FANS ARE CONCERNED ABOUT MEREDITH FOSTER'S "BIG SIS" | Reaction 

Meredith is opening up about her unfortunate experience with domestic and sexual abuse. People who have experienced such trauma often don’t have a healthy sense of emotional and physical boundaries. I honestly feel that this “therapist” is taking advantage of Mere’s vulnerability. This “therapist” is giving grooming/ culty vibes. One of the first things that was taught at university is that the therapist needs to cultivate clear boundaries between the therapist and client. I’m really concerned for Meredith and the potential outcome of this relationship

Jordan and McKay did a reaction video to this as well that is really good. Jordan is a licensed therapist, so it was nice to get her take on things. This is a really weird dynamic and definitely gives me the ick!

I am a licensed clinical medical health counselor and I have to abide by the ACA code of ethics. I have done research and can find no credentialing on Britain. My theory is that she does not actually have true credentialing and I could be wrong, but we are told not to cross these type of boundaries so that makes me believe that she might have a doctorate in crisis and trauma, but no actual license to be a therapis. That touching, etc. is disturbing to me.

Im a therapist and the inevitable part of my role is that we end up, whether consciously or not, taking on many personal-adjacent relationships. Im aware (and so humbled) that for so many of my clients, I'm friend-adjacent or parent-adjacent, etc because it fills an empty/deprived space for them and I think its deeply powerful and healing for them to have that. HOWEVER, it is incumbent on me to lay out healthy boundaries that help to empower them and mitigate the transference that happens emotionally and psychologically. This can be so easily abused by the therapist as its now a power dynamic at play. Its so complicated, and thats why where I live we have requirements to work with our own therapist and/or a clinical supervisor who we can discuss these matters with to prevent boundary violations and unhealthy attachments. Im observing some concerning things with this counsellor, I wonder what its like off-camera...

The level of over-adoring eye contact alone is staggering, it feels like watching a very private moment between lovers (this is coming from someone who has been part of over a hundred wedding day "first looks") so intimate moments don't make me uncomfortable in the slightest. My major ick with this is the infantilization vibes and lack of boundaries. There is nothing professional at all about this woman's demeanor or language which leads me to assume she is unlicensed churchEven if she is saying all the right buzz words, there is something very off about this woman.

As someone with graduate level education, this is absolutely inappropriate of the “counselor” (using quotations because I’m not sure what her actual qualifications are) in so many ways. This behavior is highly concerning

Another strange thing that I haven’t seen anyone point out, is how Britain says she has kids in their 20s, like Mere is…it’s definitely weird to be hanging out/being this close to someone who’s close in age to your children.

she left a comment on Jordan and McKay's video that unfortunately tells me she's really dug in. i wasnt aware of her before this but the vibes are AWFUL and i hope Meredith is safer than we all think

“I don’t know what the beach thing is; I don’t know the connection; I don’t know the fascination.” had me loling

I'm not invalidating Brit's sexual abuse and being used in childhood sex abuse material. But it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable and gross when people, especially therapists -- or any medical professional -- use "child pornography" instead of CSAM or CSEM. Pornography has a very specific meaning. It's meant to titillate and arouse, and using that in conjunction with children is disgusting. Of course, there are people that don't make that connection (which is a huge problem in of itself) because it's been normalized as a phrase. I wish more people would adopt the use of CSAM/CSEM instead of CP.

for anyone else who isn't super familiar with Meredith, I used to watch her videos constantly back when she was at her peak on here, when I was in middle school, and it's very obvious to me that her demeanor has changed a ton. I'm noticing that the way she's talking and acting appears to be more juvenile than i've ever seen her act, which could totally be a misperception on my part, but I couldn't stop noticing it. maybe it means nothing, but it just makes me wonder, like you said B, if she's clinging to this youthful attitude because of what she's been through. in which case, she would still be in a very vulnerable state emotionally, which would make this even more concerning

I have absolutely no experience in counseling other than the counseling I have gone through as a patient/client, but based on THAT experience this seems... so inappropriate.

As someone who went through similar things as Meredith, if a councilor/ psychologist/ medical professional acted like this in any way to me this would have been so weird. My family and friends were my source of comfort. And even then, I didn't want to be comforted I was numb and hollow from the shock of what had happened and the shock of leaving the life I thought I had built. I am now a completely different person, I have myself back, I have joy and true genuine connections with people. Professionals should stay professional. As a British person her accent also seems off. This whole vibe is off. The one thing I learnt going through what I did is to trust my gut feeling, and my gut feeling says this is off. Edit; I don't think Meredith is off, and I genuinely empathise with her. I am uncomfortable with the relationship being displayed.

