Exposing the Influence of Toxic Guilt

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A major aspect of my healing journey has involved learning to discern the workings of guilt and allow myself to walk free from a lifestyle entangled with toxic guilt.
When you think about your spiritual journey, has anyone ever taught you how to discern what guilt means and how to work through it? Do you remember anyone telling you growing up, “That’s guilt and you do not need to feed that guilt?”
There is often very little emphasis on how much toxic guilt influences people’s lives in a way that is toxic and unhealthy.
While guilt can be a normal emotion that arises from our sense of morality or your compass of right and wrong. It often works as a signal that something needs to be amended or repaired. Many believers are realizing that guilt has gotten out of hand in their thinking and emotions. Guilt has become toxic, where it is excessive, continual and even irrational. In fact, many are realizing that much of their life is actually driven by toxic guilt.
In this broadcast, I want to talk about what guilt is and what it looks like when it becomes toxic in our lives.
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@ladyesther Год назад

This was for me. I just want to be free from toxic guilt. This has made me so vulnerable to being manipulated. Please pray for me. Today has been rough for me emotionally. Thanks.

@iw9338 11 месяцев назад

Praying for you 🙏💜 I hear you

@easleyofthesouth 11 месяцев назад

Stop crying for attention, i tell you that in a politely way

@sarahherzog7422 10 месяцев назад

Definitely understand how you feel…. Those who don’t struggle have no idea what it feels like

@jerrys1 9 месяцев назад

It actually makes me angry that no other Christians talk about this stuff. I’ve been struggling with this for years and been unable to find any help. Thank you so much for your channel. Once I overcome this stuff in my own life, I’m going to start my own ministry to help people with these kind of issues.

@smokingcrab2290 5 месяцев назад

I resonated with this comment 100% And I feel the exact same way. I want to show the love of God to others so that they are free from this. God bless you and your future endeavors friend

@igbothunder-rv6oq Месяц назад

because they arent aware if the issue... give grace and release that anger. God bless!

@chloewikstrom6429 9 месяцев назад

This is SOOOOO good. I believe Holy Spirit highlighted your page for me when I searched "healing from spiritual abuse" and I can't get enough of your teachings now. They are helping me so much! Thank you! God bless!

@pamwatkins4855 Год назад

Sobriety slows us down and leads us into change

@favoriteone8636 3 месяца назад

Wow wow wow! I have battled this poison my ENTIRE LIFE...with no breaks on this guilt monologue unless I was completely wiped out from working all night and being extremely sleep deprived... or in other ways to cause myself to malfunction ie workaholism, drinking too much wine, sickness etc the list is endless. All in the attempt to escape this madness which I was taught WAS GOD HIMSELF. I will never be able to thank you ENOUGH! I am going to listen to all of ur videos on toxic guilt now. I HAVE STRUCK GOLD HERE! ❤

@oyinkana8644 7 месяцев назад

“I don’t know how to love because I did everything out of guilt, people pleasing , or I feel bad”

@TheProGamerMC20 5 месяцев назад

yes. also guilt it telling me not to comment this

@H1ana2digital 9 месяцев назад

I don't know if anyone else has experienced this but I'm not seeing a 'like/thumbs up button' on this channel. All I am seeing is a 'thumbs down button, This is troubling and I thought I should point this out. I'm having to revert to liking positive comments about your channel!

@leandrahackwith3168 Год назад

I learned at an early age that guilt shame and manipulation were the trifecta of control from my mother. If she hadn't been so chronically ill I would have told her off decades earlier.

@dinelia1881 11 месяцев назад

Toxic guilt creates a hostile relationship with mistakes. It keeps me in self-hatred and makes it difficult to forgive myself even after God has forgiven me. Driven to fix things based on guilt. Relationships based more on guilt than on love. Guilt is the glue for codependency. Its not about you and me loving you... it's about me feeling better. Doing everything out of "I feel bad". Not setting boundaries out of "I feel bad". These keep you in unhealthy relationship patterns. I appreciate the distinction between normal guilt and toxic guilt.

