I wish this was more mainstream, so many of us are highly sensitive and we hate ourselves for it. We could be using it to our advantage instead we punish ourselves and our children for the sensitivity we were punished for as children. I grew up feeling so misunderstood, as an adult I have a hard time making decisions and I put everyone else's feelings before my own. I'm the crazy person in the family because I see things and feel things no one else does. I'm an empath HSP and INFP personality.. I grew up loving your music Alanis and I find it really awesome and funny that your an HSP too.
Rome was not built in one day. Abolishing such mighty beastly ignorance being part of the human race is not an easy task, opening so many arrogant stubborn close minded minds about highly sensitiveness is not easy if not impossible, but you have two noble heroines, Dr, Elaine Aron and the talented beautiful Alanis Morissette. We wish your family and you the best, and look at your situation the positive part, today, you have access to such useful knowledge and wisdom that can help you, past generations didn't what you have access today. Past generations only had ignorance.
Me too…🥺 When I first watched the Sensitive documentary..I thought wow..”That’s why I felt that way all of my life…🥹” I’m so grateful to have found out that u wasn’t broken, it really changed my life..💜🥰 My dog is also a HSP-highly sensitive pooch..🥹🐶💜💜
I was so excited looking forward to listening to hear an interview with someone that acknowledges to being a HSP. Unfortunately I’m 20 min into this and I have yet to hear Elaine speak for more then 20 seconds before Alanis interrupts. I think I’m so “sensitive” to this since I see and hear this in myself. Unfortunately this is not a positive trait to try and listen to as a third party. I’m still conditioning myself to hold back when in a conversation with someone, because it is very disruptive. I was literally trying to find a RU-vid video that best described an HSP to share with some people close to me to understand me better. I know I cannot use this as it will only negate my purpose to get especially “non sensitive” analytical people I know to take information about HSP’s seriously.
22 minutes in and I couldn’t continue :( the worst is she acknowledges it and continues to interrupt excitedly. Also, c’mon, I hate when I get a sense that those who identify as HSP generalize certain resists of themselves as “everyone” or I just can’t help sensing that they’re “too proud of it”. I hate that!
Lol....typical with us extroverted hsp’s - being overwhelmed by the sensory impression of discussing a topic in which we recognize ourselves in what we hear and relate to. Sometimes I get so extremely excited in discussions which I find interesting and know the topic of, I have to talk to myself in my head to calm myself down while the other person’s talking. 😂☺️
so damn true! i kept forwarding thru vid just to get to dr. aron (i'm HSP too- this knowledge which i just discovered at age 47 changed my life! saved me!!) i gave up after 20 min. i get it, i'm outspoken, verbal too BUT i know to have a truly engaging conversation you need to LISTEN. shutting up, listening n allowing others to talk is the art of conversation. luv u alanis, damn...i listened to jagged lil pill more than 2 billion times. that album changed my thinking too!!!!
THIS WORK MEANS ALMOST RVERYTHING TO ME! Alanis, you and Elaine are gifts from God that have been brought into my life. I love you and I thank you. I am not defective. What a revelation!!
She does interrupt a lot but that's part of being an hsp. I am the same. It is annoying and something to work on. But Alanis, I love you I grew up listening to your music and now I know why I've always felt everything so much at such a deeper level. I am overstimulated now though due to the continuous interruption so I am stopping the video.
Alanis I love your enthusiasm in this! The speed and excitement is so refreshing. One comment mentioned that they would prefer more slow paced interview style etc. I for one prefer this true/pure/real conversation. Thank you!
I can tell that you 2 have an extraordinary relationship, it seems that Elaine does not matter your interruptions, I focused on that. Thank you for this interview
Thank you to you both AND to all those who complained ...welcome to the world of HSPs not only was the content great, the interview itself was a demonstration of what it's like to live with HSP.
