I think I’ve had a revelation. I’m a Right Up woman trying to dress in a Right Down way. All of the styles I’ve been interested in or attempted in the last year or so- Light Academia, soft retro (not quite soft girl), preppy, Parisian, etc.- are very Right Down. At the same time, I know I’ve been trying to cultivate a “soft, approachable” image. After a while, though I enjoy these styles, I find myself rebelling against the softness and craving something powerful and dramatic. I’ve been telling myself, “People don’t care how strong you are. They just want someone relatable and non-threatening.” I’ve often felt like my personality is too intense and that I should tone it down, and tread lightly to avoid causing problems. There is also a bit of “I am a woman, and this is how women should dress.” Funnily enough, based on how people respond to me and comments they’ve made about me, some of that Right Up demeanor must be leaking through even when I wear sweatpants. I guess I can’t hide. And maybe I should stop trying.
Soft gamine is your type.because most of the right down celebrities mentioned above are looking best when they are wearing soft gamine lines in their outfits.
Yes! This is the first time I've instantly been able to say "this is me" in a style system. 100% right-down here. I'm something of a Soft Classic in Kibbe, or a Classic/Romantic, and I think it's easy to make that work within this quadrant. I relate especially to when you say it's hard for RDs to be "edgy". No matter how much I've tried over the years to pull off edgier looks, I always look awkward in them. Understated, approachable, radiant - all of those. I don't wear light or pale colours very well, but I agree that it's possible to be RD even when you suit darker colours better.
I love the intro where you mention different aesthetics that fit the quadrant. It'd be really interesting if you do a video where you sort popular aesthetics into the quadrants. Meanwhile, what quadrant do you think dark academia is in? I can't seem to pinpoint its quadrant, so I'd love to here your take!
Omg that's such a good question. I've been thinking about it too. I think its left+up when it's extravagant and as a persona but in the more casual iterations left+down where it's about ease and freedom Ultimately it's meant to be very intriguing, mysterious, magnetic etc. The ultimate college lost girl 😂 I love the idea of placing different aesthetics and have been thinking about a video on that! So thanks for the encouragement
I’ve been waiting for that. Just want to comment on you as a couple. It melts my heart and I have a constant smile on my face seeing how you two communicate with each other. Every single word one says is deeply appreciated and welcomed by the other, your eyes are so lit up looking at each other, the love you both share radiates out and reaches me all the way down here in Germany. It truly is lovely! I wish for the both of you that you can preserve and cherish this wonderful love forever!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Rita, I suspect you have many mature/middle-aged women as clients and fans. It would be awesome if you could incorporate some older celebrities into your examples too. I know they are probably not as frequently photographed or stars of street style so it is likely much more difficult. You could certainly do features on what you would suggest or buy for them given their place in the system and their visible/known essence. Loving your videos, your enthusiasm and Meradj is adorable!
Ever since your system came out I knew I was Down, but couldn't tell if I was Right or Left. I watched the Left/Down videos and felt like "okay, this could be me", but with this video I kept pointing at the screen saying "Yes! That's me!". I'm a Kibbe SC, not sure if there's some correlation there. I understood that there's a spectrum within each quadrant that I didn't get before; I feel more drawn to Sofia Coppola and she's quite near the Left and Up limits, so maybe that's why it wasn't so evident for me.
I was having such a hard time placing my color season. So i just decided until i could get draped i would just wear colors i enjoy, bright pinks!! And as soon as i allowed myself that, i have been having a huge style revolution and realized i have been trying to hide myself in clothing by wearing black and baggy clothes and i have completely lost myself. I was inspired to watch your videos again and this feels so accurate for me. Most of my wardrobe is made up of outfits that kate middleton would wear but i never wear them because most people around me are not wearing them. I realize now its because this is my style and thats okay!! I still don't know what quadrant I fall into but I'm giving myself permission to just wear what I want from now on
I think the best way to style someone is lines + personality + energy. This video makes totally sense for me. Also because not all kibbe assigned celebrities need to be a stereotype to fit the system. You can have a long line and still be cute, or you can have a short line and be strong looking
Thank you for this! At 66, it actually made me cry with relief: that’s why I’ve never wanted to carry a bag, that’s why I often have had to add something silly to my outfits (radish earrings 🤣), that’s why Ive always gone to my closet and wondered what I wanted to express to the world that day, and that’s why my poor mom and ex-husband got so frustrated with me and tried to make me wear things I’d actually, just like your video says, would claw at and try to remove as the night/day went on!! Thank you, thank you! Also: you and Majid are beyond adorable together!! ❤️❤️❤️
Wow I never been first lol. The way I screamed when I saw the thumbnail. 🤣 Then I was geeking out over Issa Rae being in the thumbnail. I've loved her since ABG and her style is phenomenal. I defintely found my quadrant.
