Enneagram Types 6 and 9 in a Relationship Explained

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Here's a glimpse into what a relationship looks like between a Type 6 Loyalist and a Type 9 Peacemaker.
We'll talk about what these types have in common, what specifically attracts each type to each other, what conflict looks like between them, and then conclude with some potentially helpful advice based on the enneagram theories discussed throughout the episode. DISCLAIMER: This is a general overview that cannot cover the complexity of each subtype & variation (e.g. a counterphobic social 6w5 with a sexual 9w8 could be very different than some of these general descriptions), nor can I cover how the varying degrees of each specific couple's mental/emotional health would impact so many of these patterns. So with that disclaimer out of the way, please feel free to share how these patterns do or don't play out in your personal life, all while keeping any combative disagreements to a minimum :) Thank you, and enjoy!
0:00 Shared Traits
3:18 Six's Attraction to Nine
5:23 Nine's Attraction to Six
8:06 Conflict
11:06 Advice
14:14 Relationship Rating
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-Written by Colton Simmons, but with all due credit to the Don Riso & Russ Hudson of the Enneagram Institute for their many books that informed the majority of the content contained in this video, as well as Richard Rohr, Helen Palmer, Claudio Naranjo, Oscar Ichazo, and the many major enneagram pioneers!

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@breakingthesinglemomstigma5339 Месяц назад

Man, I’d love to get a more nuanced video about counterphobic 6s in relationships and life. I feel like most people do brief overviews and mention it, but being a counterphobic 6 has often left me feeling a bit lost. If ever you feel like doing a deep dive, I’m here for it! Thanks for producing all these videos!

@YouveGotaType 25 дней назад

I could do a few hours on the intricacies of 6ness for sure. Someday ;)

@mariahmier9313 2 месяца назад

Your videos have been insanely helpful for me. I’ve been writing a book series for the past few years and after feeling a bit stuck I figured out the enneagram types for my cast of characters. To my delight, my cast has a really even spread across all types and this tool is really helping me add consistency and believability to their personalities over the series. The relationship series here is really helping me flesh out a love triangle where a 3 and a 6 are in love with the same 9. I was afraid that I had mistyped my characters but your videos have made me confident that I actually did use the enneagram correctly. I can’t wait to watch the rest of this relationship series! Keep up the good work! You’re saving me from my writer’s block, dude!

@silverfox3195 2 месяца назад

I can’t wait for more sixes and other types! This channel is by far the best Enneagram-related one I’ve seen. If anyone recommends others let me know!

@nceleste63 4 месяца назад

Love this channel! Has helped me understand personality dynamics immensely! Thank you so much!

@YouveGotaType 4 месяца назад

So glad to hear it!

@sofiagabler8325 4 месяца назад

What a wealth of information! Thank you.

@YouveGotaType 4 месяца назад

My pleasure!

@aridmcb 4 месяца назад

Great video - lots of insights and tangible advice

@YouveGotaType 4 месяца назад

Thanks so much!

@jenhiltyjones 4 месяца назад

I’m a self pres 9x1 and my husband is a counter phobic 6 (not sure about his wings or instinct) and so much of this video felt true. He definitely tries to get a reaction out of me and when we blow up it’s big. I thought it was interesting that the 6 typically puts more effort into the relationship because it’s the opposite with us. A 9 and a 6 can be kind of a rollercoaster.

@hollyniemand3645 4 месяца назад

I really appreciate your ability to explain things in a very clear and structured way! I think that’s a very good analysis! I probably am a 9 and was raised by a 6. Usually I really like 6s and feel understood by them, because they also tend to think a lot and consider others, before making decisions. And they also like to keep things peaceful, so they usually confront you in a considerate way, when there is a problem.

