Escaping ADHD Rabbit Holes with Dr. Sharon Saline, PsyD 

I relate to this! I use RU-vid or audio books while washing dishes, cleaning, driving, cooking. All the boring stuff that’s so hard to do with ADHD.

@@mrjohncrumpton I'm grateful for Bluetooth 🤣

I have always learned things during my sleep by listening to recorded information and since discovering podcasts about 5 years ago I have found them very useful for being able to make my brain quieter so that I can get to sleep. So many great subjects to listen to for free.

This is me totally

I agree. I struggle, struggle with my phone use. It's as compulsive as any drug.

I've just zoned out of an ADHD podcast that 2½ hours long! This one *is* my latest rabbit hole. It caught my attention because it was about rabbit holes. I go down lots of rabbit holes, and was intrigued - but I d6think I can handle another long video.

Agree. These typical neurotypicals telling us how we're supposed to solve our problems, not making these solutions accessible to us.

@@kyootzee it does feel like these videos have clickable headlines but really it's just professional development and a bit of professional sharing for psychs

@@irenalovesart4064 totally! access to treatment is another barrier for people with ADHD. they won't just give the good advice away for free. In this case we have to work it. 😉

@@kyootzee I'm not sure it's that in this case, but I could be wrong. I think it's more a case of misunderstanding or intentionally ignoring RU-vid conventions. It's a reposted, unedited lecture rather than a deliberate podcast or ted talk type. I think though that chapters is an easy option here

What was the technique ?

Wow have you heard of LOWER case 😂😂😂

Same here, exactly! I have always wanted kids, and now it's too late.

I’m so sad reading this. 4 of my closest friends are women in their 50s who are single, no kids. They are unrelated - different friend groups. I find each of them fascinating because of the freedom and joy and authenticity with which they live. All of them in different ways are constantly steering themselves with further education, and new groups, new adventures. They all have nieces, nephews or god children who they Pamper. They have created special and meaningful relationships with these young people that are so enriching. I’m somewhat jealous of their spirit, and now that I become an empty nester, I learning from them how to live again. I don’t know you. Won’t tell you how to feel. But I’m sending you a big hug and maybe some comfort in knowing that working moms, stay at home moms and single gals all go through this midlife sense of regret (st least that’s what I’m seeing). I think this is our cue to figure out what we want next in life. Namaste ❤

Volunteer with youths. They could use your mentorship. I have 4 kids 11-16 and I feel deeply regretful that I didn't do anything with my life. After raising them, I have a husband who resents me not being a financial contributor...so it isn't very nice being 43 and being unemployable either. I'm starting over right now and scared every day.

@@cagedmaiden You have 4 kids and your husband resents you not being a financial contributor?? I would think he would be glad his kids have a mother who is there for them, and who isn't too mentally, emotionally, and perhaps physically drained from work to be able to fully devote herself to her kids. Many husbands wish their wives would stay home with the kids, but the wives don't want that to be their "identity". Once it became common for women to work outside the home, the general attitude was that it was passe to not do so. As we're becoming aware of the effects of lack of parenting on our society, people are affording more respect to stay-at-home parents, recognizing the importance (and difficulty) of that job. When I was growing up, my family was super poor, but I always felt lucky my mom was a stay-at-home mom/wife/housekeeper/etc, while most of my friends' parents both worked. I wouldn't have traded that for any amount of money. Maybe that arrangement created more of a financial burden for my parents, and I think of that as a sacrifice they made for their children. It wasn't like my mother was an amazing mom (didn't spend much time with us), cook (think "Hamburger helper", frozen vegetables, canned soup, ham sandwiches) or housekeeper (the house probably could have used dusting and vacuuming more often). None of that is as important as simply being there, in my opinion (I do think, though, it is important that she was a good example for us, such as by reading instead of watching TV. She also thoroughly ingrained the "golden rule" into our consciences). I'm not a mother, but I can at least speak from the perspective of having had a stay-at-home mother. Children of a stay-at-home parent know without a doubt that they are the most important things in the world to their parent, that they are pretty much their world. They know that if they need their parent at any moment, they will there for them. It's a feeling of having a safety net always close by, giving them the courage to confidently spread their wings. What a gift to give your children. It will affect them the rest of their lives. If I had kids, that's the only way I would have wanted to do it. I was always open to having a stay at home husband though, because I truly don't know if I've ever had what it takes to be a mother. Going to work every day is easy; being a parent is obviously not. I'm thankful to every stay-at-home parent out there, because I think their children probably, on average, turn out to be the more mentally and emotionally healthy and capable adults when it comes time for their generation to run the world. I hope your kids realize how fortunate they are, and that they decide to raise any kids they might have in a stay-at-home-parent household, as well. Sorry for the tangent. I'm just kind of passionate about that subject, and I'm dismayed that your husband doesn't appreciate what you do as much as (I believe) he should. I'm sorry for the way you are feeling at this time in your life. I guess there are things to regret for anyone, wondering what it would have been like down that path they didn't take when they made a decision at a fork in their road. I hope you find the contentment and fulfilment in life that you strive for - that we all strive for. Peace to you and yours.

@@cagedmaiden By the way, eliminating the need for childcare for 4 kids is very much financially contributing.

😆 I had to check it out to see what scared your cat, and I can clearly imagine a cat reacting to that. 🤣 Ah I miss having cats 😏

Get a dog. Not kidding.

Probably exercise, cold plunge, eat proteins.

I can't try the body-doubling idea because I dislike communicating with people, and I can't make myself do so. Because of that, I have no friends that are actively in my life. Any friendship I do start to develop, quickly dissipates as I don't do my part to maintain it.

Same here. ✅🎯☹️