When we watched the documentary,” Sensitive: The Untold Story” featuring Dr. Elaine Aron and Alanis Morissette, we became aware of Highly Sensitive people. Before the documentary, we were ignorant about highly sensitiveness. In our view, Dr. Elaine Aron is a noble true heroine because she is bravely standing up, fighting, and helping win against humanity’s mighty beastly ignorance. Because of Dr. Elaine Aron, highly sensitive people of today have access to specific useful books, they have access to specific essential knowledge to help them understand about the highly sensitive human part of them. Because of Dr. Elaine Aron, highly sensitive people have such mighty vital wisdom to help them live much better lives without such irritating painful frustrations ruining their days, above all, without that frightening ugly feeling not knowing what is happening to them, sadly, influencing in some, a convincing doubt in them of not being human beings. Because of Dr. Elaine Aron, not only highly sensitive people benefit from her wisdom, but also, their loved ones learn how to live with them, how to treat them, they learn about their incredible intense deeper detail human perception/ability. Also, we admire another noble heroine, the talented beautiful Alanis Morissette, who is standing up, fighting, and helping win against humanity’s ignorance, too. They both are abolishing the ignorance about Highly Sensitive People.
I had to really focus in on listening (which gave me more limited ability to more deeply process the information) because of the speed of trajectory of the conversation, which felt Ike a game of ping pong. But, I get it. That’s how I converse, too, when I’m highly engaged. The amount, quickness, and frequency of your reactivity to each bit of information Elaine would share was overwhelming my depth of processing. :D If it we’re more interview style (more pause and reflect, slower paced), it would be easier to process and sink into, as an outside listener of the conversation (versus an active, engaged participant of it). Great content nonetheless. Thanks so much for sharing this conversation.
I just realized others commenting on the same thing - sorry, did not realize. But want to keep the feedback up in case it’s read, as I think it’s a good way to understand how it can be experienced in a more kinesthetic, empathizing sense.
30min in ..can't continue listening .. @alanis thanks for hosting Dr Elaine but would be much more useful if you had your chat with her off air ..over lunch or so ..you had good questions but didn't have the patience to get an answer ..you also showed us HSPs how we sound when we get excited and keep interrupting others 😁
I recently was scrolling and come upon this channel just within the last day or so. That being said right this moment is the one that I chose to click on. Due to the other recent discovery of your guests oddly enough. So I thought why not,? I'm 47 years old, I watched you on you can't do that on television lmfao, as well as I felt your music. Soul resonating is truly an understatement to say the least. As a youngster, I was continuously being reminded of"YOUR TOO SENSITIVE NADIA"... Needless to say after this being something continuously I was reminded of it also was reminding me of what I wasn't enough for others as they were okay with me being me but on their own terms. Of course thinking of it in those terms isn't something I thought of often in that childs eyes (eyes , meaning feelings/feelers/awareness etc.) To clarify I find that words that the speaking of them and of course it's an extension of ourselves and the foreman which we express it, as a common theme to which in a nutshell it's all about the in languages in which we speak that truly are a matter of finding the bridge to connect where the gaps are and or you could call it the connection gets or the expression or the language gets Lost in translation somewhere in the midst and then of course the entire layout of the particulars which just exist as we've known and yet still unknown as well and then eventually it all comes to meet. Periodically just like they say all has lead to the same place it all ends up at this connection point which that would explain the meeting at the same place part of that saying of those words of what in fact the meaning and that it can be simply as is eventually and then finding the residents with what that meet point brings and allows that release of which so almost you can feel a proverbial psi. I'm not sure if I spelled that correctly but hey I'm not here for a spelling bee LOL nor am I for being critiqued on my grammar, LOL however this is a common theme personally so before going any further this is my heads up foranyone taking the time to read this comment I use talk type mode or whatever to be entering on my phone as opposed to typing on the keyboard, for several reasons which needless to say are unnecessary to elaborate on due to it's not the need for others agreement to list them or my own to convince or help convince ends up being the case I've found and continue to find when I have lost that particular grasp and awareness. So if in fact when reading what I'm expressing