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Enter You Bad B*tch Era! - STOP Being A "Nice Girl" & Make Anyone RESPECT YOU | Evy Poumpouras 

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Do you find yourself being spoken down to, disrespected, or repeatedly walked on by others? Do you later wish you had spoken up for yourself and had a confident presence that commanded respect? On this episode of Women of Impact, Former Secret Service Agent and Author Evy Poumpouras sits down with Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they explore how to handle disrespect and stick up for yourself in all situations. They talk about how to defend yourself in a non-physical way, the power of self control, how to walk away from people in your life that need to be let go, how to deal with being spoken down to, and personality red flags to watch out for.
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SHOW NOTES:
Handling Disrespect | Evy shares a story of handling disrespect as a secret service agent. [2:57]
Defend Yourself | Evy reveals the importance of defending yourself in a non-violent way. [7:02]
Self Control | Evy discusses the elements needed to non-physically stand up for yourself. [7:24]
Common Denominator | Evy shares her story of recognizing and owning her temper. [8:56]
Trust | Evy describes conditional and unconditional trust and our emotional responses. [11:18]
Own Your Response | Evy shares the power of owning how you respond to situations. [14:37]
Walk Away | Evy shares when to know it’s time to walk away from someone. [19:38]
Phones | Evy shares why you should be open with your phone in a relationship. [20:22]
Jealousy | Lisa discusses handling jealousy in her relationship with Tom. [22:42]
Starts With Trust | Evy reveals how to handle the fine line of jealousy in a relationship. [24:03]
Size Doesn’t Matter | Evy discusses the importance of how you carry yourself. [27:00]
Persona Red Flags | Evy discusses the two types of personas to watch out for. [31:20]
Being Spoken Down To | Evy and Lisa discuss how to handle being spoken down to. [33:50]
Letting Go | Evy discusses her process of letting someone go and moving on. [38:47]
Connect | Evy shares how to connect with her and follow her. [40:56]
QUOTES:
“You’re not going to own my response to you, I’m going to own it.” [16:39]
“You get what you tolerate.” [18:56]
“My success in standing my ground wasn’t really about my physical strength, it was about my mental conviction. I had to speak with confidence to make sure those who heard my message, heard it clearly the first time and when I did act, I had to do it so in a way that assured it would not be mistaken for weak or uncertain of my abilities." [27:05]
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Комментарии : 6 тыс.   
@Messiahandmaster
@Messiahandmaster 3 года назад
Women need THIS type of advice, instead of '5 reasons why he is pulling away and what you can do to win him back' 😂
@hopeandjazz9535
@hopeandjazz9535 3 года назад
One thousand times yes
@anelisamorgan8590
@anelisamorgan8590 3 года назад
No kidding!! 🤔 i should post a video; "why being single is more than okay"..lol
@ZacandDora
@ZacandDora 3 года назад
Oh God yes!! That made me laugh😆🙏🏻
@JM-vj7we
@JM-vj7we 3 года назад
👍🏾
@mileyroe4877
@mileyroe4877 3 года назад
Omg yes lol
@Attabasca
@Attabasca 3 года назад
I had a supervisor give me a hard time in front of my techs at work. Basically said I wasn't a team player because I wouldn't work every extra shift they sent my way. I had two small kids, I had other priorities. I asked the other pharmacist to take over and asked him to the back storage room. I told him calmly that I am a team player every time I show up for *my* shift and do my job above and beyond what is required of me during that shift. I am not responsible for everyone else's shifts. I help out my partners in the store if they need coverage but I am not going to be guilted into saying yes to more hours than I agreed to and the next time he has to say something to me, I would appreciate the courtesy of the privacy I just gave him. He apologized and I was *so proud* of myself!
@vfree4579
@vfree4579 3 года назад
I'm so proud of you too and I don't even know you. I wish I would have taken the courage to tell a supervisor that was belittling me and narcissistic the very same thing.
@alyciagibson
@alyciagibson 3 года назад
You were the perfect balance of assertive! I'm so happy for you!
@Dani-ix9cl
@Dani-ix9cl 3 года назад
@@vfree4579 don't sweat it😓 We live and learn, as my mother has said since I was a teenager. I didn't understand then. What you take away from the experience, is what matters. Be aware. So you live and learn.
@JadetheGoober
@JadetheGoober 3 года назад
Pulling someone to the side is SO powerful because they question “what does everyone else/specific person think the reason for privacy is?”
@christineagnew7372
@christineagnew7372 3 года назад
AWESOME!!👏👍
@RonnieHicks-ex5dl
@RonnieHicks-ex5dl Год назад
People don't want you to defend yourself. It took me years to get a back bone and defend myself. I stopped caring about how others feel more and care more about myself. If you put yourself last, you will always be last. I got tired of being last.
@jiachen8353
@jiachen8353 10 месяцев назад
Same literally
@jasminschmalzl9734
@jasminschmalzl9734 10 месяцев назад
And thats why humanhood is slowly finding it's doom. Cause slowly but surely everyone will care more about themselves then about others. I will give you a truly good advice. Instead of only looking for yourself, learn from your mistakes and try to help other people not making the same. And defend them if they can't fight for themselves. It's hard. But only this way you can break the cycle. Just giving up and becoming like the people who did this to you isn't an option.
@RonnieHicks-ex5dl
@RonnieHicks-ex5dl 10 месяцев назад
@@jasminschmalzl9734 you don't understand
@RonnieHicks-ex5dl
@RonnieHicks-ex5dl 10 месяцев назад
@@jasminschmalzl9734 you don't know me you don't know anything about my life, please stop judging not being last of caring ONLY about myself is not what I'm about. It's about strengthening your self and demand the same respect that others want from you
@RonnieHicks-ex5dl
@RonnieHicks-ex5dl 10 месяцев назад
@@jasminschmalzl9734 You know what, Sorry you feel the way you do
@Malin0908
@Malin0908 Год назад
When you stop caring what other people think, is when you can truly be yourself.
@NehaSharma-wq9yc
@NehaSharma-wq9yc 9 месяцев назад
Exactly
@jelenapotrebic3047
@jelenapotrebic3047 3 года назад
I was a people pleaser until I got cancer. Than I realized people don't really care. Until then I thought I had the best friends and family in the world and I was doing everything (even at my own expense) to please them because I thought that's what I should do. Now I learned (the hard way) that I am keeping myself alive and I am my own best friend. I respect myself a lot more. 2023: UPDATE I just wanted to give an update after 2 years now, thank you for all your comments, I've read them all through this time as they kept coming, every single one was much appreciated. Today, I am doing good! I've finished all of my cancer treatments, I moved from the city to the countryside and I got married! What I wanted to say to every single good soul reading this is - never lose hope. Sometimes my life felt like a huge disaster, there were some seriously hard times, but I just kept on living day by day until it got better. If I could give one advice from all of this painful experience, it's that in order to live your life peacefully and to be healthy, you NEED to cut some friends and even family members from your life. I'm sure you know who that is in your life. I fought against having to make that decision, because I was a huge people pleaser, but cutting those people out truly saved me. That is the ONLY way. They will never stop draining you, until YOU stop them by walking away. Now I have couple of friends and family members that appreciate me and vice versa, and that is more than enough. I could finally concentrate on myself and starting my own family. That's when my life started getting better. I hope this update brings you hope and I pray for every one of you!
@sandrineroesch8706
@sandrineroesch8706 3 года назад
It’s painful to hear that you had to learn it that way...but No way is better than your way...life knew why it did it this way....you lost nothing...you gained a lot of time you didn’t have to spend self sacrificing and inauthentic . All the best to you,take care of yourself
@pennylanekane
@pennylanekane 3 года назад
I didn’t have cancer but I became chronically very sick , everyone disappeared 😭 now I live in my music and children
@sunset8959
@sunset8959 3 года назад
Exactly same happened to me few years ago and I am in therapy since to learn to love, care and put myself first, set boundaries and say No without feeling guilty.
@asantaimeep
@asantaimeep 3 года назад
Yes. I couldn't have said it better. I lost nearly everybody when I attempted to and nearly succeeded in committing suicide, it was a hard slap in the face that I needed to reevaluate who I spent my time with.
@sandrineroesch8706
@sandrineroesch8706 3 года назад
Jenny B In the end they didn’t disappear...Because they were never truly there anyway. People that are superficial are superficial with everyone,also themselves.i wouldn’t want to be them 😂
@TheNinnyfee
@TheNinnyfee 3 года назад
My most important lesson so far is " 'No' is a complete sentence."
@anauxistentialcxuxui9390
@anauxistentialcxuxui9390 3 года назад
Yas!
@FullSpectrumHealing
@FullSpectrumHealing 3 года назад
My daughter is my person I need to stand up to. No one else can push my boundaries!
@christinaerichsen5137
@christinaerichsen5137 3 года назад
@@anauxistentialcxuxui9390 00000000000000
@antoinettehellyer9522
@antoinettehellyer9522 3 года назад
They can't accuse you if you say it gently NO!. They may say you are mean, No! Repeat No! They will probably ask for money No!. Or live in your House for free No,! If you don't want to, just say NO!.
@antoinettehellyer9522
@antoinettehellyer9522 3 года назад
I have noticed Police NEVER swear! They Are respected because They are wearing police uniform,and Have the authority and power to arrest or Fine you! It is understood. They will ask you Questions, like is this your car sir?. Think swearing is an invite, that you don't really mean NO! But when you really mean Yes!. Or thay you really mean yes, so not swearing you have more authority.I believe in God anyway!.so taking His Name in Vane, is also swearing.He Made Me And The Universe so I respect.
@sonyacurti
@sonyacurti 2 года назад
Don't mistake my silence for ignorance, my calmness for acceptance and my kindness for weakness. 👍
@brialyn337
@brialyn337 10 месяцев назад
I like the second one
@My_Spiritual_Journey.
@My_Spiritual_Journey. 9 месяцев назад
👍
@hatweigle2268
@hatweigle2268 9 месяцев назад
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤thanks those words of wisdom helped me
@almadelgado7249
@almadelgado7249 8 месяцев назад
@s.k.y5493
@s.k.y5493 6 месяцев назад
Yesss!!
@stefaniamanzella5624
@stefaniamanzella5624 Год назад
I am crying watching this……for 45 yrs my husband has belittled & degraded me…. I just am happy to find you both. You have saved my life…I was so close to just leaving this earth. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH 🙏💪🏻🥰
@kaylaNingxi
@kaylaNingxi Год назад
Love you
@phartzyphartz6393
@phartzyphartz6393 Год назад
I Hope you’re ok now! Let us know if you’re not!