the "signs" section really feels right to me! I think one of my friends is right + up and she hates feeling like she's dressed up, and she loves showing skin but not feeling sexy, and when she wants to go to a formal event she can spend a lot of time trying to look casual. on the other hand, for me and my more up friends, the goal is to look like we put a lot of effort in even if we actually just threw things! we've had excited discussions about how great a few dresses and a good red lipstick are for appearing more formal in a few minutes when we wake up late and don't have time to do up all our buttons and put on a full face, and the blank looks from the down people in the room finally make sense. of course right + down people can look great and comfortable in a dress and red lipstick, and be very intentional, but the goal isn't putting on this mask or armor or (true-to-self) costume like it is for some of us who are more up
Yes I LOVE my outfits that are effortless to put on but look so fancy/polished/thoughtful. What a game changer. I used to think that looking fancy == tons of effort to get dressed and fussy to wear, it was great to release that concept. As you say, a great dress and lipstick (and in my case shoes and earrings!) are amazing!
I also think the right+down people can sometimes be insecure about their downness and so then you feel like YOU'RE "trying so hard" and "not being chill", because they kind of imply everyone should just be easy breezy It's been helpful for me to realize that it's just their own (very valid 💖) style struggles and that it doesn't mean I have to try and fit in with the super easy styles
Love seeing Issa Rae and Sofia Coppola here. I resonate with the playfulness - sometimes I reject tons of clothing options because they aren't "funny" enough. I examined why that unusual word kept coming up for me and I think there's a playfulness when designers reference vintage clothing or make some unusual choice in the cut or pattern. I call it "funny" because it makes me laugh with surprise or interest when I see it. Dressing perfectly for an occasion, or dressing to be purely sexy or pretty seems too dull and not a good expression of my personality.
7 out of 7 on the signs! This made so much sense for me! I'm somewhere between Kibbe SC and SG and have had trouble finding that balance. It's so funny how much you mention the sun and light, because for a while I have described my "aesthetic" as the sunrise--fresh, free, and authentic! This has been such a helpful tool, and I can't wait to use it to help style myself more true my essence!
So crazy jealous of this quadrant! They just look so amazingly sweet, radiant, inspiring... Yeah all the keywords 😆 without even trying to hard (or so it seems). And the aesthetic...I'm a little in love. Very illuminating for me, as I can really see how much this is just not me and how much I've always tried to be more like this 😅 i think I can start to appreciate the aesthetic on other people now, without trying to adopt it :) Thank you both so much for this lovely system! 💕
I just started watching this channel tonight but I can already feel that I will start to appreciate other’s aesthetics without trying to adopt. I’m really jealous of the personas created in the top left quadrant. Like Zoe Kravitz. Or the dreamy/refined or luminous/refined looks in the top right quadrant like the examples shown for Zoe Saldana and Lupita. Although not to brag I think I can pull off the Lupita+ Zoe looks that I admire 😏
Very insightful about misplacing yourself in this category! I think I really tried that for a while and it was very much “an effective and powerful form of self-erasure” 👀 I think I grew up really admiring that vibe and it’s definitely been a journey to accept my own vibe! Excited for the left down video!!
I really really like the Illuminatrix descriptor. If it wasn't a word, it is now! :) I resonated a lot with your description of it. I also really appreciate that you talked about Reese Witherspoon being gamine and therefore needing a little more animation than other right + down women.
