Expectations of IxxPs ExxJs

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Ah let's talk more about defaulting the responsibility of our 4th function!
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IxxPs
Fi Saviors “you should know why this makes sense” Demon Te
Ti Saviors “you should know this would piss me off” Demon Fe
ExxJs
Fe Saviors “you should know how little I do for myself” Demon Ti
Te Saviors “you should know how much that hurts me” Demon Fi
How we can reframe this thinking:
Fi saviors: It is my responsibility to communicate clearly and effectively if someone needs that.
Ti saviors: It is my responsibility to manage the outward expression of emotion (from myself or others) in a calm and respectful state.
Fe saviors:It is my responsibility to make time for the things that are important to me and my future.
Te Saviors: It is my responsibility to be transparent with my emotional needs and values.
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@delynnsimpson3640 4 года назад

"We all suck, we're all great, whatever." 😂 word.

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

LOL you get me Delynn

@maryfomt444 4 года назад

Infp: my needs are so basic, i don't need to explain it or ask for it. Lolololololols I love this video, you make complicated things simple to understand. Te for the win!!

@blastkar 4 года назад

The EJs sacrificial thing is on point. Admirable and annoying at the same time.

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

Right?!

@ebonyplummer4621 4 года назад

A good portion of the time the self sacrificing isn't even helping the people the claim they want to help.

@joshparson6656 3 года назад

The crazy thing about it though is that the sacrificial lamb part is on impulse. I don't even realize I've put myself on the backburner for everyone else until its too late to fix it. Fe savior here.

@blastkar 3 года назад

@@joshparson6656 makes sense.

@actionchaplain1 4 года назад

Notes: -Expectations of IxxPs and ExxJs -Self and tribe summary: "They should know or care" -This comes as a result of living in the 1st function while being unwilling to take responsibility for the 4th, thus blaming others -Fi savior: "They should know why this makes sense or doesn't make sense" (unwilling to take responsibility for the Te or explaining the logic behind something) -Ti savior: "They should know why this pisses me" as well as "I don't care if what I'm doing pisses you off" (unwilling to take responsibility for the Fe or how social actions affect both their own feelings and those of others) -Fe savior: "They should know I'm a sacrificial lamb doing everything for everyone else and they should know how little I do for myself " (unwilling to take responsibility for the Ti or taking the time to invest in the things that are important to me -Te savior: "They should know why this hurts me" (unwilling to take responsibility for the Fi or both expressing as well as giving weight to how they feel and their personal values)

@drcharliewallace 4 года назад

Anytime I find anything on TeSi it’s gold. Thanks for covering this! “No one even cares if I’m happy.” ExxJ pity party for sure!

@natripletee 4 года назад

As an IxxP with Fi savior, definitely related to that description. However, because I have masculine Te at the bottom, I don't give my opinion unless I have good reasons, because hen I do give out my opinion, I feel my blood boiling because of the masculine demon ST Blast.

@waterbender19 4 года назад

HAHA I do be yelling at bars of soap that fall on the floor

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

Yeah screw those slippery little ghosts!

@Sarahizahhsum 4 года назад

I get pissed at bad internet connection. That's my ticker.

@ninadiener9806 4 года назад

Damn, these are exactly the kind of conflicts I hear IP's and EJ's complain about, spot on! I live with 2 Te saviors, this is so, so accurate! I can apply this to give them back their responsibility more effectively, as my trickster Fe can do very little for them lol, excellent wording, thank you!

@wynstansmom829 4 года назад

"Expectations!", yes and “She had curiously thoughtful and attentive eyes; eyes that were very pretty and very good.” ― Charles Dickens, Great Expectations Te-rrific video, Li Jo.

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

Thank you friend ☺️

@BREAKOUT444 4 года назад

Thank you for summarizing mbti in a practical way, Ni soul sister. ✊

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

My pleasure Jones :)

@malindaeckert2300 4 года назад

"It is my responsibility to be transparent with my emotional needs and values." *Raising hand* How do you ferret out what you value and need emotionally?

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

Processing of the self! But this would be a good video to make!!

