You know what, you have the most beautiful personality even though you're going through something really tough to deal with. You have a no nonsense approach to where most like to sugar coat things. Thx for being so honest and upfront. I'm here if you need anything! ❤ from North Carolina
My wife has stage 4 breast cancer and has been on Femara/Kisqali for two years. She has tolerated it very well, except for the first couple weeks, I guess her body had to get used to it when the estrogen levels dropped. Don’t be overly concerned with the side affects, I think you will tolerate it well. Nothing but well wishes and the best to you. ❤️
I felt completely alone in my journey which is just beginning. Hearing thoughts and feeling of those in a similar situation helps so much. Thank you for sharing and walking with us on our journey. ❤
I can remember you Dee ❤ from the very beginning. I think 🤔 you appear to be relatively calm now because you did your being terrified at the very beginning - you came across as you always knew it would return. The terror for you was real at that outset - so it’s like you always knew. I find it very brave and so realistic. But that’s you, and Cancer isn’t going to change you for better or worse. ❤
I understand where you are coming from because I lost my dad to cancer when I was 7 years old and I still get so sad and angry but as the years go on it changes you for the better. At first it doesn't make you act out and mean but you learn other ways to deal with it. Honestly cancer shaped my entire life and is why I became a oncology nurse to help. I lost my sister to cancer in noveand again lost my cousin to lymphoma in May so it's shity. You explained it very well and thank you for that
Oh Rhonda, this is so sad but so sweet ❤ It’s lovely that you became an oncology nurse! I’m so sorry for all the loss you’ve experienced - it definitely is shit!
Also you have made me rethink alot of things in my life. You should seriously think about being a counselor or even a motivational speaker! Thank you for this Dee..I really needed to hear these things ❤
@@DeeDoherty I am so serious. I literally lost EVERYONE and EVERYTHING last October and I'm putting the pieces back together slowly but since I've found your channel the smallest comment that you may offer every now and then that most might not relate to I actually do. Keep up living your best and happiest life ever! You're going to be ok!! ❤️From across the pond❤️
I’m back for Part 2! Thank-you for taking the time to make this video. I’m sure you’re helping many of us out there who experience Scanxiety. Love you Dee ❤ You’re a treasure. xo
Hi, well it did return again for me. 😮😮 I was nearly 5 years clear and boom I had twinging pains in my back, thought Id get it checked out and got the results that I had cancer again. It was a new cancer totally unrelated to my previous one. I had 5 wks of chemo and radiotherapy and once I got through it my back was getting more and more painful. Turned out the radio therapy had broke my back in 8 places well compression fractures. Life changing injures but I got through it. I had to. I hope it doesnt come to visit a 3rd time as I cannot have radiotherapy the doctors have told me my bones couldnt take it. Im on my 6th and last zometa infusion for strengthening my bones and found that helpful. Infact when I told I had cancer the 2nd time I was told it was CUP and I had 12mths to live, then they told me oops no I havent. Its been a roller coaster ride for sure. Im sending love to you Dee, and everyone going through this journey ❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing with us. I am in the early stage of my first cancer diagnosis and am or have had all these thoughts. I appreciate knowing I'm not alone in my thoughts. You are one strong individual.
Hi Dee, I am currently on the treatment that you are about to start. It took me about 3 months for my body to adjust. It was rough at first I’m not going to lie but it did get better. I am currently still a full time teacher and have been on treatment for about a year now. Advocate for yourself. I’ve had to lower my dosage and although my tumor shrinkage wasn’t dramatically changing like it was at first, it was 💯 worth it because I am still stable and my quality of life is better. I do agree with you about the hormone treatment. I am so thankful to have a workplace that gives me free therapy 🙌 The mood swings are CRAZY. Sending all my prayers and positive vibes your way 🫶🏼 P.s. I appreciate you being so transparent about death. I used to fear it so much, but I think I’m in the category of people now where I more fear quality of life because I am only 30. I fear having to live with metastatic cancer and being on treatment for the remainder of my life.
