I’ve been married 34 years. I’m glad to hear you say that if a current boyfriend or girlfriend seems quite opposite of certain traits you find reassuring: DATE SOMEONE ELSE. Easy fix! My husband and I share all our bank accounts. We share(d) chores in traditional ways: inside stuff I do, outside stuff he does but we help each other too. Kids are a huge help to doing chores!Asking for what you need is often difficult for people who resent the idea that spouses can’t mind read. “Opposites attract” is an overused idiom that holds no water. By and large, you and your spouse, in order to succeed in marriage, must find plenty of similarities! Yes! Most of the time, a couple should feel content, peaceful, and pleased with their spouse. If these feelings aren’t happening often enough, ask yourself how you might step up your complimentary attitude towards your spouse. Go to church together, pray next to each other. Let your children see you prepare for mass every Sunday!
First of all WOW 🤩 34 years is PHENOMENAL congrats ❤ may you be together forever and evermore ❤ Absolutely on what you said too ❤ having an enduring relationship/marriage is so much more about the two people involved caring for each other and working toward a common goal than anything else. Life hacks schedules communication all of that matters but the foundation must be true love. When two people love one another they just organically work for the other person. It’s almost becomes just intuitive you don’t have to ask they just do their best to put a smile on the other partners face. That love is the difference between working hard doing the dirty work and not giving up when things are difficult. If a man and woman do not have that underlying respect and affection for each other no amount of reminders and journals and notifications will do anything. That want to has to come from within and it won’t come if both people aren’t invested fully.
Totally agree! Kids these days have as role models celebrities whose moral standards shall we say are not exactly sky high. Lizzie is someone whether you agree or disagree with all her points she is a kind hearted loving person who lives a good honorable life and makes a real differences for tons of people. Without a doubt a girl people can look up to and aspire to live a life that honors the Lord as much as possible much like Lizzie does
Few other ideas 💡 for videos: 1. Bipolar-Queen For A Day: If you were in charge of Bipolar treatment in the US and could make any changes you like what are x number(maybe 13 ur favorite) of things you’d change in terms of patient-psychiatrist interaction, diagnosis, treatment/medication, ways BP is discussed, day to day recommendations for life with BP. 2. Teen/Young Adult Relationships: often times at this age kids who fall in love don’t stay together for very long for various reasons. If you could give teens everywhere advice on major pitfalls to avoid/things to do or not to do to maximize chances of success what would you tell them 3. Catholicism: how has Catholicism changed you as a person. Besides the beliefs/practices you adopted how has your conversion changed you. Has it made your interactions with people different? Has it made you act differently in life, view the world different, see other people or other things around you in a unique way? I’ve seen a lot of stories of conversions opening peoples eyes they feel like a whole new person with an all new outlook on life. I’m just curious how that has been for you 4. University/School Survival Guide for Catholics/Christians As we all know almost all non religious universities and schools are extremely secular very much antagonistic towards people of faith. Besides not going at all or choosing a Christian school which isn’t always an option what tips/tricks do you have for Christian young people to get through their learning while not giving up their morals 5. (Only if you want) Grieving the death of a loved one what to do and not to do. Often times after someone passes people can go into a really dark place and spiral. What are some tips(from personal experience or what you’ve learned) to grieve in a healthy way and cope with tragedy
I can’t believe you have been married for 11 months and I love the perspective you will bring for marriage couples from now and on pn youtube videos ❤🤩
I know it’s absolutely wild to think about. I think many of us remember Lizzie as this sweet girl getting so excited about Pepperdine hanging out with Nicole talking about Koine Greek everyday lol. The idea that she is actually grown up having a family soon and married is pretty surreal but it’s amazing ❤. Lizzie has been through so much over the years if anyone deserves everlasting joy peace and perfect harmony it’s her ❤😊
Having a shared bank account is not that important as long as you share expenses. Legally speaking, filing as a married couple at the end of every tax year affirms your status as “married.” The government sees your two incomes as “one household income.” 😊
Lizzie thank you for all you do ❤ you are such a pure loving soul so genuine and caring. People can disagree about issues or opinions but I don’t know how anyone can see you hear you and not think wow she has the biggest heart ever ❤. The love you show everyone from your family to total strangers is incredible and special. God Bless you and thank you making a difference more than you know ❤
That’s totally ok too ❤ there is no completely full proof method to guarantee a relationships success. As long as both people are invested in keeping things going are honest mature and caring there’s a good chance of a long lasting romance. I think oftentimes people pigeonhole themselves into just following a checklist of things to do or not to do and forget that a marriage is more complicated than that. It’s a lifelong commitment before God to love honor and cherish your spouse. Limiting yourself to a specific group of do this and you’re all good gives someone false security that nothing beyond those specific items matters.
Hi Lizzie. My husband and I didn't combine our bank accounts either until we had kids and it just made sense with childcare costs, etc. But before that, we did the same thing as you and your husband and it all just worked out in the end. People also thought that we were weird but it worked for us 😊
Almost 40 years and we're still in the honeymoon phase. I still get those same feelings I had when we first got married and she feels the same way too. Prayer is so so so important. The stats say that the divorce rate is almost zero for couples who pray together. It's really true, I'm a terrible husband and too sensitive, but when I go to prayer, God tells me I'm an idiot and I go back refreshed/forging and forgiven.
