My man said he was impressed how feminine I am while also being extremely independent. I live on my own, etc. I explained to him I am independent for survival not by choice. My choice is to be feminine.
feminity is independent. she represent the energy of the cat. and it is the cat that shows us, that true independence lies in being able to do everything on your own, but still not having to do everything alone.
Just don't challenge a man and you'll have someone forever if u do u will continue to be single, give yourself the advice the type of woman you would want your son to date. Not the skared woman the submissive feminine powerful woman. We are opposites not the same.
I met a man now that puts me in my feminine. Ladies sometimes it’s the man you choose that puts you in masculine energy. For me a guy that belittles me, makes me anxious, makes me feel like an option, doesn’t try hard, etc puts me in a defensive mode. I have FINALLY learned to let those guys go. The right guy makes me feel safe so safe I WANT to care for him and my anxiety is no where to be found.
May I ask: how does one get you to this stage / phase? I currently have a woman who claims she really loves me and I really do my best to make her feel protected; however, lately, I have been questioning her loyalty and love - could this not make her feel safe? It’s just shit anxiety I have because I really do love and care for her. Could this be “too feminine?”
@@thahalfbl00dprinceLook up anxious attachment styles. I’m that could be what’s happening to you, or it could be your intuition saying something tis off. Discern between the two.
@@leocardoroger6270 That’s a possibility, but it can also be that she doesn’t perceive him as being masculine enough, so she steps into the masculine role.
“You can be feminine, but he needs to show up the right way.” This right here is all you need to know if this is the right guy for you. That man needs to make you feel safe to show your vulnerable side. If you find that your guard is up and on the offense-he is bringing out your masculine side and you WILL burn out !
Men confuse being responsible as being “masculine” when it comes to us women. I never understood that. It’s like…they want us to work, but not too much. They want us to have money, but not more than them. They want us to bring 50/50 but only when it’s convenient to them. Im glad I’m single. I’ve been choosing myself for a lot of years and I feel so free. Any time I’ve dealt with a man I’ve always had to turn down my energy to be low budget to make them comfortable or “feel” like a man. It’s not my job to make you feel like a man. I respect men, but not if you’re demanding respect. Some men just have it and some men don’t. The manosphere is beyond tiring.
Agreed! We have been forced to be independent bc so many of these man children out here can't even bring what we are already showing up with! And many of these men are selfish, abusive and narcissistic - not worth the time, emotion or energy. How can you be open, soft, and feminine while you are trying to protect yourself from manipulation and various kinds of abuse?
I strongly agree with what you wrote, absolutely 💯 For me,I prefer being single, no stress,abuse, control etc, and I feel more feminine then ever! Peace is more important 🙏🏼
@@godessunivers6941 Exactly. Matter of fact, a few weeks ago, I met a guy. As I am. Minding my business sitting at a restaurant bar eating and having a adult beverage. He asked if he could sit next to me. I said sure. I’m still minding my business. He makes it a point to keep talking to me. And I’m fine with that. I get my wallet out to pay my stuff so I can leave, as I was already getting ready to do. He proceeds to tell me that my braids are too long but he finds me attractive and would like my number as long as he could see my “real hair”. Boy bye!! You worried about the wrong thing. Like firstly, I wasn’t even interested in you. Just because I speak to you, doesn’t mean I want to holla. I’m being courteous as a woman should be. But to compliment me and put me down but go out of your way to do so was very comical. I politely declined his request and stated you’d probably be fit for someone with “real hair”. It’s the audacity for me that kills me.
Agree ! 100 percent , I been choosing me and I am happy. I have been married and raised 3 wonderful children. I am enjoying traveling , 🏋️♂️, partying with friends, Chrurch. I am not taking care of no man who. Does not take his health seriously. It my time , I have taken care of every Tom , Dick , Harry .
Truth Bomb 💥💣 However, a woman has to feel emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically, financially and sexually SAFE with a man in order to feel Feminine. She needs to feel secure, protected and appreciated to trust him to lead, protect and provide for her so she can let her hair down. A man needs to walk in his Masculinity to pave the way for her Femininity ☯
When a man isn't creating a safe container for their woman - she will rise up in her masculine to support herself where he is lacking to do so. Honestly I believe it is up to the masculine to provide a space where the feminine can feel safe enough to receive his blessings and multiply them. ♡
But you can only change yourself so if he isn't providing such container you can only work on your feminine energy and see if you can maybe soften and be more receptive etc, or leave him. Becoming more masculine yourself solves nothing.
I’m genuinely annoyed with men that speak like this, because they act as if the economy is fluid enough for us to still be in this weird energy. A lot of men don’t have inner peace and don’t create a safe space for women to relax to be feminine, especially in the black community. They need to give this a rest, because I don’t see a lot of white men talking about women like this.
