Expat John, No More Love on the Run, Relationships in the Philippines July 12, 2020 

I've watched the follow-up interview with John....2 years later, he's broke, heart broken and shipwrecked. He is too gullible for the Philippines and doesn't learn from his experiences. The best thing for him would be to leave the Philippines ASAP.

John still had life in his eyes back then

Long distance relationship do NOT work in any country or race. He fattened up her bank account and she got smarter. Hmm this guy will give me anything I want. Now she got her education money and a boyfriend her age. This is for all you guys thinking of getting a young Pino lady, would you go after a woman who is 20 to 30 years older then you? Or could you date a pretty young girl in your city that much younger then you, the answer is No. If your not meeting pretty girls in your city that want you what makes you think all the girls in the Philippines will? Your handsome there because they think your rich and can provide for her and don't forget her family also. Wake Up all you Guys.

After 15 years of hearing these stories, which are always almost identical, they never get old.

I’m a filipina and a Nurse here in the US. I understand how you guys feel. All we do here is work, work and work. It’s becoming too depressing. All I do is do paperwork after work. I don’t even have time to workout anymore. Now I’m learning some online selling so I can go back home as often as I want. Corporate crap is getting into me.

It was the money from the beginning, middle, and end...

I want to thank John for being brave enough to tell this story and show his face. By doing so, he will keep other guys from making the same mistake. God bless you Sir.

I'm sorry but this dude was an absolute shmuck. Seems nice and all but 100% book Intelligence and 0% Street intelligence. That formula equals getting played or scammed or whatever you want to call it. Educate yourself gentlemen. Both with books and life lessons. Both are very important. The life lessons even more so I believe. Let this guy's screw up be our lesson. If it seems even in the slightest way shady, then it probably is.

I met my wife as a pen friend 1990. I visited Manila to meet her then visited her family in Davao City. I managed to get her over to London on a fiancée visa. We got married in London 3 months later . We have two kids boy and girl. Both in their 20s. We now have a little granddaughter. We are still together,. I think if you are going to get married, you have to live with her either in the Philippines or your home country.

We love your videos! Anyway I met my Filipino lady in Hong Kong. She’d been there working as a domestic helper for over 20 years. We got married there in August of 2014. We had 1 marriage reception in Hong Kong and then flew to the Philippines and had another family reception at the family farm in Cagayan Valley. Wonderful beautiful country there. We spent a total of 15 days together before we both flew out, with her going back to Hong Kong and me flying back to Kentucky. I started petitions to get her to the USA as soon as I got home in September of 2014 and finally got her to America/USA on the 12th day of June in 2016. The best news is we filed all the necessary documents and paperwork since she arrived here in America and she became a U.S. Citizen on December 10th 2020. If we had to do it over, we’d do it again. If she asked me to move to the Philippines I’d agree to that in a heartbeat, but she likes it here so much that I doubt if that will happen. We are now living in Southern Indiana and are living a simple life in the country with our chickens and growing a garden.

Thailand has hundreds of thousands of similar stories. I avoided such assisting a few expats recover & get home. Just before this pandemic, 68 yr old educated guy from San Diego; had lost his US wife of 42 yrs to a long battle suffering battle w/cancer. He was & is still devastated, yet he moved to Thailand. Immediately a young lady clung onto him w/sympathy, consoling him. Over a 6 month period, she took him $18,000 US Dollars ...in finding out, I dragged him to the train heading to Bangkok, he flew back to the US the next day before she got the last of his savings. She was some pissed at me ...hehehe We later found out through respectable folks in this small city, he wasn't her 1st victim. There ARE many wonderful, honest, caring men & ladies on planet earth ...some actually have a strong faith. When a lady partner of yours gets up each night at 3 AM and has prayer time with God, THEN ...you know you have a keeper! ....Right Paul?

Don't feel bad man we all have our stories most of us had been scammed at least once both here and there!

