I’m actually a writer and one of my characters is a type 2w1. This video was incredibly helpful in developing her character further because I didn’t know about subtypes. I’ve just discovered her stack is an SO/SP stack and an underdeveloped SX. Now I can see her quirks and motivations a lot more clearly, making her unique, even though she’s technically not the protagonist, but the protagonist’s partner 😊
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3.
I worked with an unhealthy sx/so2, and it was exhausting to keep up with the mood swings. Looking back, both his work and home environment were super unhealthy, and if we knew each other under better circumstances, we would have been great friends.
I’ve been doing a lot of self-discovery with MBTI and enneagram and this video was super useful for me. I’m an esfp type 2 so/sp, and this gave me all sorts of useful insights. Like how I need everyone to like me/be my friend, and, because of that, I don’t share a lot of my more private opinions with people. I’ll be goofy and silly, and very supportive, but usually flipping things back to how THEY feel rather than how I feel. Really cool stuff. Thanks for your insights. ♥️
I totally agree, 2's can look very different from each other. I have a close friend who is a 2w1 SP and I am always telling her she needs to get more sleep. I guess I need more sleep too but it's for very different reasons. She puts everyones needs and wants before her own and that's why she doesn't get enough sleep. Me on the other hand (7w6 SO) / I have FOMO...if I go to sleep early I am sure to miss out on some kind of fun or excitement. My Son in law is a 2w3 SX...he looks VERY different from my friend. I guess all the types do look different depending on the sub type but those 2 particular 2's it seems to me the contrasts between them are just crazy.
Yeah it’s crazy how big subtypes play in people looking completely different. Such an awesome layer to the enneagram but can make it confusing. Thanks for sharing! I always loving reading about your life!
I've heard Italy is a type two culture. And I believe it because I had a roommate recently who was Italian and he fit the model for type two perfectly. Oscillating between very charming and hysterical
I'm 2w1 sp/sx. I'm such a guarded person who can become overly indulgent, which made me think I was either a 4w5 or a 6w7. Glad to find out that it was just because of my subtype
Very insightful! I definitely agree that Sp 2’s will come off like sp 6 and 4, and so 2’s as 8, 3, and even 7’. I’m pretty mixed between if in general, 2s lean more on Sp/So, So/Sp, or So/Sx. Personally, I’ve met many So/Sp 2s before and occasionally come across So/Sx besides myself being one. You would think 2s regardless of wings or trifix, would be Sp blind but I happen to see many with Sp either dom or aux. It’s pretty interesting to see how different we can be down to instincts!
@@enneagramandcoaching Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3.
Total social 2 here... Sometimes people pin me as a 3 because I do work hard (like super hard) and I will even "perform" a role when the situation calls for it.... But my ultimate desire is to effect the world for good and to respond to the people around me in a way that makes them feel at ease. I don't need one person to be my best friend... I more need EVERYONE to be my friend, to trust me, and to let me have a place in their lives and their community... I'm learning to temper all of that with the need to show up for my own self... Because in the end my number 1 job is to take care of me.
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3.
@@emmahintz830 look up self-preservation 2... The self preservation instinct works against the impulse to endlessly give and there can be a push pull that makes you look less like your classic 2...
@@shawnaclingerman thank you so much. Besides this video do you have any more websites or i videos that would be helpful with understanding the subtypes more
@@emmahintz830 Beatrice Chestnut is the best authority on subtypes that I have found, bonus she is also a self-preservation too. You can probably also search "self-preservation 2" in your podcasts app and find some interviews... There is a podcast called "art of growth" that did interview panels with all of the subtypes, so you can find one with only self Pres 2s even 💗 good luck!!!
@@shawnaclingerman thank you for this. I had one last questions so sorry for so many questions but I was reading up on it and lots of things said that they have lots of resources and are more prepared but I don’t feel like that’s me but I do connect to lots of things people say about how instead of overextending there help and wanting love in return they are a good friend and are caring and loving and in return want love. Do you think without the resources thing I would still be a sp or would I be a different subtype
Great and informative video! I think the type 2 sx description really suits me. I put efforts on shaping my body and I also aim to make my personality desirable, so I can be the person you never forget. But then I realize I am actually a 5w4 sx/sp.
Thanks for the brief overview on types/wings/subtypes, Hillary! I also appreciated you touching on the subtypes/Instincts, but was left wanting a whole lot more. Any chance you would be inspired to do a vid for each Subtype? I’m ready to devour that information! Type 2, w/ stacked SX/SP/SO 🙏🏼💖🙏🏼
i LOVE your videos!!! they are so in depth and explain so much about enneagram typing. i think i could be a 2, i was confused at first hearing the description of 2 as wanting to be well-like, because at school it feels like everyone wants to be well-liked tyyy for this guide!
How did you all find your type?! I recognize myself in every enneatype, don't you? Every motivation and fear is familiar. I will never know my subtype!!! I'm so tired, I watched every video 10 times and nothing works😭😭😭😭 every day my enneatype changes, every of them fits
Is it possible for a sx2 to look kind of like a sp2 to some people especially if they have 259 tritype? Some people think I’m sx2 and others think I’m sp2 and I can’t quite figure out which one it is. I think I relate more to your description of sx2 but I do come across as more reserved than other people that are sx2 so it’s been hard to figure it out. I also relate to being a bit more untrusting and have mistyped as sp6 before but now thinking back I think it was only because someone else that didn’t know me well insisted that it could be my type and I went along with it cause I was too focused on how other people see me lol.
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me
The core desires and fears are the foundation of the enneagram personalities, so it sounds like you probably are a 2. Everything that you are saying leads me to suspect that you are a self preservation 2. They are considered the counter type of 2s, so it would make sense that you identify with the core desires, but your behavior does not fully align with the stereotypical image of 2s. Generally, 2s want to be helpful but also like receiving/benefitting from help. At times, they may offer to do something while secretly hoping that someone else will do it. Also, there are plenty of 2s who can say no. 9s are typically known for being more conflict avoidant than 2s (although all of this it varies from person to person).
