Ya Colin was the nice guy she ignored because he liked dfferent things. Imagine wanting a partner because they like all the same things you do, that's not how love works lol
30 years old millenial here, your song hit me in the guts pretty hard. Started tearing up out of nowhere. Telling everyone everything's fine, can't find the strength to talk to anyone about how empty i feel. Thank you for this song.
Hey Guillaume. Guillaume…you must be French? Hey I’m so sorry. Your comment stood out to me. I’m praying for you tonight. God sees you and he has a plan for you. Jeremiah 29:11. Keep swimming brother!
@@sarahgowens7652 Thank you, yes I'm french, i suppose my name gave it away I'm not a spiritual person, but i understand the strength and meaning of these words and how they can give you hope. Thank you for this
@@guillaume3972 Salut, juste pour te dire que tu n'es pas seul, je sais que socialement la santé mentale des hommes est assez tabou et que par conséquent ça peut être difficile de trouver de l'aide... Bon courage. Je bataille moi même avec une dépression depuis des années mais la thérapie aide vraiment. Si tu veux en parler n'hésite pas à me répondre.
I’m a 74 year old boomer. My struggles are way behind me now. But I can tell you, the advice and the words of hope and encouragement I read in these responses are brilliant, uplifting and very, very wise words. You’ll make it kids. Reach out. Help is out there. Struggles make you strong. Just don’t EVER, EVER GIVE UP! 🙏
It's nice to hear someone of your generation being so positive. You and your words make me miss the well of calm wisdom that was my husband's grandmother, she just passed 3 months ago and I frequently find myself still wanting to call her and ask things like "what will get this stain out?" And "life is feeling overwhelming, what could I do about this situation?". Thank you for being a positive voice online
Honestly, thank you so much for saying this. I don't think I've ever heard anyone from your generation be so... validating. I'd be lying if I didn't say if I didn't cry for a good 5 minutes after reading this (part of a much longer cry listening to this song on repeat/reading the comments). I didn't have any clue how much it would mean to me hearing someone from my 'grandparent's' generation say something kind as opposed to simply gaslighting us that we're not working hard enough or something. Thanks for helping this struggling millennial feel... seen.
Hahahah!! You had a good guy, you left him, dyed your hair pink and wonder why you have no one. That behaviour is a way of life. And I will tell you all the guys I know avoid that like the plague. It’s poison. The flat truth is you’ve already hit “the wall”. Yer 90% a forever cat lady. Yer only chance now is to clean up, get “normy” and hope, with all your fibre you can find a good guy that’s still looking. Because at this age, the guys who aren’t hooked know the pink and green hairs and blue hairs are nutz and want nothing to do with them. We’ve learned they aren’t worth it. So you can be pissed at me, or listen up and realize this advice is all you have between you and cat lady. I only feel for that poor guy that you string along. I hope he found a good match. Guys out there, this is a warning. Don’t put up with the woman who think something better is there if they turn rainbow haired and say they won’t take a man’s last name. They aren’t worth it, and still haven’t figured out it’s still their grandFATHERS name.
Yeah, that’s easy to say when things were still feasible for the average person when you guys were coming up. The ignorance in that statement is mind blowing. Millennials are the first generation in a long time that are projected to be less successful and struggle more than their parents. The first generation in a long time that can’t buy a house without significant help from their parents or other relatives. The first generation to have an increase in multigenerational homes thought to be due to cost of living-it’s the only way some can provide. The cost of one year in college insanely more expensive than it was back your day if you account for inflation and average salaries. Houses are crazy expensive, interest rates are high, inflation is crazy, rents are ridiculous and anyone trying to buy a house is competing with corporations that can offer more and in cash than any regular families can do. To add insult to injury, the cost of living has been steadily rising far beyond the wages & have for quite sometime now. So easy to say “you’ll make it, kids” because you guys did but thanks to the generations before us and just as that one WWII vet said while in tears recently “this country has gone to hell In a hand basket…no one will have the opportunities that we did. No one will live the kind of lives that we did, no one will have the kind of freedoms and the fun that we had.” He’s right. It’s regretfully ignorant statements like that that birth idiotic phrases like “okay, boomer.” If ever there was a legit time to say that, it would be here. 🙄
This moved me to tears. I connect so deeply to this. I’m 32 and have been struggling to keep my head high and stay strong through illness and financial stress. I needed this today. Thank you.
