Yea I dated 2 very briefly and the were both frantic and manic . They just fried me from the start. Maybe it works better Male ENFP female INTJ like in this video
Hm! Mine's the same. Is his Ne(F) and Fi(M), as well? (I'm guessing >maybe from his impromptu PSA about the dark side of the gem trade, and his spontaneous sharing also of his pet rocks. I guess that'd also be why we might cause car accidents with our sartorial choices were we walking down the street together, ha.)
I feel like she's a serpentine Ursula character blasting him with eye lasers, and he's just sitting their like an innocent oblivious quartz which splashes rainbows everywhere.
Naaaw.. This is sweet... ENFP here, hiding in a world of Sensors... Watching you guys communicate makes me realise I need to go out & find a tribe of Intuitives... How did you guys meet?
This has been interesting to watch. I am married to an ESTP and I have thought about interviewing her for my channel. She probably wouldn't go for interviewing me so much on hers. I would be too boring for her audience. :-) One thing that jumped out at me was when Ben said he felt sorry for the other party when Linsey tuned out of a conversation that continued on past her interest point. My wife, Dotti has often called me out on being rude to others, because she can read my face, when I haven't said a word. She knows when I am bored, or condescending to the ideas being expressed, but I am politely listening despite my eager desire to be elsewhere. I thought it was just her, but last week my granddaughter, who is only seven, did the same thing to me. She called me on what my face was "saying." She may be an ESTP too. Possibly an ESTJ. When I escape into my mind to finish a conversation on a higher level than the one I am having with another person, apparently I am not as sneaky as I thought I was. :-) Another thing that hit me was Ben's comment about getting Lindsey's parent to let him marry her. I went through that on my first marriage. It was "the summer of love," 1969, and she was 16 when I asked her to marry me and I was 17 at the time. (I think she is an ESFP.) That was 50 years ago this year. (That seems incredible.) We were married the next year, when she was 17 and I was 18 and turned 19 the day after our wedding. At that time all the parents had to sign off on that. I remember asking my ex-wife's father for her hand in marriage and he was very cool about it. I was never so nervous in my life. He is a really nice guy. I still email him a few times every year. He is in his nineties now. My wife today was 17 (we are 5 years apart) when I met her, and she turned 18 in less than a month. Her father had died when she was 7 and I never met him. Her step-father was a jerk and she was completely on her own by that time. So, we just made our plans without asking anyone. We are coming up on our 43rd anniversary this summer and that was the smartest deal I ever made. She is a real keeper! :-) In grade school I did not buy into the system at all. I failed 6th grade and had to do it over. My teacher told my parents I had the highest IQ in the class and should be at the top, and so my dad would yell at me just that much louder because of that. I just didn't fit into that system. I spent my first 8 grades learning how to deal with school, but not what they are trying to teach me. I still shake my head over those years. If they had approached me right, I would have sailed through without a hitch. It is funny though, the thought of cheating never crossed my mind. If I wanted to get a good grade I would have done the work. But I didn't care enough to cheat. But I would think that an ENFP would care about what people think a lot more than an INTJ would. I was already in my own bubble, doing my own thing. It is amazing how our personality type shapes how we respond to similar situations in different ways. I don't eat a lot of meat because I prefer other food. I was raised vegetarian for religious reasons, but when I gave that up I became omnivorous. The animals in a hamburger probably wouldn't be born at all if not bred on cattle ranches and they are well fed and don't die of starvation or in the claws and teeth of a predator, but by a painless quick knock in the head. Life is a cruel deal no matter how you play it out, and you can view it different ways. I don't have a problem with eating meat, but I don't begrudge others feeling bad about it. Whatever floats your boat. :-) I have a lot of pet peeves that people generally accept as being okay, or even cool. It is what it is. Put two or more people in the same society and you will have a difference of opinion. I am really old or something because I had never heard of "bling" before. (Maybe the fact that I haven't watched any broadcast TV since the early 1990s has something to do with it?) I had to look it up to see what it was. Educational video. :-) My dad would have gotten along well with Ben and his gemstones. My folks used to take me out into the desert when I was young, to go "rock hunting". I hated it. :-) He had a tumbler to make the rocks round and smooth, and rock cutter and polisher. He loved