My coworker's wife is an accountant and pretty much from around February to April he's a virtual single parent because of all the hours she has to work. It's just a fact of their life, not a problem. Some jobs are demanding all the time. Others have regular big crunch periods, while some have unpredictable busy times. My sister's a lawyer and she's helped me out a few times. Usually, it's just a phone call or two to let the other side know we have a lawyer on our side, so it's settled pretty quickly. It's great when family's use their skills to help each other out, but expecting them to drop their paying work for what is essentially a personal favor is not cool. Family goes both ways and accepting they have priorities outside the family is part of that
Exactly! Being family does entitle you (imo, and with some exceptions) to ask for stuff for free. BUT it only works if you're asking and take "no" for an answer.
You should never feel bad or weird about catching your spouse cheating. It's a good thing he looked at her messages. Because look at all of the stuff he found.
The last story - The thing that kills me is she wants him to just forgive and forget and TRUST her word that she's not talking to her ex anymore. i'd tell her straight up, "i'm sorry, but you cheated for 2 years, trust is out the window for now. maybe down the line i can trust what you say but for now i've going to be second guessing everytime you're on your phone or if you're really where you said you were." my cuz's ex-GF cheated on him and while he was willing to give her a second chance all she did was complain about how she couldn't go hang out with her guy friends without him worrying she was going to cheat on him again (the guy she cheated with was her "best friend"). her words to me excatly - "I know he's upset, but all i did was cheat once! when is he supposed to get over it?" I straight up told her that if that's how you feel about what you did then you don't deserve my cousin and you should stop complaining about this before i slap the shit out you.
In the 1 story : yeah not the jerk , my aunt is an accountant and i know that it's very expensive and takes a lot of time , so it's very selfish from the sister , the op is a good accountant most of them don't have this much patience.
Story one: families suck. When you own a business they all expect you to do things for them for free. Even if there are significant expenses involved. They expect you to cover them and give them your services for free.
OP: My actual job is paying my wages, so they get first dibs on my time and availability for work - you’re not paying me anything at all and don’t have the right to make me leave work ahead of my finishing time or make me late for work or force me to take days off my paid work that will cost me money! If I am at my paid work on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays, and off on Tuesdays and Thursdays, I can help on my days off, if at all! You’re not paying, so you’re not saying!
The story about the op being bothered by their significant other acting “childish “…. To me it’s obvious that them doing all those things in public is THEIR WAY of keeping their anxiety at bay. And I think talking to them about it , as gently and open as possible, is the best thing to do because if it doesn’t get discussed how are you going to resolve it? If it’s bothering you this bad to send in the story, then you definitely need to discuss it with them. Otherwise you will gradually build up more and more resentment towards them. And if left unresolved that can become really insidious leaking out to every other part of your life. Communication is key! When in doubt, talk it out!
I didn’t think about that but that makes a lot of sense and I agree if it’s left unsolveed and if she’s too harsh when talking it will end in the relationship ending
I didn’t think about that but that makes a lot of sense and I agree if it’s left unsolveed and if she’s too harsh when talking it will end the relationship
The story of the sister starting a business… okay, so, if she is not willing to do the work of setting the business up herself, that business is doomed to fail. Her family is doing her a favor by keeping a business bankruptcy off of her record. She clearly does not have what it takes to run her own business.
Here's the thing. Offense is taken, not given. You can't control how people will react to everything you do or say. People who really know and care about you can understand your intentions, usually. A lot of people simply look to have drama in their lives to make themselves feel superior. They react in ways to put you on the defensive.
If OP tell someone they’re praying for their downfall without 100% knowing that they would understand it as a joke, that’s on them for being so moronic.
I'm a mom and if my child needed help starting a business that would provide financial security for their kids than I would certainly help. I'd also help my sibling however his sister is being a jacka×× with her demands towards him.
I would say for the first story I think the op is not a jerk but neither is the sister she has 3 children which can give her major stress so this may be why she is like this
story #1: sorry but stop being stupid.. save yourself from another trouble and be frank.. i know its awesome to help your single mom sister but please prioritize your self before regret comes. story #2: option 2 and love yourself 1st.. before it totally intoxicate your mind or sanity
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Unfortunately the first story happens a lot when you know someone either family or longtime friend people expect them to do stuff for free especially family. My mother i law is one of the worst. She would ask me to do random task but tell me and my wife how much she pays others to do the same like she got a deal
Story 3: its a text message which could have been sent from the new guy she is dating who wants to break of between the 2 friends... the OP needs to talk to her
DO NOT work for free! I can tell you from bitter experience that when you give free advice/help the person you are trying to help (especially if they're family) will not value that advice/help.
Story 3. Am I the only one who thinks Kay has feelings for op? I think she’s doing this whole “I’m gonna drop you when I start to date:(“ as a way to get him to “realize” he prefers her over his fiancée and can’t lose her, turn around and scream “no don’t leave me im the one you should be with”. If she really just didn’t care about him, she wouldn’t be “warning” him in advance that she MIGHT drop him IF her and her dude hit it off. She would just kinda get bored and start ignoring him more and more. And she def wouldn’t risk losing her backup before actually hitting it off with the new guy. Nah. My guess is she’s playing a mind game to get op to realize he loves her. She’s kinda deluded to think he’ll leave his fiancée, who he seems to have a very healthy relationship with. Kinda sad overall. Idk if she’s an asshole, she’s def immature af if that’s the case
My boyfriend and I started out friends and we swore no matter what no one would come between our friendship. If we got into relationships they would have to accept us if they couldn't they were not worth our time.
