Finding Out The Gender, VBAC, Baby Names, & More // finally answering your questions about BABY #4 

I had a dream that you named a little girl Melody. Also, thank you for talking so openly about anger towards your husband and what you have done, and continue to do, to settle that within yourself and treat him kindly. I needed to hear that. And I truly believe your ring will come forward!

You're Channel is so real. You don't go out of your way to impress people You're not living an extravagant life. You're just a mother and a wife who vlogs her life. And you talk about good days , bad days, you're realistic. And you're teaching me so much about how to manage my emotions, how to overcome certain situations, how to let go of control, like the mundane things most women go through. And I think that's amazing. My husband and I are trying and I've learned so much from you about parenting and being wife with kids. And like its amazing. the Lord led me to your channel for a reason because I tell you I found this channel by chance. I heard about cloth diapering and was curious to how it worked that was months ago. And your video was the first thing watched and I've been watching ever since. May the Lord continue to strengthen you to perform. You are called for this! P.S also a young wife planning to have babies at young age this is our second year trying for our first child. Thanks for all your advise

Having my babies so close together was the hardest but best decision ever until now. They are all in their teens and man did those years go by so fast. All I can say is you will always have your time once those beautiful babies are full grown and living their our lives and you will be so happy you just cherished every moment because do they go by so fast! Congratulations on this baby!

17:46 this is so beautiful. I’m realizing that it’s okay to live a selfless life. It’s what a lot of us are meant to do. I’m not a mom yet so I never understood why ppl keep having kids but you put it in a way that helps me understand. I’m looking forward to finding out for myself how fulfilling motherhood can be

It's so nice hearing someone else share the same values as I do. I respect you a lot! Best wishes with your pregnancy!

Replacing anger/bitterness with an act of kindness is such a great idea! My husband and I have been married almost 2 years, and I find myself being a bitter and nagging wife more often than I'd like to admit. I have to constantly work towards thinking from his perspective and being loving instead. I'm actually studying 1 Corinthians 13 for the next couple of weeks. Thank you for your wise counsel!

I learn so much from you and Zach on how to treat one’s spouse and I am always so grateful for that from the two of you! Also I find that it’s a wonderful idea that you guys usually don’t find out the gender until you have the baby - it makes it an extra sweet surprise from the Lord 🌿

Some people need more time than others to recharge and for self care, so I don’t think it is something that is overdone. I think you are very blessed to have a partner who supports you, which is probably one of the main contributions to not needing more self care. But to say self care is overdone, is coming from an area of privilege. Not every woman have someone who is supporting them in their motherhood journey, even their spouse. Combine that with symptoms that can arise after pregnancy (postpartum depression, baby blues, postpartum anxiety, postpartum OCD, etc.) that can lead to extreme burnout. So, personally, I find it refreshing when women talk about self care and what they do for themselves, because ultimately, a mama’s mental health affects the whole home, and her relationship with her children. Not saying this to judge at all, but just to inform. I’m a mama to three under three and have gone through some dark periods in motherhood, so personally, I think if I prioritized myself a bit better earlier on, of course not to the point of neglecting or hurting my children or influencing them negatively at all in the slightest, perhaps those days wouldn’t have been so dark. Just some food for thought for any others mamas out there struggling! Putting it all into God’s hands and doing my best to just love on my little humans ❤

My doula gave me the best piece of advice when it came to opinions and advice from others, nod and smile (as you said) and store that information away to access when and if you need it. Don’t get offended when people offer advice but also don’t listen to what everyone else says, have the advice as sort of a library to reach to when you’re trying to solve a problem (like sleep regressions, feeding, discipline, etc.). And to remember that most people do mean well ❤ Thank you for sharing another amazing video. You always give me the encouragement I need to live a happy faith filled life and to just enjoy my children and the blessing God has given me

I love your videos so much. Everyday when I wake up with my 3year old, 2 year old and 7 month old baby I think of you and how I need to serve my husband and kiddos. You really do inspire me so much. Praying for you and your family ❤

