Family Txhob Ua Lag Luam Ua Ke. 5/19/2022 

Red flags over and you keep giving them Chances and allowing them to keep repeating.. you need to follow through on what you say and stop helping. You did the right thing for not allowing him to move in with you .. he’s old enough to survive on his own .

I don’t get how you and your wife keeps doing what your dab laug and his wife tells you what to do when you clearly saw that they’re scamming you and using you. It’s your own fault. Your wife should have supported you. Who cares if she looses the bonds between n her family.

Can't finish the story...tooooo annoying

How do you leave your kids with just noodles? lol

Honestly after the second strike where he took you to court I would have denounced him and all his brothers. I would even divorce his sister if she is not willing to comply. Can’t believe y’all let it go for so long.

Look in the Hmong dictionary for the word "ruam". It's this guy!

Wow family feud 😈😈 Betrayal = hurts Jealousy = kills Or vice versa

Dang sorry I would divorce that entire family. And shame on your wife for not backing you as the husband back. I can’t stand marriages like this!!

Problem after problem los yeeb vim koj yog ib tug txiv neej ruam ruam tiag tiag. Don't blame on your brother in law entirely, you are probably part of the problem.

They get to go on vacation and still have the gut to complain

Stay away from dishonest and evil people. Wherever they go there will be turmoils

This man is too weak that's why the brother in law kept taking advantage of him and his wife is too stupid.

Lim hiam tiag tiag, koj tsis yeem cia los nrog koj nyob li nawb tus ntsej muag no nas

Omg!!! This sister is seriously dum or what. Generosity has an expiration date. Blood is not always thicker than water. Should’ve just stopped after that car theft accusation.

Stop letting him into your life. You so nice that you still love your wife and didn't leave her just because she has a shitty brother who keeps causing drama with you.

Dang...this family is hlwb rwj hlwb npua xwb os. Gives me a headache.

I can’t imagine he comes live with you guys.

Late commenting but all in all, I'm sorry to hear you both are going thru this situation. Honestly, this is both your wife and your fault. You both continued allowing the same person to continue not once but numerous times and on-going. Hope and prayers to you both to have knowledge and courage to step up to your bnl.

Cov nus mas yeej saib tsis tau cov muam kiag, kuv ces ua siab mus ntseeg vaj tswv es muab ntsov nyuj dov pov tseg lawm nawb

Don't live near selfishness relatives!! Not a healthy lifestyle!! Hmoob os Hmoob!! 😭💘😈🐆🐍💀

Amen. Never loan money to family or friends. Dude, your too nice. You kept giving him chances. Me, once is enough. You are a nice yawg yee.

Zaj neej neeg no qhia tau zoo heev muaj ib cov hmoob yeej zoo li no kuv ntsib kiag lawm thiab

Tus txiv tsev aw koj cov teeb meem no ces yog koj lub siab zoo dhau lawm xwb os

Zoo mloog heev li os yog li thov kev pab Lo ntawv ib tsoom me phooj ywg sawv daw hos pab mus Txhawb qhas kuv thiab os ua tsaug ntau

3:15

He took you to court!! That relationship should had been over after that lol

OMG, this story made me so angry listening! I hope eventually you did not allow him to move in.

Cov neeg siab zoo thiab siab muag ces Txhua yam ua tag ua tuaj, pab tag pab tuaj, los tseem pab li vim koj lub siab zoo siab muag. Pab tag, luag ua phem rau yus los pheej xav tias nyaj tsi ua ntxiv lawm es thiaj pheej pab dua. Tab sis, cov neeg phem lim hiam yeej tsi mus txog twg. Karma yeej rov los qhia.

Wow ua human nyob Es cav muaj 1 hom neeg Es siab phem txog 6 theem no los cas koj tseem siab ntev tas ntev tuaj ntev dhau zaum tas zaum tuaj .koj mas thiaj hu tau ua superior yawm yij tiag2 lau yog kuv ces ntshe kuv twb xum g yuav nws tus muam kom dim kev lwj siab

That's hard to believe that court hearing will wait around for you if you are 2 hrs late. They don't do hmong time.

That is so true brother

🤯

tu neeg tsis nyiam koj ce yuav ua kom koj pluag thiab tuag ma nw thiaj zoo siab

Yes I’m the first to listen......😎

Learn from watching dramas, ppl! If you want to go into business with family, get you a good lawyer. Draw up contracts, everybody sign. They no sign, they no go. Make everything legal so you don't leave no loose ends.

yog kawg mas, yog tau cov dablaug zoo dablaug phem los never never ever borrowed nyiaj los yog qiv khoom muaj nuj nqi kiag li nawb, nco ntsoov tias nyiaj mus ces nyiaj luag ntxhi tabsis thaum nyiaj rov qab los ces nyiaj dub txig, nyiaj mus ces nyiaj luag luag thaum nyiaj rov qab los kawg ua plaub txog hnub tuag.

