For all of the women with mothers who bought into the feminist paradigm. We have no guidance and no pride in being female. Thank you for sharing your mom and thank you for giving to all of us. We need you.
After being a SAHM for 20 years I thought I would help my local school district out by becoming a substitute teacher. I was asked to take a part time, long term substitute position for learning disabled kids. These kids have some pretty extreme behaviors. I always talk very softly and calmly to them. When they are having a meltdown I say very little and keep my voice very gentle. I have made such progress with these kiddos. They behave better for me then anyone, ever. I threw them a little hot cocoa party last week before they started winter break. I allowed them to invite a friend and we had cookies. It got very loud. I raised my voice to quiet them down a bit. Not yelling just loud enough for them to hear me. My most violent little boy that has regular outbursts of screaming started to cry and asked why I was yelling and that it hurt his feelings. I realized they have come to not expect me to do that and it bothered him when I just slightly elevated my tone. There is such power in a gentle, calm voice for everyone. Thank you for the video.
I think there are more women going through the reappraisal of the woman’s role than you think. The unfortunate pandemic has women home and seeing their role in the home in a different light.
@@lindahenderson1625 Oh, that's interesting. I didn't know that but I've been working on myself because I've been getting such negative feedback from others about how I am and because I want to be a better person.
@@websurfer5772 me too! It’s been painful but I’m so thankful for the guidance from this channel. This information wasn’t shared to me when I was growing up and I have a lot of women in my family.
Thanks for this video, I’ve been thinking of this lately. There is nothing better to stop a crying baby than whispering. They figure out pretty quick they can’t hear you unless they get quiet.
I have a naturally soft voice that developed harshness over the years when I became a parent. It's an area I've been wanting to work on for years now. Thank you for telling us that it's doable. Am needing this encouragement!
This is very valuable information, and quite moderate. My grandmother was raised as a strict Victorian. I wasn't even permitted to say gosh in her presence, because it was a substitution for the Lord's name in vain. If i said son of a nutcracker, she would have been mortified. Today, son of a nutcracker seems like a great substitution.
Other girls made fun of me for not being what they said was 'cool' enough back in the '70s, or at least that's what I think they were saying to me, like that they were disgusted that I was too innocent. I changed myself to be more 'cool' but I think it made me more masculine. I started partying, swearing, and became more sportsy and that seemed to do the trick. I guess I was really just copying how the guys are. All my friends back then wanted to be like Kristy McNichol and Jodie Foster which is interesting now that I realize they both turned out to be of a different orientation from me. They were two of our main role models on the big screen and on TV back then. Looking back, I think that women were becoming more like men and now western men are marrying women from other cultures because they say us western women are too masculine and I think they have a point. I'm naturally loud and aggressive but back when I was a young teen I was very shut down. I think that's how society prefers me to be. Seen, not heard. This video is giving me good reminders that I need as I come off as too loud and I talk too much. Thank you.
Another great and informative video! This is so true. I love Grace Kelly’s voice but did you know her original voice was quite nasal? She worked with a speech coach and completely transformed it!
Grace Kelly did have a pretty voice, but it sounded so overly fake to me that I didn't like to listen to her. I'm almost ashamed to admit that. I was waiting for you all to switch Fran Drescher's voice with Audrey Hepburn's. That would be a hoot! Great info and very much enjoyed. Thank you so much ladies!
@@websurfer5772 She's so funny - loved her show. Her voice served her well as a comedienne since she looked like such a knockout and then her voice came as such a surprise - surprise being one of the key elements in comedy. Love those reruns!
This is so true! I never heard swearing as a kid it’s something I acquired as an adult. I just let it go recently and hate it. I used to almost never swear not even in my head. ☹️
Thank you for this informative video! It’s a very important topic for me and I will add some creative ‘ replacement bad words’ to my vocabulary! Do you ladies have any suggestions of reasonably-priced etiquette/refinement programs for 30+ women who did not have the privilege of attending charm school, cotillion, etc. as a girl?
This video is something I love showing my voice students!!! I am a singing teacher and was wondering where on utube did you find these hilarious links.????
Lol! Thank you! We create all the clips from movies and we created the voice over clips from an app. I can’t remember the name of the app but I searched up voice over.