@katherineyoung1401
@katherineyoung1401 Год назад
I hear you.
@ngaakamatuka9577
@ngaakamatuka9577 Год назад
Glad your here your a fighter you will be fine
@kathleen7510
@kathleen7510 Год назад
I hope you left him!!
@ashlielove6513
@ashlielove6513 3 года назад
It took 30 years and a global pandemic but I finally realized I didn't need friends or family...as much as self respect and boundaries. People treat you as nothing but a doormat if you are too tender hearted.
@marilynjohnston1858
@marilynjohnston1858 2 года назад
That’s sooo true
@animallover4101
@animallover4101 2 года назад
Yesssssss
@avanellehansen4525
@avanellehansen4525 2 года назад
Yes! "What else can you do for me!", And, "I don't feel appreciated "
@woohwho935
@woohwho935 2 года назад
So true!
@kathylunzman2547
@kathylunzman2547 2 года назад
Yes, grow a HEALTHY skin
@SiiimplyM3
@SiiimplyM3 3 года назад
She’s right... as you grow your circle should be smaller. Not everyone is your friend or cares about your issues.
@mollie3306
@mollie3306 3 года назад
Mine is so small it’s non existent.
@RACHELORI
@RACHELORI 3 года назад
I agree 100%. I am currently 42 years old & I realize that the word "friends" mean less today than I would've thought just 6 years ago.
@HVO2024
@HVO2024 3 года назад
Or.. everyone grows. You don't forget about these people but they served a purpose in your life at whatever stage of growth you were on. Its a part of growing for sure.
@STMARTIN009
@STMARTIN009 3 года назад
I am 40 and I have 3 close friends and one of them includes my cousin who lives on the other side of the USA. I believe it also happens due to marriage,kids,and demanding careers. It's not that the person doesn't like you it's just that priorities change.
@Mcbeetles95
@Mcbeetles95 3 года назад
The realest words I ever seen written on social media @Girl2Interrupt!😳
@NegraBella314
@NegraBella314 Год назад
When I spoke up for myself respectfully I was called the "Angry Black Woman .... thank you for this video. I will continue standing up for me. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 Thank you
@flaneuredits
@flaneuredits Год назад
Whenever i swear back they mock my feminine voice and call me a gayboy
@thesingerintheshower
@thesingerintheshower Год назад
And if you are angry, then who the hell decided that you don't have a reason to be angry??
@melodienaber3238
@melodienaber3238 10 месяцев назад
I've found the one who triggers you is the one who pissed you off and then have the nerve to tell you to calm down. FK that
@aleablue
@aleablue 10 месяцев назад
A wise person once told me that.. “I can only please one person a day.. and today ain’t your day.. tomorrow ain’t looking too good either.” That simple🤷🏾‍♀️
@thesingerintheshower
@thesingerintheshower 10 месяцев назад
@@aleablue 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💗💗💗💗💗💗
@sorad5791
@sorad5791 2 года назад
I had the same realization about, "Why am I fighting with everyone to try and convince them of my truth." It was a life changing moment for me, because I answered with, "I want them to just finally let me be right about my own truth for once." And my next question was, "Ok.. THEN what..? If I finally get that moment from my family.. then what." Because it doesn't fix anything. It makes no difference. We have to he able to validate ourselves and stop seeking it from outside sources.
@robinwyers
@robinwyers Год назад
So true that realization voice aaya now what? Do you feel better? Answer hell no now what? I'm so hard on myself hours and hours I make myself sick becasue is it the mental health illness or that I sustained a TBI IN 08? THEN AFTER WHOLE DAY WAS LOST AS USUAL IT HIT ME: IM IMSANE MEED TO BE PUT IN A HOME CASUE MY LIFE IS UNMANAGEABLE BY MY OBSESSIVE THOUGHTS...WOW I WENT RO BED CAUSE WHY ASK WHY..SOLVED ANOTHER ANSWER TO THE SAME questions ..i lost5 months....HAHAHAHAHA.
@Lesane007
@Lesane007 10 месяцев назад
I have been there, for me self love and self worth is key. You are good enough, even though it was not said in the childhood.
@orangeziggy348
@orangeziggy348 8 месяцев назад
Excellent.❤
@rafiqrashad392
@rafiqrashad392 3 года назад
"Everybody at the end of the day is looking out for their self interest" All empaths out there need to hear this once again.
@strugglingcollegestudent
@strugglingcollegestudent 3 года назад
It's a sad truth
@brideystar
@brideystar 3 года назад
@Yoy Piur Yes! well put :)
@UltimateRadeScene
@UltimateRadeScene 3 года назад
But my empath brain can't comprehendddddd
@sarabjeetkaur7689
@sarabjeetkaur7689 3 года назад
Sooo true 😎😎😎
@JanileighCohen
@JanileighCohen 3 года назад
☹️
@28peruvian
@28peruvian 3 года назад
I once read a quote that went like this; “beauty is dangerous, but intelligence is lethal”. I wish more women would apply this into their lives.
@elibell19
@elibell19 3 года назад
Thank you. I love this quote.
@All-Father-Odin-967
@All-Father-Odin-967 3 года назад
Totally agree.
@jolanhowes3604
@jolanhowes3604 3 года назад
Yes, emotional intelligence is what Evy is speaking about.
@rhahavyb
@rhahavyb 3 года назад
Yessss especially emotional intelligence ! I think being emotionally and self aware is often overlooked as well. Intellect is honestly basically next to nothing if you aren’t just as aware of your thoughts & emotions
@jjall663
@jjall663 3 года назад
Been teaching my daughter that since she was a toddler. My POS mother raised me to be a man's whipping post. I be damned if my daughter will have that fate.
@ifnotnowthenwhen9063
@ifnotnowthenwhen9063 7 месяцев назад
My daughter always defended herself from bully friends and teachers.She was punished for her behaviour but she stood her ground.I offer told her be nice for your own good.I am glad that she didn’t took my advice.I realised that she knows her boundaries and she will not let anyone to cross it.I wish I was like her it would saved me from many headaches in my life.
@pearlbubbles6885
@pearlbubbles6885 7 дней назад
Your daughter was right ! 😊
@SilhouetteTarot
@SilhouetteTarot 2 года назад
“Are you under the impression I allow people to speak to me this way, or are you asking me to make an exception for you?” ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
@nenavega6641
@nenavega6641 2 года назад
🔥🔥🔥
@juliahardy1
@juliahardy1 2 года назад
Great response! I need to memorize this!
@candicecarter-thurow4218
@candicecarter-thurow4218 2 года назад
👏 👏
@SilverPonyKat
@SilverPonyKat 2 года назад
Well said!
@1Peplau
@1Peplau Год назад
🙌❣❣❣
@debbieneils8235
@debbieneils8235 3 года назад
"When you avoid conflict, you don't know what to do when real conflict shows up" #recoveringpeoplepleaser
@calmdowngurl
@calmdowngurl 3 года назад
💖
@stephen6279
@stephen6279 3 года назад
omg same
@masha775
@masha775 3 года назад
@@calmdowngurl km
@malgorzatabujnarowski2078
@malgorzatabujnarowski2078 3 года назад
Exactly!👍🏻
@naturalcooking525
@naturalcooking525 3 года назад
It always comes back more aggressive
@vlogmaman2182
@vlogmaman2182 3 года назад
From a recovering people pleaser to other women: Work on accepting your flaws and realizing you deserve the best. People pleasing comes from a place of feeling less than.
@bentoefrem1993
@bentoefrem1993 3 года назад
All f us r learning something new everyday.That's why sometimes i prefer to be alone.Minding my business.
@dolphinap6796
@dolphinap6796 3 года назад
Well said, thank you🙏🏾
@bentoefrem1993
@bentoefrem1993 3 года назад
Sis G Official,Well said.Not u alone.Millions included including myself.
@lrob4444
@lrob4444 3 года назад
I needed to hear this today. Thank you.
@NathalieLazo
@NathalieLazo 3 года назад
You explained this really well! 😄 Thanks for the great points about accepting our flaws! I'll remember this for next time!
@LG-lr1up
@LG-lr1up 8 месяцев назад
That's exactly what I did and now everyone is shocked!😀 I love to surprise people when they underestimate me.
@StellarSTAR24
@StellarSTAR24 3 дня назад
Haha I hear ya!❤
@homiekeen23
@homiekeen23 Год назад
I was "mean" when I was younger. Then I had a deep self analysis and wanted to change that because I hated that and didn't want to be that type of person. But I ended up becoming too nice and a doormat . I just don't know how to have a balance, I either turn into too mean and offensive and/or get irritated by the smallest of things, or I end up controlling that too much to the point that I don't react to anything at all.
@linasaidwhat
@linasaidwhat Год назад
I'm the exact same way, same exact story almost. Let me know how you've learned to navigate this :/
@homiekeen23
@homiekeen23 Год назад
@@linasaidwhat still trying and failing 😅😅
@bonnielee316
@bonnielee316 Год назад
I think I might know how: So you know how they say that a narcissist puts on a mask? Well, be that nice person that you used to be, that, carefree, unguarded person, only this time do it as a mask. But underneath be that guarded person. That way there you don’t act and feel like such a bitch that you’ve become, hahaha! Maaan, you’ve been hurt one too many times, I tell you what! That ain’t no way to live. Don’t let them win and still control your life; just be smarter about it. That’s how I’m doing it. It’s kind of like a, “ fake it till you make it. “ only a person shouldn’t have to fake being nice but you’re going to have to now. Because your whole perspective has been changed. You know, the saying, don’t take my kindness as weakness. Well this turns out to be true. You, putting that out on display, makes you a target. So see, now you have to be careful with it. Still be nice but underneath, you’re guarded now. I watch everything that I do and how I act out in public so that I don’t attract these types. I know that it sounds weird but we’re living in a world where they’re ( toxic people ) everywhere!
@homiekeen23
@homiekeen23 Год назад
@@bonnielee316 Makes sense! That's what I've been experiencing recently, especially after regretting opening up to many people after being so closed off 😅 , I share then regret sharing 🤦🏻‍♀️ I def like the mask idea, but kinda like a double mask, you are nice on the inside, then you put the guarded mask to protect yourself, then the nice mask on top of that to not be a bitch 🤣
@bonnielee316
@bonnielee316 Год назад
Homie Keen, Yeeesss! Hahaha! 😆🤣
@jessicalynn4415
@jessicalynn4415 3 года назад
One more... "You get what you tolerate." She's amazing.
