Story 1: Those in laws need to be institutionalized. They are insane Story 2: The dad absolutely failed OP. Another example of “A child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves to be one”
It's amazing the amount of insanity people can get away with and still be walking around freely. My mother managed it by traveling constantly and get this omg when we finally did settle down in a small town they decided she was a witch. It's like they couldn't figure out what to think about her so they went full Disney villain. This was small town Canada in the 70s. This is where my dark sense of humor kicks in
Redditors on the second story are actually huge POSes. Daring to insinuate that OP was somehow like his mother for rightfully calling out his father is ridiculous and disgusting.
Story 2: BOTH his parents were problem, not just the mom, so how folks are only blaming her and not the guy who enabled his behavior then went on to give 'advice' like some wise sage, in front of his victims who know the real story, is ASTOUNDING. He may have been victim of the mom, but he was still a adult with better access to help and escape than his own child and denied it both for himself and his son till the latter left for the military and got it that way and the wife left him. OP is NTA, and clearly being gaslit by other enablers that don't like seeing those like dad (who's likely like them) called out on their shit, he's just as much at fault even though he didn't physically harm OP, he didn't Stop the mom from doing so and WATCHED.
100% agree! I don't care how much he struggles to stand up for himself, the father lost the right to make excuses for his failures the moment he became a father. He should have stood up for himself and his son the whole way through, because if you dont do that then once the time comes to assign blame the damage is already done
Story 2 brought up a really good point. Just because someone is non-confrontational doesn’t automatically make them spineless in the sense that they’re happy to see others being hurt. But that it usually stems from their own psychological trauma usually stemming from abuse they’ve received. Speaking from personal experience it’s like the trauma rewires your brain to associate standing up for yourself or others as dangerous. With that said it’s something that really needs to be addressed in therapy. The fact that OP’s father had the support system and means to seek help for his trauma but chose not to is so incredibly sad and frustrating. Because it’s not fair to himself, or the loved ones he’s failed to protect. Just finished the video and GD… He really turned into an abuser with his family. 🤦🏻♀️ It’s always sad to see victims of abuse becoming abusers themselves. Just because you’ve been abused doesn’t mean you get to abuse others! You cannot let your trauma dictate your life and make everyone else’s life hell. OP’s ‘father’ can kick rocks.
Story 2: If a father watches his own son gets mistreated by his mother and doesn't safe his own son from this the father is as much as guilty as the mother
It's really crazy how the commenters in story 2 is that stupid they really tried to justified his father being a doormat and what is son get abused for 18 years And I'm so sick of Reddit thinking every time someone go through a traumatic time in their life that person need therapy not everybody mentally weak to the point they need therapy
@@TheDesertFox1940 Notice I said not everybody is mentally weak, that me implying that some people actually need it and some dont but you would have known that if you wasn't trigger typing
@@cameron765 needing therapy doesn't make you mentally weak. Acknowledging you need help is rather strong. Getting that help is even stronger. It would be weak to not get help
@@cameron765 you literally typed, “not everyone is mentally weak” after typing not everyone needs therapy. That implies that those going to therapy are somehow weak mentally weak…
story 2 with people saying the op is becoming like his mother don’t actually know any abusers or narcissists. if you heard one of the people let you get abused say they raised you well, you’d get pissed too.
I would have assumed that if some rando walked from the street into the hospital declaring that they should be allowed to take some newborns, somebody would call the cops
There’s “living vicariously through your kids” then there’s whatever the f*** *_this_* is… 0_o Edit: Boy, after hearing the “father’s” backstory in story 2, all I can say is “I hope the 🐱 was worth it.” Here’s a hint, guys: _It never is._
Those in-laws were just mentally unstable and SiL was definitely the golden child (since she kept defending their crazy behavior no matter what they did).
They have as lethal case of main character syndrome with a bad case of psychosis. i blame the OP and her husband for not getting restraining orders on the two crazies.
I used to drive from IN/IL to Northwest NY to scream at my mom’s grave. She had terrible taste in husbands. I’m NC w/ my dad and his wife. Now, I’m done. Lots of therapy. Good luck to everyone in the same situation.
Story 2: Too the commentor who called OPs dad gentle, you clearly don't understand the difference between being a gentle person and being a coward. His father deserves no pity. There are few things as universally despised as a weak willed man.
Story 2 : OP couldn't do it behind doors, that's the thing with emotional explosions, you cannot "Push your feelings away" that's not a thing, you can bottle them up until they explote out like a pressure cooker, when that happens you can't stop that's why people kind of zone out like OP did. The thing that need to be said will be said people like it or not.
S1 I hate to haul out the narcissist word because overused and incorrectly but these people have raised it to the point of a religion. Of course it involved acting like full grown toddlers. Fully went five rabid squirrels for brains at the hospital. I had a five rabid squirrels for brains parent and 40 years after her death some of it has become...funny? Maybe I developed a dark sense of humor
Lmao remove your in laws (or your parents if they're monsters) from the wedding the moment they start shit, don't let them ruin the whole fuckin wedding omg nahhhhhhh. I'm soooo glad you pressed charges and got restraining orders against them, everything they did was fucked up.
@@questions3983 yeah the way it escalated from "give us your wedding" to "I'm taking your children because you won't raise them right", they're also taking the kids away from their own son because they don't think he will raise them right either, holy man just all the entitled crazy was insane. Then throwing pineapple cake at their house, what is even wrong with them? I'm glad their letter exposed them to their children (except sil) and other family members. Sorry it's been an hour since I listened to this story and I'm still shook. I have no idea how they escaped serious legal consequences, especially with the whole hospital stunt
Story 1: Holy 💩, a 2-for-1 special, a MILzilla and FILzilla. Story 2: There are invertebrates in the deepest, darkest depths of the ocean that have a stronger backbone than OP's dad.