Dee you are inspiration. You helped me through the discovery of cancer in my life. I now know the need to get toxic people out if my life. I know now the need to me make memories for my family. I'm grabbing life for now and forever xx. I understand how you feel about where you are going and I'm holding your hand . I hope you are there for as long as possible for your boys. Beautiful lady xx
Hair loss did not bother me so much as I am an ugly dude 😁 as you can see in my youtube. But it shows how incredible toxic these treatments are. That is why I went alternative, no more poison. Being on my 13th year of cancer, all 4 included, i have lived in fear for a quarter of my life. Kids make it worse. When I got my first diagnosis my first thought was my wife and the girls (9 and 6yo). Stakes are high. Now the stress of waiting for the scan in a few weeks. After the scan another week before results. Cancer is a waiting game. Go girl, you are a tough one.
Zometa can be crappy… like a bad case of the flu crappy, where all your muscles seem to ache and you can’t get your body warm. You can lessen that side effect by starting an antihistamine (in the US, the chemical name would be loratadine 10 MG) several days prior to your infusion, and for a week after. Really push your hydration and I always ask for an extra bag of fluids during my infusion of Zometa. I hope you feel well !❤
I love your outlook on life ! You’re so positive I feel like we are so much alike . I’m 3 years in to my cancer journey and with my chemo I got through it with a lot of patience and humour . I’m from Australia and I’m currently travelling in usa . Travelling is my therapy !!!
Hi Dee!! 🥰 there you go that’s how I want to see that strong spirit. And thank you for sharing you really have a big positive impact on people I really believe it you just have a way with words and just being yourself and honest helps a lot of people including us husbands. I think being nervous is normal and like you said your moving forward not only for yourself but for your children. I like what you said to be honest with yourself is very important. My wife has taught me that at times I think it’s harder for me. But we’re all learning as we move along, in this thing we call Life with love being the main motivator of course 🥰 and of course let’s get through it together as we all go through this you’re gonna be fine Dee remember if you feel good, you are good! My wife says hello. She said she loves your hair. You look really good. Yes we’re big fans of yours OK 😂🥰❤️ we want to send you something. Hopefully we can figure something we want to something nice for you.😊 well talk to you soon and thank you again for sharing. If you ever need anything we are here for you. Talk to you soon and God bless you always🙏🏽🥰❤️
I watched all of your videos when I got diagnosed with breast cancer in 2019. My diagnosis, like yours, was stage 3c er positive bc. Like you, I also know that my cancer will come back. I'm just hoping that it won't be any time soon. Thank you for making these videos ❤
I like the fact you are so honest and say it like it is. I am 37 years old too and have two kids. The part where you talk about your boys is so emotional and you are a great mom. I totally agree with you. I feel like I can't be weak and sick, I have to be strong to be there for my kids whenever they need me. I was just wondering about you knowning cancer will come back. Was that just your inner feeling or because of the type of cancer you had, lymph nodes involved etc...And like you said we are all going to die, we have to live now and be happy, every single day. And btw letrozol for me it's not that bad, but it does make me feel like 60 year old woman. I am on it for almost four years and honestly when I feel like it's too much I take breaks for like 10 days or so. Than I start taking it again. And I'm on zoladex too. Stay strong, and my inner feeling tells me you're going to be just fine.
God your brave I love how honest you are I have decided no treatment if or when it returns I also refused the hormone treatment after kemo and I've been ok so far ultimately it's your body do what's best for you Quality time is important Sending you love ❤❤❤ Caroline laden Australia I found you 2020 when my diagnosis xxxx
You are so real and funny as all get-out! My brother died from prostate cancer earlier this year, and I’m getting a surgery in less than 4 weeks. I have found your sharing so encouraging and inspiring. Oh, I’m a teacher. One year, I had at least 4 kiddos whose mothers were either deceased or had left for one reason or the other. That little group of kiddos - we had a special small reading group. We read and talked about books like “Because of Winn Dixie”. When things happen - when life is unfair and parents leave or die, the Universe/G-d/Great Spirit will have people ready to keep watch and love those who are too young to suffer such. Just wanted everybody to know we teachers sign up readily for that kind of special mission. Peace and blessings❤
It does make you think , I lost both my parents to cancer 7 years ago the same year 5 month apart . I have that survivor guilt as I got through my breast cancer in 2022 . It was secondary breast cancer for my mum so I always have that thought of it coming back as I'm still getting bad side affects and now waiting for results of a full bone scan . Good Luck with the treatment Dee xx
wow you have so beautifully articulated Exactly how I feel and have not been able to articulate . I was diagnosed stage 4 with a met in my tibia in May 2023
This has been so helpful thank you so much. I have just finished treatment for a recurrence of low grade non-Hodgkins lymphoma. It works a little differently from other cancers in that it can spread throughout your body without being metastasized. However it is almost certainly incurable and I will inevitably have to be treated again in the future. I have a lot of trauma to work through from Chemo. Your views on dying have really made me think and it is the single best thing I have seen on the subject. Thank you for being so open and addressing the difficult subjects.