@malindaeckert2300 4 года назад

@@InternetLiJo agreed! I've been watching a channel related to this, because it's my current focus. "Richard Grannon Fortress Mental Health Protection" (Mouthful, but some good stuff.) Still, I find it to be woefully abstract, and as abstract and high consume as I am, so hard to process. My biggest hangup is getting myself to care. It's like every step, I sit there and say why should I care how I feel about this thing, and I want to go all in on my saviors of does it work/not. Feeling super stuck in that loop. >.

@toni2309 4 года назад

Also, how do you figure out how to put that needs and values into words once you figured out how to ferret out what you value and need emotionally?

@billgalen9014 4 года назад

INFP, I am not here to convince anyone of anything. If you get it, fine. If not, get out. Intolerance is a perquisite of age. IMO. Growth? Been there, done that. Time to get things done.

@linyenchin6773 4 года назад

Intolerance, is just the brittle state of the mind under sway of internal pressure from built up *Emotional Constipation.* Even intolerance to falsehood, though falsehood is evil.

@billgalen9014 4 года назад

@@linyenchin6773 Yes, I'm not having it.

@crystalwaters8714 4 года назад

Damnn! Im cruel😂🔥nice video doe made sense also the description is so accurate 👌👍

@PhotoRubio 4 года назад

(INFP) =T I L= "To have a fish understand it's wet."- The topic of "balance" has been circulating with married friends recently (ENFP/ISFJ). I was able to explain how each others weaknesses were the others strengths. They should take note of one another and integrate the usage and self practice of each other to grow stronger. They asked me about my demon and how I could practice self balance... I couldn't reciprocate. Then, this video falls out the sky!.. ...Thank you...

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

It’s always a good time for balance! Glad this aligned with yours :)

@Juan_Mecha 4 года назад

I came here because my type was in the title Low-key I wish it didn't

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

Hah. Low-key comment to extend your time?

@relentless_animal4127 4 года назад

One of the best videos I’m ever watched 👍

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

Thanks!

@janetkok6041 3 года назад

Every video of yours that I watch, you always state so many perfectly worded truths and it leaves me sitting there, absolutely fuming, that someone has just come and pointed out my Fi inferior function in such an impressive manner.😭😫 Great video!! :)

@ashutoshsingh221 3 года назад

An INFP would have just said " Hello friends" in intro part so that no one feels awkward 😭

@hanspeter2534 4 года назад

"You should know that this will piss me off"... 100%me :D left alone for the rest of my life is easier for me then accepting that someone did not think about my point of view... Especially true for friends and other "voluntary relationships" that I like to end forever because of that reason... 😄 To be honest... I always thought of it as a strength... "I'm soooo consequent! " maybe I should drink a cup of tea and think about it....

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

Haha OH that Ti! What's your full type?

@hanspeter2534 4 года назад

@@InternetLiJo the (free online) test said INTJ... 90% I 70% N 80% T 60% J From my personal view I can relate to both INTJ and INTP.. . Btw. Could you type me " through the Internet"..or what would you need to? 🤔

@chariethe 4 года назад

Thank you. Btw you have hair goals!

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

Lol really?! Thank you!

@N0B0DY_SP3C14L 4 года назад

Love this! Dead on, as usual. Sometimes the process isn't fun... sometimes it is, but the growth part? That's always awesome. Keep kicking mucho ass, bud!

@cassm7679 4 года назад

Great video!!

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

Thank you Cass!

@andrewpaterson860 4 года назад

Well said! - ENFJ

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

ENFJ approval!!

@sapper043 4 года назад

Great content as always. A pleasure to watch and listen. Thanks again for your understanding and helping others like me.

@Sarahizahhsum 4 года назад

I quit having expectations a month ago. One of the best things I've ever done for myself. INTJ female here.

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

Yesss 😻

@alexhendry2120 4 года назад

Lindsay, you are the plug 😌

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

I feel like this is a term I need to google lol

@kevinfukthezetamale4298 4 года назад

IxxPs-Beta ExxJs-Alpha

@nk2904 4 года назад

Spot on. I needed this.