My first turned into an urgent c-section and I had a successful v-back 20 months later! Praying for a smooth birth and the perfect team to get you there

I had a MAGICAL vbac with my now 2 year old. Having my second vbac in a couple months! Wishing the best! (remember to be your own advocate if you need to)

Delilah, I appreciate you so much. It's so clear that your faith guides your life rather than just being a label you tack onto whatever else you believe. Thank you for serving the Lord and setting an example for other young women. And I loved what you said about self care. I truly believe it's idolized in our culture. ❤

This was so encouraging ❤Thank you for talking about marriage and family and how to navigate those through prayer!

Delilah, I struggle with the fear of vomiting! I have some ptsd from previous experiences. I am currently 11 weeks pregnant and I totally understand your fear and feelings of losing the baby is a possibility! Gods been so good to us and I know if something were to happen I know he is still good. This will be my 5th C-section! Praying for a safe delivery for you and babe! For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.

Our three oldest kiddos share a room and it has worked out absolutely wonderfully. They have so much fun together and gratefully sleep through each other's antics (if/when there are any). I know your kids will have a hoot together too!

I had a successful vbac! I praying that for you as well! It is such a blessing!

i love chill sit down videos like this. your voice is so sweet delilah and God has blessed you with so much wisdmon.

It's been a delight to see you mature into your role as mother and learn to trust your children's cues.

Delilah thank you this video was SO encouraging and when you said your worth comes from the LORD that was powerful. I’m praying for myself to have a change of heart. Congrats again mama! Prayers for this pregnancy 💖🙏💖🙏

Eloise, Theodore, William and Ophelia WOULD BE SO ADORABLE Lawrence or Alec for a boy

You’re truly such a biblical woman, such a beautiful inspiration 🙏🏼🥰 none of us are perfect, but you’re doing such an amazing job at being a godly woman. Praise God for his guidance and grace x

Your vlogs are how I calm myself down when I'm over stimulated by my children because your voice is so calming thank you for posting today I needed it badly

You have been such a blessing for me Delilah! I discovered you in des/jan because I’m pregnant with my first, and was searching on youtube tips for cloth diapers... and I was so surprised when I found out that you where a God fearing woman! I’ve now watched many of your videos, and have learned so much from you! Can’t even put it to words! And I was stoked to find out that our pregnancies are so close! I’m due first week in August:) Thank you for your heart, and God bless your famliy❤️

I’ve been here since the beginning of your channel and am a few year’s younger and I look up to you so much. You are such an amazing woman and mother. You have such great qualities and have inspired me to do and be better. Thank you for your content💛

Delilah I would absolutely love to hear a podcast with you and Zach, if you ever feel like RU-vid is too much that could be a great option!!

My son is a premature baby as well and me being a first time mom was so scared even just by touching him honestly. So his pedia didn’t let us leave the hospital until I learn how to properly hold him and bathe him and I am so thankful. My son stays in the NICU for 19 days and the nurses and the doctors are so kind helping me learn anything.

I am so glad for your placenta previa story. The same happened to me - I started spotting 36 weeks pregnant and found out I had placenta previa and had to deliver via c-section within a few hours. My baby is 3 months old and I am so looking forward for the next time (and hopefully a v-bac).

Thanks for talking about the weaning process. I am taking it slow with baby #3, too. She just turned 1, and I had no idea how to wean (my first two were only breastfed for a short time). Also, my husband isn't on board for a home birth if we have another baby, either, so my heart goes out to you! Praying for a sweet, healthy delivery of this baby!