@YouveGotaType 4 месяца назад

Thanks for the kind words! And for sharing your personal experience of the 9/6 type combo

@elainetang8504 4 месяца назад

Hey just wanted to say that it’s really helpful

@YouveGotaType 4 месяца назад

Glad to hear it :)

@Doopydoopydoo 4 месяца назад

I’m a so9 and my husband is a sx6. I’m almost too agreeable and it’s brought a lot of frustration on his end. Your point of “the 6 will try to get a reaction out of the 9” is spot on. I’ll have a neutral face to show that I’m absorbing information and he will see it as me not caring 🫠 We don’t fight often, but when we do it can be really bad. That Reactive-Positivity Triad blend is frustrating, but I’m glad we share the Attachment Triad. Of all triads to share, this one is pretty great. We’ve both had to work to bring up concerns instead of stewing on them and it has made us feel safer in our relationship. I liked your advice a lot! Thanks for the always helpful and well constructed videos! 😊

@YouveGotaType 4 месяца назад

Thanks so much for sharing your personal experience of this enneagram combo! Always great to hear the specifics of what stands out. And so glad to hear it was a helpful/enjoyable watch :)

@sinanunel5489 4 месяца назад

Great video and very helpful. I wish there were also a 3 and 6 relationship analysis.

@YouveGotaType 4 месяца назад

Thanks! And the 3-6 combo is coming soon so stay tuned!

@CuddleClaw. 4 месяца назад

6 and 9 are in my Tri-type so this was fun to listen to because I can relate to both. I can’t wait for you to do 4 with 4 in relationship!!! And 4 and 5 is another I like, but is far more challenging.

@YouveGotaType 4 месяца назад

Glad you enjoyed it! I'm actually skipping the dual type relationships though, as I did the Relationship Overview series (5 things to know) and that pretty much covers what a dual type relationship can expect. But the 4-5 combo will be coming up in just a few months! Stay tuned :)

@CuddleClaw. 3 месяца назад

@@YouveGotaType thank you!

@pointerdogmarketing2197 3 месяца назад

Ok, I'm probably a self-preservation 9, but I also relate a lot to the self-preservation 6.

@jerrysstories711 4 месяца назад

I remember you said you were going to do all 36 combinations in this series. But that's all the types paired with some other type. Are you going to talk about when each type pairs with it's own? Are those pairs rare? Or doomed? I'm curious which types get along best/worse with their own type.

@YouveGotaType 4 месяца назад

I'm skipping the dual type episodes because I already did the "5 Things to Know" relationship overviews which basically covers what two of the same types will need to navigate. Also, there is no "best/worst" ranking for enneagram type relationships, but I will mention in each episode how common or uncommon the pairing is if they are a rare or super frequent pairing. I'm a believer that two healthy individuals can make it work no matter their enneagram type, MBTI, etc. etc. they identify with (aka no pair is doomed ;)

@quiptheip 4 месяца назад

My partner is a solid 6 and I’m trying to figure out what I am. I think I’m a 9 as I embody so many traits of other numbers, but this video does explain aspects of my relationship very well!!

@YouveGotaType 4 месяца назад

Worth diving into this video if you're still on the fence about being a 9 or not! Complete Guide to Type 9: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-dkYR6b_hUMQ.html

@jerrysstories711 4 месяца назад

Well, who do 9's NOT get along with well? That's kind of what they do, get along with others. What's the worst pairing for them?

@YouveGotaType 4 месяца назад

It's not so much about 9s not getting along with another type, but moreso other types being more prone to enable the 9s less healthy traits based on their ego fixation.

@user-kh7ef4ho4d 4 месяца назад

6 and 9 most common!

@MiataKitten 4 месяца назад

nice

@yay29823 4 месяца назад

I can't wait until we get to the 8 and 2 relationship. The dad and the mom lol

@YouveGotaType 4 месяца назад

It's coming up shortly!

@smitakdhar5040 4 месяца назад

What if I am confused between this two types

@YouveGotaType 4 месяца назад

Watch these: Type 6 Complete Guide: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-jcjSX4qHb9Y.html Type 9 Complete Guide: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-dkYR6b_hUMQ.html