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

Awesome! What resonated with you?

@TA-mo4tl 4 года назад

lovin' the Te slaps :D satisfying video

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

LOL... I guess Te does slap doesn't it

@BrockMak 4 года назад

2:33 As an INTP with an INTP sister, who is more intuitive and introverted, I agree.

@adeladsman9871 4 года назад

I expected a video about cognitive functions. All I hear is savior and demon. Can you please explain to which functions in the stack the terms "savior" and "demon" relate? Without this annotation the video makes no sense at all. Thank you.

@nehasehgal2537 4 года назад

Equivalents Savior=dominating Demon=inferior/aspirational

@nehasehgal2537 4 года назад

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@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

Check the description for some more clarification. I mention the functions several times in this video.

@jack76787 3 года назад

How do things bother you more then people? They don't have OPINIONS! They can't do anything to you if you just leave them alone. I'll never get it.

@BlueHazyDreams Год назад

Ikr. If you piss a person off they just might try to ruin your life. That bar of soap isn't going to get you fired or key your car.

@sigmasunder 4 года назад

What is it about the IJ or EP combination that makes them care more about Things than the other types? I've been puzzling over this for DAYS.

@InternetLiJo 4 года назад

Our observation functions are on the top and bottom of our cognitive function stack! Those are the S and N functions. Which means that gap contributes to us “looking” for the bottom function often.

@sigmasunder 4 года назад

@@InternetLiJo ah so helpful, thank you!!

@berkaytugrel 2 года назад

It would be much better if you had added music at the background at the end.

@andreagreenwood93 4 года назад

Haha it's really pretty irrational how we all don't want to take responsibility for our inferior functions and come up with excuses why we shouldn't have to. As an INTJ that disproportionate rage I get when the pull tab on a container breaks when I'm trying to open it, I feel like, "How could they do this to me!" And proceed to cuss out the stupid idiot that came up with this design and the stupid company that was too cheap to provide a better pull tab. Every single time. The Ti savior one is deeply unsettling to me somehow... Your description offers me some possible insight into a wildly heated incident I had once with an ISTP which ended with me dumping a pot of spaghetti into a cabinet and walking out of the house and driving away just to avoid the shocking onslaught of inexplicable Fe that I couldn't even begin to fathom. It was kind of like you said... They seemed enraged about something very innocuous I did, as though I had done it specifically TO them, like I should have known it would piss them off, which seemed wildly irrational, and I had no idea what to do really and was very shaken.

@ronlake7699 3 года назад

Fe saviours, we suck...

@InternetLiJo 3 года назад

Fe saviors are great

@toni2309 4 года назад

I don't know if that is Ti or Te saviour, but I usually do feel like people should know that certain things would bother me. I know that I should communicate my needs to them, but for me, as soon as I communicate my needs, the other person doing that thing feels awkward. Like, when a person doesn't do a thing because I told them that I don't like it and said that they should stop, I always think that they only do it because I said so, and not because they actually cared, took interest in my situation and feelings and took the effort to figure out what would make my life easier. So

@BlueHazyDreams Год назад

This is EXACTLY the problem I had growing up with my parents. I don't know what type that makes me lol. But like they should know how to show me they care, and if I tell them and they do it then yeah they just did it because I told them to, not because they actually care. In other relationships as an adult, I'm not mad at them more so I wish I didn't have to ask for it because I feel unreasonable for having needs or wants.

@oodlesofnoodles4660 4 года назад

So basically Jedi vs Sith.

@jankom.7783 4 года назад

Jedi are Se-Fe and Sith are Se-Te. "The Force" is interpersonal influence, that is visible to Se-Ni. Te-Fi is the dark side. As always. Difference between Fe and Te is core of almost every story.

@ebonyplummer4621 4 года назад

How can savior Te people expect people to care about their feelings if they don't seem to care about other people's feeling? I get bulldozed all the time by ENTJs and ESTJs. I really don't like being controlled, so I don't like alpha people.

@BlueHazyDreams Год назад

I can't care about other people's feelings because I can't even handle my own feelings. I'm already drowning in them.