As someone with a Master’s degree in school counseling and considering pursuing a clinical mental health counseling license, the wild lack of boundaries is startling at the least. I am also so curious why a clinician would allow something like this to be posted, because from what I am seeing this would be a massive red flag to any board or licensure program. Keeping boundaries with clients is literally rule number one, it’s the basis of a healthy counseling relationship, and I feel like this would be good evidence to have a license suspended or revoked. At the end of the day, I hope they are both okay, because this dynamic seems unhealthy for everyone involved.

My win for the week is I finally got a job interview after being a stay at home mom and then same for my bonus kids! It’s not in my field ( librarian) but I’m happy as it’s in a vets office! Ok Meredith’s video!? Was THE most bizarre thing I’ve seen probably ever seen on RU-vid!! Idk what the therapist’s credentials are? I don’t think they’re real! She seems fake! I’ve been in lots of therapy and I’ve never frolicked on the beach with her nor looked deeply in her eyes? Nor gave her kisses on the cheek!! This we cheesy and inappropriate and she looks brainwashed by this lady and Meredith still seems horribly sad!! With the motive of Meredith’s video at the end being a pro life message yes lots to unpack here !!!!

I havent seen anything from her in YEARS! I used to follow her during high school. I had to do a double take when i saw the title of your video

ok i’m sorry if i’m wrong but like.. that lady is trying to fake an accent right? it is so inconsistent…

Is it just me or is she going in and out of a british accent?

I’m so glad you’re covering this, I wanted to understand this situation more and I’ve been binging your content! Also want to say thank you for covering these topics as a compassionate non-extremist Christian. I’m an atheist and have never been involved in organized religion, so I find it super valuable and interesting to hear your perspective

There are oddly romantic undertones w these two

As a fellow believer and someone who grew up watching Meredith, this video was disturbing to watch. The way that Meredith hangs on every word from this "therapist" and the look in her eyes is terrifying. Meredith is talking about her love and devotion to Jesus but all that's coming across is her love and devotion to this lady. I feel so bad Meredith went through such extreme tragedies and I worry that she's going to be easily identified and taken advantage of by predators. Also, the way this lady changes her speech cadence and pronunciation is very strange, she's a wackjob. Not discrediting her experiences of SA, but now it clearly seems like she's taking advantage of Mere in some way.

Thank you for making the point about boundaries. That's what was giving me the major uncomfort about this video when I watched it with J&M. The fact that Brit is supposed to be a trauma informed for SA counseling and is so touchy feely is just wrong!

Meredith seems to have symptoms of PTSD and possibly depression. If she talk with certified therapist they’ll address it by addressing the trauma that causes it and working from there. Trust me for someone who experienced this, telling myself I am worthy etc doesn’t work, because when something triggers me, I go back to this cycle of anxiety and confusion. Additionally, medication (I am on lexapro) helped me tremendously during this process.

Meredith's body language is saying A LOT but I can't figure out what it is. It's unnerving.

My win is that I was a responsible pet parent and ruled out medical before going behavioral. The vet thanked me for bringing my cat in at the first sign of an issue, which validated my panic. He’s fine, just needs a round of kitty Prozac while my PM is redoing my balcony. I realize she’s probably doing it because she thinks she sounds soothing, but the seemingly fake British accent gets me. Maybe it’s not fake and it’s instead a case of the accent adapting to your surroundings, but she slips around too much, even on a repeated word. The way she says “daughter” also sounds like an American faking a British accent. That, combined with how not well bounded the relationship seems, kind of gives me the ick.

Their voices are so triggering for me. It's giving Michelle Duggar. I don't care what they say about dropping all the fakeness, their voices are drowning in it. It's a way of christianese speak where you talk sooooo humbly and reverently, but it's all an act. It's a variety of Christianity that has decided talking that way is the norm, and talking like a normal human being is the taboo... as someone who does NOT naturally talk this way, it convinced me for years I was somehow wrong, with just how sound came out of my mouth. But so many girls are able to adapt to it, but that's the thing, it is an adaptation, a learned behavior. This is hella giving culty vibes.

My win for the week is that I didn’t have a breakdown when my kids went to church camp. 😅😆 My youngest had never been away (except for grandparents & aunt’s sleepovers) multiple nights. AND they both had fun!

