finally talking about: toxic friendships 

GUYSS thank you so much for the sweetest and honest comments, i appreciate you SOOO much. 🩷

I don't think people talk about this enough. Friendship Grief is such a real thing

I have this friend that i am close with for like 6-7 years who like never motivated or supported me and always drained me by telling abt her everyday life ..even if i motivate her its never enough..Now that i know she was an energy drainer the whole time..I will actually start distancing myself..btw thank you so much ❣️❣️

I've had my share of toxic friends. It's annoying when they would disguise underhand comments as true compliments. Narcissist friends are the worst. I had a friend who talked about my weight and my choice to have a veggie burger and then screenshot our conversation and took it into a chat thread with people and talk bad about me and my body. A friend who is disrespectful to your boundaries but then would get mad when you tell them how they made you feel. In college, you learn a lot. this video was amazing you Sadie.

ive had my fair share of toxic friendship even in my university life and it’s been so hard because i didn’t think it would happen in my early 20s. But that’s good i found a group of very close friends. Thank you Sadie for this truthful video 🫶🏻💞

Boundaries in friendships is soooo important. Otherwise you will be taken for a FOOL

for all the people who are going through a really toxic friendship: get out of this fucking group or leave this person alone. once you realise how powerful and how important you are, you don’t need anyone. Find the happiness in yourself and not in other people.

Have you ever had a friend who only wants to know stuff about you and they do not open up on their end , They expect you to always be reaching out and when you tired and they also silent they keep texting you that your silence is too much for them ?.Its very draining

OMG WE WANT MORE OF THESE SIT DOWN VIDEOS SADIE 🤍

I know this is really late, but this video made me realize it was not my friend who was toxic, it was me. I will now try to improve my friendship skills, and apologize to my friends. I would love to see a video of how to be a better friend. Thanks, Sadie! I will try to be better!

I really appreciate this video. I was going through so much friendship problems right now. I was going through a lot of things at home too, my parents are strict, and yelled at me for the worst things. I have always loved school for my friends, but I'm at the age of drama ruining everything. I really don't mean to be obnoxious about it, but I have always been better than my classmates at school. Grades, sports etc. I needed smething to help me through the pressure at home. And mind you, I had a lot of frienship problems, lost many friends for various reasons, moved away, parents didn't want us spending time together and so much more. I thought the first person I met would be a keeper. My first real best friend. But no, she turned out to be toxic , calling me a manipulator, taking any chance I got to shine from me, calling me clingy. But if she ever cared, she would know the reason of me being clingy. I was always the first one to forgive and I regret that. I should have known if it happens once there is a possibility of it happening again. This kept on going for the next two years until I said I was done with her. I thought I found two friends that would be mean the world to me, and we were the closest bunch. But this year, were in different classes, they promised me our trio would stay alive. One reason me and one of the girls became close is because my ex-bestie was also bullying her, the entire friend group was leaving her out. I took her side and we became close. The next year started. Guess what? Already on the second week of school, one of them starts ignoring me. I have done absoloutely nothing, then I can see my friend group slowly shifting away from me. I thought that my best friend that I stood up for would help. But now I know that she only used me to get out of the bullying, when all I did was stand up for her, she won't help me get back up. And I made them close together so we could be strong. But now, I don't even know what I have done, and their mad. I need help.

Your a legend for posting this! Like being 22 years old like learning this was huge. I feel like college/post high school everything changes so much.

Sadie, your captivating videos never cease to impress! Your exceptional talent, delightful personality and entertaining content makes every moment an absolute joy. I adore you and your positive impact is undeniable. Keep shining and spreading the love 🥹💕

so good! i have been realizing lately that it just isnt productive to try and force ppl to be who they are not, or to try and force a friendship to be what it cant. i even feel like i have been called out on a couple ways that i can be a better friend for others, and i feel super inspired to try and be a nicer and more positive person! thank you, sadie. you crushed it, as always

I have needed this video for yearsss and I am so happy you made this, your advice is so important to me and this video is going to help me so much iust like all of your other videos. I have gone through a lot wih friendships the past couple weeks so this video really did arrive at the right time 😂 Sadly, I can relate to all of this but this video just gave me confirmation that it's okay to let go of people who don't deserve me and vice-versa, so I love you so much and thank you for everything you do 🤍

You're so precious and so mature, its noticeable that you really put your energy into mastering your life and being the best version of yourself🥰 plus you give out advice with the best intentions, you're such a pure hearted soul, I love you, Sadie, you're doing great in life.💓💛❤

this came out at the perfect time 🫣 love you Sadie xoxo

Beautiful video! You are wise beyond your years. I'm 60 and this was helpful for me.