it. I have grown to love geology as I have gotten older, but when I was younger rocks were boring. But it was the sensory side of it that I didn't care about. If Dad had connected up the origin of the stones and what all the sediments and igneous rocks came from, that would have been different. :-) When I met my wife it was on my Navy ship in September of 1974. She came up the gangway with a group of girls from a local Mormon church for a ship's tour. They just showed up, and I happened to be on watch on the quarterdeck, standing there in my dress whites with a 45 on my hip, and I took them to the bridge for a look-see. I was smitten by my first look. I didn't even talk to her. But one of my coworkers was in her church and I talked to him about how amazing this girl was. He arranged our meeting and we were engaged to be married in just a couple of weeks. It was love at first sight. And there was no way she couldn't have known I was in the Navy. :-) I also didn't hide the fact that I had been married before or that I had a two-year old son. She didn't like that news, but she accepted it. All the really interesting nicknames I was exposed to came in the Navy. The youngest guy in our shop in the communications center on Diego Garcia we called "Pampers." It wasn't meant as derogatory. Looking back it sounds weird, but at the time even he embraced it. He was proud of getting were he was while still being so young. (He was our calibration tech and calibrated all our electronics test equipment.) The biggest guy on the island was called "Tiny." We had an "Odie" on my last ship who was a go-for kind of guy. There were lots more of them. Most of the alternate names I have seen women give each other have not been what I would call nicknames, but more like descriptive, often pejorative terms, but also with kind or endearing descriptors. But not exactly nicknames. When my wife had her second conference for her web page, there was a group of 89 "Zonies" attending. (Her page is Dotti's Weight Loss Zone, and the visitors took on the nickname.) They got together and created a "Newlywed Game" for us. It was 2002, and so that was just before our 26th wedding anniversary, but we still had a "Honeymoon Lane" sign tacked up over our bedroom door. We'll always be newlyweds. :-) They closeted me away when the asked her questions and vice versa. We had no problems getting all the answers to the questions right. It is fun being married to your best friend. :-) I liked the old Disney Swiss Family Robinson tree house. In fact my wife and I went up in the mock up of it at Disneyland on our honeymoon in 1976. But I am not big on tree houses generally. My perfect future scenario would be for my wife and I to be the protagonists living, not in a tree house, but in their amazing cave home, on the planet Attis, from my sci-fi books. Forever young, constantly growing in intelligence as well as knowledge through their A.I. brain upgrades, while retaining their humanity, and even raising lots of kids. If I were given just one wish, for anything I could ask for, that would be it. Thanks for sharing! I wish the two of you the very best in all things in the future!
Ni/Te was telling me reading this would be an enormous waste of time. But opposing Ne convinced me it could possibly be useful... Should've listened to Ni...
Ok honestly, the replies here are complaining about the length, but I enjoyed reading the whole thing. It’s just so wholesome hearing about you and your wife I can definitely tell you’re not an Si user though, with all the jumping around the past. Random events told in a random order
I'm an INTP. The whole "internal framework" has turned me into a bit of a guidance counselor, and it happens in an entirely organic fashion. The phenomenon is quite fascinating. One such opportunity where I was asked for advice was a close male ENFP friend asking me if I thought it would be a good idea to romantically pursue a female INTJ. I told him he is unlikely to find someone that would more compatible, or that would help him become the best version of himself (and do the same for her). It is now over a year later and they are engaged. Also, if I had a dollar for every female INTJ that was an extreme animal rights activist I would be a part of the notorious "1%". Are you guys Christian or possibly religious? I find it fascinating how much intuitives, especially NTs, are stereotypically considered to be non-religious. That is not what I have personally perceived. P. S. An interesting observation is that she is the one consistently reaching for and touching him. Female INTJs are secretly very cuddly when they have built trust in a relationship. It's adorable.
You guys resemble my husband and I to the T. He is Enfp and I’m an Intj... question for you and no offense to your husband. How many times a day do you tell him to just shut up because you can’t hear yourself think🤔 lol that is my biggest struggle, he likes to daydream and listen to music creating an environment where he is inspired and thrive... but I can’t handle noice for that long...I can be very rude with him sometimes then I feel bad for him later...