As a lover of Jesus, her saying “I’m not a number on a scale. I’m not a number on a screen. My worth is in Jesus” also brought me to immediate tears😭😭

Medical missionary with medical sciences?? What does that mean? Is she a doctor??

Personally I feel like the whole video is neither giving sisters nor councellor/patient, it's giving teacher who wants to be a friend to their pupils but totally misses out on boundaries and teachers pet, who wants to do everything right by their beloved teacher. The way Meridith looks at the "therapist" and answers the questions... It's like "Look at me, I remembered all the answers and I gave them perfectly, now you HAVE to like me and see me and I will feel seen"

My win for the week is that I found the Polish Marshmallows I was absessed with years ago in a Polish shop in my city. And also discovered sweet perogis. Its a small win but a win is a win.

After watching most of this video, I can’t help but compare her tone to how Michelle Duggar speaks. Obviously I have no idea what is really going on in their dynamic, and I don’t want to compare their ideologies to the Duggars or the damage that family has caused, it’s just struck me that their cadence and way of speaking is so similar and really creeps me out. I hope Meredith really is okay and healing, it’s just a really unsettling video

Ruby & Jodi… that’s all that needs to be said.

Finally got an interview for a part time position at an afterschool program! Had hope when leaving a toxic job that I would find something and this has potential. And you know what...you, your videos and your new more often content on tiktok and insta is also a win for the week, getting to watch it I mean! Thanks for the informative and wonderful content.

This is the second video I've watched covering this, the first being Jordan and Mckay's. Now that I've gathered my thoughts: The biggest red flag here is the video existing at all. No respectable and accredited therapist/counsellor would suggest creating a video with a 'client' and posting it online, especially to a youtube channel of Mere's size. Like Jordan said, it very much echoes the Jodi Hildebrant and Ruby Franke situation, where Britain is using Mere's social media presence and leveraging their relationship for her own gain. There's also an existing dual relationship, which blurs professional and personal relationships between the two, also similar to Jodi and Ruby. Also I think it's very ironic that at 24:50 Britain makes the emphatic statement that they are "not keeping up appearances anymore", while putting on a fake (in my opinion) English accent, and wearing an obvious wig (without giving any kind of context, such as if she's for religious reasons, etc). It's even more strange making that kind of statement given Britain's lack of social media presence, compared to Mere's history being of an influencer and large platform. Obviously, there's a LOT more going on here that meets the eye. It's unethical at best, disturbing at worst. I hope whatever unhealthy dynamic is going on can be nipped in the bud before it has the potential to grow into something heinous like the Jodi/Ruby situation.

My win for the week is that I finished rereading one of my favorite book series

Whatever your views on this video as a whole, I think we could all benefit from reminding ourselves that we are not numbers on a scale or a screen. The first step to wholeness is seeing worth in ourselves as individual, imperfect human beings

I watched Jordan and McKay’s video before so I had seen the video, but I will say again that The Courage to Create has been largely discredited and was linked to over half of the reported recovered memory claims being false. Conspirituality podcast has an episode or two about it. Jodi Hildebrant also talked about recovered memories a lot and had poor boundaries as a therapist so I think that’s the comparison that people are seeing. I hope that she’s just naive and that they both find the healing they’re seeking and it’s just a superficial connection.

Ahh!! I can’t believe you saw Hamilton this weekend. I was at Gammage this weekend with my best friend as well. That’s my WFTW too.

MWOTW: Getting extra sleep 💤 I saw this over on Jordan and McKay s channel and was weirded out by how they seem so close to the point I thought they were Lesbians.

WFTW: My wife and I are recovered from our second bout of COVID, and very, very thankful that she didn't go through another bout of "long COVID" this time! Also, have an opportunity to table next month at part of a new event/show.

I’m not done with the video yet. But something about this makes me really uncomfortable. - the body language and weird cuts/edits … the laying on the beach towel or whatever kicking their feet. The messaging being kind of … choppy? Something about Britton(?) Idk. I can’t put my finger on what I really don’t like about this. But it doesn’t make me feel good.

The weird accent changing is too much for me. I have watched their video twice now and it was even more odd the second time around. Something is going on between these two that is not appropriate if they are counselor/client. The fact that her website is now locked down completely and you cannot find anything... and I mean anything about Brit online is suspish. And the fact that Brit is in the Messianic movement just makes me mad. Don't coopt someone else's religion and their customs/traditions and add in Jesus. There are plenty of Christian religions to follow without taking away the important and sacred Jewish traditions/rituals. Something about Britt is just off. I can't put a finger on it... something is just off. I'm also questioning the use of the word "personhood." Is it just to be inclusive or is there something else behind it? Will we ever know?