@nicolemurphy2629
@nicolemurphy2629 3 года назад
She’s good to a point An older woman wouldn’t be so interested in what is on her hubby’s phone!!! I really, really do not care!!! Every partner will meet new people and if they get great chemistry they’re gonna move on!! Great
@redsloane879
@redsloane879 3 года назад
Yep.... You get what you settle for, as well.
@sofiaruby603
@sofiaruby603 3 года назад
Wow...I'm tolerating neighbors uncontrolled child and now I'm complaining and shes lying about me and management is takin their side...
@redsloane879
@redsloane879 3 года назад
@@sofiaruby603 ugh.....
@sofiaruby603
@sofiaruby603 3 года назад
@@redsloane879 guess I tolerated it for too long, so I get what i deserve 🙄🙄🙄
@TheNyteScrybe
@TheNyteScrybe 3 года назад
I just want to be able to argue without crying like a little girl.
@itsjustme.7059
@itsjustme.7059 3 года назад
Gail Spencer Choate me too. I get angry and start crying.
@j.anderson2640
@j.anderson2640 3 года назад
I read something the other day that said a lot of women do this because we’re told at a young age to not show our anger. We’re made to feel guilt and shame over it, or that we’ll be seen as being a bitch. I do it as well. The other day I was in a stressful situation that I was getting mad and upset. But I had to talk myself through what was happening and convinced myself that it was a learning moment and to pay attention to everything, each interaction etc.. I held the tears in and I felt so strong afterwards. Practice this and I believe we can control it.
@imscenery
@imscenery 3 года назад
I think for most people who do this (myself included) it is not a case of crying because you are angry. Sometimes it is hormonal (not period related). Sometimes it is because the anger is mixed with a healthy dose of frustration. Sometimes it has just been bottled up too long and resulted in a general outpouring of emotion along with the anger. Studies have shown that your body releases certain chemicals when you cry and that is why you fell so wrung out and in need of a nap after a hard cry - it is a literal purging. So don't be ashamed of crying when angry. It is fairly common and is (in most cases) perfectly natural and understandable. Nothing good comes of being ashamed of how you feel. You are allowed. I will say if it is because frustration or letting it build up, then you might want to look at your communication and coping mechanisms. Dealing with an issue before it becomes an issue (if possible) is always preferable and leads to a lot less stress.
@eltoya9216
@eltoya9216 3 года назад
Omg SAME
@dlpatrie8466
@dlpatrie8466 3 года назад
I have to pause and take a deep breath to re-center, maybe even count to five or something. I'm six months pregnant and the crying urge has been wild, so I've perfected this skill now LOL.
@ResidentEvilReVerseUniverse
@ResidentEvilReVerseUniverse 2 года назад
It’s really hard, especially when you grow up and realize you never really had anyone to show you how to do these things, thanks for this.
@BonBonHassan
@BonBonHassan 4 месяца назад
Yes definitely, I'm in my 20s and I've made decisions out of guilt, shame and fear for so long I'm ready for change
@normansimms349
@normansimms349 8 месяцев назад
Yes, low-vibrational/low-level thinking ppl will test u when you’re on a journey of high-vibrational/ high-level thinking.
@Mmmmkaaay
@Mmmmkaaay 3 года назад
Ladies, don't wait until your 40s to grow a spine. I lost many years to steamrollers. You are valuable and matter!
@intuitivecoachtheresa
@intuitivecoachtheresa 3 года назад
Especially don't wait till your 50's, lol
@ingrid9194
@ingrid9194 3 года назад
She's amazing
@2centslavan846
@2centslavan846 3 года назад
Thank u for your advice🤗
@DeeptiDassgupta
@DeeptiDassgupta 3 года назад
I wish I did it when I was disrespected for the first time.
@Coincidence_Theorist
@Coincidence_Theorist 3 года назад
im a guy and im enjoying this. ive been betrayed so much and mah. (not talking gf’s either....worse stuff)
@jessicalm8680
@jessicalm8680 3 года назад
"You're not going to own my response to you, I'm going to own it." That is GOLD
@LisaBilyeu
@LisaBilyeu 3 года назад
💪💪💪
@susanzoeckler4926
@susanzoeckler4926 3 года назад
Yup! That and the concept of defaulting to resilience are my favorite parts
@chompchomp7853
@chompchomp7853 3 года назад
blah blah just words. It's different when it comes to action
@shawn5865
@shawn5865 3 года назад
That is one of the most powerful things I have ever heard.
@shawn5865
@shawn5865 3 года назад
@@chompchomp7853 not if it is your default action.
@plasmichoneytrip
@plasmichoneytrip 9 месяцев назад
“What you permit, you promote.” Being the “nice girl” may please other people but in a cut throat world, it won’t sustain you and will stress you in the long run. You can forget the nice girl image and still be respectful (and respected)and professional in the workplace.
@casper1343
@casper1343 9 месяцев назад
what is advice for shy nice girls who can't stand up for themselves
@BB23573
@BB23573 7 месяцев назад
Start standing your ground more. If something does not feel right, say something.
@casper1343
@casper1343 7 месяцев назад
@@BB23573 I try to do that but when things don't feel right I freeze for some reason like I go blank mentally and I can't say anything
@BB23573
@BB23573 7 месяцев назад
@@casper1343 It’s great if you start with affirmations for yourself. Just Know that you are enough and you are strong. Also, make sure to inhale and exhale. As you do that, know to inhale confidence and exhale doubt. I’m still practicing to stand up for myself… especially at work.Try this love ❤️ :) .
@casper1343
@casper1343 7 месяцев назад
@@BB23573 okay thank you 😊
@homiekeen23
@homiekeen23 Год назад
I find it more difficult when people disrespect you in subtle ways // or as a joke , "I'm just kidding relax geez why so sensitive" // or hiding the disrespected with "polite" words and tone of voice. I tried to stand up to a higher rank colleague mocking the way I talk (imitating me in an exaggerated way) at work in front of people with everyone laughing in my face , the response I got was just laughs again from everyone watching the scene and the "surprised" looks of 'chill geez can't even joke with you'
@juliehernandez80
@juliehernandez80 Год назад
@@OceaNOfficialAcc good one. I’m using going forward. Thank you.
@iheartjbgccb
@iheartjbgccb Год назад
Wow this sounds like my work environment :/ then I wonder why I'm so exhausted. I know Im not taking seriously and seen as naive so whatever I say doesn't matter until someone else says it. I'm usually quietly mad in my own head. As if that other person is aware
@Apricot90
@Apricot90 Год назад
Office politics... that's why I hate working with primitive people and their big sick egos and ignorance.
@SweeetSpice
@SweeetSpice Год назад
Same. I hate those types of people. If you can see you are making the person uncomfortable, why continue? Apologize and move on. But they don’t get it.
@DiamondsRexpensive
@DiamondsRexpensive Год назад
You know what I would have done instead? Mocked them back, and ruined something at work or outside of it for them later.
@raynebow5289
@raynebow5289 2 года назад
"You get what you tolerate." Very beautifully said. It reminds me of a quote from an old Swedish personal trainer, "You don't get what you deserve; you get what you negotiate for."
@escape_cookies
@escape_cookies Год назад
That's quite awful, I would not tolerate it :/ *Still negotiating for everyone to get what each deserves*
@FreeSpirit47
@FreeSpirit47 Год назад
That's one of my favorite phrases. "People rarely get what they deserve, they get what they negotiate for." This is why attorneys are a necessary evil in the world.
@sabrinagilmore
@sabrinagilmore 11 месяцев назад
Thank you for sharing that💗 Have a good life 😃
@FreeSpirit47
@FreeSpirit47 11 месяцев назад
The quote has been attributed to Chester L. Karrass. He has written books, gave seminars, even founded a company teaching effective negotiation techniques.
@raynebow5289
@raynebow5289 11 месяцев назад
@@FreeSpirit47 Thanks for sharing
@nancyinthegarden3160
@nancyinthegarden3160 3 года назад
When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM. Don’t try to change them just move away quickly if you don’t like what you’re observing.
@sashalawrence4786
@sashalawrence4786 2 года назад
Authenticity first credit the author of this quote
@MichellinavanLoder
@MichellinavanLoder 2 года назад
@@sashalawrence4786 Maya Angelou x
@SilverPonyKat
@SilverPonyKat 2 года назад
Dr. Maya Angelou. She earned it. Much respect.
@yolandagrabowski6043
@yolandagrabowski6043 Год назад
Sometimes, you gotta give them a cold look to disapprove crossing boundaries.
@r.p.8906
@r.p.8906 Год назад
yes. Believe them from the 1st time!!
@jadegreen1554
@jadegreen1554 2 года назад
Sometimes, even when you “pull someone into the stairwell” and speak reason to them and ask them to “not do it again”, and they just do it again (as if they either heard nothing or they’re actually deliberately doing it to aggravate you), it takes strength to not feel crazy-making.
@lizs4873
@lizs4873 9 месяцев назад
That was a warning. If it happens again... then you do it in public too. Then address it privately why it happened (they were warned & they did it again). They quickly learn.
@user-lt3yb4fm6q
@user-lt3yb4fm6q 7 месяцев назад
I am at the same point. It pisses me off.
@valerieholman5612
@valerieholman5612 Год назад
I have gone through this my whole life and I've learned the hard way. This woman is absolutely right. With family I let it slide cause I know what to expect, but from people who assume authority over you,I don't accept that. I'm a light skinned soft spoken black woman and some people think I'm cute so here comes the hatred. You can't fight jealousy. It's always at work I've tried to go out of my way to be nice and it doesn't work. If I acted like them I'd get fired. It's like being in high school.
@itsjohnnieb5935
@itsjohnnieb5935 10 месяцев назад
Current situation 💔😅
@tiasingz
@tiasingz 9 месяцев назад
my currentsituation
@9Mountains9
@9Mountains9 9 месяцев назад
Your “lightskin” has nothing to do with any jealousy. Whatsoever. They may be jealous of other things but it’s not your skin tone
@AB-ib3nf
@AB-ib3nf 8 месяцев назад
​​@@9Mountains9IF it's not your reality it doesn't mean it isn't true for this woman... especially depending on the community & racial background. There are historical issues , documentaries & ptsd that has everything to support this account of colorism. Sounds like you're more elevated to care about that perhaps we would hope.. but this is a very real reality...& it continues into features, hair texture, culture, language & social status.. spoken from a women told in my face I don't like light skinned girls.. without me ever even saying a word .. just upin entering a room... several times.. in life@# This is NYC.. *& YES it IS a thing..
@user-gt8rx2np5f
@user-gt8rx2np5f 5 месяцев назад
It is a thing. Just look at the skin bleaching craze worldwide.