Winter even though it is kind of a rough season I do believe that as long as I’ve been watching your content, which is been about five years now winter is when I see your family truly at its core because most the time y’all are trapped inside and finding things to do in the house I think to name your baby after season that truly represent your family is beautiful

I had my first 3 at home! The first 2 my midwife didn’t make it and my husband delivered baby! It was soo special! My 4th was supposed to be a homebirth as well, but ended up going to the hospital, nothing too emergent but my water had been broken for many hours and my body just wasn’t going into full labor. I still gave birth with not pain meds or epidural tho💪🏼. Now, I can truly say I have no idea why anyone would want a hospital birth 🥴 having my babies at home is much more peaceful, not to mention special, and restful as I don’t have a million nurses coming in and out for no good reason. I am thankful for hospitals when they’re needed for emergencies, but will not choose a hospital birth over a home birth😳 Now im expecting my 5th baby and Lord willing will be having a homebirth again, it is worth it!

Adeline came to mind when you said girl name!

Every time I get this notification I smile!! ❤❤

I lovedddd this video! Such good questions and you’re so honest and authentic and laugh!

I had fun watching the video today~ I will always support you!

I love Iris Eve for a girl. It’s been on our running list for ages now 😍 congratulations mama!!

I lost a diamond earring on our 5th wedding anniversary vacation. I was so upset. I kept the other earring thinking we could have it repurposed by a jeweller at some point. A year later, and a suitcase that was thoroughly checked and used multiple times since we lost the earring - opened it up and the earrings was right there. It was such a God moment for me. That He cares about the little things in life and delights in our joy. I absolutely love your attitude and grace. It brings me such joy to see a fellow believer share God’s truth on marriage here on RU-vid.

Thank you so much for what you said about your anger towards Zach in the mornings. It’s so convicting, and there are very few places online to get this type of godly wisdom from other wives. Never stop shining your light! ❤

Love this ! Thanks so much for sharing. You are glowing girl ! 🌟

We love Nelly! That’s our little girl’s name she’s just turned one today! You look beautiful, hoping your pregnancy is going well lovely ❤️ we’re all here for the videos lol ❤️

Yay!! I always get so excited to see a post notification from you🥰

Thanks for another video Delilah! ❤ we appreciate you.

Thank you for sharing your heart with us. Your videos are a treat ♥

So excited for you! I also loves feeling the baby move and am genuinely afraid of throwing up. My only pregnancy so far, I thankfully never threw up!!! So amazing. But the placenta attached to the front (like behind my belly button) like a barrier, so my husband didn't get to feel the baby move until later in the pregnancy, but I could feel baby moving.

I am not a mother yet though I would love to be and am so excited for the day I get married and have children! So your videos bring me so much joy and help me to better plan and learn for that day!🥰❤️

I had a very traumatic birth experience with my first and because of it my husband was very fearful of a home birth…but he supported my decision and now he tells everyone he wants all of our babies born at home. I think for most men they are nervous until they have experienced it first hand.

I love the mindset about your ring. In 2018 I was going through the hardest time in my marriage, I was pregnant with baby number 2, and I wore a pair of giraffe earrings that a friend gave me from her time in Africa to church where I worked. I realized when I got home one of the earrings was gone. I was heartbroken but I said “Lord you know how I feel about these earrings, please bring it back.” I decided to not stress about it. I’m not sure how long it took - maybe a few days or a week. It was the end of the day and I was still at work in the office with my one-year-old. He had some food item in his hand and he dumped it all over the floor in the hallway of the offices. I went to grab the small trash can in the copier room. When I did I found my earring sitting on the table right next to the trash can. Come to find out one of the ladies found it and put it on top of the shelf that sat on the desk. It fell off the shelf and landed on the side. The thing is if my son wouldn’t of dumped the food I may of never seen it and I’m amazing that it didn’t fall into the trash can. I have had these types of experiences on multiple occasions. I am believing with you that you will find it. My youth pastor wife lost her ring at the beach on their honeymoon and she found it in the grass at her home one morning. She got up early and was looking outside and noticed something sparkling in the grass. It was her ring.

I shared a room with my brother for many years and it made us so much closer. I recommend putting the best sleeper with the youngest and not separating by sex, especially if you have another boy. It could be hard on her to be alone. My brother and I treasure our memories of sharing our space and it created such a strong bond. I pray that what you decide has the most blessed outcome. It's your family and your decision. All my love to your precious family.

