@@freedom4063 A lot of people just genuinely don't enjoy using condoms, both men and women. It's effective, but it's a different experience. To each their own.
@@Amber-kc1gt okay. Because birth control pill ain't safe and effective . some woman got preggo still. Ok thanks for your answer. I just thought condoms are better option
Me and my husband found out we were pregnant with my second at 4 months pp! Complete shock! We struggled with infertility with our first, I never thought I could get pregnant so easy the second time. I now have a 3yr old and a 2yr old. They are the best of friends! I will admit in the beginning...it was extremely hard to adjust to having a 1yr old and a newborn. It does get better though. And when you see your babies playing together and being inseparable you will realize how great it is to have them so close together! You guys got this ❤
It sounds like you had a rough journey with infertility struggle and then taking care of two little kids. It takes a brave woman to fight such battles. Honestly I don't think I could do something like this ever! Glad you are happy!
Aww!! We have two girls who are 14 months apart, ages 16 months and 2.5 and it’s so sweet. So so busy but so sweet seeing them start to play together! I love hearing people talk about having a similar gap and them being best friends.
@@leliavoinea7253 thank you so much for your kind words! ☺ it was a very rough journey at first. But now I couldn't imagine not having my little boys around! It was definitely worth it having them so.close together ❤
Yes, God gave her a child and chose her among the thousands of people who are in pain to get one. You should say thank God. If I were that kid and grew up to see this reaction from the person who should be the happiest. I will feel that I was not born loved for the rest of my life. what a hurt .
There's a great Australian drama series about a girl who didn't know she was pregnant. It's called bump. And in it the baby's nickname is 'sorpresa' which is spanish for surprise. I think it's so sweet.
you two are some of the most humble and empathetic people I've seen on here, and the support you show to anyone that may need it is amazing to see. God bless with your continued efforts to have your special little baby.
Not a lot of people put up the real reactions to such things unless they are really happy about it in that moment. But it was so different and refreshing to see you guys, especially Abby go through the whole series of real emotions. Each thing she mentioned was a thing to be actually worried about. And hatts off to Matt! He really handled the whole thing well. Like a real support system. I didn't find this to be fabricated or acted out at any point. Congratulations you guys! It's a big deal to be handling all of this and then being honest about it on social media platforms. Much love ♥️
@@ShockResistor i think thats a matter of personal opinion. I think it's perfectly fine to have this reaction, share it for other people and I think it's perfectly fine for the child to see/know that at an older age. I'm from a teen pregnancy and always always knew that when I was announced it wasn't easy on my mom, my firstborn will probably learn someday from his father who had been abusing me emotionally at the time that, though I was ecstatic and absolutely in love with him immediately, he was not and was very cruel about the pregnancy. It's just the reality of some pregnancies, and being transparent about feelings instead of lying to your kids really pays off and goes a long way and doesn't set up false expectations for them.
I think it’s really special that you shared your real reaction: not an edited processed one : it’s fully normal and ok to feel mixed feelings : be worried and unsure but also excited
I AGREE! This happened to me with my 4th and 5th children (I've come to believe that my birth control quit working for me) and I scoured you tube looking for raw footage of some one like this in the same shoes. These were my exact feelings and I cried heavy tears for weeks after. Not because I didn't love children or want them but because I was so overwhelmed with going through pregnancy again and having a newborn. It's no small deal.❤
We're hoping that this video can provide hope to other scared parents out there. It took a couple weeks for us to process everything, but now we couldn't be more excited to have two kids so close in age. They're going to be the best of friends
This video perfectly demonstrates a super healthy and one-of-a-kind relationship - this is such hard stuff and in the face of uncertainty, fear, and intense shock, you loved, supported, and comforted each other!! You guys are creating a lovely family for your kids to grow up in and that's all that matters!! Love you, Howard fam!
This demonstrates 2 people deliberately having another baby to make more money by exploiting their children! One is not enough "likes" & "subscribes" so producing another kid may help their social media ratings!? DISGUSTING ACTING & MOTIVES!
Yeah that's why he didn't wanna wear a condom because it didn't feel good enough! I mean hey you love babies when you aren't the one who has to grow them!