Your hair is like a flock of goats im glad yall are in love 😆

I can’t get over the fake sounding accent. It reminds me of Andrew Tate’s accent💀 In all seriousness, bad vibes from Brit. I hope Meredith is safe and okay.

I definitely don’t think brit went to med school but maybe she did

My win: had a very stressful couple of weeks of work (and a few weeks of prep/dread fir it beforehand) that are finally over!!!!!

Knowing nothing about this woman but hearing that she had a friend group called the "savage squad" made my indigenous soul cringe. That alone gave me all the red flags🚩🚩🚩🚩

My win of the week is that I'm re-reading an old favorite book and its been so fun ❤ i appreciate how compassionate you are in your reactions 💗

The intro of the video made me think she was coming out as a lesbian 😅

no way she has a license! THIS is (one reason) why life coaching (and similar “professions”) is so dangerous! “but we’re certified” 🙃🙄 riiight, but what governing/ethical board holds you accountable when things get weird?!?! PLEASE see a licensed professional! they’re usually cheaper in the long run and (more often than not; yes there’s terrible people profession) actually know what they’re doing ❤

I've never heard of Meredith Foster 🤔 Looking forward to this though! Anyway, the red haired lady in the thumbnail intrigued me. Does she have really thick hair, or is she wearing a wig? Because it's giving wig 🤣

my win for the week is having my last recruitment meeting, and starting my new job tomorrow! (first job in over 1.5 years). very much enjoying this video so far :)

About 21 mins in, and I can see there are lots of boundary issues here. It's important for therapists and anyone providing this kind of professional care to teach the people they work with about what healthy boundaries are. It's a key part of healing and learning, especially after any kind of ab*se where those boundaries have been destroyed. There's a real danger that therapists step too far into the friend zone and active support. All the personal contact between them can be fine in some circumstances (usually as one off for support), so we can't be too critical of that. However a big chunk of a healing experience like this is learning to be yourself and OK without needing that kind of support. Especially putting it on display like this on YT is sending me big warning vibes. I'd suggest she find a psychologist who can provide a more professional environment.

Totally giving Jody and Ruby vibes.

The physical touch definitely made me feel uncomfy, too. I didn't hear anything that sounded off, it was mostly the physical proximity that was strange.

Wait, did not Meredith have a twin brother? I remembered her posting about him when she was very active...

i’ve literally only taken undergrad intro to clinical psych and yeah those are not appropriate client-patient boundaries

Just a heads up; Meredith might leave a very aggressive and hateful comment on this video like she did on Jordan and McKay’s video about her. Poor girl needs professional help.

Has anyone gone to the Amazon page for Brit’s book? I try not to say unkind things, but the insane amount of text on the back of her book is, ummm… pretty bad. It’s awkwardly written, & it’s SCREAMING for an editor. It doesn’t seem professional, which just adds another level of weirdness to the whole thing.

I love Do We Know Them!

I’ll say one thing, if Brit is truly a counselor and is in fact counseling someone she knows, that technically is illegal.

All the b-roll is so weird. It makes me uncomfortable. The energy is super off.

oh how I've missed you B! pray that you're handing your pregnancy well !

Unhealthy level of codependency

hey B! are you by any chance planning to do a video on rawbeautykristi?