Me, too!!! I have a major phobia about being sick! I am so thankful that morning sickness has not been very bad for me.

I m so glad someone else shares my vomiting fear. I get terrible anxiety when the stomach bug strikes my children. I m pregnant with number 3 and my children both got the stomach virus on a trip the beginning of March when we were 7 hours from home. By the grace of God, I was spared and believe me I prayed lol. I don't want children sick either of course and its awful all the way around but man I HATE vomiting. I have a very hard time dealing with situations like that.

I wanted to add I understand about the need to adjust my attitude now. I have read the book Fair Play by Eve Rodsky and implemented it into our household. At first it felt so nice that my husband was finally carrying his load of responsibilities. After a while when life got hard I found myself stressed and blaming my husband for not carrying his load of responsibilities but in reality He was doing all that was his and more, I was just stressed and it was just a really stressful time in general. I realize this and had to adjust my attitude and mindset. I am not a religious person and do not believe in submitting to my husband. I believe we are equals but play to our strengths and enjoyments. I also believe we should support, help and encourage each other in everything we do. I think this is what Delilah is getting at. She loves doing what she does and her husband supports her and she support her husband but she is religious and explains it in those terms.

Henry Isaiah really hits the nail on the head Silas, Oscar and Jude all seem to go with your family well too.

I agree with the marriage advice. 10 years for us this April. We also try our best to forgive and be understanding. Too easy to start to over expect and get into eachother when going through hard times. My c section recovery is definitely Hardee than my vaginal birth. Even when my vbirth was induced ending in episiotomy, hemorrhaging, and forceps. I have been watching since 2020 and love your style videos. You inspire my gentle parenting and helped me decide cloth last baby hehe. Love tour beautiful family. Terrible 2s are getting us crazy haha. My newnorn is in nicu with heart defects. It is so hard to deal with and I relate to your last birth so much. Stay strong. Sending love and prayers. 😍

Delilah always teaching me how to be a better Christian wife. Thank you. ❤

Yesss!!!! We didn't find out the gender and it was the best! I'll never find out. It was my favorite part of it all.

I love watching your videos so much. I’ve been so inspired as you talk about your marriage, motherhood, and how the Lord works in your life. I just keep thinking of the Bible verse in 1 Peter 3 which talks about how a gentle and quiet spirit is what makes us beautiful in God’s eyes. You definitely have that! Congratulations on baby #4🤍I’m pregnant also due in august so it’s been super fun to see your pregnancy updates.

Perfect! I just came home from the hospital with our third baby and I have this video to watch 😍

Love your videos! It inspired me to get a lot of housework done to serve my partner 🥰 thanks for being a great example and sharing your values xoxo

Oh this just made my day. Thank you for sharing. ❤

I look forward to vlog drops so much

Hello you beautiful soul, I'm expecting our second child and we have been waiting for this to happen for a long time. ❤️😇. So happy about it. I just want to say thank you for talking so nicely about your feelings and behaviors towards your husband. We all love our kids as well as our partner, but those words were so beautiful on my heart. Now I think that I have to work on my behavior towards my hubby ahahhah hah, even though I know that we are on right spot in many ways, but still we have to work on our relationship constantly. Sending love from Austria 🙏❤️

I needed to hear that about Zach not waking up before the kids. I am going through that with my husband right now… thank you so much! I feel like God is speaking through you to me. ❤

Thank you for talking about the overuse of self care in today's society! Totally agree. I'm struggling to be present with my almost 8 month old throughout the day while stuck inside in the cold, never ending winter. How do you entertain a baby all day, every day while being stuck in your house!?

My coworker lost her ring in November. She even bought a new right and was sad but moved on. A few weeks ago a preschooler found her ring in our sandbox that was built in November. Showed up out of nowhere. Hold onto the hope for your ring!!

