Epidemic of Male Loneliness: Is there a Cure?

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Why are men so lonely? An epidemic of male loneliness is ravaging the United States. 79% of the suicides in the last 20 years have been men. The Surgeon General has called for increased awareness and more programs to help. However, programs are not going to change the culture. Programs are not going to cure this epidemic. In this episode, we tackle the debilitating epidemic of male loneliness. Learn what you can do to be a part of the solution for yourself and your friends in need.
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@Ulfrich_Stormcock 2 месяца назад

THANK YOU FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS! It’s getting horrible. We men have no friends or relationship/ marriage prospects, and it seems like it will never get better. 60% of young men being single will be a disaster for society. Not every man wants to be a bachelor or a priest or a monk! We need more families for the faith to continue outside of converts! Its not good for man to be alone! We want to be married!

@MD-S282 2 месяца назад

The real question is why men are not forming intentional friendships? It seems men intentionally isolate themselves and then wonder why they are lonely. These friendships don’t have to mimic female friendships, but I think too many guys just expect it to happen without being intentional about it. There are so many virtuous single women in the church who have all but given up finding a husband because men aren’t pursuing them for superficial reasons (ie. they aren’t super models). Perhaps if you get to know some of these women who would make great wives you might find a hidden gem.

@minabotieso6944 2 месяца назад

@@MD-S282how you talk about men in women is pervasive and the core of this issue. Men are not allowed to be the victims and receive empathy while we have to frame women as victims and give them empathy as much as we can. You don’t understand struggling men at all. Please realize that and try to understand. Men aren’t being intentional about friendships and dating because they don’t know how to make friends and things are more difficult now even if they knew, all because of reasons discussed in the video from Technology, cultural shifts, etc. Men are not just going for super models. We can reject that out right. Men are struggling having healthy connections with women in their lives at all. Women hold a new place in society than they previously have and the average man now looks less appealing from this new place. You have to realize that.

@RachelNichols-writer Месяц назад

It is odd how so many young women have no interest in marriage compared to young men. It used to be the opposite just twenty years ago. It is sad to see what's happening to men. I find the whole situation baffling too.

@FindoutBingo123 Месяц назад

@@minabotieso6944then learn how to build friendships.

@raschidmalik464 Месяц назад

Evolution did not foresee man and woman. You should also be open to homosexual relationships.

@Luigiaspie 2 месяца назад

One other thing that may be contributing to this loneliness epidemic is the fact that many parishes, save for the traditionalist ones, have become little more than glorified retirement homes. As a result, it's difficult to find a spouse in those environments.

@thecatholicman 2 месяца назад

The epidemic is not just America. its the same here in Ireland.

@mathiusq9128 2 месяца назад

Hi Rob

@Ulfrich_Stormcock 2 месяца назад

I feel like this video could have gone into more detail on how lonely single men who are struggling to find a wife, can find a wife. Young men nowadays seem to have no options to succeed in finding a wife. The opposite sex’s preferences and standards are often way too high and they only go for the top 10% of men. We cant have so many men involuntarily single and celibate and have a healthy society now and in the future.

@MD-S282 2 месяца назад

Step 1 would be to stop listening to immature advice from red-pill males that like to pretend that women chase rich men. The guys in this video are actually masculine, so listen to them instead. Step 2 would be to stop ignoring all the wonderful women around you, just because they’re not super models. There are so many virtuous single women wanting to be a good wife and have a family, but men routinely ignore them so they can chase the supermodels. Then when inevitably rejected (because she can only choose 1), they lash out at women claiming their standards are too high, when that’s just projection, because they were wasting their time pursuing someone who wasn’t available or interested. The solution is just so painfully obvious. Drop the entitlement.

@ludwig2573 2 месяца назад

@@MD-S282 it’s not that most men wants super models, they want feminine women and that’s difficult to find. And I’m talking not just about the appearance but specifically about the personality of women.