@flamingowilliams9664
@flamingowilliams9664 2 года назад
The stillness in the way she sits and carry herself with a calm gaze. A lioness.
@jadejaguar69
@jadejaguar69 2 года назад
She
@flamingowilliams9664
@flamingowilliams9664 2 года назад
@@jadejaguar69 Right, an accidental typo, my mistake.
@elenakmetska8790
@elenakmetska8790 2 года назад
YES her eyes are so intense and deep she is beautiful and so captivating and serious love her
@financialsavant6195
@financialsavant6195 2 года назад
That gaze is what I remember from taking martial arts. My instructor, now passed, taught hand to hand combat to the Vietnam war soldiers. He was a great master.✌️
@LK-lz6lk
@LK-lz6lk 2 года назад
Sit-up straight & center, make direct eye contact. It sends silent "signals" of: confidence & security. Think of someone slouched, hunched over, always looking down & away. This signals: fear & Insecurity. The perfect target for a person with nefarious intentions bc it signal to them: "Pick me! I'll be your victim!" Visually project confidence & strength - even when not feeling it (actually, even more so then.) It acts as a deterrent & form of protection; reducing risk of becoming a victim.✌️
@vacationeyes6430
@vacationeyes6430 3 года назад
"When someone gossips about others, I immediately distance myself from that person" - Exactly. The gossiper is the person we need to distance ourselves from. Sadly, the vast majority of the society would distance from the person being gossiped about. It's why Narcissists and character assassins thrive.
@MeredithMynroseUniversalHealer
@MeredithMynroseUniversalHealer 3 года назад
Happened to me and it reveals that only smart people who has wiser character can approach me without drama
@helenanderson8008
@helenanderson8008 3 года назад
Should’ve figured out sooner
@Katrica670
@Katrica670 3 года назад
@Infinity omg yes! This is sooo sad that people are soooo dense, brainwashed, heartless and brain-dead! 😢😢
@zoebaggins90
@zoebaggins90 3 года назад
I know this from personal experience. Those who gossip about others, have gossipped about me too to others.
@kaze_cat
@kaze_cat 3 года назад
Haven’t yet listened, but that is what I do...don’t ever listen to gossipers who are typically malicious people. If they are talking about someone else, they will talk about you too.
@jackietripp1716
@jackietripp1716 10 месяцев назад
i use to give people so many chances- after i turned 40 my give a shit meter went off and i walk away from anything thats causing stress or drama- not out of revenge but out of peace of mind. I guess i realized my health comes first
@MrEvelyne4ever
@MrEvelyne4ever Год назад
Evy is so right. I felt really dirty working in an environment with totally toxic, dysfunction and dodgy boss who everyone lacked respect for others as he wished. Walking away was the best solution. Trying to stand up for yourself against persons with NPD......., sometimes just walk away. But I totally agree. Avoiding conflict to keep peace really starts war inside yourself. But God is Good.
@farfromillusion
@farfromillusion 3 года назад
"The one who avoids the conflict to keep the peace, starts a war inside himself." -- Cheryl Richardson
@silverlining5796
@silverlining5796 2 года назад
True
@SarahJacksonLV
@SarahJacksonLV 2 года назад
So true
@nonenone2669
@nonenone2669 2 года назад
Accurate.
@woohwho935
@woohwho935 2 года назад
Deep but true, don’t fight your instinct its your primitive mind letting you know its not safe
@mangoitaliano1757
@mangoitaliano1757 2 года назад
I needed to know this quote! Thank you!
@mermer3168
@mermer3168 3 года назад
Basically: 1. Ego. Master yourself and watch your ego. 2. Watch other's ego. 3. Decide if it's worth your time. 4. Remember hurt people hurt people. Get to the root of their issues. 5. Confront things head on. Confront even the little things to get in the habit and train your brain. 6. Confrontations are usually better one on one in private, if possible. 7. Tone. Make sure you talk confident, with conviction, and with a strong voice. 8. Don't suppress emotions. Figure out how to deal with them in healthy ways head on and move on. The biggest thing is, BOUNDARIES. Set boundaries and don't let people push those boundaries because they will keep testing you. 🙌
@lulumoon6942
@lulumoon6942 2 года назад
Thanks for taking the time to make a synopsis, it really helps retention! 👍💪💝
@florence1395
@florence1395 2 года назад
Well said friend 🙏
@mermer3168
@mermer3168 2 года назад
@@florence1395 thank you. 🙌
@mermer3168
@mermer3168 2 года назад
@@umijudithbey6716 your welcome! 🙌
@mermer3168
@mermer3168 2 года назад
@@lulumoon6942 Yes! Your welcome. 🙌
@thechosenfamily2023
@thechosenfamily2023 Год назад
You know when to walk away when the relationship starts hurting more than it feels good.
@almeatagreen1982
@almeatagreen1982 10 месяцев назад
Amazing video. I am an empath, I am a people pleaser, I am and have been a doormat. Standing up for yourself is a skill. Everyday is a test for me, thanks ladies for this useful infromation and Im purchasing your book!
@morgenrose2555
@morgenrose2555 3 года назад
She right, if you feel disrespected, unhappy, depressed by some people, its better to close the door if that makes you happy 🙏🏼
@juliebrothers6033
@juliebrothers6033 3 года назад
Yep. Disrespected is unacceptable....!
@Mynaimis.
@Mynaimis. 3 года назад
Sometimes is not easy when you are emotionally involved.. The brain tells you to run away.. The heart says give him an other chance (in my case) I M not strong enough. Help
@elizabethwoods2853
@elizabethwoods2853 3 года назад
@@juliebrothers6033 THIS. HAPPEND. T0. ME. A. FEW,,,M0NTH ....AG0. THIS. LADY..THAT,S. LIVE. ,S. IN. MY. BUILDING. I. WAS. WALKING. BY. HER. ...SHE. L00K,S.AT. ME. AND. T0LD. ME. Y0U. ARE. REALLY. GETTING. FATER...FR0M. THE. LAST. TIME. I. SAW...Y0U. I. SAID. BUT. T0. HER...I KN0W. THAT...BECAUSE. I. D0N,T. WEIGHT. MY. SELF. LIKE. W0W. WALK..S. T0. S0ME. 0NE. AND. SAY,S. THATS..I. HAD. NEVER. REALLY. TAIK..T0. HER...AT. ALL...I. WAS. S0. DEPRESSED...THE. H0LE. DAY. SHE. WAS. 2. SIZE...BIGER. THAN. ME. .. I. DID,T. EAT. ALL...DAY. AFTER. SHE. SAID...THAT. T0. ME.... S0. I. WAS. 0N. MY. WAY. T0. THE. GYM...T0. I. RAN. T0. WEIGHT. MY. SELF...AND. GUESS. WHAT. GUY,S. I. WAS. 100...P0UND. AND. AT. 5FT. 5. FEET. TALL. I. L00KED. FAT...W0W. BUT. I. DID. GAIN. 5. P0UND. H0W. C0ULD...SHE. TELL...I. HAD. GAIN..5. POUND..LIKE...REALLY. WHAT,S. ANY. 0F. HER..BUSINESS. THAT. I. GAIN. 5..P0UNND,S.. BUT. IT. MUST. 0F. BEEN. H0W. SHE. WAS...FEELING. AB0UT. HER...SELF..RIGHT...I. DID,T. KN0W. WHAT. T0. SAY. T0. HER...AFTER. .THAT.....S0 H0W. MEAN. IS..THAT..S0 WHEN. I. SAW. HER. A. FEW,S AFTER. THAT...I. JUST. TURN. MY. HEAD...I. DID,T. WANT. T0 FEEL. BAD. AB0UT. MY. SELF....BECAUSE. THAT. LADY. WAS. FEELING. AB0UT. HER..SELF..I. DID,T. STAND. UP. F0R..MY. SELF..BUT. I. WILL. LEARN..NEXT. TIME. I. WILL..BE. READY. F0R. ASS😅😅😅😅NEXT. TIME..I. KN0W. SHE. IS. A. HATER. WE. KN0W.....N0W......SHE. MUST. N0T. LIKE. THE. WAY. SHE. L00K..I. CAN. FEEL. WHEN. S0ME..0NE..ELSE. IS. JEAL0US. 0F. ME. G0D,S. IS. G0ING. T0. SH0W...Y0U..Y0U. WILL...FEEL. ALL. WAYS. FEEL..IT... HE. L00K,S. 0UT. F0R. US..THIS. WAS. S0. HELPFULL..ME. F0R..ME..I. S0. NEEDED..THIS. N0. M0RE. LETTING. PE0PLE..WALK..ALL..0VER. ME. N0.M0RE..0F. LETING. ANY..0NE. IN. MY. LIFE...WILL. WHEN. I. GET. THAT. STRANGE...FEELING. IN. MY. S0UL...IT,S. MY. G0D. S0UL...LOOKING. 0UT. F0R. ME..T0. BACK....AWAY....FR0M. ...THAT. PERS0N.. ..AWW. THIS. WAS. G00D.☺☺😊
@STMARTIN009
@STMARTIN009 3 года назад
Extended family and any in-laws can be the worst for that. Most of the time you should just ignore them or walk away.
@letakeokuk5446
@letakeokuk5446 3 года назад
@@elizabethwoods2853 I had gained a little weight and hadn’t seen my sister in five years, we planned to meet up in NY. The first thing she said to me was “you’re fat”! I was always skinny and she was a little plumper but I never disrespected her...how do you distance from a relative? ✌🏾stay strong....
@steviecrow914
@steviecrow914 3 года назад
The openly hostile, bully types are easiest to read and manage. The saboteurs who make you believe they are in your court while they plot your demise, those are the toughest to identify and defuse.
@rosemaryreid8196
@rosemaryreid8196 3 года назад
Stevie Crow .......yes and the "poor me types," the covert narcissists. They were my weakest point because it took me a very long time to see them for what they are understand their MO.
@steviecrow914
@steviecrow914 3 года назад
@@rosemaryreid8196 fell for that too. They need you and that feels great until inexplicably at some point they don’t. By that time you’ve invested too much. They are parasites walking!
@rosemaryreid8196
@rosemaryreid8196 3 года назад
Yes they're very manipulative, super sneaky liars and use anything you've told them against you, they try to turn all your friends and family members against you if they can, usually playing the victim card and trying to cast you as the abusive one if you stand up to them or question anything they've said or done to hurt you. Think it's the way we were brought up that leaves us open to this type of abuser. One of my parents is like that, took me decades to realise it though, I always felt sorry for them and blamed my other parent for all the problems in the marriage and our childhoods. I had to cut off all contact with them eventually for a long time, talk to them occasionally now but keep it very impersonal, I never tell them anything they could use against me. Think all my siblings have realised what they're really like now as well, thank goodness for that, because it must be so much worse to be the only one who does and be ostracised from your whole family because of their lies. Never had much of a problem with openly bullying types, just stand up to them and they usually crumble and leave you alone after that.