I watched this on my TV but I had to jump to the app to tell you to look in your vents for your ring!! My mother in law lost hers years ago and recently found it just barely out of reach in one of their floor vents while they were renovating.

I love your living room chair.. Your living room is gorgeous!

I love being a mom 100%. I have two beautiful daughters that God has blessed me with that I wouldn't trade anything for. I love watching your videos I love watching your kids grow up so fast. I am thankful that I can't have anymore I am to Old LOL!! I support all mom that can home school their kids me I can't do it I love my daughter but I don't have the time to do it. I am so excited for you to have other I pray every day for those who struggle it breaks my heart. Love you guys !!!

I have some names that might help you decide! Boys: Francis, Timothy, Alexander, Damian, Sebastian, Andrew, Maxwell. Girls: Francine, Ruby, Anne, Anna, Caroline/Carolina, Laurie/Lauren, Jane, Laurel, Florence, Irene (I keep a long list for whenever I have children in some video games I play). Also thank you for answering so many questions! I think the thought of being surprised with the gender is such a lovely idea. I'd love to do everything natural but at least have the one with finding out the gender and things like that. I just hope to have more than one baby! Anyway, I love how you share and communicate your faith. It's so nice to know there are other christians out there like me who are more open minded and "modern" (?). I guess maybe because we're similar in age, but hearing how you talk about the Lord is really nice and comforting. Regarding your wedding ring- i dont know if i missed where exactly you lost it or how you lost it but could it be somewhere in the pipes? I hope you find it! God bless you and your family

Its great that you can recharge quickly and do not need a lot of me time. I on the other hand am a little overwhelmed with just the one kid. I feel very unease, anxious, impatient and wanting to be away from him, if I dont have a lot of time for myself. And I am talking like 2 hours a day (to read, do yoga, nap, watch a video, do something I enjoy). I think this depends on personality and maybe mental health. I hope to learn to be more patient, I do want more kids, but I am happy he is starting to go to a playgroup a few hours a day..

So glad you’re being safe while attempting a VBAC. I had a uterine rupture during my attempted VBAC with my 3rd and was sooo glad I was in the hospital when it happened. Don’t let that scare you. I needed Pitocin because my water had been broken 27 hours prior and I just wasn’t dilating at all. I even went on to have my 4th, which wasn’t planned, but his scheduled csection at 36 weeks was the calmest experience I’ve ever had. I’m glad I ended my baby having days with his birth

I love all your motherhood content but I reeeaally love your wife related content! I just laughed when you were talking about bitterness towards him especially with not waking up before the kids. I’m still there but am slowly softening with lots of prayer and some realization that maybe I like that time alone and with the kids while he gets his much needed sleep. Sometimes I just need some more acknowledgment or appreciation. But it certainly helps to hear other wives talk about these topics! Not that we need husband bashing but seems like women are more open to talking about motherhood struggles as compared to husband struggles. Haha. Thanks for all you do!! ❤

Can't wait to plan our 4th baby lol 😆. As I'm holding my 3rd at 3months old haha

I love the practical advice of creating an environment where your husband will enjoy waking up a little earlier. Such a sweet compromise. I was even thinking of another way to have a heart change is to kiss his sleeping face in the morning and thank the Lord for my husband instead of letting that turn to bitterness. Again, I learn so much from you, Delilah ❤️

My name suggestions: Madeline for a girl and Henry for a boy.