@MD-S282 2 месяца назад

@@ludwig2573 they’re literally everywhere at mass if you open your eyes. For some reason men just assume things about women that aren’t true - the lie that most women aren’t feminine is one of them. If you’re finding that to be the case, it’s a response to your lack of masculinity, as women can only be in their feminine energy around men who make them feel physically and emotionally safe.

@MD-S282 2 месяца назад

@@ludwig2573 they’re literally everywhere.

@Ulfrich_Stormcock 2 месяца назад

@@MD-S282then why do they reject me? Im not looking for a supermodel, I just want a cute woman.

@abriltdulin Месяц назад

Loneliness comes from not living an authentic life living vicariously isn't authentic

@inspired-gz7vc 2 месяца назад

I think this loneliness and disconnectedness can also lead to doing things that are sinful. Sexual sin, etc. But when talking to a priest about those sins we’re not allowed to talk about the reasons why the sins were committed. So we say our act of contrition and promise God that we will not commit the sins again

@UXtatic 2 месяца назад

1. A turning point for men to look within and redefine masculinity. How much emotions are you allowed and not allowed to express? 2. Women also experience this epidemic but use the community for support. Men don't have that as they hold on to the rugged individual which isn't realistic. 3. Redefine partnership. What does the man of the house really mean? In 2024 does it really apply that much. Women can support themselves now so what is does one bring besides physical assets (emotional intelligence, self awareness and the ability to communicate and express oneself are the new assets).

@hr1meg 28 дней назад

@UXtatic What does the man of the house really mean? It means EXACTLY what the words say. He is the man of the house. Not the woman of the house. Not the child of the house. He is the man of the house. He is a man, he lives in that house, and no other male is equal or above him. What did you think it means?

@stevenjmarslin 2 месяца назад

Prayers from India 🙏🏻

@raydioclashX 2 месяца назад

Just an FYI, not affiliated with the channel or anything, but the Adam Lane Smith channel has a lot of content about how to meet traditional women.

@AZITHEMLGPRO Месяц назад

How about zero hours a week?

@catholicfemininity2126 Месяц назад

I a bit angry because I asked God for good Catholic friends, he answered my prayer, but my devout Catholic friends live 20 minutes away and I don't own my own car. Can't he give me friends Here??! Can you please pray for me that God sends me friends that live close like 5 minutes away or next door that are devout practicing serious Catholics that I can get along with.... cause there are some Catholics where they're devout, but we don't click or vibe personality wise....

@inspired-gz7vc 2 месяца назад

The church tells us that we commit these type of sins because of our concupiscence.

@Wolffur 2 месяца назад

Well, as rough as it seems right now, we, as men, are highly adaptable to our surroundings and situations. We will, inevitably get used to, and even comfortable with solitude. Look at the upsides: You don't have to deal with modern women, and their narcissistic behavior, unrealistic expectations, and incessant demands. You don't have to put up with abuse or infidelity, as the law system favors women, even if she's at fault. You're at no risk of losing everything in a divorce. You don't have to be responsible for children, or have to pay child support for children that you'll almost never get to see. You save money. You can have your own space. You have plenty of time to spend on whatever you may like. All in all, not a bad thing these days when we think about logically.

@abriltdulin Месяц назад

Your wife is your best friend

@TheGringoSalado 2 месяца назад

Contemplative Prayer. Interview David Torkington

@Ulfrich_Stormcock 2 месяца назад

What do you mean by that

@TheGringoSalado 2 месяца назад

@@Ulfrich_Stormcock prayer written about by St John of the Cross and St Teresa of Avila. Specifically Episode 10 in David Torkington’s prayer series on Essentialist Press.

@Ulfrich_Stormcock 2 месяца назад

@@TheGringoSalado thats not going to fix my loneliness. It will make it worse. It’s not gonna help me find friends or a wife

@floraricemamul9979 2 месяца назад

@@Ulfrich_Stormcockora et labora

@TheGringoSalado 2 месяца назад

@@Ulfrich_Stormcock turn the pain and despair into prayer to our Lord. He’s there in the quiet, there you’ll find consolation and relief. You are not alone, you’re part of the body of Christ.

