Mel Robbins
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First 5 Minutes of Automated Transcript:
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hey everybody it's mel uh super excited
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that you're here and uh today we are
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gonna dig into a really important topic
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uh that is all about why there goes our
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dog just on cue
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you know it's live when the dog is
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barking
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um we're gonna talk today about why it
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is so critical
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that we attack head on and by we i mean
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you
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you me everybody watching we attack head
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on
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the way that you talk to yourself
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that we
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identify
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the broken patterns of thinking about uh
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that you have about yourself
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and we tear them apart and we replace
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them with something really positive um
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tell me in the comments where are you
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watching from and then i have a question
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to kick us off
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uh how is
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your own negative self-talk holding you
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back
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so if you're somebody that says i'm not
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good enough or it never works out for me
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or um
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you know i'm a bad person or i'm damaged
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like whatever the garbage is how is your
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negative self-talk your self-doubt your
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insecurity holding you back
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um i can share a quick story for those
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of you that were watching yesterday as i
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was reading from chapter four of the
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high five habit i was sharing a story
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about um how important it is to have
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what i call a high five attitude which
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is the ability to catch yourself when
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your attitude is going down
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to catch yourself when you start beating
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yourself up and to flip your attitude
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back into a positive optimistic
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resilience state and i told you all a
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story about how
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the rental market here is super
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competitive it's super competitive as in
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if there's an open house for a new
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rental property in southie this awesome
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new hip and up and coming neighborhood
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in boston there are literally lines out
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the door there are a dozen applications
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and that's exactly what happened
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yesterday to one of our daughters and
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all of her best friends from college
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and we put in the applications everybody
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scrambled to get it done i wrote one of
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these love letters we even wrote the
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rent check for a little bit more than
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what they were asking for and at the end
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of the day everybody despite being
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positive despite putting in all the work
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doing everything that we could they did
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not get the apartment it went to
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somebody else and i watched in real time
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as my daughter's
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mindset plummeted
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and she started to say
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all of the things that we all say to
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ourselves it's amazing because you can
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watch it when it happens to somebody
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else the real gift is being able to
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catch yourself
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when your attitude plummets she
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literally started going
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nothing ever is going to work out for me
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i'm never going to find an apartment
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this is just more evidence that this has
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been the worst two years of my life i
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don't think this is i better start just
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figuring out what i'm going to do our
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roommates are going to split up like
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just went so negative so fast and it
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quickly went from
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i'm of course we didn't get the
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apartment to
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i'm never going to get an apartment
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to
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nothing
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ever works out for me this sort of
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catastrophic thinking and i can see that
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so many of you can relate to this that
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when one bad thing happens
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if you don't have
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the ability to catch yourself and
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high-five your attitude back into a
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place
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where you get back into optimism you get
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back into
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being able to encourage yourself
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you will
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feel
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like the world is aimed against you and
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here's the thing nobody else can do this
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for you you have to be able to do this
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for yourself
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and you know what do you do when you get
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disappointing news you didn't get the
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apartment you wanted you didn't get into
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your dream school you didn't get that
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job that you applied for and you made it
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to the final round you didn't get the
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house that you really wanted you didn't
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get uh the raise that you really
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expected for yourself well it's
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important to allow yourself to feel the
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disappointment you're human
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but you need to put a cap on how long
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you're going to torture yourself okay
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