Thanks for these tips. A lot of people assume that I'm an ENFJ because I don't mind large gatherings or socialising. However, I identify more as an INFJ, and need copious amounts of alone time to recharge again.
Thanks for this insight and different point of view, very spot on! Agree with it all , just a part on ‘practicality’ and ‘vision’ in my case is not 💯so… struggling with putting in practice all my visions and idea! Lots love from ENFJ❤️🌹
I think that it is easy to look at the stack and assume that these two types are super similar. While it is true that they share all cognitive functions in slightly different order, that ‘slightly’ makes all the difference. And I have especially become aware of it these last few months just noticing how a friend reacts to things vs how I do. Despite certain similarities that are inevitable when you share the same set of cognitive functions, the way our minds work is very, very different. Our focus on things, priorities in life, connections between A to B to C,… Some reactions were even surprising to me. She prioritizes connections to people despite not even being a friend to some of them. I prioritize honesty. There was a situation in which she omitted even being a friend of mine because that led to having to answer a question in regards to my life which was unpleasant (because it included difficult health condition of my mom). She did tell me about this. I asked her: Was it not possible for you to say: I don’t tend to talk about a friend behind their back, so let’s focus the attention on us? instead of denying a friendship because it would have brought unpleasantness and tension in that scenario. And I just had to get in touch with the other person and tell them the truth about my life situation. She got angry and started worrying about her reputation. To me, that was a shock. I didn’t even mention her name nor her reaction (to that other friend) in any context. I just tried to set the record straight. And in that situation, the shocking part to me was: is this the time to worry about reputation, or time to be supportive because life was helluva difficult (for me) and (unfortunately) I did need support? I say unfortunately because it is hard for me to seek help and support (even from a friend). I do get her reactions and I know why she did it. So, this doesn’t come from a place of judgment. It comes from a place of hurt. We are still friends but that was heartbreaking for me. And I am mostly referring to the part of her prioritizing reputation rather than denying a friendship because acceptance would have led to answering an unpleasant question. The second part is actually easier to understand and I did got over that quickly while my mind is still stuck on the first part.
Thanks for the video, quite insightful and inspiring, as all other videos of yours. I'm actually in this predicament, because I'm still on the fence between these two. I'm a very strong N, to the point that I've been called "a deep thinker" and "intellectual" most of my life, even mistyping as a T (NT) for a long time before I got to know the Temperaments by Keirsey. Now I know I'm an NF, and a clear J, but I still can't quite figure out my E/I. On the one hand, my strong N and my kind of balanced F/T would point towards INFJ, but I look, behave and am considered E by any meaningful PoV: talkative, energetic, good in group settings, adaptable, fast moving... I've flirted with the Socionics concept of Ni-ENFJ, but it doesn't quite make sense TBH if you don't buy the whole system - which I don't. Could I be an ENFJ by the dichotomies and an INFJ by the functions? Because that's where I'm stuck: I have a hard time both relating to Ti-inf and to being Introverted as a general personality trait... Maybe it's just my very very strong N that screws the Dom-Aux hypothesis of the Grant Stack.