@TheCatholicGentleman 2 месяца назад

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@Ulfrich_Stormcock 2 месяца назад

Is there any way I cannot be platonically and romantically lonely anymore? None of my efforts seem to work

@MD-S282 2 месяца назад

Be the man you want to be friends with and others will want to be part of it.

@Ulfrich_Stormcock 2 месяца назад

@@MD-S282 and what about dating?

@MD-S282 2 месяца назад

@@Ulfrich_Stormcock get to know women as people with no expectations. Get to enjoy being in their company and liking them for themselves and not worrying if she is “hot enough” for you to get pats on the back from your buddies. She should be someone you like, irrespective of what your buddies think. If you get to know women as people with no expectations, and you continue to develop your own growth in virtue, then women will make it obvious when they like you, and then you can pursue them. But be open to all sorts of women, and be attracted to a woman because of her virtue, not be led by superficiality.

@Ulfrich_Stormcock 2 месяца назад

@@MD-S282 ive tried that, but only ended up friendzoned. I am 26 and still single. My prayers and efforts dont seem to work. I would not want to marry someone I dont find initially attractive. I dont want to settle or make a woman feel like I settled for her. I work out, and I want a woman who works out. Im short at 5’8 so dating is hard for me. Ive been told that I am attractive before but still struggle. I feel invisible in person

@MD-S282 2 месяца назад

@@Ulfrich_Stormcock if you think you’re friendzoned it’s a sign you haven’t gone into the interaction with no expectations. If you have no expectations, you wouldn’t mind whether she thought of you as a friend or not. You would simply be enjoying her company. I think it’s best for all men to get out of the red-pill mindset. 5’8 is not short, women don’t care about looks or height or whatever Mr Tater Tot says. Women are looking for genuine masculine characteristics of taking the initiative, making her feel comfortable both physically and emotionally, having the ability to communicate openly and authentically, being healed from past emotional wounds etc. So perhaps those are things you could start to form a bit of a game plan around developing virtues that would enable you to do those things confidently. If working out is important to you that’s great, but remember everyone will age and not be as fit and young as they used to be, which is why you want to be attracted to your partner’s whole self, their physical should become so low down the list once you get to know them that it barely factors in to how you feel about them. As you grow in virtue yourself, you will be attracted to virtuous women and they, you. My guess is you’re giving off desperate energy as in “I need to find a partner now!” And that’s naturally repellent to women because virtuous women are only attracted to men who have healed their emotional wounds and have made strides in progress in virtue. Perhaps it’s best to find a spiritual director and have him help you to see where you need to grow in virtue and he can give you the game plan to do that. But until you’re genuinely happy just pursuing God, and striving for virtue without expectation, holy women will find that a turn off.

@cravenmoore7778 2 месяца назад

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@spencermarkham1 2 месяца назад

Is there a cure? Yes there is! Get off one’s butt and talk to others face to face! Swallow your damn ego, laziness, shyness, and/or cowardice for a change and talk to others! How freaking difficult can that be??????

@PauperPeccator 2 месяца назад

The difficulty to me seems corollary to expectation. What is anyone supposed to expect? What’s reality and what is delusion ‘What we want’ from others? Everyone is disappointing because I guess I expected too much. But how did I get these unrealistic expectations, and more importantly: how do gain new ones?

@Wolffur 2 месяца назад

It seems that you are unfamiliar with the standards women have for men, and the misandry that they have towards us these days. Honestly, it's just not a good idea to approach them.

@MD-S282 2 месяца назад

@@Wolffur cringe

@Wolffur 2 месяца назад

@@MD-S282 Merely the facts of the situation.

@MD-S282 2 месяца назад

@@Wolffur not in the real world