I found out about , "Not looking for someone', Really works. Take your time. Care for yourself. You will be rewarded with a good surprise

I got here about the same time he did, main difference was i had my sister in laws mom set me up with a "good girl". she is a province girl and i love the heck out of her. we have been together since i got here and we plan on getting married (my 2nd time) and she is pregnant. It took some time and we had to work out some things (mostly cultural differences) but we got through all that and both of us are very happy. BTW i had given up looking for a woman while in the US (i was a homeless disabled combat airborne ranger for 2 years) and did not ask my sis in law to do this for me. she just saw how i was and wanted me to be happy like her and my brother are, she also knew i was planning on moving to the Philippines for medical reasons (cold weather cripples me), and price of living (i live off of my 100% VA disability). although i hate this quarantine stuff I am much happier then i have been for nearly 10 years

We should all thank John for his candor and humility in sharing his experience. There is no shame in what you did for this girl. It could have turned out great. Hindsight is perfect but if we never take a chance for romance, it can't happen. But we all have open eyes about long distance relationships that include substantial financial support. Thank you John.

Won't be the first. Won't be the last. If anything comes out of this clip, it's hopefully that anyone watching this in the early stages of a relationship from afar with a similar theme. That this should be a wake up call for anyone being taken advantage of.

Paul, tell the guy there is no need to pay an attorney. I divorced my ex Filipina wife in the US as well, and all I had to do is go to the US embassy last year in the Philippines and bring the divorce papers and they gave me the cenomar. Tell the guy just to take his divorce papers to the embassy and pay about $50 for his cenomar. No need to talk to an attorney, they may try to take him to the bank!

Don't matter how old men get, "I was young and dumb" really sticks out.

This guy screws up twice

Paul, just like my pal Jeffery told me -- if it flys, floats, or f*ks, you're better off renting it, OK?

I loved watching this... the spirit of John is great and the wisdom and professionalism of Paul is admirable. THANKS.

Thanks so much Paul for sharing this. And thank you John for being so candid. Sometimes I think what happened to me is I gave a Filipina an offer she couldn't refuse. She was ~40 so I thought she was grown up but now I'm not sure. I think she loved me but not the way a wife needed to love her husband. I brought her here to US and she quickly changed. In the end, I feel she didn't really feel for me what I felt for her. The thing that scares me is how can you tell, when you really love a woman, is she loves "what you can do for her" or really love you. I don't trust myself to be able to tell the difference ; I don't know if I can ever get past it. I know security is part of it, and it's really about commitment and a decision to be with one person, but what happens when you get older or are too boring or not rich enough. At her core are you really her one and only, or just the best offer she could find.

John seems like a nice enough guy. My thought is that only spending 40 days a year, expecting a solid relationship, is a HUGE risk. Can it be done..yes. Is it being done ..yes. But wheew, I would never suggest taking that route. Either bring her back there or come here to live. You cannot exist in two worlds at the same time. It is either one or the other. People get lonely, people get tempted..people can fall short and fail.

It was nice to hear John's story. I can relate to much of it right here in the USA. And it's good to know what to expect in the Philippines. I'm sure John will meet the right girl soon. He has good values.

You are so nice John, i hope you will find the right woman. Thank you for saying you love the Philippines although you had failed marriage with a Filipina.

John is a good example that long distance relationships ,dont work , I visited the Philippines for business and fun for 5 years until i realised this , I feel that if John lived with her ,things would have been different for them , before I met Sarah I was with girls that had boyfriends in America or Australia , I would be sleeping with one not knowing this , and the next day she would say to me her Australian bf was visiting in a couple of days so she cant see me for a little while , if you want to find a Filipina to marry you have to come to the Philippines to live

Great interview , great work Paul. Going back to the "marriage" subject... I feel that there is no benefits in getting married, no matter where. if 2 people are committed to each other there is no need for the government to step in

I am glad that John is still optimistic. Every time I go to the Philippines, I have a relaxing time and meet new, friendly people. I am looking forward to having some coffee or sticky rice with you guys next summer.

We met for a reason, either you’re a blessing or a lesson

Never marry a filipina you met in a pub or in dating sites unless you to know her physically for a long time. Look for filipina by yourself, visit the philiippines. Younger filipinas still prefer their own kind but there is always an exception so they say. Meet someone 30yish and older, career filipina women may treat you better. Then again, it takes two to tango, settle in if you ready.

Good luck Paul . You are a great guy be a cowboy and be confident within yourself walk tall. And think this woman it’s lucky to be with you. Never put a woman on a pedestal treat them how they treat you.

This is why there are 3 sides to a story. Great vid Paul. Just wanted to mention that John has a lot of pent up anger no matter if he admits it or not...the body language speaks volumes about his toxicity. He is definitely not ready for another marriage :)

Good luck to John in his future endeavours. Looking forward to follow up in a few months time 🙂.