Hahahahaha hahahaha hahah x1000 I used to be way more vocal about that. Now I’ve learned to tune out everything if I have to. But yes, it can still be a struggle. Hahah reading your comment back again yes, that’s exactly how it is 😂😂
I really enjoyed watching this video of you two, you both are awesome! I'm also curious, because I noticed that you had your arm around him a bit (which made me smile). I've heard that INTJs tend to be resistant to Physical Touch (so I've never been able to see them initiate it), and usually prefer Acts of Service. But you seem like you're comfortable doing it. Is Physical Touch either of your primary love languages? Or does it just happen naturally? I hope this isn't too personal of a question; I just noticed it and thought it was cool!
We’ve been married for 9 years so it’s not “new” lol. But in public IRL I don’t display any physical affection. Much to his disappointment lol. My love language is quality time. Time is the most valuable!
I love your videos! I have been watching them more and more over the past month or so. I am also an INTJ, I have found this out pretty recently. I'm relieved as I generally find social situations challenging and can get sensory overload abruptly which can be less than optimal. And I generally see the world through a different lens than most people. Your videos help me see that it's not just me, it's comforting. Thank you. P.s. I'm not sure your partner fully understood the angle of the question. He seems lovely but your face genuinely made me laugh at the fishing 🤣. I pull that face A LOT haha.
Haha so great to have you around Glen! Yeah I found this stuff later in life too. It’s so nice to know that someone else gets your brain right? I’m always here if you have any questions.
5:00 ... I hear "Ne curiosity" screaming here. I had an ENTP who once told me that he felt the urge to slap people when they were young just to see their reactions even his dad lmaooo. Wicked Ne Wicked!
Oh for sure! We will go off into “N” land all the time. We’ll be talking in the clouds when we should actually be talking about something like who’s going to pick up paper towel on their way home from work because we’ve been out for a month. 😂
Thoroughly enjoyed seeing ENFP vibes, i feel the same way when people dont understand the awesomeness that is building something. Half the fun is whacking your thumb and accepting the reality of the situation, maybe im just a weirdo though
Here for the shirt. busy reading comments until I heard black holes and garden of eden. your are both my people I think. I love how random ben is :) lol he literally pulls a rock out of his pocket at some point.
When you guys build, let Ben do the labor and LJ supervise and advise (organizing tools, reading instructions, etc). 😄 I’m an ENTJ female and I do this to and for my boyfriend all the time. Without me, he would take too many breaks possibly never finish. 😎
"This is my life." 😂 Ahhhh the ENFP/INTJ relationship. Y'all are adorable together. I related so much to all your answers, Lindsey (sp?). This was super interesting. I need to get those cards.
Exactly, I had people tell me my resting face feels like I just murdered someone, looking at my mirror for me didn't seem much. Then I discovered this channel
Your Husband is my spirit animal. I know how to set up AI algorithms, and it is scary. You guys remind me of Marie Curie and Pierre Curie. Pierre discovered piezoelectricity which involves crystals. Also, Ewoks are just baby wookies.
Loved it! I may have found my own ENFP. It is quite surreal and I've never laughed so much in my life. It helps I'm in the midlife zone and we both have done a lot of personal growth "work". He hasn't type tested, but I'm gonna start looking for a free online text to break him in.
It's so funny that you two didn't know your types until years after being married, but you found each other anyway. My INTJ husband knew his type, but I was mistyped for two decades. We discovered my actual type a year ago. Sure enough... ENFP. He is my favorite and I am his. Even when I drive him nuts. 😂
Ben might be interested in the book, "In the Beginning, We Misunderstood..." It talks about how the bible would have been interpreted by people at the time it was written.
I feel like I've watched a parallel universe. The very familiar great chemistry between INTJ and ENFP but the genders have been swapped, and it is at the same time so familiar and yet so flipped. And in a strange way that you from the US South and I am from Europe adds to the oddness. What to others must look like a very normal video, to me this was one of the most interesting and yet oddest things I've ever seen.
Faking interest in a conversation...I think most INTJs have mastered that skill. We're really good listeners when we're interested and so we know how it's supposed to look even when we're faking it.