@Kas_Styles
@Kas_Styles 3 года назад
Yup, exactly
@HeartSurf
@HeartSurf 3 года назад
That latter one took me for a go-round. It was a coworker who I thought was a friend but tried everything behind my back for months - going so far to say I faked a back injury to obtain drugs because I am a drug addict - to get me fired. When I produced evidence she said I paid off the neurosurgeon...what? She even went so far as to ask two separate coworkers (one was my boss) what my hours were because, in her words, she was going to get me fired for timecard fraud - except I wasn't committing it. Yes, massive wake up call and now I am very cautious to trust.
@resistancerebels9798
@resistancerebels9798 Год назад
I got dismissed from my job yesterday due to being a threat as i am good at what i do......once i realized what was happening..well....i took control, spoke with direction and spoke some truth with dignity....collected my belongings and walked out with my head held high......breath then respond
@rjoy81
@rjoy81 9 месяцев назад
Literally just expressed this sentiment to my team. Infractions that go unaddressed breed resentment. Lately I have begun address things in the moment as often as I can. It's interesting how shocked people who are violators become when they are addressed. It's like don't expect to be confronted and they are confused that I do it calmly without agression.
@BB23573
@BB23573 7 месяцев назад
I had to do that with my boss recently. Always address issues right away.
@alycebagnath464
@alycebagnath464 4 месяца назад
I have been exploring and opening up this side to myself lately and its yielded some interesting results. I feel so much better about myself, like i stood up for myself! Its an interesting experiment and i love what i see. Im too soft, so i almost have to be the other spectrum and i am respected and treated so much better now. ❤
@TheVeritie
@TheVeritie 3 года назад
The way Evy is completely still and focused as she listens to Lisa speak is absolutely unnerving (in a good way!). She doesn't nod or say 'ahuh', 'yes', 'yeah' as Lisa is speaking...the usual stuff like that, but she's just locked in with her focus and eye contact, and almost no facial expression. Imagine what she's like as an interrogator, or when she's really pissed off!... Hmm, a good lesson to learn.
@Derlet30
@Derlet30 3 года назад
lol, I think the same. She looks like she is made of steel...
@LisaBilyeu
@LisaBilyeu 3 года назад
Lol!!! Definitely the interrogator in her 😉
@sanchietrent483
@sanchietrent483 3 года назад
She's assessing the host for truth/b-s/weakness.
@Motolulu7
@Motolulu7 3 года назад
Because in our culture and society women are supposed to be “agreeable.” Evy teaches us you don’t HAVE to be 😊😉💋
@waitwhat6882
@waitwhat6882 3 года назад
She listens intently
@shilparani3726
@shilparani3726 3 года назад
"Are you worth my time? Most people aren't." I gave a big YUP to this.
@ganymeade5151
@ganymeade5151 3 года назад
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
@shilparani3726
@shilparani3726 3 года назад
@@ganymeade5151 the first time
@graciehowell7886
@graciehowell7886 3 года назад
Mm@@ganymeade5151 mom.
@annemccarron2281
@annemccarron2281 3 года назад
No, they aren't. Love that comment. A friend told me I was arrogant for this attitude. It is not arrogance. She is just far needier than I am. I like myself and would perfer to be alone that with people who aren't very bright and can't contribute something worthwhile to my life. I could listen to Evy talk forever as Lisa said. Have to buy her book!
@sherokalsherif-5168
@sherokalsherif-5168 7 месяцев назад
I just started my journey of respecting myself even if that would make whoever doesn’t love me i always used to fear not being loved or fitted in but when i started my first situation defending my own respect to myself I started to feel way better and my self-confidence started to raise more and am having the strength ❤️
@BuuWaterloo
@BuuWaterloo 2 года назад
I have a confesion to make. I've always been a certain way since I was a kid. Never let others push my boundaries, always voiced my mind when I thought it was necessary, never really liked drama and being able to let go of bad relationships, etc. But with age I noticed a lot of people people don't like that and I allowed comments and jokes about my personality affect me and let change myself so I became more introverted and anxious about it. This actually helps me, I see a few of the traits I hid inside myself in her, and I want to let them break free. Thank you.
@monkeyloven
@monkeyloven 9 месяцев назад
We need people like you.
@jensbasement3862
@jensbasement3862 3 года назад
Some ppl just suffocate your light and energy. The moment you let them go you feel better.
@absent12
@absent12 3 года назад
Been there!
@qamaraporch760
@qamaraporch760 3 года назад
Yep!
@McFraneth
@McFraneth 3 года назад
No they don't. You let them. That is such a victim statement.
@McFraneth
@McFraneth 3 года назад
You have infinite light and energy.
@bbearsmama
@bbearsmama 3 года назад
@@McFraneth -I think what she's saying is that when you finally heed that inner voice...you feel the freedom. Yes-you do "let" them when you choose to keep certain people in your life. But at some point...we realize that our intuition is trying to communicate with us...to let that person go.
@mollywright524
@mollywright524 2 года назад
Many people interpret kindness as weakness. I refuse to accommodate that, and certain personalities try to take advantage of me based on a faulty perception. When that happens I cut them off completely. I feel that saves me heartache in the long run. If someone tries to take advantage of "nice" then you can't trust them regardless of how you present yourself.
@solidcatink
@solidcatink 2 года назад
I am just like you
@tanafaithrenay1111
@tanafaithrenay1111 2 года назад
Beautifully said. I feel the same way!
@ghostdemon7936
@ghostdemon7936 2 года назад
Ultimately I know people who use niceness to manipulate and they get people on side because they can say something nasty in such a socially acceptable way that the sheeple only recognise the lovely delivery and not the nasty message. I see through too "nice" people and their manipulations. I'm not fooled by that. Anyone who has to reaffirm how apparently nice they are are insecure.
@btrixlestrange6432
@btrixlestrange6432 2 года назад
Same though
@kpaxian6044
@kpaxian6044 2 года назад
Absolutely. Even if I can seem confident...if I see one of my gentle, sweetheart friends being disrespected, I am not ever going to consider the person giving them a hard time. Because that gentleness is a beautiful trait. I grew up as a people pleaser and now I do my best to look out for others who are not yet reformed people pleasers because they are often some of the kindest people but tend to get kicked in the teeth. I actually think it's a gift when someone shows their worst side to you. If any of their "worst side" stuff has to do with gossip, mean spiritedness, mockery of those who are different...that's it...my guard comes up. Even if they are superficially nice to me...you still can't trust them.
@fina000
@fina000 2 года назад
I love her confidence. It bursts out of her aura.
@EMuro-wu7uy
@EMuro-wu7uy Год назад
I've had to find my voice, speak up, and advocate for myself. I'm single again, tired of dating game, and ready to work on myself, and good boundaries. I'm working on it, I'm at a new job, clearly stated what I need, and willing to work toward.
@alexandra2536
@alexandra2536 3 года назад
I like how she reminds herself that agressive, disrespectful people = "low vibration"
@LisaBilyeu
@LisaBilyeu 3 года назад
💯
@christinemcinnis4810
@christinemcinnis4810 3 года назад
Completely agree. I try to be aware of a person's energy and vibration. It's a useful skill to use!
@ich6636
@ich6636 3 года назад
@@christinemcinnis4810 , may I ask how do you do that?
@alexandra2536
@alexandra2536 3 года назад
@@ich6636 You can use the scale of emotional frequencies/ consciousness developped by dr. David Hawkins. It is very helpful to label vibrations.
@ich6636
@ich6636 3 года назад
@@alexandra2536 , thank you very much.
@karladuenas1482
@karladuenas1482 3 года назад
Hands down to the interviewer for letting the interviewee talk. 🙌🙌🙌
@B1GJOHNSTUD
@B1GJOHNSTUD 3 года назад
what else was she supposed to do? let her sit there and be quiet?
@andrewabril4481
@andrewabril4481 3 года назад
@@B1GJOHNSTUD lots of interviewers constantly interrupt people
@B1GJOHNSTUD
@B1GJOHNSTUD 3 года назад
@@andrewabril4481 and lots of them don't..
@andrewabril4481
@andrewabril4481 3 года назад
@@B1GJOHNSTUD that's... Obvious 😐
@B1GJOHNSTUD
@B1GJOHNSTUD 3 года назад
@@andrewabril4481 yep..
@Elizabeth-sd8tk
@Elizabeth-sd8tk Год назад
Needed to watch this. A superior at work harassed me, I bought it to my direct bosses attention. That other superior is now trying to manipulate & gas light me, even trying to place fear in me for making my boss aware of her behavior.
@kimhumiston2686
@kimhumiston2686 9 месяцев назад
Time to say "I quit".
@marisol6560
@marisol6560 9 месяцев назад
@@kimhumiston2686quit please! You’re in a toxic environment and it’s not healthy. 🙏
@SheretaM
@SheretaM Год назад
This is an essential skill to life, unfortunately, it was a hard lesson learned after growing up feeling resentful for the times I did not establish boundaries and assert myself most of my life. I thank God for for the many times lines were crossed, now I’ve drawn the line of boundaries to protect my spirit !! We need more messages like this❤️‍🔥
@danif5551
@danif5551 3 года назад
“You feel dirty” when you’re around certain people. Yes. When she said that I thought: toxic/dysfunctional/bad or dark energy, etc., and ultimately I feel “dirty”and want to exit immediately.
@Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye
@Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye 3 года назад
This woman is so powerful. Her self control, her emotional maturity, capacity to communicate, social grace and even down to her knowledge of the importance of knowing yourself... she’s the entire package. This is the kind of woman I want to see more of.
@lazarlegacy2753
@lazarlegacy2753 3 года назад
100%!
@flamingsword777
@flamingsword777 3 года назад
Working on it as we speak!
@jamjar5716
@jamjar5716 3 года назад
And more importantly, BE.
@Slime5276
@Slime5276 3 года назад
Amen!
@cosmicrae
@cosmicrae 3 года назад
True!!!
@sarahdavid147
@sarahdavid147 2 года назад
Something I’ve learned about social situations is to embrace your feelings during conversation. If you think something is funny and you end up being the only one laughing to it, embrace that and laugh cause you want to. If you don’t like singing some sand or think it’s rude, say it then and there don’t hold on to it.