I related to so much about what you were talking about. When you talked about the friends who are always making fun of you but disguise it as humor I could think of so many times where that happened. I loved this video, thank you for sharing it!

Sadie! I was really needing this video! Lately, my mind has been a mess, thinking what was wrong with me as I was not feeling completely part of my group of friends... This video helped me reflect on this, look at myself and people around me! Thank youu

Hey Sadie thank you for letting us know the different types of toxic friendships and looking back now I think I also had a competitive friend in high school.

Absolutely LOVE this video Sadie! This is such an important topic! Not only is it essential to evaluate those in our close circles but to also assess ourselves and reflect on impact we're having on friends, partners, etc. Relationships of any kind are valuable and they can significantly impact our growth and overall wellbeing. This video is much needed. Thanks Sadie for being such an inspiration and role model to your viewers

Sadie tysm 4 making this video, I literally needed to hear this!! I'm 16 & I've been thru a friendship breakup lately that was painful & I made new friends but I still don't have a close one which causes me to feel lonely.. Anyways, keep going ur amazing & plz do more of these kinda videos, they're so helpful, lvysm 💕💕

It really is okay to grief and it's okay to be sad ❤😢

love your girl talk videos sadie!!!!! it always make my day after watching your videos, ily so much, keep up the great work sadie 💃💗

i literally met the best friend in my life through your fandom

you don't even know how much i love you! in this video i've realized that we are so similar and you made me feel less lonely. please make more videos like this or even a podcast you calm me down when you speak. ❣️

Preach girly, I feel like you have expressed everything I have been both experiencing and thinking about my own friends. It makes me sad.. each of my friends have a few of these characteristics… while I feel more akin to your personality type. You helped me gain some perspective and essentially confirm what I’ve been seeing and thinking… thank you.

Sadie you could literally be my therapist. This video is so educational and important for everyone. Your definitely one of my role models and this video is like a big sister giving me advice (I’m about to go into high school) so this is going to be sooo helpful. Love you and have an amazing day! ❤

I 100% agree with the social battery. Thank you for having a RU-vid channel you have inspired many. Thank you. God bless you!

Sadie, I love you. You are a person who gives me positive energy

Yes brother!💛

Thank you for this I find it so relatable! Most videos are so therapy-coded which are nice but as a young woman myself this is in my language! I made the mistake of befriending a real “pick-me”. We were besties at one point. I didn’t think anything of it because we would hype each other up all the time but it quickly changed when she married a guy i introduced her to, who used to crush on me (and all of my other friends, it’s not that special) in high school. She completely discarded me at one point for “not texting her for two weeks” and eventually blew up at me after I thought we fixed things. I didn’t know she thought so badly of me and it really did hurt. We made up eventually but the trust was never the same. The copying, secret competition, sly sneaky comments. She was always a “oh I’ll eat in front of guys unlike some girls” type of girl. I choose not to eat fast food and she will boast about how she does, like it makes her better or something 😅 I had a black jeep (that I had to get rid of), then years later she goes online and specifically picks out a black jeep, same year and very similar model. Don’t get me started with the petty posts online. I can see how she mentally struggles but I can’t be close to her anymore. We have drifted apart for the better.

I absolutely loveee loveee this video. I feel like I needed this for such a long time to evaluate the people who are bad in my life. Thank you so much for always radiating positivity and making me feel better, I feel like I have been a pessimistic friend and I definitely wanna change that. love ya♥

OMG thank you! I sooo relate with what you were saying about your social battery and not being able to communicate digitally. I'm 19 and feel so weird because literally everyone I know seems to be constantly in touch with each other over snap. I just wayyy prefer spending good quality time together with ppl in person. I feel like you can gain way deeper, more valuable friendships this way but other ppl my age just don't seem to get it. Nice to know that I'm not the only one like this though so I'm grateful for you sharing that :) xxx

step 1 towards healing my friendship trauma, you really do not know much this means to me, so thank you so much💜

Needed this video! Really happy to find it in the right time💗 Love you Sadie more strength to you❤️

so off topic but the way your necklaces lay perfectly

Okay Sadie, you are the friend I need because we have the same mindset and a friend I always wanted to have. We are on the same side. Sometimes, I want a friend like me. I also identify the toxic friends I have and when i slowly get away from them it felt so good. I don’t care if I have a small circle all I care is the quality.

i needed to hear this so much more than i thought, i distanced myself from a now ex friend last year and i was still doubting my choice.