I think an excellent example is Dolly Parton. And, note, this is a woman who runs a multimillion dollar entertainment empire and is the main breadwinner in her marriage so she goes to show that you can be powerful, successful, confident, and independent while still being feminine and soft-spoken. That clip from that old Barbara Walters interview that has been shared so widely online in recent years is such an excellent example. Parton verbally bests Walters in a very powerful fashion but never raises her voice or gets impolite.
Thank you so much, Cherry and Dixie🌹💗 I'd love to learn more about feminine speech and tone especially on how to cultivate it. Love you two so much! Sending you love and gratitude💝
One thing I am proud of is I have never yelled at my 4 boys. I grew up hearing my aunt scream at her 4 girls. All the time, all day. I vowed as a little girl to never be like that.
Interesting…I’m a mom of 5 soon to be 6 children. As of now my husband and I have 4 boys and 1 girl. I use to fear having a daughter but I absolutely loving having being my daughter’s mother. I have always been masculine in many ways, militant and head strong. I use to get frustrated in my youth because I couldn’t understand why my strengths were always weaknesses when dealing with men. Why they scared them away or caused me to overrun them. My oldest son is 11 and often asks me if I am trying to sound like “Daddy” when I get upset. Yikes! No! I’m not but I realize now that I am though! 🤦🏾♀️ whelp time for some changes.
This book, S-A-V-E-D me, from a lot of turmoil. Fascinating Womanhood, can we please see a list of the tope 25 movies that exemplify the values of fascinating womanhood charm? -Fascinating womanhood reader from Walnut Creek, California
My husband and I like to send voice messaged to each other and listening to my own messages helps me improve my tone. Does anyone know where I might be able to watch My Fair Lady online?
It’s such a classic! My library used to have it but not anymore. Often times those popular classic movies aren’t available online for some reason but Amazon does have the dvd right now for $10. 😊
This is an extra great one FOR EVERYONE so Mufasa /Vader JEJ is very well cited ... One of the big lies abt Trump is lazily claiming he's just irredeemably rude BUT IF YOU ACTUALLY LISTEN to him directly without biased filtering/occlusion then it's clear he's very warm and caring as well as humorous and strong
What is the movie with the blonde getting elocution lessons. I’d love to watch it x. You are a God sent! Thank you for all of your guidances. So priceless. My gratitude has no bounds.
What does it mean that I prefer the blonde's way of speaking (for her). I just love when people have strong accents as long as I can understand them, or a strong culturally different way of speaking. It's the spice of life. Like I love Big Ang's voice on Mob Wives. I think I prefer loud and proud voices although for comparison, I also really like Cherry Lynn and Dixie's voices too. I want people to be who they are naturally but OTOH I think I need to improve my tone and I've been told so online. lol They meant how I was expressing myself. My voice really carries so I need to try to remember to speak more softly when I'm out. If I try it at home my hubby can't hear me.
I have a very soft almost child sounding voice. I don’t think it’s shrill, but I have received so many comments that I sound like a very young girl not a 32-year-old.
Try adding some vocal fry (rasp) and ask them if it's better. I have the same problem and that's what I plan on doing next time someone says that to me. Personally vocal fry irritates me, and I have a real problem listening to people who really put it on like Alex Jones, but the right amount might help with our issue. I prefer the way Alex Jones used to sound before he added so much. A girl in high school taught my friend and me to lower our voices and use when we were all in the Girl's bathroom. She said that otherwise we sound too young and others won't take us seriously. I did it for a long time and no one ever had anything negative to say about my voice. Honestly, I couldn't believe it. Then I got married and started noticing others using too much vocal fry as I was watching more TV so I dropped it and now some people tell me I sound like a kid again.
The Alexa story did nothing to demonstrate the power of a feminine voice, it did however manage to convince me that modern people have serious issues if they scream at and use gender pronouns for a robot.
The Alexa story simply points out how much influence/power a feminine sounding voice can be in that: when it was used, the masculine figure (her husband) had no qualms in fixing the issue himself without her asking him to. Simple as that.
Well Cherry said trying to get Alexa to understand her was negatively affecting how her and her husband were relating because he was internalizing how frustrated she would get with Alexa. I experience the same thing when my husband and I watch people fighting on TV, like on the reality shows I enjoy watching. It seems to really rub off on him in a bad way, and then we start getting into it.
Hillary may have lost the election in part because of her harsh, grating voice - men HATED it. And both Hillary and Kamala have an absolutely irritating cackle. So - even feminists can benefit from having a pleasant, lovely voice.