I’ve watched this a bunch of times as I started to think I might be right down. I’ll wait for the last video before a final decision. But I’m pretty sure this is me. I’m very much a tomboy but I look best when I lean into ny femininity. And now I realize I’ve been trying to be edgy and too far left. When I reviewed the video again today I finally heard you say it’s really hard for a right down woman to be edgy. Wow. That blew my mind. And I totally agree. I’m starting to feel liberated from my fashion mistakes! Thank you!!
Hello! Thank u for your patience and interest in this system! 💖 NEW: I'm testing out a captioning service. I hope that the captions are good, lmk if they help! 💖 I know some people find the music distracting or bothersome. Thank you for letting me know! A music free version is here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-4EhYmCH_ODU.html ❤ 7 Style Talk spots left for this summer -- see stylethoughtsbyrita.com/consultations for info! ❤ Talk to me on Instagram and see many daily style thoughts at @stylethoughtsbyrita ❤ and if you speak Swedish and want to support Meradj, check out his (non-style related) podcast Första Lagen, available everywhere with podcasts. open.spotify.com/show/0TsWYYthrhq4GUAddVKJd3
This resonated so much with me as a Soft Natural, Warm spring, sun/illuminatrix exterior and ice queen interior... I like how you understand the other aspects of life that affect how we dress.
The “quiz” towards the end was interesting to me because I agreed with all the points you made, but when I think about what I feel best in, I’m not sure I’m a Right+Down. I think I connect with the “Down” part? I’m curious to see your Left+Down video.
This was great! I actually suggested Sofia so that was exciting. My other thought was Kirsten Dunst but maybe she’s more left. And totally agree about Alexa! She very much has and exudes a persona, I think.
I feel so seen by this styling advice. I have struggled with finding my own authentic style for a really long time and this feels so true and right. I think pre-COVID I was trying really hard to be a Right+Up- dressing to impress and intimidate to compensate for feeling less than enough. But now I feel more like a Right+Down. I am so excited to go home tonight and look at my closet with new eyes.
I'll wait for the left+down video but I think this is my spot! All the keywords you mentioned align really well with my preferred style and I think a combination like Refined+Approachable best describes how I want to come off. One of the outfits I feel most like myself is slim fit jeans, a bright colored sweater and an oversized men's short poking underneath. It's put together but it's also fun and a little unexpected. I'd say I'm something like a third to the right and half way down, but the comparison of The Sweethearts to flowers makes me think I could be more extreme (a close friend once vividly described me as three different flowers!)
I suspected I belong to this quadrant, but I was watching the outfits and thinking 'i wouldn't really wear this...' But then you get to the 7 signs and I'm like 'yap, yap, yap....' And then you give the keywords and I'm like 'exactly!'. So I guess I like it a bit more casual than those ladies, but with even more interesting accessories, like I have a necklace that is a sword and I love it because it 'cuts' all that softness in an unexpected way! Also, couldn't help but notice both Dakota and Saoirse are Soft Classics, like me. Maybe this quadrant is our home, but I kinda wish I belonged to the left+down quadrant.
Well you have to consider that they are all millionaire celebrities so their outfits are always going to be not super applicable! So they are more like conceptual illustrations I think But also...Saiorse to me is not a SC she is a straight up Dramatic. She is very narrow and elongated, I really don't see the balance for her at all!
All the tips and hints resonate with me. I feel really uncomfortable in clothes that aren't even that sexy on other people, but on myself it feels so unnatural! The only thing I slightly disagree with is that I love statement jewelry that's visible and purposeful, otherwise it feels like "what is the point of the jewelry??" Thanks for these pointers Rita!!