Hi Sadie! I’m just like you, I don’t like texting relationships, I prefer going out and spending time with friends. I didn’t grow up with an iPhone so that’s why

Thank you for talking about this I went through this recently and realized that I thought I had a true friend but I didn’t. Love you Sadie ❤I have been more happy with our that friend and have made closer friendships

OMG.......I LOVE YOU GIRL!!!!!!!! I'VE NEVER SEEN YOUR VIDEOS BEFORE BUT TODAY I WATCH THIS AND I'M ALREADY LIKE AMAZED BY HOW AMAZING YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND HEARING THIS VIDEO HELPED ME SO MUCH AND WANNA LET U KNOW UR LIKE AMAZINGGGGGGG AND MADE ME FEEL A LOT BETTER!! LOVE YOU SO MCUH

thank you very much, you talked about the toxic realationships in all respects, that impressing, I will try to experience your advise when you said that you have to ask them what you need or what they have to avoid in our relationship. Maybe she is a good friend, I will test her and see .. thank u a lot SADIE

SADIE. thank you so much for this! you have no idea how badly i needed this today 🥰🥰 you're an angel

this truly truly came at the perfect timing and put my thoughts into words in such a perfect way. thank you sadie 💖💖

thank you so much for posting this video, sadie! you are an absolutely AMAZING and uplifting person, and i hope that you don’t have anymore friendship drama 😅 i had A LOT of drama this year, so this helped me a lot. also, i think that a video about sibling relationships would be helpful for a lot of people. omggg you should start a podcasttt! 😂

this was probably the best advice ever Sadie, thank you so much! ❤

i’ve been waiting for this one! so exicted! i love you sadie like i know you might not be seeing this but your truly an inspiration to me probably even one of my idol. i love you and your videos so so much 💗

Your timing is immaculate! Been supporting you since 2017. Love yaaa!

Thank you for posting this has really helped me check my behaviors as a friend.

Thank you for your honesty!

I love videos like this you should totally start a podcast! Id be totally into that. And would u believe i found this video right after the first portion of this video literally happened to me (making jokes about you can calling sensitive) but thanks sadie ❤️

This literally came out at the perfect time cause I've been going through friendship breakup too and it's been quite difficult not having close friends to discuss yourself to and with. Even though I'm not a social person much i do need certain people to be with but now that I've broken up with them it's been some difficult months after April. This vedio really helped me with that. Thank you so much sadie . I know it sucks that we are relating on such a topic but i hope for best to you and for everyone of us. Lots of love from India . 💕

I have a friend being brutally honest with me recently. She said her friends thinks I am too political. And it upsets me because I dont feel accepted for who I am and not being appreciated for my care for the world. I used to appreciate that this friend can be brutally honest, but I been finding it hard to embrace her for being brutally honest. :'(

i swear this video came at the best time for me! thanks sadie ❤

Sadie this video was so well said, well put together, and very nicely edited! I love this, you are so well spoken and thank you so much for saying stuff that other people don’t typically talk about on the internet. You only spoke facts fr :) You are so awesome and I appreciate you so much 💖💖💖

thank you so much for this vid sadie! 🤍🤍

Sadie you are such a genuine person on earth. I love listening to your videos and your personality!🥰💜

thank u for posting such a video, i needed it 😍☀️

My best friends told me that I treat people who treats me badly better than people who treat me nice. I always joke that it makes them less defensive and it will be easier for me to revenge, but the reality is that I simply can't treat people badly, even if they hurt my feelings. The thought of unfriend people is scary and I just feel terrible to not respond with a friendly smile.

Can relate to this so much. Thankyou for the video 🫶 much love from Australia 🇦🇺

Sadie, thank you so much for this video! I am going to High School next year, and this is going to be sooo helpful when finding new friends! Also you look so beautiful! ❤❤❤

Oh Sadie you're inspiring! Exactly what I need to help me choose and build good relationship with friends You're inspiring😊 Best wishes for you❤️

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts to this subject Sadie 💓 You are AWESOME 🌟🌻💕

The complainer and gossiper, the one that’s constantly throwing people under the bus

omg!!! i literally remember sending you a dm on instagram a few years ago, because i was so lost and sad due to a « toxic friendship ». you probably never saw it, but seeing this video is like a full circle moment 🫶🏻 i just know it’s going to help me so much. also; a toxic friendship is sometimes not anyone’s fault. it can just be an unhealthy friendship! and it’s okay. it just hurts realizing it. that’s exactly what i went through, and looking back at it, it was definitely like this! anyway, love you sadie! it really helps seeing you talk about this subject. i know how scary it probably is for you to post this since it’s quite controversial, but thank you so much. i’m very grateful for it. ⭐️💖🫧