It’s unsafe for her to be pregnant again so soon after hear birth. She recently had a hernia surgery, and her doctor told her not to get pregnant for a while because she needed to recover. She is putting a huge amount of strain on her body. This isn’t cute, this is concerning. She needed time to heal, and her husband should’ve taken the necessary steps to ensure that she didn’t get pregnant again.
the fact that she records it completely proves, regardless of her emotions in the moment, that she was still deeply happy about this second baby! congratulations guys, it may not be what you expected but it’ll still be amazing!
@@MizzRos1 agree! who records such intimate moments. Like nothing is precious any more with all these influencers putting out everything on the internet.
I am a single mom here! I am doing it all alone. I am 24 years old. I have 2 under 2 I felt the same way you did when you found out! yes it is hard and scary. However I love it so much! I can’t wait to see them grow up together. My girls are 18 months apart. Just know you guys are amazing parents and I can’t wait to see your journey with two Little’s! You got this!! I love how supportive you are of each other!! You guys are seriously one of my favorite RU-vid families to watch and I love your content!! If you need a nanny/birth doula I’d love to help you guys!! Love you Matt&Abby❤️❤️❤️
@Shakambhari Sinha thank you so much! Yes it sure has been. My family isn’t all that supportive. They help but only when I ask or they see I need it. But at the end of the day I love being a mom.
Your genuine reaction is so beautiful. It's not always rainbows and butterflies. Raising awareness about the real parts of life let others relate and not feel alone. Thank you for sharing this very vulnerable moment.
This video is so well made and genuine. I personally think it’s so lovely to see the duality between this pregnancy and the last, there’s no one right way to be pregnant. It’s so refreshing and realistic, you are some of the best creators on the internet for sharing their true stories
Aww, Matt's reaction reminds me of my hubby when we found out I was pregnant 11 years after our 2nd kid. Huge shock for me, I cried as we were not trying to get pregnant. But he told me, "It's ok, it'll be ok. I'll take of you." ❤ His excitement did make it much easier. Our suprise baby is 2.5 now and we can't imagine life without him.
I love how real this is. A "accident" baby is not any less wanted or loved then a planned baby. Same thing happened to me. My baby was 6 months old when I fell pregnant again. SURPRISE it's twins. Mia is now 3 and my twin boys Keith and Ethan are now 18 months
OMG! 😱 Having 3 small kids to raise sounds very hard. I have huge respect and admiration for strong ladies like yourself. And I complain sometimes how tiered I am from my job. I should be greatful for the free time I have after my job it's done because I don't have children and I am single! 😂
Every time I hear of a sexually active couple, I was wondering if it’s the guy that initiates it. So is it your husband that often brought up the topic of doing it every time you guys did it?
The way Matt was still so tierd and he still was being supportive and comforting you. You two are made for eachother and it shows. I hope you two have an amazing journey together!
We know you guys are excited about this baby, but I appreciate that you normalized that feeling fear, uncertainty, and anxiety in that moment is also a valid response to this news. Jumping up and down for joy is not the only okay response to have. Other emotions are just as valid (and are NOT an indication of not loving your child or being a bad parent) and I appreciate you sharing that with us for those out there who maybe felt ashamed that joy wasn't their immediate response...sometimes there's just a lot to process and it takes a while to feel the joy.
I really have appreciated that you shared this. I desperately wanted babies SO badly, and this was still my immediate reaction. It’s terrifying to be pregnant sometimes and your brain just needs a hot minute to play catch up and accept what is and get excited.
I really appreciate you sharing this raw moment! It honestly shows how relatable you guys are and I love that. I have 2 under 17 months and I will say it is difficult at first because you literally have 2 babies. But it is 10000% worth it. Now they’re 2 and 8 months and they’re starting to laugh together and I can just tell they’re going to be future besties 🥹 Every day gets easier!! God has a plan and I am so excited for you guys
I have no kids as of yet, but watching her have these emotions made me shed a tear. I don’t believe this was acting, this was genuine. Their love is so genuine for each other and pray that I remains that way!
This! This was exactly how I felt! So I'm here to tell you, my girls are the best of little friends! They're 15 months apart. When #2 wasn't even a month old, we moved 800 miles from home. Y'all got this! And this life with two babes so close is what you will know. You won't know life having kiddos further apart. This is your normal and that's okay! It's all hard - whether they're closer together or far apart. You have a great support system in each other and family. Y'all got this!!
