Enmeshment Marriage Therapy & Differentiation

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My latest Bowen video discusses all 8 of his interlocking concepts: • Why The Bowen Family T... You might also like: Bowen and Boundaries: • Couples Therapy: Emoti...
Enmeshment marriage therapy is explained through the lens of differentiation of self. I take a deep dive into the application of differentiation in real life relationships using real couples therapy footage with couples talking about real problems in their daily life. Murray Bowen's concepts of differentiation of self apply to all sorts of situations, the most obvious is working with enmeshment in marriage or couples counseling. We will look at what Bowen says about an enmeshed relationship in a nutshell, look for techniques using examples from the show and snippets of a session

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Комментарии : 26

@anonanon1344 2 месяца назад

Please don't give up on this channel. This is so helpful and easy to understand

@MyPeoplePatterns 2 месяца назад

Aw. Thank you! Another Bowen video going up tomorrow

@veronicahunter640 4 месяца назад

I found it very helpful to have real examples shown and explained so that I could hear/see/interpret what people are saying when they speak. I've seen several videos of SOFT explained, yet this really helped with understanding/application.

@MyPeoplePatterns 4 месяца назад

this is wonderful to read- thank you for sharing your thoughts! i am thrilled it found you ;)

@BRCAinBCYouTube 3 месяца назад

I watched and shared with a client asking for a resource on this topic. Thanks, Oliver!

@MyPeoplePatterns 3 месяца назад

No way! That’s so cool - I’ve not shared any of these with clients yet! 🙉🙈🙊

@georgenadopyera6706 14 дней назад

Keep up the great work Oliver!!! Thank you for these videos- they are incredibly helpful for those of us just getting started!!!

@dharmavoicesing 3 месяца назад

More? Yes please! I love your approach. The simplicity of the visual aids. Thank You.

@MyPeoplePatterns 3 месяца назад

Aw -thank you - so glad you're enjoying the way my weird brain works :)

@dharmavoicesing 3 месяца назад

@MyPeoplePatterns well, my brain most probably is weird as well cause I SO appreciate the way you present the concepts. In fact, your videos inspired the use of sliders in my vocal coaching work. It works so much better than flat either/or pass/fail language, and gives space for movement in increments. Your enthusiasm is contagious in the best way! Keep going. 😊

@garyhaughney2165 3 месяца назад

yes please. clips are interesting.

@courtneyatkins4520 Месяц назад

This was very helpful. Anxious person trying to learn differentiation, which i just discovered this week. I enjoyed your bowen breakdown of examples!!😊

@MyPeoplePatterns Месяц назад

wooohoo! so glad you found them and they were helpful :)

@xDonJuanx 4 месяца назад

I'm a family system's coach and I enjoy your vids

@MyPeoplePatterns 4 месяца назад

awww! that's so great to hear from another systems person! thanks for saying hi and am thrilled these found you :)

@mm1390 25 дней назад

Please keep making videos like this! I am doing couples counselling in my internship right now and I find this so helpful. You could do a whole series commenting on clips from this show.

@MyPeoplePatterns 22 дня назад

On it! and that's a really good idea - might do another one these then- it does make it so much easier when you're looking at a real interaction between people

@sarcrane182 8 дней назад

i agree!!!

@sarcrane182 8 дней назад

I would watch 10000 more hours of you talking about this lol

@MyPeoplePatterns 8 дней назад

oh gosh - don't encourage me ;) thank you for the kind words

@annaczarna2733 3 месяца назад

I wonder: can one have too much of self-differentiation? If one has perfectly separated their thoughts and feelings and self and other, and their other has no influence on their self, they would seem psychopathic. Beyond any impact of human emotions of shame or guilt which stem from what we think we did (or didn’t) to the other. I realize it’s a distant possibility but still. The perfectly self-differentiated would be psychopathic, wouldn’t they?

@drakeford299 3 месяца назад

No, I don't think so. Shame and Guilt are feelings - which have evolved as ways to make us feel bad and to follow rules, to avoid rejection from society and tribe, which we need for protection. A differentiated person has a separated Self, and Other doesn't mean they are not influenced by them; it means they would listen to Others, think about what they said, notice their own emotional reaction, and then CHOOSE to act however they do (vs undifferentiated which is more reactive to what other people say). Psychopathic person would not have a very imbalanced SELF and other) and have very small feelings and probably lots of THOUGHTS ... crap, I might have to do a video for you on this.

@annaczarna2733 3 месяца назад

@@drakeford299 also, are narcissists highly self-differentiated?

@drakeford299 3 месяца назад

@@annaczarna2733 Highly differentiated people do not have psychopathology.

@MyPeoplePatterns 3 месяца назад

A fully differentiated person is like the most HEALTHY version of our self. If you believe in Jesus, we might wonder if he was all the way at the 100% and fully differentiated. 🤷‍♂️ Narcissists don’t have much of “Other” it’s all Self. They have difficulty accessing feelings. So all thoughts, No feels!

@annaczarna2733 3 месяца назад

@@drakeford299 As a researcher, I appreciate your clinical insights. I'd gladly respond in an email.