liked to smile. i'm doing this exercise right now and i started to cry 😢 that's how bad my mental state is. even when i get slightly cheerful or feel a bit positive i cry. oy vey
I remember doing the half smile in school donkey's years ago when I lived in fear of a particular teacher berating me. Trouble was, she always thought I was laughing and would berate me even more. I get what you're saying, but our interpretation of the "half smile" & its meaning, can be different to that of another person's understanding of it.
i just discovered the doc thanks to YT's recommendation! excited that she is a trained professional giving advice and not just someone who might have done some great research. i appreciate those people. i appreciate her more! anyhu, yeah, i do this as a coping/defense mechanism when i'm too shocked to speak or too pissed off to speak. there's a lady on YT with a great channel--YoQi, i think it's called--and she...gives similar advice in her vids. what i learned here is to wake up doing such and more consciously engage in such and not just let it be a reaction... gonna be using this in the courtroom as a pro se litigant WHEN the attorney tries to pull me...into my...negative emotions for a case he CAN'T win as long as i present my documented facts with a...HALF SMILE!!!! as for "willing hands" it's a prayer pose ...
1. HALF SMILE- monalisa smile, it is not supressing negative emotions but half smile with upturned ends research has shown that facial expression can impact our feelings. when you wake up take 2 mindful deep breaths and use half smile Spend few minutes listening to music and listen to melody, luyrics 1. HALF SMILE- this is not a full beaming smile PRATICE HALF SMILE WHILE RELAXING MAINTAIN A HALF SMILE WHILE THINKING OF SOMEONE YOU DONT LIKE IS THEIR PERSPECITVE INFLUENCED BY BIAS, INTOLERANCE, HATRED OR ANGER THIS IS NOT GIVING EXCUSES BUT YOU ARE TRYIGN TO BE AN OBJECTIVE OBSERVER FO THEIR LIVES WITH HALF SMILE, AND THEIR IMAGE BREAHTE IN EMOTION OF COMPASSION TILL THIS FEELS WASHED OFF 2. WILLING HANDS- plans facing up and relaxed when tensed hands contract and make a fist, you see this in babies when they are distressed. the willing hands posture opens you up physically and emotionally and creates a level of vulnerability and acceptance
this is one of the most useful videos I've seen in a long time. I have such difficulty with regulating emotions and it seems like I'll never be able to get a hold on them and stop them from taking the power. This is very practical and will be very useful in the future
I thought DBT and CBT are two completely different programs with my mental illness my personality is cluster B personality disorder Dr marks I know you know what they are but for everyone else they are borderline personality disorder narcissistic personality disorder antisocial personality disorder and histrionic personality disorder
Hi doc. I know this might be off topic but I have higher chances that you will respond if I comment on the newest video. I experience small brain zaps when I think about something (daydreaming, trying to be more alert etc). I feel like my brain gets shocked for a split second and I feel numb for a moment. It happens when I try to do things that I can't do for a longer while (I can't daydream at all). Sorry for that but I need answers
I really don't care to think of what would bring the person who abused me joy! This is supposed to be about getting me through the day, not smiling about the perpetrator! I don't want to be an observer of their life, I know too much about it already. Thanks a lot. :((
Dr Marx why would I want to hold my hands open to become vulnerable nope I don't want to become vulnerable I want to protect myself from people who might do harm to me
you described being a psychiatrist, but it seems like you are discussing psychological issues. Your training as a medical professional is concerning, symptoms diagnosis and medication prescription. Can psychologists also discuss the medical aspect of mental health?
If you know the reason please reply - Why do i get worried about certain things like snacks, my dad will but me a packet of chips and i want to eat them but i am worried that if i want them tomorrow they won't be there.
Thank you for your videos!!!! They are very helpful. I was told to avoid birth control since it could affect my Bipolar 2 medicine. Is that true? What birth control should I avoid? Also, can you do a video on having Bipolar 2 while being or trying to become pregnant? Personally, I am trying to avoid becoming pregnant right now, but I might change my mind in the future.
Sorry for these questions being off-topic from the video. I have watched all of your bipolar and depression videos. They have been EXTREMELY helpful. Thank you!!!!
It’s hard to feel compassion for someone I dislike so much; the closest I’ve been able to get is just understanding. I will keep practicing this, and hopefully it will generate more empathy within me that I can use in my life. I’ve been wanting to get my empathy back for a while.
I know you have invested in this new video format, but I find it rather distracting and borderline annoying: I am interested in hearing what you have to say, not being dazzled by random "woosh!" sounds, keyboard clicks, bells, chimes and their counterpart visual jingles.
¡¡¡ LoL !!! @ “Don’t fantasize about inflicting pain on this person … (you don’t like) . I’ve been trying to do this more. It does make me feel better ; maybe even a litttle more confident
I am 77 . And facing Narsasist abuse . I did not know this half smile technique . But Just from childhood I have learnt to smile most of the time . That is my way of saying the world is beutiful . This my habit of smiling helped in healing I guess . But I will learn to use open hands technique . Thank you