Laughed out loud at work at LiJo’s logical fear of getting hit by cars 🚗 ... driven by old people 😂🤣😂. The way you said that was so funny. Perfect timing. Haha. Don’t they drive like 20mph though? Couldn’t u outrun them or just juke and jive? Heehee Also, I was kinda mean about Ben’s shirt in a comment somewhere, but I am a hypocrite because I totally dress like this at home. It was only after watching one of your videos that I realized I ‘dress up’ just to fit the social expectation. 🙄😐
I'm not much of a wheeler & dealer myself. Not interested in shortchanging anyone, also too much work. When he said most logical fears and said water bears... I was thinking tardigrades................ 😂😂😂😂 Re: animal suffering, ehhh I don't want to get into an argument, but buying any commercially / agri-industry produced food pretty much involves animal suffering, even if it is 100% plant based. The best I have seen for minimal suffering is buying from local farmers whose practices I agree with. Which does cost more. The rocks are cool!! :D
@@InternetLiJo completely understand that. I do too. We just reached different conclusions about what that is. Mine is evolving, anyway. I've done a lot of research at various points into things like sustainable farming and ancestral diets. I don't feel like I have an ideal answer yet, but have seen plenty of evidence that strict veganism is no more sustainable large scale than conventional agribusiness. Partly the issue is that different people have different nutritional requirements for optimal health based on ancestry, etc. And different land is more suitable for growing different types of food. Hydroponics are appealing also but then you realize there are so many more different things in healthy dirt, many of them alive, than you can ever artificially supply to plants and you start wondering just how much hydroponically grown plants are missing nutritionally that we don't even know to look for yet. (The potential quantities and varieties of nutrients available in soil is a continuous variable compared to the discrete variable of soil) Regardless of WHAT you choose to eat I think it is pretty overwhelmingly clear that supplying your food locally rather than getting it shipped from all over the world, to whatever extent possible, is ideal. Growing it yourself is the best you can get. No transport costs in money or pollution at all. 😁
see im an intj and you guys we're talking about building things and im normally the one to build or put together furniture and stuff and i enjoy it but my enfp boyfriend doesnt like things like that
I definitely also find 'how to do things' interesting. The other day my boyfriend was playing a video game (Yakuza 2) and as a side mission you can play mahjong. He tries a match and we laugh about how we have absolutely no idea what any of the tiles or 'moves' mean. He quickly gives up and I go back to my laptop. About an hour later I look up and say, 'So, I think I know how to play mahjong now.' He says, 'Have you actually spent this whole time learning mahjong?' 'Yup.' '...Why?' 'Ummm...' I then watch him try his best to look interested while I enthusiastically explain what an 'East wind' is and how to get a good hand.
*****Li-Jo girl . . . . the intro instrumental song to this upload, . . . . Does it have a "title" or is it like a generic song you found? I want it for my studying lol
I've never met a girl who had a nickname. The times that I enjoy with my wife the most are when we work together to solve a problem. The other best time is when we get on the same page and start daydreaming out loud about something we could do in the future like running a tutoring service or after school club.
I got the inner visions about some incidents as regards the answers to some questions in the video like: When he felt most powerful - opening consecutive shots at a stationary car’s windshield with the helpless victim still at the driver’s seat who in all probability shitted in his pants with fright? - visualising his wild imagination as being in an outer world place with a little ‘ewok’? - disgust aroused due to underhanded tactics in treating running water in a particular dwelling? - Impossible dreams about quantum physics? Etcetera, etcetera
ENTP here. I won't lie your husband strikes me as an IP for some reason he seems really low energy. This was interesting to see. Personally I've never met someone with an IJ type having a larger energy presence than me or any of my EP friends. Really interesting.
I think environment is everything. If you ask our friends who’s the extrovert out of Ben and I, everyone will say Ben hands down. Socially I am void, however controlling a space, I’m on the top. That’s what INTJs do, control. 😬😂
I do follow Objective Perosnality and my animal stack is CPBS so I guess it does make sense that your husband would seem more low energy than I would've expected.