I absolutely love how open and honest you are. Your reactions are SO raw and you choosing to share them normalizes the entire process. Every baby has a different story and a unique beginning. Thank you for sharing ALL parts of the story with us! You both are amazing parents and that will only continue! We love you! 🙏
I'm so grateful to see this authentic video. I experienced this same thing 3 years ago. My littles are 15 months apart, unplanned and it was really freaking hard. I'm sorry. But I'm glad to see that it seems like you're both being supportive and kind. I felt so much guilt that my son's infancy was overshadowed by my pregnancy. Make sure you have counseling or another method of safely processing for all of you! I'm grateful you have each other!! Many prayers for your sweet family 💗
I have 4 children. I found out about our 3rd when my daughter was 6 months old. I remember taking the test in the bathroom by myself and said “oh f….” It’s going to be ok, and it’s ok to feel caught off guard or not ready, you will be ready when the time comes and it is so special having siblings close together.
I think your initial reaction is fairly typical. It happened to me as well. Just after we had decided that our family was complete with two daughters. The second daughter was a preemie. She got up and walked just days before her little brother.
Like my mom says about me "You were a surprise"😄 For me that's the perfect way to put it to your future little one!! We laughed, I understood and never felt unwanted 💜 Congratulations Matt and Abby!
I know this was probably extremely hard to post because of fear of judgement that you didn’t want 2 babies so close together. But I’m sure SO many people can relate to this, thank you for posting and being so vulnerable about your journey, and all the emotions it entails❣️
I love how vulnerable you were..and Honest. I can feel the shock through the internet lol. Matt is extremely sweet and comforting. And there needs to be more Matt's in the world. Congratulations. You got this
I’m so glad you’re posting this. Not all shock has to be good or exciting. You’re an incredible mom, and I love how patient and calming Matt is with you. You both balance each other so well. Can’t wait to see how this brings you two closer together ❤
This is the video that made me fall in love with Matt and Abby. I literally stumbled across it, with no context, yet could so relate to that gut wrenching moment when you discover, unexpectedly, that you’re pregnant again…… Bless this couple. Harriet (Tasmania) xx
Me too!! I ran across it just watching RU-vid and fell in love with them!! I immediately went to their RU-vid channel and started following them!! Definitely meant for one another!! God bless yall!! P/S God doesn't make mistakes and this is His plan for y'all!! Love y'all big!! Congratulations!!
I’m only crying with you. Thank you for sharing and being so raw. I’m sure it felt awful to be more scared than excited. But it’s reality. Sometimes good things feel more scary than good until you’ve processed it. You’re amazing. So excited to see where this takes you!! 💞
This is the first YT video I ever saw of the two of you. TBH, I'd never heard of either of you before seeing this. It was so sweet and so touching, I just fell in love with your content. Thank you for sharing your journey with the world.
Can I just say it is SO refreshing to see such a real ans raw video. Thank you for being open and honest 💕 can't wait to see what's in store for your family!
I'm new to your channel. My last 2 kids are less than a year apart. My daughter turned 21 on February and my son turned 20 in July. I found the situations ideal, especially because my oldest daughter was in elementary school at the moment. Raising them at the same time was a godsend without being as overwhelming as if they have been twins. Y'all got this. Blessings!
Aw man, extended version with commentary. I cry every single time I watch these clips. Tears of sadness, tears of joy, tears of understanding. Its an emotional ride and it's totally acceptable. You guys have a road ahead of you. It will be bumpy, it will be easy, it will be hard, it will be fun. No matter which road you are on at the time, make the most of it. You will do great
That sad thing is that I know this is how most couples in this situation feel, yet the have to act super thrilled and couldn’t be happier, so glad you wanted to show the truth. Thank you! ♥️
Thank you so much for the vulnerability and honesty. In my family they made us feel ashamed for having a child so soon that we actually hid it for 6 months. Now I have a beautiful 24 year old college educated, married to the love of her life (together since 8th grade) and doing just fine. I'm so proud of her she's truly my gift from God.
Girl, I’m six months PP and I just had to take two pregnancy tests to ease my mind in knowing that I wasn’t pregnant. And it definitely was scary for the wait on the tests. You’ve got this!