due to the fact of limited punctuation use for example due to it being a conversation because of the talk type way I'm entering it in on my device that I'm expressing myself from as if talking to somebody right in the same room with me. Which using punctuation does not exist while that form of communication takes place up close and in that vicinity of being in the same room with whom I'm communicating and connecting with. So that being said maybe one day I will no longer feel that need to have this explanation along with having to feel like I have to explain why I am in the first place. What else am I if not allowed to be myself? And, the blessing disguised amongst the resistance there where eventually all those pads previously lead back to meet once again and then I can release because it all has its completeness at that moment in time of past present future and really words cannot really truly describe exactly the feel of it yet as we know words are like props like the same way that I am with directions and the use of what I call landmarks that would stand out to me and what language in which I am most capable of grasping not resisting the other however it's just allowing it to be and if there is that point where there is a Lost in translation possibility the awareness of it and the ability to eventually somehow come to not have to be carried away and how it feels like being rejected when somebody is forcibly aggressively sarcastically just blatantly or even in a manipulative definitely not limited to being a positive or negative form of any other just the awareness of them all and of myself through it and being able to be reminded. Periodically as such comes with all that I have experienced and continue to and it's continuously . if in fact you're still reading this perhaps one day I will remember to begin with a smaller summary of of which I'm not sure that's possible lol , however if one struggles due to lack of punctuation when reading something that I've written it does help to read it out loud, due to well my own truth and I have had enough response to what I have written and posted and how I express myself either I'm rambling making absolute no sense whatsoever which I laugh as I say that just because that's just so intricate and meanings of epic proportions just continuously prove over and over through living that it is always part of the point but it's not the only version of it and it isn't and it is until it's not yet it does not eliminate its existence from its part and the formula and the existence of all and without even a molecule no matter if it's defined as good evil right wrong bad correct or what have you these things cause limits and they do exist but yet not so suffocatingly so that there is nothing besides that which I believe is how we're working it out collectively with existence of all that is not at all leaving any known and unknown possibilities of whichever without any bit of it it would not be as is this very moment so finding the gratitude for what a blessing in disguise is comes through that and knowing that gratitude is truly something that can be felt and that there is a difference between a word and its existence and the meanings exist with through avenues in which are more natural than not even if it seems to be abnormal.
Alanis, thank you so much for sharing this. I understand and love the "wink" you mention giving your daughter. I am a HSP & I live in Washington state, and one of my passions is to drive a few hours to the coast to go rock hunting during low-tide. I always find the prettiest rocks on the beach; that is unless my mom is there. We were just talking about our remarkable ability to spot them a few weeks ago. My mom was recently diagnosed with schizophrenia, I am thankful to have content such as this conversation to share with her so she can continue on her journey toward mental health. LOVE YOU SO MUCH.
Alanis you are such an advanced person you seem to stimulate the mind you are so smart and i love you you are great love how you speak your mind take care and please keep your style you are remarkable thanks
I grew up in a house with no empathy… My dad has a ‘piece of sh*t mindset’ with that mindset there is no room for empathy. I am an HSP, empath, and a cancer 1st Decan. Thank you after 37 years I found HSP and then putting everything else together. It’s been a HUGE RELIEF!
Love this conversation, I think it's so important to talk about this and share this knowledge. I'm also making a HSP video series on my channel and I get sooo many reactions from people who didnt know they were HSP and could recognize all the signs. Knowing this about yourself is so important. Love, Vera from Simple Happy Zen
I didn't really know who Alanis Morisette was before the interview funnily enough. I grew up in the 2000s and listened to later stuff, but I'm a new fan. I do hope she's able to bring more light to this topic in the media with her celeb status. As more of an anxious type HSP, I am inspired by those managed to shoot to stardom while having HSP traits. I go through high and low periods and could have avoided certain self loathing had I known what this was at an earlier age.