Hi rita, another awesome video..also thanks for including the key words. I don't mind watching long videos at all. I'd be all attention when the two of you talk. I am bit confused between right up and right down now. Like say gossip girl lead Serena and miranda kerr's style. I guess I need to train my eyes more. Also, I have noticed this when I don't dress at all I look so beaten down , but a swish of eyeliner and lipstick and earrings make me look glam ...is that a parameter of any of the quadrants...with each video I realise this deep stuff and I appreciate your hard work and generosity in sharing this type of knowledge 👍👌
I really love the way you are approaching style from another perspective. I can very well relate to. So much looking forward to the left+down review which might suit me best from what I learned so far. Amazing work Rita 🙌🏾 and I love your spirit as a couple, very sweet and flirty 💕
This is my first time watching this video and it's so me it's kind of crazy 😮! Also I want to say the descriptions you use honestly made me cry with joy. It feels so uplifting and happy and really made me feel so good (I wasn't feeling the greatest before watching this tbh). This video really uplifted my spirits. Thank you for that 💖
Hi Rita. Thanks so much for finally putting this video together. Through elimination I feel that this is the type where I belong. Don't worry about the pronouncation. A lot of those names are not English and we can't pronounce them. Waiting for Down Left.
It's so on point that for me the right+down it is the classic beauty, and it's true when I try it it makes me dissappear as left down. Never thought that style and clothes can be such an inner work.Thank you Rita💗
Barely started the video but have to say, I love how you obviously are crazy about your husband, whom I heard you call, in another video, your“beautiful angel”.
I do love this essence approach. You've got me thinking about the flowers thing, though. I know my favourite flower-arrangements are sort of intense, sculptural and a little odd, eg sunflowers and some dark roses. I know I'm trying to achieve that in my clothing, but somehow can't map it across. Argh! I think I'm probably up-right somewhere.
i'm either right down or left down, hopefully this next video narrows it down for me! thank you for all the time you spend creating this content, it is so helpful! the music was a lovely addition, though at times it was a bit hard to hear what you guys were saying. if it was just a bit softer i think it would be perfect! thank you again for a great video, i'm excited for the next.
@@StyleThoughtsbyRita Dear Rita, my thoughts on the music addition≥........ YOU DON"T NEED IT! 🤗 You are both so well thought out and intuitively expressive that the music just can't add anything else. Watching your other videos on your system I got so carried away listening; I was having so many connective associative thoughts as you both spoke that you took me on a real journey of realising so many insightful things myself while watching and then and so sadly I couldn't get into that place again with this video; I feel the music addition is repetitive and on the same frequency continually so your mind can't dance away and absorb the deeper parts of your system because you keep getting pulled back by the sound. Well I'm a HSP and I have real trouble zoning that kind of sensory stimulations out and truely your wisdom and insights don't need the gimmick that background music can often be. But you are the creative geniuses so you do what you feel. I just wanted to vouch for your more than enoughness.
Thanks so much for these! It came out when I was on the road a few weeks back so I wasn't able to comment then but you deserve all the engagement boosts in the world
Omg, the “signs” section resonates with me so much! I tried relating to the other quadrants, and can vaguely connect to left down and right up, but right down is an absolutely perfect fit! Thank you so much. Looking forward to more!
I didn't get the questions right, but I'm dressing right down right now .. what does it mean, do I underdress? 😃🤣 PS you two are just so adorable together, the love you have for each other shines through every move and every word. Love it! 💖💜
Yes, I believe that this is me. Very educational. I recall hearing that when celebrities are dressed or posed they are "given" clothes by the big name designers. These designers use celebrities as a form of advertisement. They are being use as "hangers". The designers do not want viewers to see the celebrity but to see the clothes. The clothes are the main focal point and the celebrity is to be invisible. What do you think? Also what about Coconut Girl Style? I think it's Right - Down. What do you think?
I initially thought I was left+down, but I think I want to be. Everything intuitively is right +down but I've always suppressed it for many years I feel like
I haven’t finished the video yet but I’m already certain this is me. Although, my parents pushed my style into this quadrant growing up and I rebelled. I really felt like I was the left down quadrant as a teen. I dressed like Olivia Rodrigo or tomboyish. Some of the archetypes in that quadrant really scream team fad to me. I will always feel comfortable in the natural full acceptance approach of the ladies that fall into that quadrant. Now, I can really say Illuminatrix/Sweetheart is me even without the push from external sources. Also, I’ve been following Geraldine on insta for a while now because her style feels simple and fun. Rita, where do you think the whimsical fashion of Christina Ricci’s Penelope falls into? Penelope’s clothes remind me of Zooey Deschanel. What do you think?