Sick and tired of Hmong people.

Gosh I wouldn’t even dare to watch their kids ever!

Tus nus aws ces zoo lis koj thiab. Tsis muaj peev xwb hais no rau cov neeg txais yus nyiaj thiab siv yus ces thiaj muaj tej xwb txheej no.

Nej cov poj niam mas yeej raug dag yooj yim thiab siab muag muag.

Ua tsaug ntau2 os. Hais tau yog tshaj plaws kuv kawm tau kiag lawm nawb.

Liam tiag tiag

Looks like you and your wife never learned. You two allowed her brother to use and abused you over and over again. It’s you and your wife’s fault for allowing them to take advantage of you. Koj niag poj niam no ruam tiag hlwb tsis duav nws. Nws tus nus dev no ua phem rau neb tas los ua dua tab sis koj tus poj niam tsis zeem kiag. Koj niag poj niam no tsis paub tu siab li. Koj niag dablaug no ntsej muag tuab tiag yom.

Ungrateful a$$ bro in law. No need for family meeting anymore that’s one thing I hate about Hmong people. Family or not jus handle ur own business 🤜👨

There's a saying in English, "Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me." Shame on you, guy in the story, for letting this good for nothing dablaug trick, lie, and cause all sorts of problems for you. Shame on your wife for constantly not supporting you and giving in to her awful brother. Toxic people should be kept at a distance with zero interaction, regardless if they are family or not. At the end of the day, all these problems arose because you didn't have the courage to say "NO" to both your dablaug and wife. If I were a guy with a wife who doesn't support me in my decisions to protect myself and my self-interests, then that wife better consider very seriously who she wants a life with---me or her loser brother. The rotten person may be your dablaug, but many of these problems could have been nipped in the bud if you had stood your ground.

Kuv kiag los yeej tsis muaj hmoo pub nyiaj thiab txais nyiaj rau lwm tus

Sounds like them brother and sister want to be a couple. How can you be so jealous of your sister’s new husband, if you ain’t have some un-pure feeling? And how can your niam dablaug be jealous of yawm yij, if she ain’t have some feelings toward him. Drama drama drama. Just switch pojniam then end of drama!

Wow!! kuv saib tus yawm yij dab laus no ntshais yog hmoob hais yog muaj teeb meem tiam tas los es thiaj rov los cob caub xwb, ho tsi yog li no ces zoo li nej pab no ruam tas tus ua dab tsi los tsi ua kom meej thiab tu kuas, thiaj muaj teeb meem qhov tas qhov tuaj li xwb naj!!

I don't feel bad you you guys nej ruam tshaj qhov ruam lawm

Loan and family business never works out with family….Greed, jealously, selfishness, etc. ruins relationship and family forever.

Brother you n your wife r too nice. U let your BIL n his wife used u over n over. Good lesson learn. Thanks 4 sharing ur story.

Nej ces yog tsiaj tauj tsiaj xwb os. 2 tog yeej nyiam plaub ntug thiab tsis paub ua siab neeg ua siab tsiaj xwb.

The noodle part is so ridiculous. It was not even necessary to argued over

I'd like to see this from a 3rd person's view before deciding who is really at fault in this story. This guy makes himself sound too good and makes his brother in law sound too bad!

You gave way too many chances. Just listening to your story annoyed me to no end.

Kuv ce thawj2 zaug xwb zeem lawm cov neeg coj zoo li koj tus dab laug kom na

Neb ruam dhau nws lawm nev twb yog tus yeej los rseem swb lawv cov kwv tij thiab ne luag yog ib cov naj lawv ham tsis tuaj ib tog los as , koj poj niam kuj tseem thawj nws thiab ne ! Neb ham tsis nplws tes xwb !

WOW they left for a whole month. Yet they expect 2 packs of noodles to last their four children. Why didn't you take them to the grandparents? I wouldn't have pay that policy. Screwed that. Brother you allowed yourself to be taken advantage of and used plus for granted.

The wife is so annoying! If this is my husband. I will cut ties with the brother already. I have 6 brothers, but none of my brothers will never mess with my husband like this. They know me well.

kuv seb koj los yeej ua tsis tau txiv li tso koj niag poj niam rov mus yuav koj niag dab laug xwb vim niag dab laug dev xav xav yuav nws niag muam xwb

I would have divorced his sister to get rid of him. So toxic.

Thaum muab ob tus neeg hlwb tsawg ib yam los ua yawm yij dab laug mas muaj qab hau kawg laiv. Neb sib phim kawg yuam.

