What l can only say is wow..wow..wow..l am lost for words..what us women go through in this life..Lord have mercy on us 😮😮😮😮.l pray that you really heal my lady.😢😢
She unpacked her story so well that madam speaker didn’t have questions after each and every scenario. What a smart woman ,I could listen to her the whole day
I’m watching this interview and I get teary 😢. To think I’ve met you few times and you always have this beautiful smile not knowing what you’ve been through 💔. Love and light sis Thandeka 🕯️❤️.
As someone who lost her parents by the time I was 13. I am sooooo grateful for my extended family...both sides (mom and dads side) really made sure I was taken care of....Not once did I feel unsafe. Today Im married with kids and my husband takes care of me...I wish this lady had someone to look after her in her time of need. She has been through more than ANY person can bear. I hope she can find healing one day.
A true definition of a Goddess. ❤❤❤❤Sending lots of love and light to Sis Thandeka. I love how she acknowledges her pain and how it affected her children and most importantly, the fact that she acted on it. 100% beautiful to hear about where she's at right now. More than anything I'm glad she chose herself and her kids at the end of the day. That's all that matters.
Just when you thought you've went though alot then you listen to other people's stories and you get to understand that actually you haven't been through anything People have bigger issues😭😭💔
How much more can a one person take 😢😢😢😢 No maan this is too my much. This woman never had peace. This is a reality of many girls who were born in the 70s and early 80s.
It’s a very sad 😢 experience that Thandeka went through however I don’t believe that what she went through was experienced by those born in the 70s 80s or whatever. I was born in the 70s and I’m watching this with shock😳😳😳 our childhood experiences are different
Born in '87, and you're absolutely right -our parents' generation was rotten. Sad thing is WE look like the bad people for telling the stories. I don't know what they put in their water🤷🏾
U are correct im born in 83 i had to fend for myself as if my mom wasnot there ,parents in tose years were something else,not caring at all ,but that experience made me strong and a better Mom,i thank god every day😢@@Nabolanga
I didn't think I'd finish this video because it was triggering at first BUT I noticed how Sis Thandeka tried to make it easier to digest with her nervous giggle(she understands her lived experiences may be too much for others to hear). With all that she's been through, I was relieved to hear that she persevered! I don't believe that what she went through was because of God but God took what was meant to kill her for good! Aus'Thandeka is an amazing story-teller(I could picture every part). Beyond the work that she now does I think she should write a book, and that that book should be made into a theatre play or a film🤞🏽she's such an inspiration
Absolutely ❤❤❤ I thought I would breakdown instead I'm deeply moved, motivated and mesmerised by this amazing woman called Thandeka. Awaiting part 2. 1:17:18
Wow I'm speechless I know her and she is an angel on earth there is no way I could have known she survived so many things. Keep striving sisi you are a true reflection of a person walking the walk with the most high. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I feel like you should allow your guests to express themselves in their own language and put subtitles. Had she narrated in her own language she was gonna flow. Very sad story so sorry she had to go through all this trauma.
Oooh the strength she carries is unmatched ❤.May God continue holding in the palm of his hands. Sis Thandeka is beautiful and im glad she no longer needs the validation. 🎉🎉
She’s really hiding her pain with laughter 😢wow I’ve learnt to never judge a person cause we don’t know what they have been through… May God continue to comfort her I’ve realised once you get rapped it keeps following the person. May she be healed in Jesus names
Most of this show I've cried,as woman we must stop being each other's enemies we must rather support each other.this woman went through alot n i wish the abuser's can realize how deep the wounds go.the woman still remember everything that happened while she was still young in details.she went through hell n back.may God give her strength n courage she needs in life
Kindly put subtitles for us international viewers when the guest speaks in local language. Otherwise, this has been so deep. May God graciously restore her.
We need a cohost to assist, no empathy towards the guest or connection. What a strong team woman, such a sad story and I wish she told the story in her mother tongue and we would rather read subtitles
A very touching story,l pray God ushers a new blessed prosperous life to Thandeka as God promised to turn whatever the devil meant for evil,for God to turn it to her good.