I have a lot to say about this video! First, I was the pessimistic friend like 8 years ago. I suffered major depression and severe anxiety, trastornos alimenticios, I wanted and tried to 💀 myself, abuse (verbally, physically, seggsually and mentally) from my family and not family members too. I didn't have patents that cared for me (they would abuse me a lot), I was leaving in a poor and dangerous situation since I was born. I was full of hatred, scared, traumatized and insecure + I didn't have God either. I took my friends like my therapists, like a family. But in 12th grade they stopped being with me. At the time I felt to bad 'cause I thought they didn't care about me but actually they did. The only is that I was draining them! My thoughts during that time was "I would never do this them!" but of course, I didn't care about myself so I would have stayed with a pessimistic friend my whole life. After I got adopted 3 years ago by a new family and started to know God, I've changed COMPLETELY. I graduated from 2 careers, I'm depression free and God is helping me to control my anxiety. I see my past traumas like experiences now and OMG I feel sooo great! But hey, I had to lose everything first. That's how God works. I AM the incompatible friend. Now, this is something really important to talk about and I'm sooo glad that Sadie put this out (the only thing is that I don't know why is in a toxic friendship video 'cause it actually isn't in my perspective and I'll tell you why) I am an introvert (infj). After studying about how our brain and body works, I finally am confident on myself. We live in an extroverted world that ONLY glorifies extroverts and everyone knows this. This hurt us SOOO BADLY 'cause everyone see us like we have something wrong. There are people who called me "antisocial" but when they had a conversation with me they change their mind completly. We, introverts, work different. Extroverts usually have stregths that show on the outside but Introverts have their strenghts on the inside (and no one can see it except people who are close to us). There are terrible misconceptions and perceptions of introverts out there. Now, because we work different to extroverts, what drains an extrovert actually makes introverts charge our batteries AND viceversa. We like to see the world and beautiful things and have deep conversations with people but it drains us. (I even get sick sometimes). Trust me y'all. Everyone should start studying how Extroverts, Ambiverts and Introverts work so we can have a better place not for extroverts only but for Ambiverts and Introverts too. Please, is really hard for us to make friends and even get opportunities in a job. Now, Sadie mentions a LOT of stuff in this video that I'm SOOO glad she did. Most of this toxic friends can literally be DEADLY for other people. Please, take this seriously and analyze what she said during the whole video. Just remember to no hate other people 'cause that won't help you or them AT ALL. And please, be like the friends that I had. If you are getting drained, let those friends go with love and care so in the future, when they get better, they'll know you always cared about them which will make them heal. Be wise. Thanks for this video, Sadie. Just let me know if I understood something wrong! Have a good day everyone ♡

You give such good advice Sadie! I love your vids!!

100% on point on every single level! You are a gem! ❤

can you also talk about how to find our people?like i find it really hard to just start a conversation with someone and then be friends with them

Ooooh I love the title of this video of toxic people 😁😁😁😁

You’re an inspiration. Love you so much! ❤

Sadie loved this video!! It seem like a podcast, I was listening while I was doing chorus around my house. Love u, kisses from Portugal 🇵🇹 ❤

Love you sadie ❤❤❤ AND i am in love with all your videos 💗

first ? love ur videos girl !!

Ok so I think I need to rank a bit. I have this friend who I believe is toxic in some ways and it’s starting to make me so upset and drained. A couple of months ago I really liked this guy but I’m pretty quiet so I never said anything. Maybe a month later she hung out with this guy and said she should set us up. 2 days later they hung out again and kissed( this was her first kiss btw) and she said she didn’t even like him. A couple of months later she added this mutual friend for fun and I told her that I though he was cute. Fast forward a bit they kinda dated/ talked but he ended up ending it and she was super sad about his and crying to me and my friends. Not even two days later she saw the guy she kissed and was talking about how cute he was. Maybe 2 hours later I had told her and some of my friends about this new guy in our grade that I think is really sweet, cute, and basically my exact type and now she’s talking about how she wants to ask of him number. She has also just made a bunch of “jokes” about me that didn’t really feel like jokes. Anyways I didn’t know what to do because the rest of my friend group is very kind and supportive but I feel like if I say anything to this girl that my good friendships will change.

unrelated but i love how active u are now

This video was AMAZING, thank you, please make more of these kinds of videos!