Sending you love fellow 32-year-old! I took a different path. Got married at 22 and had children young. Same tears, but for different reasons. Life gives us so many challenges. Last year has been so freakin’ hard. I wish you the best! ❤
I'm 41 now, and I finally feel like I'm figuring my life out now. Took a lot of struggling to get here, but I am definitely happy...there's still time, trust me, it'll all be worth it 😊😊😊
32 is really just the beginning of when you start to feel like your feet are really under you. It's when you hit your 40s that you really come into your own for most of us. Give yourself grace and patience. You are right where you need to be. Your 30s are much better than your 20s. Enjoy them and don't worry about how other appear to be doing.
I’m still in college but this “10 years later” version brings me more comfort than the original. I’m so scared of not knowing what to do after I graduate that sometimes it feels like I have no future at all. But listening to this version, hearing people still figuring things out in their 30s, it reminds me that I still have my life ahead of me. Things will not be perfect and there will be struggles and challenges but I still have a future. Thank you for this cover.
I'm 48 and life just keeps happening regardless of my plans. So I feel you and the best advice I can give is just roll with it. I was pleasantly surprised by where I ended up
And Sometimes you don’t realize what you want to do until you’ve had some real life experience too. I’m 39 currently applying for dental hygiene school after being a dental assistant for 16 years. My oldest is taking some college classes now and my youngest gets is in 2nd grade. We all get there eventually even if it isn’t the same road someone else travels by.
I never got this thing about caring if others are happier. Well, I care about the people that are my friends, them being happy makes me happy. But the rest is just scenery, right?
The day i turned 25 suddenly hit me. I was fine before but then suddenly exsistencial crisis on max for whole day. At night i had a talk with my (16 years older) husband about what i was feeling and how he went through similar at some point. He helped me see accomplishments i didnt and i geniinly am now happy with where i am❤it seems we all go through this!
Hell isn't a place with fire anyways. Apparently that was made up by the catholic church, but I do love that line in the song because it just hits home.
@@JamieeSupernova Well... The entire concept of hell and the devil is completely made up and far more recent then people realise. It was a tactic to control even more what people would do. The entire idea of the looming eternal condemnation makes people easily manipulated. If those that preach about it actually believed in it you wouldn't see them commiting the crimes that will make them go to hell for eternity...
Same and I'm only 18 bruh. This shit exhausting. Literally if good jobs actually hired I feel we'd ALL be doing way better mentally and physically etc.
I’m 35 and was sobbing like two days ago, thinking of how alone and left behind I feel. This song and the comments are both super comforting. Have a therapy session scheduled for Monday. Sending love and positive vibes to everyone who’s going through a rough time.
36 and feeling the same. I feel like I've sobbed my whole life away in just these past few years. I'm starting therapy in 5 days. I wish us both (us all) the best in life. We'll get there eventually.
35 and same here. Feeling like I’m behind everyone else and not having the life I thought I would by this age is hard. Every day I mourn the life I wish I’d had. Gotta try to do the best with my last few years in thirties to change it. Hope we three all find our happy
Turning 34 this year and finding some comfort here that we are not experience this alone. I also have been mourning the life I wish I had since my engagement with my first love ended a couple years back. And seeing friends reach the next milestones in their life while I’m still sad and alone. It’s tough, but may us get through it all together 😌
I'm turning 30 and feel similar. But I found something that helped is. I quit a few years ago my job after I found it not satisfying to just work 7 to 5 for living and collecting money just for myself. So I went into a crisis region to help rebuild after a disaster and if you can't help practical, just being there for the people and listen to them make a huge difference. It gave my life new meaning. Sure it wasn't easy. On the beginning stress hit my stomach and took at least a half year to get some friends on the new place. But I think it was worth it. And found a new family of the local people. But be warned helping isn't always thankfully, but god sees it and if he's your friend too in him he will repay it, latest in heaven. Just ask the locals how you can help they'll know what's missing. More and more it's even scientific approved that helping others helps yourself mentally as well.