How do you provide such a container? Do you give a woman space even when she wants to “hangout” all the time? I fall under the spell and say yes everytime. But then at times she say’s i’m “ too feminine”, because I do love affection whereas sometimes it may be overbearing when she needs her space. Any advice?
@thahalfbl00dprince the masculine provides and the feminine receives. In what ways can you rise up in that sense. Are you planning the dates, are you taking a load off her shoulders, providing for her - emotionally or physically. If you're looking to have your woman in her feminine - look for ways you can be her masculine and naturally she will.
We have to have the masculine go-getter, I'm-here-deal-with-me, I'll-beat-out-everyone-else-here energy for the outside world, and have the feminine thank-you-kindly, I'm-here-treasure-me, please-will-you-do-this-thing-I-can't energy in a relationship. I'm not saying it's impossible. I'm saying it's HAAAAARRRRRRD.
If a woman lives alone she has no choice, she is responsible for everything, including finances and house maintenance as well as the more traditional feminine roles. She has no option but to be independent.
I was the son my father wished he had. @ 61, I've been in my Mascline for 48 years. I am tired! God brought me a man that allows me to be. So much better.
You can have your own car o fleet of cars but is it not wonderful to be picked up, door opened for you and driven to and for wonderful destinations. You can have your own company but is it not wonderful to be taken to a most wonderful restaurant because he was paying attention when you were talking? You can pay your own bills but is it not wonderful for him to say, "I am busy but here is $$$$$$$$$, so please treat yourself and your girlfriends." It is about being gracious and receptive - it is a gift to provider type men.
I told my man that a man told me I was too masculine..His response..good they should see me when ur around them...I know there is only one man in u😂😂😂😂 He knows I am totally independent and strong as who i need to be for the things i must handle..but with him..Im all the feminine woman he needs me to be..I trust him fully with my well being..we have true balance..
Again, great information Stephan! Some of us will receive this information and use it to our benefit for a healthy long-term relationship/marriage!! ❤️
So true,thank you !I am very grateful for all these great tips ,because I didn’t know much on how to do relationships,unfortunately , what are some messes that I made out of myself. I thank you lord for your grace and your goodness towards us ,but God , I am trying to educate my 2 girls on relationships .😁❤️🙌🙏🏼
We have to be feminine on purpose. Inside and outside of relationships. To many women do not want to be Feminine unless she is in a relationship. You have to constantly walk in it when dealing with men. Rather it be your own son, nephew, friend, etc. I allow my son to open my car door just like I allow men to open my car door. I look for that. See, my son created that part of me. Not even his Father(my ex husband) opened my car door. Practice makes perfect. I always allow my male neighbors to help me when they offer me help. They love to take my trash to the dumpster or help me with my groceries. I am always operating in my FE. I will ask for help. I will stand back and allow a man to open the door and also the car door for me.
I'm hearing this... and at 40 its still NOT my norm. Only recently with going through an exit of marriage, have I dug deep, therapy, reading, viewing... and seeing this masculine/ feminine energy within. I am trying to 'practice' by doing the things u stated. Im quit to decline or ever ask for help, because I came up w a independent mother, no man in the home. I've been in this space for a long time, through relationships... never knowing anything about the energies from myself and the 'males' I was with. When I go on a date, I'll be looking for these things. Thanks for your share.
@@ellatooch5209 if that man does not create a space for her vulnerability... she can not let her femininity flow. As other comments have stated... we stay in survival mode because there are no other options. But, if/ when the right man comes, that could change for her.
That’s how i feel i want to see a balance in boys just as well not confusion running scared to speak up and on an on, ok woman on here im reading strong powerful comments 👏🏽
I am a stay at home wife , take care of the house , kids ect . My husband gives me 200 dls every two weeks and if sometimes he feels as I didn’t do a good job that week or if he had to help me with the cooking he will yell at me and tell me that I don’t deserve the 200 dls and that I am money hungry . I do not feel comfortable letting someone else care for my kids , I home school my children and I have a small RU-vid Chanel that he criticizes because I do not make any money yet . I have anxiety and ptsd so I feel incapable of getting a job . I am not a lazy woman but he tells me every week that I am lazy so he doesn’t have to give me the 200 dls . I need help because I feel as I can not go on anymore I been with this man for 16 yrs .