NOTES TO SELF D - Depth of Processing @12:25... thinking more thoroughly (?ruminating?) O - Overstimulation @15:45 ... b/c you are processing things so deeply; can lead to overwhelm & need for downtime to recover (learning self care is very important... only you know when you've had enough) E - Empathy & Emotional Responsiveness (we cry easily) @19:45... when you're over-aroused, you can't think as clearly (can't think of anything to say; this is NOT shyness) S - Sensitivity/atunement to Subtleties @24:25 ... @44:39 Sensitivity to Subtle Stimuli - involves picking up unconscious cues @27:48 re: the workings of the Amygdala in an HSP vs the other 80% of non-HSP people @35:15 Shyness = fear of social judgement Emotional Regulation @50:38 = having the right feeling, at the right time, in the right amount @41:57 In business or other relationships, you have to look at the bottom line & be able to articulate what the other person stands to gain from the existence of your HSPersonality [Riiiiiiiight! Sure, that's where it always breaks down. :( Most of society doesn't want to deal with that.] @55:30 HSP is a survival strategy adopted by the minority in all species studied, to look before you leap, to do it once & do it right, to really pause to check; it is not just about escaping from threats... it means taking advantage of something that others may not see & finding a better way to do it that others might do it. @59:00 re: Boredom... inner sensation seeking - HSPs get bored with boring conversations @1:09:00 - [9.2.2021]
Those who didn't like the interview mentioning that Alanis was interrupting too much, don't really know what being an HS person is when you are really into a topic and feel good around someone who you relate to. So, you're NOT HSpeople. Period.
Please tell me it gets better after the first 20 minutes. Couldnt make it any further because of the interruptions, this is painful (not only for HSPs, I'm sure). But I so want to hear what Dr. Aron had to say in this 1:12:35h ... I'll try to listen again in a few days
This was really difficult to listen to because of so much interruption by the interviewer. There was in there mentioning about another interview, but I don't think Elaine will ever come back to do it again.
I agree. Elaine was constantly interrupted. I understand because I tend to interrupt people a lot because I want to connect with the person. I have HSP and I think it comes from nervousness and my need to please. It's always something to work on. I only listened to half of the interview and will read the book.
@@gwenbardon6025 I am an HSP as well and I have a tendency to do that in an informal conversation. The wiring of our nervous system is different than 80% of population so we tend to process deeply what the interlocutor is giving us and this deep processing, which is the key trait of HSP, is pushing us to jump into the thoughts of the other person to immediately clarify all the subtleties that we see in the topic, but here we have a celebrity. Here we have the discoverer of HSP itself and I would be all ears asking questions only to connect Elain's thoughts and make them flowing. However, the interviewer was mostly listening to herself rather than Elaine which was unfortunate. I persevered until the end of the interview, but it was really painful.
@@fractal97 Thank you for your response. I found a couple of other lectures on RU-vid by Elaine. Unfortunately her audible book is not narrated by her so I will pass on that. I prefer to listen to the author. Knowledge about HSP is important for my understanding and has helped me immensely in not beating myself up for having certain personality traits.
I am trying to listen to the rest of this interview. It’s is somewhat.....let’s be honest as you said painful and frustrating to listen to. I see this trait in such a negative light and of course it does not help that it now highlights this trait in myself. I only recently came across HSPs and looking for resources to share. It was so frustrating when Elaine was trying to explain how undervalued an HSP can be made to feel, especially growing up and Alanis interrupted as she had been doing since the beginning. I’m only at the 39min mark and can’t continue. I have such low self esteem and worthiness as it is and I’m not sure how helpful or hindering it is listening to this any longer. My first attempt only made it to just under 20min. Is it because I’m an HSP, that I’m so determined to try and listen to this till the end? Or am I just a gluten for punishment. (Sorry Alanis, I really am commenting more so on my own issues of being caught interrupting within my own conversations when I’m excited or feel so determined to get my points across, or feel I’m trying to educate someone about something I think is so passionately important and/or relevant to me.)
@@moodfood21 I wouldn't worry about listening to the interview if it is uncomfortable for you. I didn't listen past 15 minutes or so. I found some lectures and other videos with Elaine Aron and found those to be very helpful. Step one in self care. Don't put yourself in situations that trigger you if it is possible.