What a great system! Thank you for these videos. I am also thankful I have kept my old selfies and outfit photos from as far as 2013 so when I now look back, I can see the clear Down essence I have. I just cannot pinpoint if I am more to the Left or Right: due to insecurities it seems I might have been more Left for "natural styling", but I do look quite natural essence-wise in the Right leaning styles. And, consequently, I have wished for this R+D looking style for so many years! It's just that I feel that it doesn't fit the life I work in, where styles needed are very dark, conservative & maybe more L+U or somewhere in the middle. And again I come to this same dilemma; what essence is most insecure about doing their own thing, haha? The style things I do are never in align with what I wish for - for some odd reason that I still haven't cracked. Oh to forget all of my culture's scrutiny against feminine styles and I could be free...
I can relate a little bit to the right + down women but my outfits doesn't read right + Down. Do you know why that is? Does it make sense? I place myself on the Left + Up. To me, Alexa Chung is Right + Up. Her whole demeanor and outfits read Effort and a little bit mysterious. Women who are Right + Down gives off the impression that you can dress like them and look as good (of course reality says otherwise hahaha). Women who are Right + Up gives off the impression that thier outfits are not that easy to pull off. Just by looking at her and her outfits, I feel like I would have to work harder just to look as good as her. She also looks good in suits. Even when she's not wearing suits, the clothes she wear gives off suit vibes. Also, to me, whenever she does interviews and converate with people, it seems like she has a bit persona.
Welllllll it's possible to relate to other people even if that's not "the most" you. Or maybe you are "meant to be" in the right+down. Or maybe something else? Anything is possible And I totally get what you mean about Alexa. I was just surprised because I had always assumed she was the "chic minimal elegant woman". But now I see that she's more on the Up.
@@StyleThoughtsbyRita If a Right + Down wear some of Alexa outfits, would they still be able to look like themselves? Or would it look like it’s too much? Some of her outfits do appear minimal. Is it minimal enough?
@@tashapie3711 great question!!!! Yes I think its Alexa the person who is right up, I think her style has a lot of very right+down appeal and many of her outfits are great for sime right+down women!!!
@@StyleThoughtsbyRita The last person in my family to speak Swedish was my great grandmother, so I don't have to listen to you! LOL. Just kidding. I figured it'd be that way. Always is. Although I think I could be this one too after watching. And actually I know guys said it's more important that you're right or left, but for me I think it's up and down. I'm def down.
@@fifimsp maybe it’s more important for up people to be in the correct right or left category and for down people it’s more important to be down instead of right or left? because when you’re look is extra it’s more obvious when you’re in the wrong side (r or l) and when you’re a casual person it’s more awkward when you’re trying too hard in any category? Just guesses :) they’re still trying to work out / explore their system right?
So, I am willing to bet the farm that Kibbe would see me as FN but I feel that I am erased by too much size, weight or drama I am a right+ down and while I do like to carry a medium-large bag because I like to carry lots of stuff (books, notebooks, glasses, medications, lip balm and hand cream) it has to be a cross body or back-pack style because I must have free hands and I have to admit that the cross body can quickly look too big on me. I have found that a rounded shape is better than the sharp corners of a rectangle.
I may be wrong about right down....my challenge is that I feel like that right down person inside but they may not be what others are seeing first. I keep getting told I am refined and regal looking so I am working on adding tiaras and sceptres to my wardrobe.
First I though those two are supposed to be friends. However in this and other videos I have seen such a bright chemistry between them! I was thinking something like “yeahhh friends 😉😏” Took me long time to finally hear in some video that they are married 😅
Of the women I work with, 50% know their quadrant (even if they are unsure) and 50% are very confused but really get excited when I explain where they fit in. It's hard to see ourselves!
@@StyleThoughtsbyRita Agree on both Meryl and Gigi! Princess Diana also came to mind: she was a princess, yes, but maybe that's why people loved her so much, she was "one of the people" and seemed so relatable
This is so interesting, but what’s the rationale behind having music playing in the background? It’s so distracting and gave me a headache. Is there a practical reason for it?