[ after his toy story that didn't even happen ] L J: "That's like that weird ExxP idea of being able to control a situation." Me: [laughing] "I know! Crazy, right?!" ;-) ::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::: Indi between you with her eyes closed, furry Dumbo ears, and tongue hanging out is so cute; I like that petrified wood silica a lot, and think talking about black holes at a brunch or baby shower is a good way to go. I'm jealous of your whole marriage and everyone in it, is what I'm saying.
Fellow INTJ here. TALK TO ME ABOUT BLACK HOLES. They're possibly the most interesting single topic in existence, for me, that no one seems to care about. So that cracked me up a little when you mentioned it.
Fun video to watch. Ben kinda looks and sounds like Johnny Depp. Can't say I'm into gemstones, but I enjoy watching people be passionate about nearly anything. I may have misinterpreted this, but I enjoyed watching your panicked face when Ben asked you about pop culture references, Lindsay. Haha. One of the few sorts of questions we INTJ's usually don't immediately know the answer to. I was pleased to hear that you guys are Christians and I share Ben's enthusiasm for the antediluvian culture, which likely contributes to the various "Atlantis" mythologies. You guys make a great team. =)
Same, I got Johnny Depp vibes too! Ben is incredibly relatable, unlike the stereotyped, unhealthy and 'immature', or overly-excitable ENFP that is projected by the internet world. - Fellow ENFP
I am an ENFP and I am obsessed with crystals and gemstones, i get it. Lol And yes to the meat products that they should be more expensive. #NoToAnimalCruelty
I used to have very hostile but intentionally friendly conversations with my old friend, she was ENFP as I was INTJ. We could've spoken on any kind of topics but we've stopped because of emotional burnouts on each other, though we, or at least me haven't even know that our social types are perfectly written. Dang, something could've shot up 😔 Zere, if you'll read it by the one day, - sorry me for not giving second chance, though I was asking for one 👺🥴
I thought you might find this interesting. When you mentioned black holes I thought of this Streamer. I think, although not confirmed, that this an female INTJ streamer. She streams space and science stuff all the time and likes to talk about future prospects in relation to space. You might be able to connect with her in some INTJ way Link: www.twitch.tv/skylias
The Ewok answer is hands down the best answer to that question. I didn´t even think about it but when Ben said it I was like, yup that´s one hundred percent my dream. Ewoks are the best.
Oh my god, the glint in her eye when she said, "You wish I were a better fisherperson?" hahahaha. And is that his real outfit? Was he wearing most of that for most of the day, out and about, no putting on at all? (Asks another ENFP known to mix and match Talbots wool separates with space age jewellry and neon Crocs, in disbelief.)
Ha ha, I'm INTJ (female) married to ESTP - that's the type you want around to get prpjects done - although not great at exactly following my specs. Definitely reliable to get home projects done but won't brainstorm with me at all.
Hey Lindsey, are you a Christian? I know you don’t have to be one to read/be interested in the Bible, but I’m just curious because your husband mentioned it.
Hey! That’s a tough one. I would say a tip might be to already know what he’s going be be looking for. You have to play by the game while you live with him to keep your sanity. Ask yourself - what do I need to say so he understands this situation or this thing through his perspective, what can I say to throughly communicate (playing to his Te). Also, how can I show him I organized the structure of ____ things already so he doesn’t get on my case for it (Si). It’s all a game of function chess, try to think one move ahead before its his turn.
This is the only video I have seen of these two but It's hard for me to understand what she sees in him. Seems like she is annoyed with him throughout their conversation and seems like she would be annoyed with his (possible) lack of motivation and lack of efficiency. It seems like she would only be compatible with someone more like herself, but maybe she wouldn't like feeling less accomplished than her mate, they might always disagree on the most efficient way to do things. Her husband may appreciate her efficiency because he doesn't feel very efficient. Maybe she enjoys helping someone improve themself. . It is great to see how deeply amused she is with some of the things he says. Love is a mysterious thing.
And yes, people’s emotions can actually do something to harm you @LiJo. There’s a Whole Lotta CraZy people in the world. And when I say crazy, I mean evil. Vengeance is based out of anger and bitterness and it is relentlessly harmful. 😞