I was a 'highly sensitive' person up until about a decade ago.....because of early childhood rectal assault that nearly killed me. I am concerned that childhood trauma/brutality survivors may not be seen correctly and be labelled 'highly sensitive' instead of 'abused.'
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Love the research. I would've termed us "high responders" because we're not always emotionally or empathically sensitive but our responses to any stimuli are certainly off the charts! 🤣
Definitely resonate with the ESP aspect, (after all, if it’s broken down literally, how can anyone deny the connection - “extra” “sensory” “perception”). I had no conscious effort in this, but I’ve opened up more to being able to literally channel physical energy, namely through Kundalini. I literally feel like a powerful wizard playing with and manipulating energy, like it’s a physical/ tangible force. I’m able to tap into the collective energetic field where my energy center opens up, and the Kundalini flows in a very physically felt and visually observable way, where it can channel into a rapid “sign language” through my hands that produces fluid movements throughout my entire body. It also produces sounds from my mouth, very characteristic of the serpent energy. I’ve experienced literally tapping into the entire collective (don’t know how to describe, but I just very overwhelmingly felt it, and with a clearsentience, just absolutely knew it) and sending some kind of multilayered transmissions from beyond this visually perceivable reality, to the entire collective through this sign language that fully embodied, or entered (channeled though) my body. It’s not a possession of the body...I just infuse with it, and am fully conscious and fully present when it comes through. And it’s fully rooted in the heart, empathy, and love, and is the most benevolent and warrior/ powerful energy all at once. I’ve actually fairly recently recorded (not the best example, but good enough for now) an example of this and put it on my page for reference. I experience the ESP aspects in a few other ways as well through color perception and other ways, and I know I suppress a lot as well. When I was a child experiencing all this with no understanding whatsoever with this and having to sort through it on my own was scary as hell, and I would wish it to stop or shut down or go away, as that awareness would rumble and tremor through my body and I wouldn’t know what to do with it in order to feel a sense of calm and normalcy. Big ramble, but so much to say. Hard to contain myself. I know I’m here to do very big work, but centering and grounding myself and being able to consistently channel this energy has been my greatest weakness. It’s literally like being in a cage of Kryptonite most of your life, without a real tangible understanding and awareness of being in it.
I would like you all to keep in mind that this is not billed as an interview, but a conversation. There are lots of interviews with this fascinating woman, but here Alanis is having a conversation with her, and it’s an interesting change in format in my opinion. Be careful what you comment on. Not an interview.
I'm so curious as to whether one can go from being highly NON sensitive as a child to highly sensitive as a young adult? When I was younger I believe that I was H(N)SP and incredibly emotionally "resilient" (apathetic) as a way to protect myself from the emotional trauma I'd endured (parents divorced, mom abandoned etc etc), but after experiencing a number of events and engaging in emotional intelligence work that busted right through those "resilient walls" and opened the emotional flood gates again, I feel that I've become highly sensitive in recent years... and even been criticized for it. I've not fully been able to comprehend exactly how or if it's possible because I don't hear about circumstances like this often. Maybe one day I will know!
Emma Fretts , Hi Emma I too only became aware of HSP about 2 years ago. I’m 50, I do believe, for myself after looking into, traits of HSPs, early emotional trauma/neglect and early attachment theory, I have come to realize I was always hypersensitive. I had to build very thick walls as a child to cope in a very emotionless home. This is why I’m only embracing my intuitive, compassionate sensitivity now in mid adulthood. Do not listen to all the negative rhetoric non sensitive people dump on HSPs to make themselves feel better. If you can learn to appreciate what Elaine Aron has accomplished in highlighting more of the positive traits and how to do more self care. Know you had a really tough time growing up with your family situation and you more than likely suppressed your sensitivity to survive.
Hi Emma, I agree. I think I've always felt different and maybe have in my childhood and as a young adult built up thick walls to defend myself in a world of non HSPs which had resulted also in low self esteem. Though I faced challenge and came out the other end, it was more by putting up these walls instead of truly understanding my personality type as a HSP and learning to embrace it. It makes a difference now to know I'm not alone and don't have to feel my reactions or thinking or need for huge amounts of space is wrong.