Thank you John for the info. It helps everyone put their own relationship in perspective.

I was once living n working in US, but gladly happy to be back to my country n the city I studied, teach, n is presently free as a bird. Independent is awesome. Doing things I loved to do. For now I am hooked where I am due to this "V" . Oh well, mini market, small n big malls nearby n having my dog around keeps me safe. Relationship, leads to a path of challenges in one's own heart n mind and a lesson to learn. If one's had "faith in God" things be in a right path. 👍😋👍 As this song says.....Somewhere over the🌈 beautiful n joy be there.

Real nice guys. I wish you well John. You will meet her one day. Just stay hopeful.

Great interview. Paul, your interviewing skills are as finely honed as any professional I've ever heard. I guess the bottom line is, be patient, realistic and without any particular expectations. Good luck to you, John... most times, true love happens when you least expect it and when you're not looking for it.

Mabuhay Paul, thank you for sharing this video! Oh my goodness John! I'm so sorry to hear about your tumultuous relationship/experience with a young Filipina. Here's wishing you all the best with your search in love and with your endeavors. Stay safe and healthy always!

This is one of Paul's best interviews IMHO. Expat John seems like a nice guy with a feel good "under-dog story". I am rooting for John to be successful and happy in The Philippines. I am curious about his future as I am also an older guy trying to plan my retirement in the near future. I used to be a bigger fan of Thailand, but now I think that retirement in The Philippines sounds more likely for me. The only subject that makes me reticent about The Philippines are the tough marriage and divorce laws.

I have faith in God that better days are coming for me Thx God it worked out for me Good luck with all the expats in the Philippines God bless our country USA and the Philippines

Great interview as always Paul. John is wound up pretty tight,but seems like a nice enough guy. This is a story heard quite often. I wish him the best,and hopefully he can loosen up a little now.

Good to see John getting back on his feet now. You have been a great support to him. Hope he never forgets the kindness and continues walking a straight line. Hope it works out with his immediate pinoy family.

The hard truth is that this guy needs to realize that he is the only one who will watch his ass. He is too trusting. Marriage is a legally binding contract, he needs to examine what he is putting in harms way versus what she is. The person that has the least to lose will have the most control.

I did the same thing. Many years ago. I found another filipena lady got married and brought her back to the US. Been with her 25 years now. We retired and moved here 10 years now. My advice to foreigners. If you are not ot retired yet is to get them back to your home country. Never do a long distance relationship if you are bouncing back and fourth. You will lose the lady. Ì have know many guys who have gone through it. As well as my self. When the cats away the mice will play.

In life we all pay dearly for different lessons that Manifest in different ways. All that we can do is get back up dust ourselves off and move on. Be grateful that were still alive to be wiser and smarter as we continue to grow. No regrets. It's only bad if we keep repeating the same mistakes. I'm just glad that you survived and live to tell the story.

Great job on discussing the world of Filipina’s and Philippines

Paul thank you for your interviews on the life experiences of foreigners in the Philippines. I can't wait to come back to the Philippines tired of the rat race bs here ground hog day. You and bb mae have a great week God bless.

Lesson learned Not all girls from the province are like that Stay positive

good interview Paul and John. It's great to hear the real stories of other guys. It seems there are a lot of us men searching for their meaningful life.

"I'm no Dr. Phil" ... Yeah Paul. You're significanlty more coherent, unbiased, and insightful. Sub/Like incoming

Dude why would you want to get married again??????? Do like Paul and have a girlfriend

Great guy!!! Good luck John you'll find the one and you sound like the kind of guy that will be welcomed by the people in the Philippines for who you are and not what you have

Good to see the “it’s not all puppies and rainbows” in the Philippines perspective OD. Best wishes to John, he seems like a good fella, I’m sure he will fine the right one in due time.

Props to John for opening up and showing what can happen if you choose the wrong Filipina. It’s easy to ridicule someone like John when you’re on the outside looking in, but when you’re in that situation it becomes a dichotomy of supporting your “wife” and making sure it’s not just a one sided relationship. Regardless, it’s now in his rear view mirror so hopefully he can find a good one now. Good vlog Paul.

Good luck to all the EXPATS

Thank you for sharing , very informative. Good luck finding the right one.