@Hermosa_rosa_blanca
@Hermosa_rosa_blanca 10 месяцев назад
I was watching a Maya Angelou interview and she says she always nips any toxicity in the bud right away~ when she realized someone was bullying her she’d instantly say ‘no. Don’t put that toxic energy on me. You take that somewhere else.’ Small steps can start by just saying ‘stop. No. Or dont.’ When you know they are words or actions that are hurting you, and if they won’t respect or walk away- then be the bigger person and remove yourself from the equation. It’s so true that people with bad behavior need to be called out directly for their bad behavior, and just like a child needs to be told it is completely unacceptable, and if they don’t want to stop the bad behavior they can go away (take themselves out of my space and far away) Xo
@wecandobettertheworldiswat9022
@wecandobettertheworldiswat9022 3 года назад
At 60, my pretty face and figure are gone. I’m a poster child of “before & after. The difference in how I’m treated is astounding. What I’ve learned about myself is that I fly like a butterfly and sting like a bee. We women have been trained to smile through every bit of bullshit that comes our way. I’ve always avoided conflict and most of the time that’s the correct thing to have done. Now, I love allowing a person to dig their grave while I wait for the right moment to pounce. When I do... the offender doesn’t have a clue. They hop in their grave and even pile the soil on top of themselves. At my age I’d love it if our society was a bit more kind to old people but that’s not the case. I inherited my mother’s truck driver mouth. While I wish I was still considered Malibu Barbie I’m so grateful for my ability to use my words. Best advice I can give younger women... Listen to your inner voice. We women have the earth’s greatest instincts we just often disregard it. No more disregarding.
@nordicpandi
@nordicpandi 2 года назад
Agree. Now that I'm older, looking back women were never treated with respect, no matter the age...but it definitely gets even worse with age. Wish I had your wit and IQ with using your words. I now mostly trust my instincts and stay away from most people. Our society loves to treat older women like disposable subhumans and dump all their toxic bullshit on us.
@marilynjohnston1858
@marilynjohnston1858 2 года назад
Actually we are smarter and more beautiful than ever in our wisdom and old age it’s awesome It’s just that the younger generations have not been taught to respect that and instead we are disposable and useless in their eyes
@VictoriaWonders
@VictoriaWonders 2 года назад
Good for u I can’t imagine what life must be like cussing like a truck driver to get any real respect. I would never want anyone to be affraid of me
@dal8963
@dal8963 2 года назад
@@VictoriaWonders only because your content being the one afraid. Its not about fear its about respect you don't fear someone you respect you adore them and look up to them people get these confused as many think they respect people they fear but its just fear and respect of boundaries that person confined them in. True respect is love and positive. Talking like a truck driver is just a form of talking its not feared by truck drivers its normal....so I'm not even sure it insights fear from anyone but might be a tool she's used to be heard and to rely the emotion or passion behind her other words. Live without fear of how others view you...it's not on you that they fear you its on them for manifesting that fear without legitimate reason.
@florence1395
@florence1395 2 года назад
@@marilynjohnston1858 I’m over 60 & very very strong emotionally & totally independent of everyone, but we all have one person who drains us, causing anxiety or just makes us appreciate our alone time!
@sumitk7276
@sumitk7276 3 года назад
This lady is giving real James bond vibes...so damn confident. She's fierce.
@san8524
@san8524 3 года назад
Yeah, you nailed it!
@medusa_stheno_euryale
@medusa_stheno_euryale 3 года назад
My name's Jane, Jane bond
@rachimbaskin6559
@rachimbaskin6559 3 года назад
James Bond who is disciplinedly self-reflective, not cardboard.
@cwattsghigh
@cwattsghigh 3 года назад
Hell yea.
@sukanya3411
@sukanya3411 3 года назад
More like Evy Poumpouras 008
@Nowcreates
@Nowcreates Год назад
I'm crying because this is exactly what I needed today. I have a colleague that is really disrespectful and downright racist towards me. Never let's me say anything in the meetings but if i can get a word in between his ramble, he dismisses me and my ideas during meetings and makes derogatory/condescending comments and then I freeze and don't know how to respond and defend myself in front of so many people.
@demeter7011
@demeter7011 Год назад
Do not let his negative vibrations hinder you from being you. He sounds very insecure and may find you a threat. And if he is racist it shows how ignorant he is. Without being big headed you are better than him and just keep showing your resilience and courage.
@estherdada-samuel2389
@estherdada-samuel2389 4 месяца назад
Sweetheart you need to confront this with an audience observing, first start by not backing down when you are making a point, even if this boss starts cutting in or speaking down - point a finger out and say “I’m not finished speaking yet “ and continue your point until you are done. If this boss comes back after that and says something demeaning then you should say “excuse me, I am trying to be of help by sharing a different perspective or idea so you don’t need to make me feel bad for that it’s just an idea”- then get up and walk out of there!!! Please muster some courage to try that, you need to stand up for yourself respectfully.
@sam-sam2023
@sam-sam2023 Год назад
Loved this 🙌 totally resonate with this advice. I’m quietly confident & at 50 years of age I’m still learning. Life is a university, every day is a school day dealing with bullies & bulls**t simply because I’m a private person and they’ll just gossip about me for no reason other than they are not intelligent enough to understand me. I have cut people out of my life many times without warning or explanation because I just sit and watch their ridiculous behaviour or lack of intelligence or them repeating the same boring Jackanory story. I admit I’m not perfect and I’m not always right, yet very often not wrong about certain people’s intentions. X
@felicitylee4109
@felicitylee4109 Год назад
" I’m quietly confident & at 50 years of age I’m still learning. Life is a university, every day is a school day dealing with bullies & bulls**t..." - I love this.
@TaroMaro-nx2zl
@TaroMaro-nx2zl 10 месяцев назад
Yeah, if they change and treat others then even better, but if they stay the same then we dodged the bullet. Some people ask me how can you just quietly walk out without saying anything and you realise sometimes not saying anything is sufficient.
@shalisealphonse3362
@shalisealphonse3362 3 года назад
"You have to watch people holesticly how they treat everyone,not just you !." Thank you very much
@Mischa808
@Mischa808 3 года назад
Exactly! I have literally had someone say I'm cool with a known "killer", but he wouldn't harm me cause we cool! That's like saying a poisonous animal won't kill you if you are it's owner. One DOES not negate the other. You are what you, are no matter who you are dealing with. And people should be discerning of who they connect with.
@khyati7733
@khyati7733 3 года назад
Love this
@shalisealphonse3362
@shalisealphonse3362 3 года назад
@@Mischa808 yep,this was so good. Don't be naive to how different ppl treat you comparison to others. Like she said let them audition.Dont Just accept persons in the circle then remove them let them prove themselves. That's so safe.
@smz93
@smz93 3 года назад
My darling sister, respectfully, the correct spelling is holistically. Please don’t be offended. From your fellow Muslimah.
@shalisealphonse3362
@shalisealphonse3362 3 года назад
@@smz93 lol thats nothing
@keil8560
@keil8560 3 года назад
People should audition to be in my life... I like that
@phoenixrising8007
@phoenixrising8007 3 года назад
🎯💥
@analys1422
@analys1422 3 года назад
Well said, I keep my circle tight and my walls high. It’s worked for me. I’m in a hostile work environment current and as I realize it’s effecting me, I’m working very hard to let it go. It’s consent, this difficult. I believe in nipping this in the bud immediately, these individuals don’t, kinda of a fake nice. Be aware of it, definitely helps. Toxic relationship in any situation, learn to disconnect, including family. OMG i have that issue with my partner, I do have a feeling myself and I have restrained. I’m not jealous, but it would give me some peace. Good point , is it a self esteem issue??
@jinluwang5671
@jinluwang5671 3 года назад
We audition people constantly whether we realize it or not.
@ZebrazRus
@ZebrazRus 3 года назад
@@jinluwang5671 Yeah, dates are pretty much auditions 😂
@derricklafure7671
@derricklafure7671 3 года назад
Exactly!!! This is how I Live my Life.
@MindfulTatiana
@MindfulTatiana 7 месяцев назад
In my case I realized it WASN'T me in my reaction. It was that I allowed too many toxic people around me. They all wanted compliance in beliefs and perspectives and were usually wrong. And I'm the only one who ever stood up to them.
@lifesabeach8133
@lifesabeach8133 Год назад
"You should audition to be in my life" Absolutely friggin' love this. Stealing it as a pillar moving forward. I've had a recent experience with a new "friend" who turned out to be an information gatherer who then used what she gathered against me when I started to see through her mask. I didn't audition her carefully enough... so I'll try my best not to let that happen again.
@FysSessions
@FysSessions 10 месяцев назад
@heide-raquelfuss5580
@heide-raquelfuss5580 4 месяца назад
You do the same audition when you look for a loan, job, study, to do business. So why not when choosing partners? Friends? A good idea for shure.
@ganymeade5151
@ganymeade5151 3 года назад
Over the years, I have found that most people respect strength and exploit weakness. People need rules and boundaries.
@NenaIram
@NenaIram 2 года назад
Yes, unfortunately.
@E1LTSaves
@E1LTSaves 2 года назад
Some exploit strength too!
@buzzwaffle
@buzzwaffle 2 года назад
It gets interesting when they interpret your strengths for weaknesses though :)
@courtneyvallery7770
@courtneyvallery7770 2 года назад
@@buzzwaffle jmmjjmjjjjmmmjmjmmmjjjmjjjjjmmm?mmmmmmkmmjmk
@msve3730
@msve3730 3 года назад
Make people audition to be close to you. Powerful
@pressure609
@pressure609 3 года назад
Get real.
@olivianichole288
@olivianichole288 3 года назад
Problem is the narcissists always audition well😂
@desiderata333
@desiderata333 3 года назад
@@olivianichole288 some of us can’t be fooled by narcissists. However it took me THIRTY years to see the light!💔
@vtymes1982
@vtymes1982 3 года назад
@@olivianichole288 and for a long period of time
@mybeautifuljourney7540
@mybeautifuljourney7540 3 года назад
I do that without knowing..
@MySistah
@MySistah Год назад
This is a 2 year old video, yet it somehow showed up for me today. Not only on the right day but at the exact right moment. 😪 Thank you. ♥️
@mayaportland8805
@mayaportland8805 2 года назад
I love her, so honest and strong, true to her self but checking herself too, for a healthy balance. Learning a lot from her.