I'm having problems with a childhood bff, we've had a total of 3 years with no contact because of fights, exhaustion and so on. Now I've finally understood why I feel like I'm walking on eggshells when I'm communicating or with her, she gets angry without saying it and then proceeds to ignore me for months, I also understand now that it triggers me and is toxic. I set boundaries with her and told her - like I've done multiple times this year - to tell me right away because I don't know what I'm saying sorry to, well her experience but I don't know when it happens, when I do wrong because she waits for months to pass before she tells me anything. So I walk on eggshells because I don't know what will trigger her. She answered me and said she needs time to understand and thinks about my stresses and so on - I hate when people make assumptions about my capability -, I am mean and don't listen to her. I've really supported her, pushed her to try speaking up, talking to her parent about her situation at her other parent, fixed her a job offer from my brothers boss which she declined, I've given long long apologies where I lift her and shame myself because I know when plans doesn't go her way or anyone's way she gets upset with us. This has happened to often and I'm the problem all the time, I feel like she can't take accountability for how it affects us and I really don't know what to do. We've been friends from 9-23 years, old minus 3 years, our relationship has never ever been conflict free. I feel mean if I say bye, like I'm letting her down, but I need to also think about myself for once. My exes has been toxic but I never questioned my friendships.. I'm at a loss here😅

If I feel like I'm not valued or like I'm being used, I'm out. With jobs it can be like this too but it just takes longer to leave.

Thanks, I send you many hugs You always look super beautiful

i have known this friend for years. so when my birthday comes she doesn’t remember it at all it’s been like this for three years. Where I remember hers. she remembers her friends birthdays so there’s nothing wrong with her memory. Guess what her friends are the same month as mine it bugs me LIKKE? (I’m actually not sad about it just disappointed)

I don’t know what to do. My friend only wants to be friends with “pretty girls or boys” and since I don’t fit into that, she doesn’t care about me as a friend. She took away my best friend because she thought she was pretty and constantly tells me about it. She also is a pick me and changes her attitude in front of boys and acts like she doesn’t know me or clings on to me if no one is around. She makes me mad because she makes me feel like I’m not enough but all my other friends think I’m in the wrong. I don’t know what to do.

I appreciate the differences in my friends social battery

Hi Sadie good morning happy Saturday morning and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter and I'm proud of you and I loved your reset vlogs

I don't think I agree with mirror my friends. I am who I am and if they don't like me I don't hang out with them. I have strong beliefs in topics and nobody can change my mind about it. I mean nobody. But this is a great video. I stay away from toxic people. If I strong political or religious believe you can't convince me to have the same beliefs you do. If you change your beliefs to theirs, you're not being yourself anymore.

i love you so much sadie but i gotta disagree with two points you mentioned. I suffer from adhd which means my feelings are always hightened. i get too excited when i hear someone speaking about an experience that they had that i also had to the point that i sometimes cut them off to tell my story. thing is i dont do it out of hate or anything i am just worried that i might forget to tell them later because of how forgetful and distracted i can get ( also adhd symptoms ) but i do ask them to continue the story later. i just get so overjoyed that i cut people off sometimes. i promise this is not a hate comment im just trying to make a point because this can give so many people the wrong idea and turn friends into each other. i still love your videos and cant wait to see the next one!!!

All of these traits I am recognising in literally everyone I work with, its eye opening but funny at the same time 😅👀

I have been in toxic friendship! She was my Friend since we were little kids and When we became 13 we had alot of drama with eachother and we had enough so we stopped talking

Thank you Sadie for this. You literally made me realise that i most of my close circle friends are bad influence friends. and that isn't nice. And this video came at the right time as now I'll be joining university and would definately make sure to keep a distance with them. I always had a bad gut feeling around them but i didn't trust my guy until now. So just THANK YOU SO SO MUCH Sadie.

thank you so much for this video i feel a lot better coz my friends just all left me it was toxic

Yes you are true and on point you've been around and there. These toxic people are way to needy of your personal time. Needing a hand or faver to borrow something or a loan. Long story short they are takers don't expect your Financial help to be paid back with out you having to ask for the loan money back or item lent to them they forget things real quick.

I’m always saying “I have no friends” but I kind of had a lot-? We just aren’t close anymore. I just have nothing in common with them anymore. It’s weird.

There's nothing wrong with sharing your notes! thats what school life is about :)

I get you on the fact that you like to see your friends and not snapchat or text them all the time I also don 't like to text the whole day to my friends, I weither just hang out with them

Is she not friends anymore with Grace Butler?

I cut off a toxic friend because she always said she hated when I texted her only when she was around her boyfriend never when it was just us it broke my heart having to say goodbye but months later I knew I am completely better off

This video was so helpful and good thank you so much

this was so helpful!😁