@@velmavlogs7693 No worries! We are just testing out some editing ideas. I personally think the music is nice and chill, but I totally understand that some people find any extras stimulating. Also, I have found the music sounds way nicer when I view on my computer versus my phone. Anyway, I'm definitely not committed to having the music in all future videos and I will at least always offer a music-free option. Thank u for your feedback!
@@StyleThoughtsbyRita thank you for the options! I imagine that is more work and effort to do both. I have some sensory sensitivities and depending on the day I can see both having personal value. So very thoughtful❤❤❤
Thanks for your extensive analysis to find your type (why I can't find my type) after an extensive search I'm back at FN :) hey FN sister , especially after watching Bo Derek and Amy Adams (they are also some smaller) is the only logical outcome , Furthermore, I think you look nice! Have a nice weekend gr Sigrid
Thank you for another fun video 😊 Would you say that the "too much" factor would also be present in make up? Conversely, would some of the four quadrants be more likely to suit more minimal make up or is it more individual?
I think its kind of individual, but I think that the right+down intuitive makeup for me is "gentle". If you are like Geraldine and are a SD with a deeper complexion, I think a black smokey gentle eyeliner can be "gentle" but on someone with very soft and pale features like Saiorse I would go for very simple. I think left down often looks good with a bit more expressive makeup that highlights their facial features and structure (whether that's minimal or a bit more "edgy"). Whereas for left and right up I think it's all about completing the look with the makeup!
Hi Rita Love your work.❤ Someone mentioned in the comments the left down videos they watched. Have you already done them? If so I cant find them. 😥. I'm quite certain that's where I fit and would love to see them. Thank you both for the dedication and thought you've put into your system.
I thought i was right down😅 well im not 😎 i’m a dramatic/dramatic classic dresser with a Flamboyant flaire to it…hate bags! But love hats and if i put on jewelery im blinging it out!
I think I am between Kibbe SD and FN but I am not sure. I am really drawn to 80-90s styles, and love FN looks but I feel like I looke to busty and misshaped in FN. I think maybe if I lost weight it would change how I feel.
ok so for the 1st time since watching you 2 years ago I get it now because there are a bit more visuals to explain, show examples. I couldn't understand and felt overwhelmed by so many words from you in the past (I think you are NLP auditory and am visual hence why I couldn't relate) - it's just an observation for you 😀😀. Now my question is - is it me who chooses the quadrant or you? I naturally like understated but in the Kibbe groups, they want me to be SG or TR and I can't relate to all that detail/fuss, I like SC lol. So my aesthetic is understated but my body may look better in something completely different hence my question to you on how to select a quadrant. I don't get that. Am not sure which archetype I am, there are so many it is confusing to me but let's get the quadrant out of the way first! thank you 😘
Great video as always Rita :) im a bit confused here, i am prob a DC in the Kibbe system who strongly identifies with the right-down vibe but dont like too "girly" styles and also need some sensual elements in my clothing, what would your suggestions be ? Thanks again for your super interesting and inspiring videos ❤😊
To be fair I think a lot of the "French minimalism" "London girl" type outfits are very elegant and not too feminine (if you exclude floral ditsy dresses) But in general we all have bodies and all want some sensual enjoyment with the clothes I would ask which right+down keywords work for you and see how to create that. For example, "inspiring and approachable" or "luminous and personable" -- what does it look like when your outfit ISN'T setting that mood?
Thank you so much for your answer 😊😊 so i really feel represented by all of the keywords in right-down, perhaps most as dreamy-illuminating-approachable... but i love the Selena Gomez video you made and could really identify with the elegant sensuality that you talked about. I also love the rock-chic aesthetic haha! I feel best when i have both light AND dark colours on me and i also love sleek femininity as in sensuality versus girly which i dont like if you see what i mean... i seem so complicated hahaha !
Hi, Rita! I'm a Right +Down. Thank you both for this advice! And you're right about the struggle with bags. 🤭 I'm also a romantic in the Kibbe system, and sometimes I feel like there's something missing in my simple outfits. Do you have any recommendations?
@@GenesisAcevedoDeChacon you're not alone with the question of combining Kibbe and right+down, I will talk about this in detail in upcoming videos in a few weeks 🌸