Of course Free Will opens for expressive of oneself accordingly which in other words you can also eventually understand through the process of experiencing life just living pressing for time and specifics and details as you wish and as you so allow others to project their own upon you and sifting your way through with and without things that may and will come handy and you'll know what teachability and what it means to accept, and learn from the acceptance of one's actions towards themselves aswell as to others ... It's not about being perfect nor is it about separation of right, WRONG , rude, manners, etc... There's choice upon choice with choices upon those continuously quantum mechanics , visible, invisible, etc... If you can get the gist,. Which is the avenue in which brought you here to this particular channel.. again there's nobody stopping you from infact having a platform you create and do, not do,, redo, undo, grow, demolish so on and so forth as it's yours to do as being not for others to continuously feed on those that they utilize for what they're too scared to risk vulnerability themselves just to speak like u have zero concept of how to conduct yourself except for from obnoxious , and entitled bully seekers for scapegoats to feed false boosts of self esteem which clearly never ever fulfilled other wise there's no need to continue skimming surfaces while seeking misery's company ... So perhaps , there's at least opportunity for More than your own perception has significance beyond the limitations shown by how one conducts themselves.. learning by doing is actually still not limited to singular perspective for one it's all touching throughout exsitsance itself. So call pads lead eventually to meet up at that one place and their sense among throughout even if it's just momentarily
Unfortunately just couldn't keep listening more because of too much focus on the interviewer, her experiences and her laughing, interrupting and jokes. It started to distress me. Dr.Elaine has calmer energy and it is a pity to take the focus off her and the valuable message she has to offer. She wasn't allowed to deepen the conversation and to share enough information in the pace that suits her the best :( .. forcing jokes all the time.
I’d be interested in the differences of struggles/success between HSP’s that are completely blind/deaf and HSP’s who have somewhat normal sensory function - on a side note, it’s crossed my mind how much more sensitive my skin is in comparison to someone that doesn’t have this sensitivity allele that is “hyperactive,l in whomever thinks they have this. Maybe we have more allergens than the 80%. Could there be a possibility some of these questions could somehow scientifically define HSP’s further?
Ha ha ha she's on that 📖 book it needs to happen especially with Alanis we need it for when we come back round and for those already here. Cxxxx 💚💐🌹 legend 🇬🇧 hedgmoon witch fairy 👉👌😎🤗🥰
Please Alanis, stop interupting, and just laughing at everything, it is very messy to listen to for a hsp, can´t listen more than 20 minutes, and I really wanted to hear what dr Aron had to say :/
I don't know how anyone who is a true HSP can tolerate this interview!!! Like another person commented, I only made it 20 minutes in. So disappointing because I wanted to hear the expert!!!
I loved listening to this conversation. I am French, and I try to find videos about being highly sensitive. However could someone tell me if when you talk about Highly sensitive person, does it also refers to "gifted" person? I believe "gifted" people are highly sensitive person...? I am trying to find if Dr; Elaine Aron is talking about it too. Thank you if anyone has some answers.
I love u 2 except alot of days i dont know if i should take a left are right. U know what i mean. I can here u talking over me. Maybe if u took the time to interview me. We could fix this problem. Think about that.
I love this episode! Upon re-listening and hearing the part where Alanis asks Elaine, "What about plants?" and Elaine answers that we don't know about plants[1], I wanted to mention "Sensitive Plant," or Mimosa pudica[2]. It's a whole species, not a minority of individual plants within a species (like highly sensitive humans and other animals), but it seems relevant to this conversation nonetheless. --- [1] ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-l6fXYBqw-tM.htmlm24s [2] en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mimosa_pudica
Alanis wasted a good opportunity here, by side-lining Elaine ... demonstrating a lack of humility and intellectual curiosity. VERDICT : - Shallow, inadequate housewife interviews pioneering hero.