I watched your video and I want you to know how deeply moved I am by your strength and courage in sharing your story. It takes incredible bravery to open up about such painful experiences, and your willingness to speak out is truly inspiring. I am so sorry for the pain and suffering you have endured. No one deserves to go through what you've experienced, and I admire your resilience in moving forward despite the challenges. Your journey is a testament to your strength and determination. Please remember that you are not alone. There are people who care about you and want to support you on your healing journey. If there's anything I can do to help or if you ever need someone to listen, please don't hesitate to reach out. You deserve love, safety, and happiness in your life, and I believe in your ability to find peace and healing. Take care of yourself and know that brighter days are ahead. Sending you strength and solidarity❤
He was there that's why she's narrating the story is where you can see that God is alive if He was not there she was not going to be alive, Glory to God
Thandeka your resilience is amazing❤ your story is healing a lot of people. Keep sharing Queen. In spite of your childhood trauma you have good qualities of strength. You're an amazing hardworker and very creative. Much respect and love for you dear sister❤
Eish my sister your story hurts. I wish I had a power to heal you and make you forget all the trauma that u went through. May the great god bless you and heal you. Big love and hugs
Can we all pls come gather here and cry our lungs out...aa man this is too much. Father God pls forgive me for being ungrateful 🙏...my sister I love you and God loves you more 😘💝
Guys I dreamt of this interview a month back but it was my aunt Thandeka who was sharing her story and the interviewer and the audience was crying including myself listening. My aunt was wearing white😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱
Most definitely my Queens we👑 are not happy we need a part 2 this is so deep and we are learning a lot 4rm our Sister over there Thandeka she is a true fighter i love how resilient she is what a strong smart women she is woooooow it's a lot yoooh mara God bafhwethu am happy he showed up for her❤🫂🫂God always shws up indeeed🙏
Guys what's wrong with men vele? Same thing happened to me by my father's brothers, 2 of them. From the age of 6, now im 38. Im not ok, my life is a mess. I don't know whether im coming or going. The worst part is i told my grandmother and my aunt but i was threatened and told to keep quiet. Then last year i decided to talk and tell everyone, the attacks i got from my cousins, everyone calling me a liar, prostitute, devil, any name they can think of. They say time heals all wounds. Not in this case. Women, take EXTRA care of your children because all of this happened while my mom was around. And its like child molestation attracts rape because i was also raped at 20.
God bless Thandeka with marvelous years from here going forward. She deserves so much peace in her life, grant her beautiful chapters for the rest of her life🙏
I am a victim of SA, it's a nervous laugh, if we didn't laugh trust me, we probably wouldn't be alive. It's just a coping mechanism. I myself went for therapy and I am on antidepressants and anxiety meds, no amount of therapy and medicine has helped me but, laughing at my hardshps helps me to forget them and move on with my life.
My blood boils bafethu this story is so common ekasi. Why vele. The communities are not safe, our homes are not safe. And omama nabo they don't pay attention to their kids busy trying imshado with men that end up abusing their kids. We are really a damaged society.
Our parents glorifies marriages. They care about "batho ba tla reng" at the expense of their children. Then they also say they stay "for the sake of children", which is just a selfish excuse, because at the end of the day, it is children that gets hurt at the end. Speaking from experience, I lost a little sister because of my mom's toxic marriage. Still going though therapy, because I can't just believe that she's no more. My sister's death was when I realized just how toxic that marriage is. Out of respect. And so many meetings I've had with them in the past.I just distanced myself.
I mean even when My lil sister suddenly got sick, OUT of nowhere. I took her to specialists, they did blood tests, scans,there was nothing. Mind due, all of that,it's cash, out of my own pocket. I then asked them that modern doctors don't see anything, can we please take my little sister to the prophet. My dad refused, talking about how demonic that is, her child will be healed by God. I bring certain "beliefs " in his home. What still ruffles me is that, my mom did nothing also, because she can't "disobey" her husband. Then my little sister passed away. And guess who now had to be responsible for the funeral expenses, Myself. Some Decisions that our mothers make sometimes, yoh haai.
How come a brother become that / rapist to a blood sister, according to you sis, what childhood from parenting side make brother to do that to a sister, teach us please??
On a higher level of a goddess 👏👏👏👏👏love your spirit to the core. Thank you so much for sharing such a powerful and painful part of your life 🙏May God bless you 💙💙💙👌keep shining sis 🙏
Listen ladies i thought i am going through a lot but no i am still playing by the way❤❤i am healed today thank you very much and you are looking beautiful and you have said mouthfull and today and forever i am the best version of myself 🎉🎉thank you very much for the uplifting podcast ❤❤and i love you ladies no more crying i am the change that i always wanted to be ❤❤part 2 and 3 please ladies
Oh Thandeka I am so sorry for all that you have been through. The pain is so fresh as you speak, I feel it for you. I pray for peace and prosperity over your life. I wish that I could give you a huge hug😢❤
Yo this lady reminds me of my up bringing I don't know how I finish my high school my mother was so so irisponsible with no love to her kids except my younger brother I'm the third child and most hated till now she is 82 years but nothing changed and now I started to hate her
I can feel her pain, a mother who is supposed to protect you as a girl child and just doesn't give a damn,the first person to go to when you have problems 😢, sooo painful
Is there a link between children who grew up under traumatic conditions and them later on attracting abusive partners😢😢😮😮. We really need therapy guys😮😮😮
Yes there is. So how its explained is because you grow up in a toxic or traumatic situation you are not able to recognize the red flags. You deem toxic situations as normal when its not...Now again this is not the case for everyone. I became an orphan at 13 but despite that I had healthy romantic relationships throughout my dating life until I met my husband...Again..solid man who has a rough childhood but treats me like an egg. It also depends on personality traits too.
@@keepitfrankwithfentse well articulated, I think it's about the choices we make as adults as well whether we want to better or remain stuck our past. Life.... Hectic
I'm so sorry that you had to go through all these terrible things, this makes me wonder if God exists because this is too much to take, how can He "God" let this happen to you, I'm so sorry sisi.
Thandeka went through alot, its like the guy who sent her to buy bread ledt her with all the bad luck...may the good lord locates her and her children🥺this is too much for one person❤️🩹
😢😢😢 Am shocked at how she got emo when she talked of herself being the breadwinner,but didn't cry when she told the rape and being buried alive part. Am so hurt for her 😢😢😢