Cov zoo li no tsis yog dab laug os yog dab ntxwg nyoog xwb os kav tsij muab tso plig mus yog qhov zoo tshaj

Nws siab phem dhau lawm es ntshai yog lub ntuj rau txim qhia nws xwb os

Soon me n my brother will be like that

Kuv niam cov dab laug ce zoo li txoj neej neeg no kiag

Txhob ruam ruam lawm nawb. Txhob pab pab nws ntxiv lawm. Tsam yus tseem mag teeb meem dua os. Poj niam los ruam heev thiab. Muab tsev neeg ntawv dov kauj vaj kiag xwb os.

this guy's story doesn't sound entirely true...if the bil was that bad, he would have never let all the problems he encountered happen over and over again

Bad people like your brother in law ignores him forever. No need to help him forever.

Tus mi nus aw koj siab zoo kawg li lawm os thiaj li muaj ib zaug tas ib zaug dua os yog koj xwb yog lwm tus ces ntshe twb tsis yuav tus poj niam ko lawm os vim nws tus nus siab phem dhau lawm

Nyob zoo og tug py kV tuaj saib koj dhau lawm og

I would divorce his sister and get out of their toxic family.

Kuv saib mas zoo li koj pheej kawm tsis tau thiab nad.

Brother yog Koj xwb yog koj tus muam es ua rau koj ces koj poj niam twb muab koj lawb lawm ov.

Dab Laug dev tsi yg dab laug neej ua kev kawm nawb yg leeg twg mua cov dab laug zoo lis z db neeg no

Tsis ua luam ces yog niam txiv tub, ua luam ces yog suav dub

This story and the people in there pissed me off

Yes!!! Kuv yog thawj tug tau mloog, ntawm zaj neej neeg no wooo!!

Thaub koj yeej tsi tos taub koj pab dab lauj no lis nas. Koj pab dab lauj tug yau tis nkuaj tug hlob tib lub tswg yem xwb nas thaub. Lawv sawj dawj los tswm ua rau koj xwb nas.

Neeg txheeb nyiaj tsis txheeb ov , nco ntsoov cia nawb

This is TOXIC AF! I will never let this slide!! Blood brother or not I'm cutting you out and getting that restraining order.

His wife must like you that why she make him do bad things to you.

Tug siab kawg

Koj ruam tiag2 for still marrying into that toxic family.

Drop your wife. Problem solved. Any person who cannot see how their family member is wrong and keeps dealing with them can and should be dropped. Fool me once, shame on them. Fool you twice, shame on YOU. You need to understand that it’s ok to cut anyone who does you wrong. Even if it’s family

Thaub ruam! Taeem ruam tshaj ruam lawm thiab lau . Tsis tau txaus, nuam qhuav ntxim xwb.

Oh tseem muaj tej tus hmoob meka xiam hlwb li koj tus dab laug thiab los🤣

Niag dab laug thiab niam dab laug yau kom ces siab lim hiam thiab hlwb tsis tees koos loos. Hais lus tom ntej tom qab. Ib pliag zoo siab rau yus. Ib tsam hos chim siab. Ib chim ces hos luag ntxhi. Kav tsij txav deb deb ntawm cov neeg zoo li no. Muab ncaws tawm kiag hauv yus lub neej mus. Yim ncaws tawm txom ces yus yim nyob kaj siab lug txom nawb! To the owner of this story: Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me. If someone takes advantage of you way more than twice, you only have yourself to blame. Once someone has shown themselves untrustworthy, you should not be surprised when they betray you again.

Koj poj niam neb ruam dhau lawm xwb....neb twb paub nws lub siab lim hiam lawm los tseem ua li nws hais tas zog xwb ces txhua yam Tim neb xwb os

I don’t know why Hmong people have SO many “hearts” to break?! It’s called having BOUNDARIES, people. It’s about teaching people how to treat you. They can’t respect you when you allow yourself to get mowed down over and over. I would have a difficult time having respect for someone who doesn’t know how to hold down their own boundaries. Smh. We all need to change this.

Funny Family!!!!

Wow Tus dab laug no yog dab laug khuj noj khuj haus xwb tsis hlub koj li

You and your wife are too nice that why he don't respect you two! Me, he taking vacation in jail the second times

Divorce your wife, get rid of this F up family. The Apples don’t fall too far from the tree. Run, ruuunnnn!!!!!!

Ruam ua luaj es tos li

Kwvtij, peb sawv daws yeej muaj tus neeg phem li no. Tsuas yog peb paub handle. Koj thiab koj pojniam neb ruam tsis paub handle xwb. Yog tim koj pojniam tso tsis tau nws tus nus.

Hmong people should not do business in general...just saying..and this guy is not smart at all, keep falling into his brother in laws trap

Poor pour p!

My husband and I learned the hard way, too. We’re now enemies due $$$$$ greed. Lesson learned NEVER do business with family members.

I don't get how you still married to your wife too. I've divorce that whole family.