I can't tell you how much I appreciate the raw honesty. Even though it's something that you wanted eventually and didn't make it less difficult in the moment because it wasn't in the timing that you had planned. I appreciate that you guys are so real in general. You don't put on the show for social media. You are exactly you and that helps so many people feel less alone. 💜
What a fabulous husband! His wife is struggling, they have a 5-month-old already, and he smiles and says, "That's great!" and just comforts and encourages his wife. This couple can face anything together. ❤
I never realized until I got older how insane it must have been for my parents, especially my mom, to have their first child, their second one fifteen months later, me thirteen months later, and then the fourth five years after that. I can’t imagine how overwhelming the first three of us were, especially since according to them, the three of us were “unexpected surprises”
You’ll just be so absorbed in the baby phase you’ll be in the zone, then eventually they’ll get a little older and being so close in age will make it easier because they’ll be best buds who just play together!! You guys got this ❤️
These reactions were so honest and raw and completely relatable, thank you so much for sharing these moments with us. Can't wait to meet your next little bundle! Congratulations and all the best.
Abby this was my same reaction when I found out about my second I was literally in tears. Now looking back holding my 5th baby in my arms I wouldn’t change it for the world. You both are amazing parents.
You guys are so blessed! Just remember when things get hard we all love you! Also Matt is just so supportive ❤ I love you guys and your videos!! Y’all are so wholesome and everything I hope to be when I get older!! You guys have come a long way with entertainment and I have been watching along the way!!! I love you guys!!!
I love the rawness of this. Thanks for showing how even when a baby is wanted (planned or unplanned) there can still be an array of emotions that are far from just happiness. It seems you understand that having a baby SHOULD NOT be taken lightly and it is a HUGE deal to bring one into the world (let alone multiple) You guys will rock this next journey and I appreciate you two sharing this moment with us. 💕💕
Had had the same reaction when I fell pregnant with a 7month old. I was so upset at first. She is the most amazing human and I cannot imagine life without her precious soul. Blessing to your family!!
I love this because it's reality! We had two of ours 13 months apart and yes, in many ways it is hard, but it has been such a blessing and joy in so many other ways! They are such close siblings, I wouldn't have it any other way. The initial shock can be hard, but that's another good reason for it taking 9 months! You get time to process it and come to realize it will be ok! It's so neat that you are able to share that with people who may panic initially and not realize their feelings will change for the better in time. ❤️ Best wishes to you and congratulations!
I found out I was pregnant, 5 months postpartum with my first daughter. I have 3 beautiful girls now and I wouldn't have it any other way. I also cried alot, and watching this video just reminded me how scared I was. Congratulations, and nothing beats God's timing. 💓
Amazing hearing you say “we’re at Disney land struggling to enjoy ourselves with just one”. Purely because that’s just so honest and so real for many of us. Lord it is hard!!! I fell pregnant with my second when my first was 9months old and the pregnancy with a toddler was the hardest part. Baby boy is now 6 weeks old and it’s magical. I found going from 1 to 2 children way easier than the transition of becoming a first time mum. It’s weirdly easier with two. It almost helps everything not being perfect way easier. You’re gonna smash it xx
This is such an important video! I’m so thankful y’all were willing to share this *very common* reaction. It’s okay to be scared out of your mind and also know that you wouldn’t change it, concurrently. I was terrified when I found out about each of my pregnancies because of life during those times, and I felt like I had to put on a face and pretend to just be thrilled and blessed. I was, but I was also scared, and nervous and anxious, and no one told me that was ok. People will know that thanks to your video!!
I love that you guys are sharing this moment with us. It makes me relieved to see the real reactions and makes it easier about my own reaction to something similar.
Every time I see the part when Abby expresses feeling guilt over having ridden the rides and drinking a beer, my heart tears in two. I love watching Momma Doctor Jones here on RU-vid and she gives reactions to episodes of 'I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant'. Something she says in every one of those is that "you do the best you can with the information that you have". There's understandably going to be some guilt there, but you should be allowed to forgive yourself because if you had known about the pregnancy you wouldn't have done certain things
There is also, as far as I know, a sort of protection (to an extent of course) in the first few weeks of conception since the embryo isn't yet "connected" to you through the placenta. So of course it is in your body and grows by what you have in your body but you aren't directly feeding it like later on pregnancy. Also the rides: if that would have been an issue she probably would have miscarried early on but again, hiiiighly unlikely to cause any damage. The developing embryo is VERY protected in there.