@Mama_Moosh Год назад

Wow, wow, wow! I can’t tell you what a blessing this is to me. I am dominated by obsessive guilt and have been subconsciously searching for some tools to free me from this. I was in a toxic guilt-ridden, codependent marriage for 16 years and undoing the that condemning nature I carry within myself takes a lot of prayer and reprogramming. Thank you so much for helping me on my freedom journey. My family and I love your work. Thank you for allowing God to use you. ~In Christ

@turn2jesustoday Год назад

This video was a great great blessing to my life, I thank God for that revelation shared in this video setting me free for who I truly am in Christ without toxic guilt and shame and condemnation. Wow, I feel finally free in Christ! Thank God. Thank God!!!

@drewcummings1129 5 месяцев назад

I just love your teachings. Lord led me to Elijah House prophetic prayer counseling and then to your videos and man.... I am so at peace and excited for the future. God bless you Mark. You're gonna transform the Church.

@christine2090 Год назад

Thank you so much Mark. Always spot on and so relevant!

@pamwatkins4855 Год назад

Emotional neglect makes you feel lonely there's a. In life it's just a part of life that just brings about some feelings that you don't really don't know what it is just acknowledging it

@keithawhosoever5384 Год назад

Great message with some excellent explanations Mark ‼️ I've been on a 'downer' again that had me expressing constantly my " I want to die" feelings . " I've had enough , take me home Lord " . Gradually crawled out of it couple of days ago , but my irritability , tiredness and can't be bothered thought/feeling patterns are still prevalent , though loss of hope thankfully has dissapated. Today , a delivery man rang the doorbell , and my dog went into its usual manic yapping mode , which startled me . I was trying to unlock the front door whilst shouting at the dog to shut up ...which ofcourse it wouldn't , which made me raise my voice even more , which I think scared the postman more than the dog , though she did scour away , tail between her legs . Once I calmed down , a twinge of 'normal' guilt sent me to the dog with a soft admonishment for not shutting up immediately after I 'told' her to . I felt abit sorry for the delivery man too , so he may be delivering something again soon , and I'll apologise to him . 🇬🇧✝️🆓

@keithawhosoever5384 Год назад

" twinge of appropriate guilt ..."👍

@charlabarnett6274 Год назад

Thank you for creating such a great "point of reference" Now that I have that I can live a much more productive life with My Lord and Savior. You are right, the church does not teach this grace and love message. Oh they do but it is "passive aggressive ".

@salparedo Год назад

I just bought every book you have wrote. Thank You and God Bless Mark. I have had an immense frustration with seeing so many unhealthy and sick bros and sisters in the Church. I know there is something here. Thanks bro! Have a great day Mark!

@charlabarnett6274 Год назад

Yes! That is what Legalism does! Uses God as a weapon. How? Through "The Law". We are no longer under the "The Law" we are under GRACE. Paul taught this exact message in Romans 8: 1-17. Paul even struggled with it in Romans 7. Thank you so much for this much needed teaching!!

@rachellarkin917 Год назад

Thanks, Mark. Loved this 👍

@dinelia1881 11 месяцев назад

43:27 Appropriate Guilt - It leads you to sobriety, not denial or a shame spiral. Watch this again if you feel in a rush to fix the guilt. Because rushing is about us feeling better, and then we are going to keep repeating it.

@810Jafa Год назад

This is so good Mark,thank you

@anisargsyan796 Год назад

Very, very meaningful and helpful. Thank .

@darcyd2680 6 месяцев назад

Thank you! It helps.

@raf5.13 Год назад

As the Ramones would say: “Anxiety, anxiety, keeps me happy”. Except it doesn’t.

@rockerune Год назад

This was really helpfull. I listen to podcasts about running and investing since I am training for a half marathon and am a hobby investor. Theres this voice saying I should be listening to more of Gods word. Now I know its guilt. Thank you so much

@faithsrealtalk2292 Месяц назад

Thanks for articulating this well. I free

@jessicascott8780 Год назад

Thanks, Mark ❤️

@junederksen9205 2 месяца назад

What a KAPOW moment for my brain!!!!

@andrewcerrone4096 11 месяцев назад

Amazing

@abemontes2518 Год назад

It's like Mr. DeJesus studied our life, because he describes our experiences to a T. Today i feel numb, and have maybe become cynical. I keep a lid on it, but my "relationship with God " feels nonexistent. I pray everyday because I know i have to present myself before God, but my desires, emotions, thoughts are kind of in a daze. I just learned to live with it i guess.