& girl, whatever you do, don’t give up on that ring:) I lost my wedding ring 3 years ago. After looking for it EVERYWHERE, we started trying to replace it. Every one we got just wasnt right. I gave up and 3 years later found my ring! It was in the closet, which is so weird because we looked in there so many times & completely removed and reorganized it a few times. 🤷‍♀️

I have a phobia of throwing up too! My morning sickness with my third was so bad. We called our daughter Evelina. It means beautiful bird plus has Eve in it - life. We thought we weren’t going to find a name

We do the running list of names too! I have it saved as a note on my phone. It’s fun to see what names we used to like. We have a list for boys, girls, and dogs 😂

As for you wedding ring, I believe you will find when you lease expect it. I lost an earring right before Christmas and I looked everywhere for it. I prayed, Lord that’s one of my favorite earrings and I know that you can find it. January came and went, no earring. I totally forgot about it. Then in February at a women’s conference at church, I was bowing in worship and just happened to open my eyes and look down in the song rack on the pew in front of me and there was my earring and I normally never sit in that area of the church. God is so good and He cares about the little things in our life.

Another baby in the way!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤😊 wow!

Okay name suggestions (for what it’s worth 😅) based on the names you liked before William: Boy: Henry Wells Edwin Patrick Thomas Wilder Girl: Ophelia Wilder Margot Ruth Esther Ruth (Essie for short- how cute) Johanna (means God is gracious) Faye

I lost my ring back in June 2022. We’ve also turned the house upside down looking for it but no luck. We’re doing a reno this year though, so I’m hopeful it’ll turn up when we clear things out for that. Will pray we both find them! I’m still heartbroken about it. I lost it right before our 10 year wedding anniversary.

Lillian(nickname Lillie), Esther(Essie), Jane, Katherine, Hannah(beautiful example in the Bible), Goldie(my great-great grandmothers name), Harriet, Beatrice(Bee/Trixie) are my girl name ideas based on what would sound good with your other kids names. I didn’t look for boy names cuz it seems like you don’t have a hard time with them lol!

I truly think you’ll know when you’re done having kids. It makes me sad to know I’m pregnant with my last, but I know this baby is truly my last. When we were deciding on wether we should just have two (which was not the original plan), it just never felt right. Now it feels right, knowing this baby is my last, even though I’ll miss so many aspects of having babies.

You are wonderful!! I thank God for you.

Oh, very true “how can I expect someone who has never been a morning person to wake up before the kids-“ dealing with that scenario right now. I was frustrated the other day because I felt like I’m just as tired but I’m getting up, I’m showing up for the kids. But very true…. Will pray about it 😂

Our youngest boys are the same age & I had a vbac with him. You got this 💛

I think the name Nella is absolutely precious

I always liked the names Everly or Ellie for girl and Otto or Jonah for a boy. I know those aren't everyones favorite names but I always thought they were sweet names that I might never get to use. Whatever the name we support you and can't wait to watch the rest of your journey. Keep up the good work momma!

Do you take your rings off to knead your sourdough?! I saw someone put theirs on their window sill and it fell in a crack! They found it like 10 years later!

Esther after your grandmother! I think It would sound great! Esther and Eloise, Theodore and William!❤

Congratulations! I could see a flora, rose or Genevieve playing with Eloise. Or a little sebastian or Fredrick.

Flora for a girl❤ Everett, Vernon or Sterling for a boy💙 This was such an encouraging video!

I think Henry or Caroline are super cute names that fit your style! We're naming our daughter Caroline. :)

Girl name ideas: Corina or Annika! 💕

Our son's name is Gabriel Moses meaning- the strength of God is drawn out-and I love it! Our miscarried daughters name is Lillian phoenix meaning- beautifully reborn- I think, a beautiful name. Love you and praying for your pregnancy

Thank you for your positive perspective on motherhood! I hear the complainy “motherhood is too hard” narrative over and over on social media so I love that you make an effort to show how joyful and incredible motherhood is, because the good parts far outweigh the bad parts. What a blessing it is to be able to raise these sweet babes ❤

Did you check your faux tree that’s in the background?? Kids love putting stuff into decorative pots and plants lol

I see you having a girl named Charlotte 🥰

Some name suggestions Girls: Amelia, Hannah, Juliet/Juliette, Jane Boys: Henry, Peter, Jeremiah, Adam

My mom had her first be a C-section, then the other 4 of us were natural! Totally possible especially with better monitoring these past few years.