So nice to find another Mama Doctor Jones fan here! ♥️ I immediately thought of her when I saw the video and Abby’s worries too because it is such a considerate and truthful thing to say in so many situations. I hope Abby sees your comment and that it comforts her 😊
That pregnant test video of Abby’s second pregnancy was how I discovered you guys. The way Matt was so instantly supportive, even though still half asleep, and the way Abby shared her emotions made me want to see what more you guys had to offer. I love the dynamic you have between you, and how well you reflect over things. I am in kind of an opposite situation from you. We tried about a year to get pregnant with our first child. It’s was not an easy pregnancy, so we decided to wait a few years to try for number 2. It took us over 5 years for number 2 to come to us, so we have 10 years between our children 😊 I wish you all the best with what’s ahead of you. ❤
My son was 6 months old when I found out I was pregnant again. I was terrified. It took me a while to come to terms with the fact that I was having another baby. You guys will do a wonderful job. ❤❤❤
Guys I'm so happy for you. I understand your concern, but as Matt said, you guys love babies. And this is just a huge gift from our God. I feel so emotional looking at your reaction 😪 Little Gryffin is going to be an awesome big brother 🥰 looots of love from Italy💞
Matt is an amazing man. Period. He should write a book about what it means to be a loving, supportive husband and every man on earth should read it! ❤️
He didn't do the minimum of wearing a condom because it didn't" feel good enough " and now his wife is going through another physically & emotionally rough pregnancy because he couldn't wrap his willy 🙄
This was my reaction whenever I found out I was pregnant again so soon. My son had just turned 4 months old & I was 4 months postpartum from a C-section. I was TERRIFIED! But excited. This was an honest and raw reaction! Nothing bad about it at all. You both are amazing parents. And amazing people. Don’t ever feel like you have to apologize for what you felt in the moment.❤
me and my sister are one year apart and I think it is a good thing cause I had someone to talk to because we were experiencing the same things almost at the same time. everything happens for a reason. I'm praying for you both you'll do great.
My mom got pregnant with me when my brother was 8 months and she had to get help by a doctor and were told that they couldn't not pregnant without help so it was REALLY a shock for them. Now my mom and I are besties and closer than her and my brother. So I am just here to say that things happen and they are meant to be no matter how cliche that sounds. We are here for you and you will manage the two muffins I can tell you that. ❤
The definition of love has changed in todays world and am not saying its bad but for the kind of old school love that am into seeing Matt and Abby just makes me feel that there still the OLD SCHOOL LOVE out there you guys are so supportive of each other and such wonderful people i hope u guys get everything u ever wish for love you guys !!
My sister and I are 13 months apart and the bond of having a sibling so close in age unbreakable! It will be so great to watch your babies grow up together 💜
Im so happy that you guys are in a better place about the pregnancy now, i can totally empathize with how you reacted initially, its completely understandable and so fair enough. You guys are great parents already and will only get even better with two, and like you said, this is how your family was meant to grow ❤️ you'll definitely be stoked about it as they grow up 👌🏼 love you guys heaps!
My brothers are 14 months apart, my mum also got pregnant 5 months post partum. My brothers are so close its insane because the age gap wasn't very big they went through all the puberty stuff and all the growing up stuff together they experienced that together making them so close. Honestly it was a blessing they support each other in ways you can't imagine. Then my parents had me 5 years later and they are the best big brothers protective, loving and loyal the age gap is a blessing!
So excited for you guys!!!! I know it’s scary at first but couldn’t have happened to two better people! You guys will do GREAT with 2 little ones so close in age.❤ Love how supportive Matt is. Congratulations!!
My mom found out she was pregnant with my sister about 3 months after I was born. I was born at 27 weeks so it was a crazy time. Now I can’t imagine my life without my sister. She was born like 11 months and 2 weeks after me so we are like two weeks apart. Oct 18th and Oct 30th. It was probably hard for my mom but it gets better I promise! ❤️❤️
I watched this with tears in my eyes, the love that you have for one another is one I pray I find one day. I can’t wait to see your beautiful family grow ❤
I'm so happy for you guys. My husband and I are dreaming for our child. We've been trying for so long and never had a positive. Thank you for showing raw emotions in this! Everyone reacts differently and this makes me even more excited for our story!