Paul is like "The wise man on the hill".

Fyi. Nice, nice guy. However, nobody goes to school” 12 a day, 6 days a week. “I wish him well. It happened for the best. God bless and good luck in the future.

Exactly what others say! Don't get married! Just date. Have fun like Paul and others.

Hey Paul, .... Another great video. Great job holding it all together. This guy is little high strung, east coast american? Be interesting to see where this guy is at in another year from now if he's still in the Philippines. I do agree with the 9-5 M-F rinse and repeat groundhog day routine gets old. Feels like the hospital is my 2nd home, see and talk to my co-workers more than my wife. I hope the men going to the Philippines for a woman get a better understanding of what it's like meeting women there. LDR, It's much easier to be brave online with video chat that when you finally meet in person. That really becomes the 1st impression when you step off the plane. One thing that can help is to try and exercise patience. The stress of the US should stay there when you land, because the filipina is going to watching your attitude, much like a job interview, to gauge how you are in real life verse the glimpse of what they see on vid chat. Always good to remember that you are not in America and the Philippines will never be America. When in Rome do as the Romans. Simply said exercise Filipino patience and try and take some of that back home to the US when you go. As for marrying in Philippines I think it's much better to do a fiance visa and marry stateside if planning to still live and work in America. The visa process is quicker to bring her to the States 8-9 months, with my wife. (The dept. of homeland security background check is what takes so long.) As opposed to a over a year if married in another country and then trying get a spousal visa. A friend I knew said it took over 12-15 months to bring his wife over from Korea through the spousal visa after marrying in her home country. I like the new couch and scenery. Please keep the vids coming I really appreciate the honesty and the interesting conversations. Hopefully things will open up more before the fall and we can back over there, even though I enjoy a good steak and flushing toilets, I still miss the Philippines.

Good message. Take care of yourself, become the best possible version of yourself and good things will happen when you let go of trying to control.

Great interview. Money and social media have ruined many young people's lives. The wealthy lifestyle is addicting, though so once they have tasted the good life they will look for another LDR or maybe graduate to four or five guys on the hook at the same time. Thanks for sharing!

Another great interview,, wish him all the best in finding what he wants and needs 😀😀 To be honest I think we all want the perfect relationship....

Alot guys think age gap don't make a difference but it does try find least a girl in 30s.

This was your best video yet! Very informative!!

My honest advice U just take care of yourself and settled this current situation u are in Stay positive Better days are coming for us all expats

This is most interesting to me. I was married for 2nd time in Korea but I divorced in the U.S. all in the 1980s. The woman came to the U.S. and to my knowledge still lives here (but not in my state). We have had no contact for over 35 years.

We just need understand when you meat young and beautiful women, and they don’t like you as much they like your money. We just need to be realistic.

I tell every girl I won't even say "I love you" before we have lived together or one year and then we will discuss love. Then maybe 6 -12 months later we will discuss marriage and only if I have lived with them first. I know everyone's belief is different but that's what I want due to a horrific marriage here in the US.

Paul ,,you doing a good thing helping others with theirs paths in Life !!☆--,,That's Great !!-☆,,great story, no matter what part of the WORLD your in.-!!!

I’ve been happily married to my first Filipina girlfriend since 2012 now we met in 2007 online

I met my wife at a singles religious group called Christian Life Program...Singles for Christ...in Chicago. I've been living in Chicago since 1988 and she just came here in US as a working visa back in 2001. 19 years forward, we now have a 9 and 2 year old beautiful children....my advise is to go meet someone from a religious group and be yourself and be honest about everything....things will go your way eventually....good luck man!

So much wisdom guys....

Let that be a lesson to everyone.

Just one question. What is the benefit for a man to get married?

Just watched this... our airport meeting was the same, well I wasn't in the middle of the street. Appreciate John's story, wish him the best of luck. Old Dog give us an update on what happened to him....