@gabegibby6515 Год назад

Where can I buy one of those bottles so I can start storing my toxic guilt. 😅

@JC.714 Год назад

i get troubled and i get so anxious like if i have to watch my back is really sad i been dealing with so much thanks to my narcisist parents that put me through alot due to trauma dad was abusive and mom a religious mean dominant lady who only cared about herself im sad and exhausted from all this sorry for throwing this out there

@megaboss8172 Год назад

Do you believe in Jesus 😇?

@JC.714 Год назад

@@megaboss8172 Hi yes I do believe in my heart but I have abandonedment and shame issues I grew up seeing my dad beating my mom and my mom would always choose him over her son but now that I'm older I struggle with all that I have anxiety alot

@Mumsy_Soap Год назад

Praying for you. Thanks for sharing. God is able to bring healing, continue to allow Him to work. I'

@JC.714 Год назад

@@Mumsy_Soap ♥ appreciate the prayer

@megaboss8172 Год назад

@@JC.714 do not fear. Because his perfect love cast out fear. And remember that you belong to God and that his love is unfailing and undying. His love is greater than your fears. Do not be afraid. Cause Jesus is right by you always and will never forsake nor abandon you. His loving arms surround you.

@sdw1103 9 месяцев назад

It's not just guilt that drives us. Most churches drive it by constantly focusing on what we have to fix instead of God's grace and work in our lives, and growth.

@pamwatkins4855 Год назад

I feel okay about that

@jamespinto3675 Год назад

Is that heavy feeling of pressure and weight upon the head and chest always toxic guilt?

@prayforjewisheople Год назад

Guilt feeds the flesh; and open doors to sin -> seeking temporary relieve

@sarahherzog7422 10 месяцев назад

So how about when you don’t know if you are sinning as a lifestyle because it’s kinda a grey area? Like if your job requires you to do something, you are required to document that you did it but you think it’s making things worse for those involved. So you document that you did it and know that’s technically a lie but you know it’s better to not follow the documentation to the letter but the agency does it to cover themselves? How do you deal with that?

@wastingtimeonyoutube. Год назад

If you have toxic shame, does that AUTOMATICALLY mean you're a narcissist?

@marktdejesus Год назад

@wastingtimeonyoutube. Год назад

Thank you for the response 🙂

@crwcrew7759 Год назад

What if my guilt is from serious Sin?

@ogomaokwor6657 Год назад

If it’s from a sin that u actually did ask for forgiveness and pray for strength self control etc not to do it again

@user-zw1vi4rv2h 11 месяцев назад

Hey mark how much is your personal classes? I am a one on one type of leaner if you could please help me it would be great . This isn’t my real name I forgot my old account so I made a new one to contact you my name is Logan Kissel

@marktdejesus 11 месяцев назад

markdejesus.com/community

@pamwatkins4855 Год назад

Where appearances you feel guilt I experienced none of it at all myself like a parent says you failed the guilt I feel none at all because you must be guilty of something take the responsibility of you feeling something that you should feel bad about this I have no concern for it all

@jw1234 Год назад

My mother was an expert in manipulation with guilt

@keithawhosoever5384 Год назад

I can understand what you mean . Mine too at times , as could my dad .

@LG-wm1nw Год назад

Mine too and still is. God is reprogramming me and it's all because of these teaching from Mark. Thank you.

@pamwatkins4855 Год назад

Can I have done something more for the kids are they hurting your feeling bad as some of it from my relationship with him and how I not consider them but only my own feelings I should be thinking of my own feelings and being able to operate without guilt so that I can do something constructive instead of go down and pull myself under with him when they're feeling bad and hurt that I think that I should feel hurt and feeling the same things they're feeling because I don't know how to deal with what they're going through and how I don't feel helpless that I can't help them and I want to help them and it's so hard to see them suffering like see them hurt

@pamwatkins4855 Год назад

Call Mark freedom in Christ

@BonBonHassan 8 месяцев назад

God's timing is so perfect 🥹 I'm working through codependency and today I made another step in practicing speaking truth, instead of people pleasing, and felt immense guilt. I now know it was toxic guilt because I felt guilty just for speaking not even from the words I said.