A woman who was very independent I got away from her because her independence was too much and it was too much she put it on me like slapped it on me but I tried to tell her to pull back but she wouldn't do it UE
The problem is that you are saying it, you dont need to say a word. A man leads from his energy... all men want their girlfriends or crushes to summit or be depended on them but women wont do it until she is feeling safe around that man. A man is stronger than a woman she can be abused easily, that is why she protects herself by calling her masculine power and her independence out of the surface
He says he's never seen a man in love, who doesn't want to pour into her... dam... SO WE OUT HERE W MEN who AREN'T in love w us?! Years n years... because plenty don't pour into women. 😩
But when/how do you show up in that way? I am independent because I have to be. I am a single parent. I have yet to attract man that want to play or fulfill a masculine role in my life. I have only ever attracted takers. Or babymen, that need/want to be taken care of. I am a caretaker by nature.
how you feel about a woman's actions is your problem. women are divine beings filled with pure love and intuition and men stifle them, control and snuff out their light. women are better off alone
Trusting him will allow me to be in my feminie role. If he doesn't have the same understanding of his role of masculinity that will help us to build our foundation for the future . It is important that our roles are displayed and understood by the way we approach each other from the first time we approach one another. If you display the game 🎮 and all about you attitude becomes a red flag alert 💯
The show we used to manifest to tell me she got an apartment on she got a Mercedes-Benz you know she got a job and she has a business so she would always put that in the forefront like I don't have like I don't have like I don't have a lot money so it looks like I made more than her but she would always put the independent on me I didn't like it ue
You are right they do conflict with one another, but a guy needs to show up as that strong supportive compassionate and protective provider or he may not see that vulnerable woman walking in her feminine energy without someone she can TRUST and RELY on cause women have had to cover so many roles inside and outside of the home, that it's not funny all while dealing with the storms of life. This is always a good topic to me, Yet a progressive work for both Men and Women whether in a relationship or not. We need to focus working on self prior to a relationship and even more so after coming out or entering into a new relationship.
The guy needs to show up the right way so as not to cause the woman to feel a need to protect herself from him. If a woman is backed into a corner, I believe that instincts are activated and can cause many women to stand up for themselves out of fear.
But my husband wants me to work and have my own money, even to pays for our home expenses too.. but he said i'm too masculine.. then what to do?? He asks for me to show 2 side of a coin at the same time 😅 im dizzy 😵💫
I don’t understand it, how am I going to rest in super feminine energy, while still having to do everything for myself, it makes no sense to me to be this super soft woman, if you’re here and not helping me maintain myself, if I have bills to pay I’m not worried about being female for no guy I’m worried about getting these bills paid
Right it is hard to be the head of your own household, work 8 or more hours a day and still try and be soft, so please give us women advice on how to get a mate without our jobs and bills conflicting in the situation?
Tell him to stop abandoning their children and their wife and women wouldn’t have to be so masculine😂🤦♀️!! Show me a man that’s gonna sweep and take care of everything till I die!! Show me a man of honor. Oh wait a minute I don’t know if I’ll ever know that because that’s a risk.. A risk of putting somebody in power when I don’t have the time now to take that risk it’s kind of like as you get older you have to watch your risks and your Stock portfolio. Relationships are the same way sadly.
Just don't challenge a man and you'll have someone forever if u do u will continue to be single, give yourself the advice the type of woman you would want your son to date. Not the skared woman the submissive feminine powerful woman. We are opposites not the same.
How come being soft is the way all women should be and is it necessarily the case that all men's nature is to be masculine? With all the men out there, isn't it likely that some have less macho, even independent characteristics? Similarly, with all women out there, isn't it likely that there are some who're independent, that there isn't someone out there for each of our natures? Sounds less rigid to me, again requiring all women to be "soft"
If you’ve been single for 3 yrs and you get into a new relationship, at what point can a woman kind of let her hair down and give him more opportunities to be helpful and present; since she has had to do so much for herself? Please answer back
yet another bad take about women from a man. women can be whatever they want, if that threatens you, you are weak and insecure. man-children need to grow up and accept women for the multifaceted, divinely spiritual beings they are. if you cant accept and honor her, you dont deserve her. plain and simple. there is not a single argument you can make that would convince a woman its ok to stifle her energy.
What if my feminine energy made me the target of take and now I’m not “masculine” but afraid. I’m Sorry but you need to stop spewing this feminine energy crap without looker deeper.
Femininity is a lifestyle not something you turn on and off when you are in a relationship. Smile more, let a man open your door, speak softly and be kind!
When a man is viewing a woman as too masculine, he will keep it moving. There's no specific way to act, behave or come across, to have a man that actually cares about you, choose to love you. All this word play is way too pretentious
Masculine has traits: such as bossy, controlling, angry, always frustrated, struggling, negative talking and thinking. Unhealed trauma, easily triggered.
Can we just be what our circumstances & work environment allows us to be .Without hearing about Man that cannot contribute anything . We could all choose to be feminine & stop exercising our masculine energy. Kids will go to bed hungry & a Man will keep making promises -saying it’s hard to be Man . I will adapt & keep evolving to serve my purpose and God .
who’s man’s is this? 😂 according to him women need to be completely dependent and rely on men or we repel them. yet those same men will call you gold digger for asking for too much and then lie cheat till ur used up. yea ur better off finding BALANCE with someone that doesn’t have such outrageous asks and is so insecure that you have to dumb urself down to a damsel in distress jus so he can feel like strong.