I don't think them saying sister is meant to be blood related

Oh boy! In case anyone didn't know Messianic is a term a weird cult uses to describe themselves! (My partner was looking into communes in our state cuz we're very community minded and found a group of them it was weeeeird) They follow a lot of old rules of the old Testament and call themselves Messianic Christians or Messianic "Jews" and often consider themselves the "one true Jew" it's very yikesy and a bizarre branch of evangelicalism thats QUITE problematic for obvious reasons! Ie calling themselves Jews as Christians and also thinking that they can believe Christ is the Messiah and be Jewish when the two are very anachronistic. So that's probably part of the off vibes tbh. Their symbol is a star of David with a cross inside it and they're often accused (rightly so imo) of appropriating Jewish traditions. Also MEDICAL MISSIONARY?! that's an admission that they are attempting to convert vulnerable people in struggling communities into their religion! Imo (I may be biased as a non religious Quaker) missionary work is often not truly focused on charity but rather uses charity as a vehicle to conversion. I don't think that conversion or even evangelicalism are inherently bad but the practices of preaching to the poor and vulnerable (as someone who grew up impoverished and is still trapped in poverty) gives me a bad taste. Especially because they'll limit their assistance to non-believers and leverage joining their religion as the only way they can REALLY get further support from the missionaries. If charity is important to you than you should be able to divorce it completely from sharing your faith unless someone explicitly asks. Vulnerable ppl have plenty of shit to worry about and struggle to survive, and often Christian missionaries destroy the indigenous culture/religion in their missionary groups. That's why people refer to it as a branch of colonialism. I engage in mutual aid as best I can and don't care about someone else's religious beliefs as long as they aren't hostile to LGBT+ people or if they are facing erasure then we can talk about my rights later. First and foremost I want to limit human suffering. Sorry for the rant I'm very passionate as both my parents have religious trauma from Catholicism and evangelicalism. TLDR- Messianic "Jews" are an evangelical Christian cult and this counselor comes off as predatory From the wiki- Evangelical Protestants who identify as Messianic Jews adhere to conventional Christian beliefs, including the concept of salvation through faith in Jesus (referred to by the Hebrew-language name Yeshua among adherents) as the Jewish Messiah and Savior from sin, and the spiritual authority of the Bible (including the Old and New Testaments)

Why does her accent disappear toward the end of the video??

Is that a wig shes sporting?

Side note, is that a wig or her actual hair? The red head.

Ohhh nooo you cut the beginning which was the most weird and creepy part!? I thought the music was the copy right free RU-vid type of music ha Darn 😢😅 well the way Meredith looks at her the WHOLE time wow! I feel like she’s brainwashed but I also feel like she’s been through it leaving abuse I know that feeling… but she seems to go back and forth between bubbly and then back to really scarred ?? I also wonder is the therapist lady trying to appropriate something from Judaism with the wig??

i saw this video last week. i went back on her channel to “catch up” because i hadn’t seen her videos on a few years. the last ones i saw, she was renovating a house. i watched the video you’re talking about now & yeah, it seemed uncomfy… for lack of better words 😬

Why do I keep expecting them to break into song 😅😅 this is so cringe. I hope she is doing well and healing from her trauma but this lady seems like bad news.

Wait...so why the stethoscope??? 😅

Thanks B ❤

Even though I can see the issue with this "counselor", I can understand Meredith's frustration with Jordan and McKay's video. They tend to - in my honest opinion - be very harsh in their reactions and plain rude sometimes, even in their own comment section but of course especially in their videos. I understand their sentiment and their hearts, but they do go on about things in a negative and rude way, and I say this as someone who previously liked them. I think your response was way more humane and compassionate - you called out the problematic behavior but in a kind and genuine way. I don't know if it's just that I prefer your tone of voice over for example Jordan's voice (she sounds very whiney and negative all the time) but I don't really know. Your response comes across much better than Jordan and McKay's response, at least to me, is what I'm trying to say. And yes, Mere's and Brit's relationship IS weird, so don't come for me, everyone... I just say that we can talk about things in different ways!

Are you following the raw beauty Kristi possibly falling down the fundamentalist route? I wonder if in a few years you’ll have a video on her :(

The vibes feel off to me too. This just does not feel genuine. It's not that there is something bad but like it's not honest.

A bit random but B, you and Meredith must have a very similar sounding voice. So many times during this video I heard 'yeah' and if I i wasnt watching I couldnt tell if it was Meredith or you agreeing. It was v confusing!

That was terrifying in a The Shining twins kind of way

Hii! Can you make a video on Connor and Liana? They both live together for several years, have a kid together and Liana is ao desperate for a ring but Connor says hes just not ready for the commitment yet :(

Yooo this is so creepy 😟 She’s FOR SURE being brainwashed.

I can't watch these two....😢

This is bizarre and if they are sisters its in the amish sense

There use of Chesed makes me cringe

You can hold a sister's hand, I think that's why they were holding hands. Also, affection between sisters would explain their behavior on the beach. I'd love it if your video was a shame and judgment free zone. Looks like you're really really trying to get something on them. You haven't been successful.

Is she wearing a wig?

They’re so gay hahaha

Is Brit trans ?

29:33 this person's accent keeps going in and out, is it British, Irish, Australian? It's none of them because this is an American trans woman who is preying on Meredith because she's vulnerable and wealthy. Yuk.

Why is she wearing a wig?