Story 3: I noticed we didn't get a WHY for the change. It could be as innocent as "My boyfriend doesn't like that I'm so close to you, and to respect his wishes and boundaries I'm going to stop talking to you if it works out." Now, this is a neutral thing. This could be the boyfriend being controlling and realizing that the guy is a good influence on her and would reject to them being together. Or it could be a legitimate concern about the nature of their relationship going forwards, if it could turn from 'just a friend' to 'both divorced and running off with each other'. This situation is caused by a lack of communication and being too emotional. Get a cool head, talk it out, get understanding, and leave on a good note.
When i first heard the clip i was thinking "you cant help your sister out in your spare time?" Then the story continued and i was like "this bitsh is crazy calling the boss, and not accepting the time in the summer".
Ok first story, op's sister i super selfish and doesn't deserve help. If i was op i would have said no and that's it, i will not allow such a selfish childish. I'm not going to spend my free time after for her with out payment, even if it summer, this is rude and im pretty sure her business will fail with this kind of behaviour
Imagine if the girl from story 3 was telling a joke like the guy from story 2. And the the guy from story 3 was just over reacting like the girl from story 2
What kind of family are you when you won't help eachother in times of need? I can understand that OP doesen't have time that the task requiers but her own mother rejectig her. Sad. Who need enemies when you have family like that.
About the woman who was going to drop her male friend after she starts seeing a new guy… I think everybody missed the fact that OP said “I was helping her because she had no friends”. I’m sure you were helping her fix a door handle and other household “guy stuff”, (because OP’s GF was never a friend of this lady!) Who doesn’t have any friends? That’s a big giant red flag right there. Well now you know why. If she can’t use you, you’re of no use to her.
The 4th story is stupid to me because if he has depression and anxiety you shouldn’t call out something in his personality and if he doesn’t care what other people think when he’s acting childish than you should ignore other people and be yourself. Who cares if he’s childish so am I.
About the last story, imo the messaging the ex isn't the problem, it's the not saying 'hey, I'm freinds with an ex and we talk and hang out sometimes.' If I was in a relationship I wouldn't be mad at an so for talking to an ex, I'd be mad if they didn't lay that out and kept it secret, people can break up because they work as freinds but not while dating. This is just my opinion though
So entitled sister wants everyone else to start up her business because she's not capable of doing it? So why bother to start a business in the first place
12:30 your over complicating everything, just sit down and remind him that he’s a man and that you look up to him and that he needs to step up to that level of responsibility
-08/30/2022 @ 1439- -1st story, if the sister wants free advice she better know how to google. I know a close friend that can be related to that story.
Story 1: if i end up achieving my dream (famous RU-vidr) once i hit 1million subscribers i would be making roughly 60k a month, it would be anywhere from 30-40k total if its part time full time when i could be doing my actual job would be 30-60k no less than 30k and depending on how long they consider full time 60k plus any overtime from what i would usually work so in total full time would be 60-80k minimum depending on the hours
How about you make sure it was Kay who sent the text and then tell her it's over now if she confirms and be done with it. People sp afraid of confrontation....rip off the band aid!
The mom and sister in story one are kinda assholes. The sister is entitled and could’ve gotten OP fired. And the mother has the skills necessary to help her daughter and is unemployed yet chooses to basically say “fuck you, pay me” which is such a boomer thing to do to your child 🙄
Sorry but if you can't be yourself in public you need to reevaluate your life. Why on earth should you care what random people you don't know think of you?
I don’t think the girl who’s his best friend one is as bad as you make it out to be. Her telling this guy she can’t talk to him if she’s with another man I don’t think she’s using him. I think she probably doesn’t want to make her new boyfriend jealous. If I had guy friends and was single I would talk to them all the time. But if I got a boyfriend I would not because I wouldn’t want to cause any jealousy between us.
Talk to them all the time and cut them out completely are different things. I’ve cut off a bunch of people who are only able to be friends when they’re not in relationships and so it suits them.
She said they couldn't be friends not that they cant talk. I've been friends with people for nearly 10 years I dont talk to for a couple months at a time.
I think it’s stupid of OP and the narrator to assume oh it’s a trend on a platform she uses so she must have known. Out of context that “joke” sounds like you want someone destroyed, so if they never saw them engaging with posts for that specific trend they shouldn’t assume they’re aware of it.
It's probably my paranoia but when people don't catch my texts for a while I assume they've had a terrible car crash or been stabbed and dumped in the woods. It wouldn't even cross my mind to say something like that.
@MarrisaPlays I lost a friend over a quote from the office. We were at school. We were walking in the hallway, and they tripped on something. I said walk much? And they said that's so rude. Of course I walk. That's offensive to my disabled friend. I am a woke person. I have family members who have no legs. I understand it. But please explain to me how that quote is offensive. People don't know how to take a simple joke, and not over react to it
Did everybody miss how the ex asked to come over and her only response was “I have to work.” Sounds like he was comfortable coming over and had probably done it before. She cheated. 100 percent got some of that D.
for the last one "i just wanted a compliment, ive been meaning to block him a long time ago" 1. a compliment for 2 years? nah. 2. it took 2 years to block him and interestingly right after he found it she did it?