Thank you 😊 And I knew a man (he’s alive I just don’t know him anymore) who was in the same boat as you…. That it almost like a chronic illness that will continue to return! Stay strong 💪 ❤x
All you can do is think about what might have caused your cancer in the first place and try and change them to improve your odds.Good luck, I truly hope you will be fine.
I can’t do chemo again if the cancer comes back. I now have leaky heart valve because of chemo so I will just …give up. My husband is a wonderful dad. My daughter will be okay after I die.
I lost my mom to breast cancer when I was 7 years old, so I know profoundly what that’s like. I don’t remember anything of my mom. My little brain went into protective mode. I worry about that for my kids (youngest is 8). I can say, my life is full and I had others come along side me when I was young and protect me. They will adapt. I just finished my AC/T last week and have huge fears around not having that safety net.
My friend has had recurrence x3, it is now ‘asleep’. She has lived with secondary breast cancer for 16 yrs. She will never be cured but has treatment every three weeks and fingers x she carries on.
I can’t even remember exactly what I put as an answer on your Instagram poll… But I was thinking about it more and more and what I’m really afraid of is being so sick that I can’t be the loudmouth b@#$h I was the first time around… I had to demand things in the hospital… I had to ask more than once to get basic needs met… I was on my own, because I was isolated from my family in the United States, and I was in Canada, so I had nobody there to speak for me… I am really scared of being voiceless in the hospital. More than anything. I am really afraid of people who are just nasty and happen to be a nurse or an orderly because I know they are there. There’s so many wonderful people, but I’m afraid of being helpless and voiceless at the mercy of less than high-quality people. That is my absolute, biggest fear. Well, actually, my biggest fear is leaving my kids without a mother… But in the details, this is the one that comes out as a bone chilling.
What is being young; is there a number? I am 65 and to young. I have stage 3 Lung Cancer and have and will fight like hell to survive. I am not ready to die.
You are a awesome lady...I do have a question...you never mention a husband...so are you going thru this alone with you kids or is your mate a big help? thank you and all the best to you and your family.
I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I mean no disrespect, but please look at trying a Keto diet. I'm reading that cancer cells can't grow when the body is in ketosis. There are many videos on this topic on YT from cancer researchers. I wish you success. Don't give up hope or stop trying anything and everything. God bless you. Dee.
Lo peor es enfrentar la agonía del final, que puede tardar meses, es un deterioro lento y sumamente doloroso tanto en el aspecto físico y mental. Mi madre murió de cáncer de mama con metástasis en huesos y pulmones y jamás podré olvidar todo aquello... Hoy soy yo misma quien enfrenta ese potencial desenlace y es aterrador. En mi caso no me preocupa la cuestión familiar, ya que no tengo vínculos significativos, pero sí me importa inmensamente mi propio deterioro y el pánico del desenlace final de esta pesadilla sin fin. Qué pasa si el cáncer invade los huesos y me inmoviliza ?? o se extiende a mi cerebro con todas las nefastas implicaciones que esta situación acarrearía ?? Es absolutamente inhumano tener que vivir o mejor dicho "sobrevivir en estas condiciones"
Like I said, I’ll do what I can without it impacting my quality of life. Whatever that involves. But I will try my best and do everything I can to stay alive for my children.
Hi there! I hope you’re doing well! I have a question for you, if you don’t mind. I’m looking into starting a channel to discuss my journey. Can you tell me what you use to upload and the editing software? I’m thinking to start with my phone, but it appears you can’t make fancy thumbnails with a phone. lol. Sorry if this is the wrong place to ask my questions. Thank you! ❤
Hey! I use my iPhone and MacBook Pro. I use iMovie and Splice to edit. And you can make thumbnails on your phone by using Adobe or another piece of software. You usually just need to pay for the software 😊
