I love this video I have experienced the loss of a baby I was 16 weeks pregnant and my midwife at the time was terrible, a poor 1st year student discovered no heart beat they sent me to have a scan I had to drive myself to the hospital and the midwife who had been looking after me and didn’t even call me to see if I was ok, my water broke I was home alone called an ambulance and delivered the baby alone with a nurse in the ER I never received any of the lovey things you mentioned the baby wasn’t even documented it makes me feel like it wasn’t even real it’s not in my records at all, I was only 17 My experience when I had my two daughters was fantastic I had a brilliant midwife she delivered both my girls and all my experiences good and bad had been my motivation to be a midwife
Thank you for this! Im so glad to hear the midwife side of things. Having had a full term stillbirth and feeling after a few years I feel ready to begin my study in midwifery.
I'm a cardiothoracic surgery NP who had a stillbirth at 33 weeks a little less than a month ago. My OBs I knew socially and professionally for years before becoming their patient. They were shocked and super excited for us when we became pregnant spontaneously after multiple failed IVF transfers, and they were crying along with me when we discovered my son had died. Please don't feel like you have to "keep it together" for the sake of the mom. I know we're taught to not cry in order to maintain professionalism, and that crying will undermine the patient's confidence in us. It really meant a lot to me to see that my nurses and OBs were sad and upset for me. Having a stillbirth is so lonely; you're in L&D with crying babies around you, and everyone else is happy. It's incredibly comforting to have the people caring for you share in your sorrow.
I'm so sorry you had to see things like that... Here's a comforting thought from the bible it's at Revelation 21:4,5 it talks about a time when death will be no more... It says:And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.” 5 And the One seated on the throne said: “Look! I am making all things new.” Also he says: “Write, for these words are faithful and true. I wish you the best.
Wow Tylah. That must’ve been so incredibly difficult and shocking. Have been thinking about it all day since I watched! Thanks very much for sharing these videos help me soooo much, sharing. Your experiences and knowledge. Love your videos.
Thank you for posting this, I think it was healing for me. I was also a midwifery student studying in Africa about a year ago and had an experience with a macerated stillbirth in which the mother also died. I don't know how to talk about it, and a year later I still get emotional about it. The mother's name was Hasifa, and she had a beautiful smile and a husband who adored her. My team and I named the baby Tara Joy. I am thankful I was able to be with her in her last hour, and that my team and I were able to honor her baby. But I also carry a lot of pain from that day. Thank you for telling your stories, it made me feel that I am not alone.
I'm so glad we have people like you in our hospitals in Aus. You are truly amazing 💙 I wonder if I ever have a baby if we will meet lol. Your patients are lucky to have such a compassionate & caring person with them on whatever journey they face xox
This is why I’m put off being a midwife! After my own miscarriage I’m worried that I can’t handle being around births and still births and miscarriages but my heart is set of midwifeey
Hiya, thank you again for the helpful video. I’m a first-year student midwife and am feeling slightly overwhelmed by the amount of information I need to be familiar with...any tips on making the process easier? Thanks again.
I can’t imagine myself dealing with something like this. This is so heartbreaking. I’m also very emotional and I don’t think I’d be able to control myself. You’re so brave.
I cant believe they didnt help you deliver the stillbirth or even tell you. Thats just awful. I feel like if you had known you could have at least comforted the mum a little better.😢
Hey! I know I'm not the original poster but I've just qualified as a midwife in the UK. Yes, it's part of the training and part of the occupation unless you have specific issues that you have cleared with occupational health (e.g. epilepsy, etc.). As a student you get assigned to a mentor or two and you are expected to shadow their shift pattern as closely as possible as they will be grading you eventually. I always ended up being given mentors who were amazing but who worked lots of nights! The most you tend to do is four 12.5 hour shifts in a row. I really struggled with nights but you do get used to them! But it is something I wish I'd thought about more before starting my training as it can be quite an isolating experience.