@tamaramainardi9068
@tamaramainardi9068 3 года назад
“If I’m going to waste my energy on you, it better be worth it!!” This was really great to listen to. Thanks for being REAL
@julijakeit
@julijakeit 3 года назад
People concentrate on money from both sides - one wants to get it the other wants to spend it wise but money can be earned - two other things cannot - time and energy.
@violetrose56
@violetrose56 3 года назад
Sounds exactly like a narcissist would say the big me the little you
@itsjuliam
@itsjuliam 3 года назад
I love how clear-minded she is. Also her emotional intelligence is devoid of 'fake deep'.
@anauxistentialcxuxui9390
@anauxistentialcxuxui9390 3 года назад
Spot on observation!
@janjacksonauthor
@janjacksonauthor Год назад
I don't think Evy truly understands just how incredible she really is. She just is!
@brendawillis4940
@brendawillis4940 10 месяцев назад
Beautiful conversation. As an upcoming freshman going into college, I've been skittish about enforcing my boundaries and speaking up when it comes to rejecting parties/alcohol/drugs/etc. Thank you for this interview, the advice and conversation is amazing. Thank you Evy and Lisa!
@angelapursley2811
@angelapursley2811 9 месяцев назад
Continue to stand on your convictions and morals. As a 52 year old lifelong people pleaser LOVE YOU FIRST AND FOREMOST
@thecommonsensecapricorn
@thecommonsensecapricorn 3 года назад
I love her. This is the type of woman Im working to be. I realized through this interview that I ALLOW people to treat me the way they do. I have always played the big eyed, ditzy, sweet girl, because I want to be liked. I'm very intelligent, very passionate, and very strong underneath this veneer, and people only see it when I blow my top. By then, the bridge is burned instead of asserting myself and keeping them from disrespecting me in the first place.
@happypuddle1993
@happypuddle1993 3 года назад
The sad thing is that *you shouldn’t have to seem more masculine to be respected.* If anything, being friendly and amiable should be perceived as a strength, and not a weakness to exploit. It takes ‘feminine’ qualities to be a good leader. Why devalue strengths because of seeing the ‘feminine’ as lesser?
@katc7444
@katc7444 3 года назад
I feel like I have the exact same experience. I have no problem standing up for myself but I always leave it too late because I want to "get along" with everyone, so by the time people realize there's a problem I am super pissed. Im actively practicing saying No and putting boundaries out early.
@bentoefrem1993
@bentoefrem1993 3 года назад
This world is full f hypocrisy.The more u tread them gud the more they disrespect u.When u hve a problem u will know ur true friends.2 out 10
@susanmercurio1060
@susanmercurio1060 3 года назад
@@happypuddle1993 : Sadly, changing the patriarchal culture will take a lot of work. Men (and many women who fall for it) have glamorized the "masculine" for so many millennia that it's a cultural ideal.
@susanmercurio1060
@susanmercurio1060 3 года назад
@Merci Beaucoup : When will men understand that there is a masculine and feminine component in every man? Men don't want to be seen as a "sissy" - which is a nickname for "sister": ie, "girl." Men don't want to be put in a female (lesser) role.
@thecityofangels.
@thecityofangels. 3 года назад
I was blown away when she talked about pulling back and basically ghosting people that don't serve you anymore. I had to do it once, and I felt guilty AF for doing it, thinking I had done something toxic, but truth is... When you're done, when you really feel it in your bones, you're done. When there's no room for improvement - when years have passed, and no compassion is shown, only abuse, no matter how many times you tried to speak up - you're ALLOWED to be done. To walk away, and you don't have to feel like a victim. Of course the other person will do anything in their power to make you feel guilty for their mistakes, but at the end of the day, your life is yours, and you better than anyone know what's best for you. Do anything you can not to feel "dirty", as they said, and if you do, and you feel you're done, and there's no changing it, walk. away. Not as a victim, but as a person ready to move on. I think every woman needs to hear this.
@MsCCCKatarzyna
@MsCCCKatarzyna 3 года назад
The City Of Angels It takes more strength, and truly shows ones power, to walk away than to keep fighting... whether it is with someone or for what one believes in, for the respect, for oneself.... Put yourself first. If you don’t think you’re worth fighting for and won’t fight for yourself, no one else will.
@5995Jiol
@5995Jiol 3 года назад
What's ghosting
@noeldeal8087
@noeldeal8087 3 года назад
Sydney Dively, I've been disabled for about ten years and recently started interacting with many more people on Zoom. I'm a nice but smart person too and everything went south a few weeks ago when someone completely ignored me in front of others on Zoom. I didn't react[very proud of this] but left shortly thereafter. I'm at the point where I feel you get what you tolerate. I'm ghosting them. I just don't have the emotional energy for nonsense. I'm an amazing person and will associate with only those who appreciate it. It's them, not me. Goodbye. Boundaries are vital for survival, YOU have to set the boundaries or your enemies will eat you alive. [Do not throw your pearls before swine or they will turn around and rip you open, (Bible)] You can't be bbfs with everyone.
@glokolkay
@glokolkay 3 года назад
@@5995Jiol when someone cuts off all communication without explanation.
@ladylightvybe4138
@ladylightvybe4138 3 года назад
Well said & thank you. This is where I am. I love him but I love me more.
@n26c88
@n26c88 Год назад
After a difficult breakup where unconditional trust led to me feeling so small and repeated attempts to break my boundaries over the past 18 months I am so glad I found this interview and started enforcing what I will tolerate. This was a betrayal for me that still hits me, I let him get too close - never again! If that means you aren't in my life then so be it. I'm struggling to be done and keep walking away though, I trusted who he was and every time he reaches out I'm reminded of that and what I thought we had. It's been tough but I refuse to engage I know what I deserve from the relationships in my life.
@damien706
@damien706 Год назад
I'm 31 I think I thought I stuck up for myself in the past and then I noticed my hot headedness was actually making my life a bit worse. I thought I could never back down but I'm realising it isn't about not backing down, it's about conducting yourself that elevates you
@tiernanwatson9789
@tiernanwatson9789 3 года назад
Even as a guy, I find this really impactful. I've always let people walk over me. No more. It took ending with clinical depression and constant stress to get to this point, but I made it. Love this woman.
@Channiej93
@Channiej93 3 года назад
hey geniune question, if you were in conflict with someone at work, how do you handle it now? i stand up for myself almost always, but now there are people bullying me at work.. the person doing it is quite aggressive too. im gonna go to my headstaff person to solve this, idk im just looking for what other people would do in my situation i guess
@tiernanwatson9789
@tiernanwatson9789 3 года назад
@@Channiej93 Flattered you're interested in my opinion. I think you have to be careful with conflict at work and it can vary so much by industry. My environment would be more office-based (software). I would say always have some form of evidence before you go to head staff. Without it, it can make things awkward and if it gets back to the bully it could make things worse for you. You could approach it tactfully and ask the head staff hypothetical questions such as, "if there was an incident of bullying in the workplace, what kind of evidence would you need?" The way you could avoid naming people before you know exactly what they want.
@noweare1
@noweare1 3 года назад
@@Channiej93 Is the person over you. Is he your boss or co-worker. If he is a co-worker you can have it out with him verbally. Every time he says something respond. The worse thing you can do is stay silent, especially if there are other people around. You want to make sure that people know you will stand up for yourself. I was bullied at work too, by my boss. I didn't have trouble with co-workers because I would take them aside and have it out with them verbally or physically if they raised the stakes. But if it is your boss and the bullying has been happening you need to move on. You've already lost your job. I don't mean to sound like a smart ass but I have been in your shoes. I know what you are going through. Your mental health and your self confidence needs to stay intact. If you put up with that stuff long term it will affect you and take a long time to get over it. I wish you good luck my friend.
@Ectos0111
@Ectos0111 2 года назад
Hey could I borrow like $300 dollars I'll for sure pay you back this time thanks
@buzzwaffle
@buzzwaffle 2 года назад
@@Channiej93 Nip it in the bud early. If the next up the chain does nothing, go further up. My mistake at work was being to easy going and never complaining to managers or HR. I was like in the video, "not worth my energy"; meanwhile, THEY were complaining often about others for petty stuff and you look like someone who doesn't care about how you are treated. It IS worth your energy to make your boundaries known with management.
@RockeyToes
@RockeyToes 2 года назад
Confidence and repetition (practice) affects how you carry yourself and how you convey authority. Repeating, apologizing, or over-explaining undermines your message. Keep it short, clear, and direct.
@Flutterbyby
@Flutterbyby 2 года назад
Exactly. For myself I also need contestant reinforcement, so watching excellent videos like this to upskill. Then putting it into immediate action. I wish I did this earlier, but now is always a good time to start.
@SilverPonyKat
@SilverPonyKat 2 года назад
I took a military response with my ex-FIL once. Don't speak unless spoken to. Yes or no answers, don't give up any information. Holy crap did it piss him off! He flew into a rage and stormed out of the restaurant in a huff. It was kind of funny at the time and more so now as I sat there thinking- Wow! How sad that my 2 year old son was behaving better than this 80+ y/o man.
@seyfun1452
@seyfun1452 Год назад
That’s true but women get discriminatory treatment and negative labels. Like, a lot of times when you speak succinctly and decisively, people think you’re arrogant and snob.
@RockeyToes
@RockeyToes Год назад
@@seyfun1452 Yes, as I woman I understand - I've been on the receiving end of the treatment you're describing. I'm confident, and direct, additionally, I'm tall (also intimidating); it's not easy nor fun to wear that label. Eventually, when we're consistent, people realize you've got good intentions and you want to get the job done, well, and you want everyone to look good - your reputation eventually speaks for itself.
@sarahdavid147
@sarahdavid147 2 года назад
Whats awesome about having a completely open relationship is that when you discuss getting a certain way about a situation with your partner and you both agree you’re even more in tune and connected with them.
@rishitaburman5146
@rishitaburman5146 2 года назад
Exactly when you deal with certain it makes you feel "dirty" I can definitely feel that. For the first time in a very long time, I have found someone who is actually talking about the real issues in my life, and I feel so blessed that now I can finally start healing, realizing and move on from my childhood traumas. Thank you ma'am I respect you both in the most sincere way for choosing to share your experience with us. I can finally start living again.
@kerry-anne39
@kerry-anne39 3 года назад
"you get what you tolerate"
@bruceli457
@bruceli457 3 года назад
"If I'm going to waste my energy on you, it better be worth it" so true, a lot of people just rob you of energy, learn to avoid such ppl who give no worth back.. Amazing interview.
@itsjustme.7059
@itsjustme.7059 3 года назад
Bruce Li I had to learn that. I realized a friend that I had was an emotional vampire. It took me a while to understand what she was doing. I eventually figured it out and just took that person out of my life. I recognize people like that much sooner now and just keep away from them.