Thanks for the interesting videos. This is not a criticism I am only tired to see men taken advantage of. They have an old school belief in marriage and who should suffer and sacrifice. Death by your own sword is no longer honorable. So just giving my advice for those men who might want to consider an experienced traveler opinion from what I have personally witnessed. I think men will be better served by digesting the red pill. I am an airline pilot and have flown all over the world for 22 years. I have chased skirts from so many countries I can not even remember them all. Most importantly I have seen men who think they are going to the country of unicorns yet they are still taken advantage of by women. These are blue pill men believe they are better served by getting married and sacrificing. Remember if you get married you will compromise more then 50 percent of the time and have 100 percent of the financial responsibility. It’s in a woman’s DNA to use hypergamy to their advantage and they will climb that ladder whenever possible. It’s not good or bad it is just life. Men will not find the unicorn female in Colombia or Philippines orThailand. Your SMV will raise in those areas but there is no unicorn there. If you want to see the largest wealth eliminator in a mans life it will....with out a doubt be a wife. Paying for women’s things is relative. If you make lots of money then paying for exclusive things are no problem. You can keep them around if they are a compliment to your life. Paying for things like dinner or vacations or time spent together is a benefit for you. So depending on your wealth view it as going on a cruise and paying for an excursion. It’s entertainment and making your life more interesting. All money spent should be viewed as an expense for fun and is non refundable. Never expect loyalty for what you have spent. You can’t negotiate desire. Women do not care about a mans struggles they show up at the finish line and Fu($ the winners.

Like you said Paul, he’s one of the good guys! Good luck John 🤞

Hello Paul and John! Paul don't worry about recommending Jennifer Terri! I have been there twice and I have been watching her for over a year. She does her homework and is one of the most reliable on RU-vid! I will be relying on her primarily when I come back for trip #3. And hopefully we can have a cup of coffee one of these days.

annulment takes time in PH.. advice by a lawyer u can submit your divorced paper to the US embassy in Manila and let it certified and forward it to the Civil Registrar office to change your status .

Howdy Paul, my goal is not to do what John did lol. I am considering the Philippines for many different reasons then just finding a girl. The people, the cost of living, the weather, the freedom, getting away from groundhog day just to name a few. Thanks for the video bud, very informative.

As I watch you more old dog you can be understanding and I gain more respect for you wanting to see both sides of the situation!

I am so happy that I learn about the Philippines before meeting my wife.

Love John's new perspective after his unfortunate experience

"patience is a virtue" "Seek and ye shall find" "Don't worry, be happy" 🤔😁🍺🍻☕👌👍😁🤗

What a nice guy , I’m sure he will find someone and have a great future

John seems a Nice & sincere guy. I’m sure he Will find love, companionship & a wife soon. Cheers from Copenhagen.

I can feel Mr. John is a good guy. Maybe ur LDR and the fact ur ex was still young was the big reason why you didn't end well. Don't lose hope. I wish you could find the girl you deserve. Goodluck to you, John😊

Stay positive And believe in God plus believe in yourself that better days are coming for you

Patient is the key to success in life .. the right love will come at the right time .. don’t rush about that haha good interview

He's a few bricks overloaded. ADD and ADHD. He's all over the place. Wooo... He makes my ADHD kick in! Haha...

Another pragmatic video about life in the Philippines with American men and Filipinas. Take things slowly. I do agree when it's right you'll know it. Filipinas are some of the best women in the world. They click w/Americans because of English, but there is something about the dynamic where West meets East that is very exciting. Just select carefully, choose wisely.

I have no particular interest in the Philippines or retiring there. So how did I get here? Bald and Bankrupt -> Harold Baldr -> Tim K -> Bud Brown -> Paul in the Phillippines. Why do I subscribe? Because Mr McGill is a great interviewer! He asks probing, interesting questions and listens to the answers. Plus he injects his humor!

amazing story to learn and hopefully not forget when filipina promise.fake love i met three foreigners who lost a lot of money the built house in filipina names and when the house was finished filipina threw them out so it's just to be very carefull ... them scammed me too but only for food and Red Horse

Loyalty and commitment out the window. Another example of how not to behave as a human. I am really sorry that you had to go through this John, not good !

Nice, very educational. I can't talk about that topic without beer or tequila. You should have a Talk Show on a National TV.

I can't believe I've finished watching this whole video! It was fun to watch though. Liked it!

All the best to John. I think he needs to find himself before trying to get into anything. Seems to be a high energy guy.

Paul's facial expressions :)

Absolutely great interview!! John's experience has a rocky road for him but gives those of us in the USA fantastic insights into the things to avoid. For the ladies in Duma....John is a man with a great heart and a great head....John would make, for many of you, a wonderful one of a kind partner.