I believe it’s more than JUST prayer together though. What keeps a couple together is walking on a journey of honoring Christ with all they do together. That’s more that simply praying. Having a Christ centered family is about having good morals values being honest respectful to each other sharing your faith with your children not having wild parties not acting inappropriately or making a fool of yourself. A faith journey is just that a journey it’s a lifelong process of choosing in each situation to give glory to God instead of satisfying and giving into one’s own my primal instincts. If a couple can both commit to those principles and stick to them those are the marriages that last. Simply saying we prayed together or went to church just checks a box it doesn’t indicate how serious you are about it.
It can be for sure if the mom and dad aren’t on the same page. What I’ve heard works best is having total complete “buy in” from both parents. Having a baby isn’t something you can just “wing it” on or “figure it out as you go”. Babies especially as the youngest age are entirely unpredictable. They need to feed be cleaned given attention at any and all hours of the day and night. If both the mother and father aren’t totally 100% invested in that child’s growth things will slip important tasks won’t get done and the whole family will suffer.
Lizzie, Congratulations on your great marriage!!! I was wondering if you would have any advice for someone who is struggling to manage their Bipolar Disorder with Psychotic features or more commonly known as Bipolar 1 Disorder while they are homeless and living on the streets. I am very resourceful, and I do everything I can, but I am really struggling with severe sleep deprivation which I fear may trigger another psychotic episode even though I am on my meds, and taking Invega Trinza which is an anti-psychotic injection that lasts three months, and also I am taking Lithium as well. I have SSI and Medicaid, but there is such a shortage of affordable housing where I am that I may be homeless for a while. I have even been contemplating the reality that I may die homeless on the streets. I have a Bachelor's degree in English and History, and I have some course work in graduate school at a couple of Universities in Counseling and English. I am putting my English degree to work by writing on a couple of different platforms under the name Linzy Landcaster. Lizzie, Please pray for me, and that my writing will go viral on the platforms that I am on, so I will get out of homelessness. Thank You, Linzy Landcaster
LOL, honeymoon phase. We were only married for a year and a half. My ex would never let me have alone time. Also if my ex went out of town, we would go to his grandparent's how with his other side.
I believe the “Honeymoon Phase” can last a lot longer than people expect if both the husband and wife stay committed to doing the right thing. To me the reason most marriages sour after the initial stage is because one or both partners get complacent. At first they’re doing chores they’re paying attention to everything and then after a while bit by bit things slip through the cracks and the marriage starts to go down hill. If both people don’t lose that passion that desire to keep doing right by their spouse and don’t take them for granted things can be good throughout. It takes two adults who are mature and intelligent and wise to do that its certainly not easy but it can work if there is desire from both sides to keep that same level of effort everyday.
I agree partly. When you’re married to someone you live with them and are around them all the time. During the course of each day there will be countless decisions and choices you each have to make sometimes together. If each time there’s a difference of opinion it’s turned into a argument that marriage won’t last long. Someone who’s an adult knows how to pick their battles. Problems that are major moral dilemmas or have to do with safety or security are worth arguing over while day to day things it’s ok to not always be right. Preserving a family is more important than always feeling like the most intelligent human on earth.
I would say i partially agree with you. I believe each person should be able to make their own purchases and have their own money but it’s a marriage for a reason. Part of why you get married is to share with your spouse. That can mean time and ideas but it also means money. If you separate finances to much it almost becomes like two separate individuals living under the same roof. You start to see this personal possessive mentality which starts to creep into other aspects of life. If someone isn’t fully comfortable letting someone else in and sharing what they have/make maybe marriage isn’t right for them because a big part of marriage is living together and taking part in each others lives as a family unit not as independent humans living together
If any good advice I could give is don't get married until you own your own home free and clear which may mean you may have to move where the cost of living is very low. This takes the strain of financial strife.
The most important factor in getting married is that both people are emotionally ready are “grown up” enough. Marriage is a lot like having children it’s the ultimate unpredictable journey. Everyone thinks marriage is all about romance and love and being together. What usually breaks up a marriage(my dad was a family law lawyer so I’d know) is the sort of drip drip of problems. Everyone hears about infidelity or finances or abuse issues but many divorces aren’t because of those. It ends up being seemingly small things annoyances that seem unimportant at the time they snowball into a catastrophic situation. If both people are emotionally mature and ready to do the little things it can make things be so much more steady over the long term
No not at all :) I always believe true love takes time sometimes a long time. I’m sure if you were desperate you could find some random dude who happens to be catholic but I don’t believe thats what you want. Finding someone honest and true and genuine is not easy. It takes a lot of effort and a lot of patience. Trust me Im 28 I have had one GF in my life and it didn’t end well. Just be proud of who you are, what makes you special and don’t lose faith. All it takes is one person JUST ONE
Ask God what your vocation is. He knows you best (I mean, He created you) and He knows what will be most fulfilling for you in all aspects of your life. Take the time to seek and discern His will for you 🙏🏼
I knew a couple. He knew how to cook, how to clean.... etc. But his wife now was a mess... So boy´s look for girls that can contribute, if are like that guy and me.