@ItsNotMoni
@ItsNotMoni 4 месяца назад
Thank you so much after finding my true identity as a woman, living for myself, and chasing after God I realized I had to stop fighting to avoid conflict after I met a man (who claimed he as well knew Christ) couldn't take no for an answer too ashamed and embarrassed for something I felt I had control over, binging all your videos now your so inspirational
@thechosenfamily2023
@thechosenfamily2023 Год назад
When she said have people audition that hit home because that's exactly what I do now. I love the conversations and guest you have on the show. Thank you you help me keep strong
@hollywarehouse7938
@hollywarehouse7938 3 года назад
She’s talking about surviving narcissism. And putting unhealthy people in their place. 👌🏽
@leothalion3983
@leothalion3983 3 года назад
Yet, doing the same thing when talking
@wildheartedforjesusministr3874
@wildheartedforjesusministr3874 3 года назад
@@leothalion3983 Well we all have qualities of narcs from always being around them
@anav8598
@anav8598 3 года назад
@Jose M. I’m curious, at which point did she say or do something that was narcissistic?
@beckyk2917
@beckyk2917 3 года назад
Why wouldn't you tell your friend that her husband is cheating on her?????
@keonr1
@keonr1 3 года назад
@@wildheartedforjesusministr3874 no they have no capacity for self reflection. They can never truly see themselves or their actions for what they are. It really is a sickness the majority of people are not this way thank god.
@ishalocke1123
@ishalocke1123 3 года назад
This is HUGE too for when you’re raising kids. DON’T tolerate lying from your kids, or disrespect because it’s ‘cute.’ It’s NOT cute when they are an adult, and I LOVE the advice to raise kids to be people you like to hang with. Best advice ever!
@michellekennedy9823
@michellekennedy9823 2 года назад
Yes all parents try to make their kids act in the way that suits them ,don’t get angry, don’t answer back don’t get upset, don’t be unkind etc not helpful to an adult.who has to get on with others, will get angry,and has to stand up for themselves particularly at work.
@jadejaguar69
@jadejaguar69 2 года назад
Sometimes kids lie BECAUSE they feel like they need to be respectful to insecure parents like you
@Deroliebe
@Deroliebe 2 года назад
Yeah but at the same time if you had ridiculously strict parents like me, you grew up lying to them because they never let you have friends or a social life. I never got involved in gangs, drugs or sex and they still treated me as a criminal.
@GB0915
@GB0915 2 года назад
You all are making excuses either for your kids or for yourselves. People choose to lie. It doesn’t matter what kind of parents they had, etc. Their parents didn’t force lies to come out of their mouths. No. The kids (or you guys as kids) chose to lie. Period. If your parents tolerated & allowed you to lie, then that’s their fault. Kids choose to lie or not lie & parents choose to allow or disallow the lies. The reasons (or excuses) are irrelevant. Either they lie or they don’t. Period.
@cyndigooch1162
@cyndigooch1162 2 года назад
Isha Locke I want to point out that millions of parents lie to and disrespect their precious children though. 🙁
@sadia3783
@sadia3783 2 года назад
Props to her for acknowledging her mistakes 🔥🔥 can’t fix what we don’t see as a problem
@sarahcouture24
@sarahcouture24 2 года назад
It hurts more when someone ignores your boundary and disregards your feelings/wishes and breaks it anyways if it’s a partner or family member or close friend because these are people you ought to be able to trust. It’s more devastating to be betrayed by someone in your inner circle because it’s shocking and very upsetting if those people don’t act in your best interests like you assume they would, since they supposedly care about you.
@shalinicarnis
@shalinicarnis 9 месяцев назад
Had a similar experience recently where my dad crossed the line and hit me, a 32 yr old woman cos he felt i 'disrespected' him by standing up for myself against my narc ister, whom he treats better than me. She treats me as a doormat n has not spoken to me for 2 yrs but expects benefits out of my memberships n copies every single thing i do from makeup, dressing, shopping, prayers n what not. When i qns her abt it, she demeans all that i own n call me overgrown child for picking on ''little things', when i am actually fighting for my rights & boundaries to be respected. She's the one who's mentally sick but makes me crazy with her stepping into my lane. It infuriates me that she gets to live the life i want with my parents and that my parents are in support of it n do not stand for me against her when she disrespects me. Instead i become the outcast. It is so painful n the betrayal from family who need to be your best support become the first enemy, especially when they choose the selfish child over us tenderhearts who sacrificed everything for them, and got only pain and trauma out of it.
@sarahcouture24
@sarahcouture24 9 месяцев назад
@@shalinicarnis oh man, so relatable, I’m sorry:(
@orangeziggy348
@orangeziggy348 8 месяцев назад
​@@shalinicarnismy family is similar😢. Just realize it's not your fault they treat you that way. Take up your crown and establish your own self esteem, that way you won't be as hurt by them anymore.
@etcwhatever
@etcwhatever 7 месяцев назад
​@@shalinicarnisi woulve called the police. Your dad has no right to beat you. That would teach him a lesson. Its a form of domestic violence and not acceptable. If you know about narcs you they have helps commonly known as "flying monkeys". Stand your ground matter how much it hurts. Theres no price tag on inner peace. Pray for their conversion from afar. Dont let yourself be swayed by nice words to reel you back in. Look at their actions instead
@genesisthepoet815
@genesisthepoet815 3 года назад
I love that she transformed her childhood “fighting” spirit into a career and lifestyle... there are so many young fighting spirits that unfortunately, never figure that out 💪🏽
@keepcreationprocess
@keepcreationprocess 3 года назад
Your first comment ....It.is such a good point....make use of her talent and energy.
@ataattosbt
@ataattosbt 3 года назад
Yes it’s constructive use of her energy.
@treehuggerdude4
@treehuggerdude4 3 года назад
Or that channel that energy into negative self destructive or problematic manifestations
@keepcreationprocess
@keepcreationprocess 3 года назад
@@treehuggerdude4 turning my scars into stars is what it is called.
@RB-pk4br
@RB-pk4br 3 года назад
Op there's not options for those types. What are you supposed to do be a cop or a brute?
@itisfinishednowtimetoclean2723
@itisfinishednowtimetoclean2723 2 года назад
My mother Always told me, “Trust is not to be freely given…” and, “trust is earned, don’t just give it away, like you, it’s valuable!” Thanks Mom❤️😎
@yolandagrabowski6043
@yolandagrabowski6043 Год назад
My mom was told by her mom, trust no one but the police. She trust the wrong police. He gave her a mixed drink. She fainted and awoke pregnant. First baby. My brother. She kept my my brother cause he was her baby doll. Her siblings took her other dolls away from her except me or my brother. Holy McKee tried to take my brother away cause she entered him in Hollywood.
@tabbylove86
@tabbylove86 6 месяцев назад
Yeah true.i have been in a trauna bond and platonic relationship with a man since 2 months,and I already know him since 1year.he is my senior,4 years older than me and the most trust worthy person ever.i am an empath and he slowly showed some signs of narcisstic traits,and he even sexually touched my hand which felt really uncomfortable.i thought he was a nice guy and I wanted to. Find one last hope of he could change .I kept a cryptic status and he called me ,saying if he did anything wrong.i said that you made me very uncomfortable the other day and the sexual touch is not acceptable.i just don't know why he felt creepy cuz he is older than me, idk ,then he apologised,and he wrote a big message stating that he is thankful for me to letting him know and he will become a better person.he is definitely a keeper and my twin flame but I just don't know what happens in future.any guys who saw this,please reply
@diadodson5227
@diadodson5227 2 года назад
I Am Unstoppable I have been a stay at home for 15 years and haven't let myself keep up with who I am and how I was raised to think about health and body/mind. I have started taking 2 mins a day everyday just to do some Jumping jumps, something to help MY health. And just showing up for myself everyday so far and being able to listen to you ladies, it keeps my spirit in it. It reminds me, I'm not alone in falling away from myself. And I'm not alone in the fight to get me back to a healthier me. Love you ladies 🥰🥰🥰
@angesolo6388
@angesolo6388 Год назад
I was born to call out Narcissistic behaviour and I actually enjoy over powering them. Telling them to act accordingly also knocks them down and confuses them. Also to tell them you don’t tolerate any form of abuse from a grown adult who knows better. 🖖😏
@rafaellaa.6656
@rafaellaa.6656 3 года назад
I looooove the fact that the interviewer is so professional and polite. There are some that interrupts so much that makes me uncomfortable to the point I give up watching. Thankfully, this girl has the talent. Congrats! 🇧🇷
@LisaBilyeu
@LisaBilyeu 3 года назад
Thank you! ❤️
@redsloane879
@redsloane879 3 года назад
Yes, if this was Oprah, Lisa wouldn't get a word out through her constant interrupting!!! Oprah is a completely shitty host and interviewer!!🙄
@AriannaRosario97
@AriannaRosario97 3 года назад
I agree! She’s amazing!
@msmanager2775
@msmanager2775 2 года назад
Yeah like fuckinh Oprah !!!
@msmanager2775
@msmanager2775 2 года назад
Yeah right! Unlike Oprah who knows everything her interviews has to say so she wouldn’t let them say anything!!
@mindrunfree
@mindrunfree 3 года назад
GOLDEN TRUTH BOMB: “You’re not going to own my response to you. I’m going to own it. That’s why. I do it for me, not for you.”~Evy Poumpouras
@GillyMaid100
@GillyMaid100 2 года назад
I needed to hear Evy's words of wisdom and just ordered her book, Becoming Bulletproof. I need to find my confidence again, she such a fine role model and I can totally identify with her inner warrior, she has had to work hard on reigning in. It is very hard work but one must remain dignified. Thanks for a great interview Lisa
@mariehelene-sarda
@mariehelene-sarda 10 месяцев назад
Thank you so much for this valuable conversation ❤️ I suddenly stopped a all-in-one private relationship/business relationship/cohabitation, some months ago ... because it was too much for me and many lines had been crossed... Then I followed the urging of my soul to quit an abusive situation, but on the human point of view I was really radical, with no compromise at all. And I can say that I felt guilty each time my partner insisted to get justifications to better understand what happened, but I stayed mute all the time, no word at all in my head, blank, white screen, I felt totally numb!! And it took me many days after the meeting to get back to my energy because each conversation brought me down. After many months, I can notice that I was under a strong inner pressure and stress. And as these pressure and stress reduce I am more and more able to strengthen myself and my inner words. Thanks again for what you share and the way you share it Lisa 💝
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