I'll be 29 in less than 3 months and this really made me depressed yet enlightened because I was in college exactly 10 years ago and due to life circumstances which involved drugs and prison time which thankfully, I am out of that lifestyle now, but it really makes me think about everythiing that has happened up to this point... I guess in a way this brings me comfort to know there are so many people out there who are going through the struggles life throws at us while probably not as extreme as others, what matters is what we do about it now. Keep your heads up, people! If you want things in life, you have to go and get it. Embrace positivity and don't forget to smile.
I'm 29, was in college 10 years ago but left due to drugs and jail too, but im still trying to figure out which way is up, your comment made me feel at least a little less alone 😭❤️
I'll be 40 in summer and I'm so much looking forward to it. My own life didn't really start until my mid thirties. Now I found my own balance and strength and the love of my life, all within the last four years. Don't give up, brothers and sisters. Concentrate on all the things you have already learned and experienced. Getting older can feel so good. Independent and calm. ♡
So true, I’m seeing that 20s is trying to gain traction, 30s building on whatever traction you may have hopefully gained, and 40s plus working on a legacy that will hopefully sustain you the rest of the way 🤞
Hang in there! Life doesn’t get easier, but you get stronger and it gets better. I’ll be 59 in a couple weeks; I’m having the best time of my life! I didn’t enjoy my 20s and 30s _nearly_ as much.
So true, I had to get rid of all the toxic people first to start my life properly. For some people it takes longer to get there, as we don't all start at the same point, but if you keep trying and working you will eventually get to where you want to be.
Every version of this song hits hard. I have heard three versions orignal one , then a senior version and then this one and they all have there own stories which many might relate to. I just love them all.
That collin line was amazing, my reason being, it doesn't matter how things ended up with both of em, the thing is that having a healthy sense of wonder or nostalgia about a person from your past is important because without em' you would not have been where you are. Every action has an equal and opposite reaction
I'm almost 34, and this song hits home hard. I have a Bachelors degree and made deans list every semester before graduating in 2012. 12 years later, me & my dog are living with my dad. We'll be homeless in 3 weeks since he's moving out of state. I lost my job due to the company getting buried financially with sky-high property taxes and increased rent. I feel like I've worked so hard throughout my life, and here I am, single and alone at 33, no career, no relationship, no family, nothing to show for all the pain & struggle. Thank you for this song. It gave me some much needed comfort .
Stay strong kiddo - when it feels like you're being pushed off the edge of a cliff it's the perfect time to believe you can fly. And you can - metaphorically. Cover every inch of you in self-esteem and fight tooth & nail to come out on top. I know this world can be unfair and maybe it feels cruel to feed the system by doing whatever it takes to survive but believe me - there's room for you in this world. ❤
Im old and widowed your struggle is understandable At you age you feel life is at its critical This day and age a relationship seems not so hospitable But im sure if you look there will be a person in your current life you overlooked There are men out there looking for you Maybe look in a different place thats new Im alone but saying prayers for you😢
Looking back on my life I wish I went to a shelter and started over instead of chosing 2 bad relationships which caused so much severe trauma. If I had to do it over again, I wouldn't. I would go to a shelter and accept their help and guidance to turn my life around. I was too proud back then and I regret it immensely.
Damn.. we are truly never alone in our experiences. I've been through similar experiences 25 and I have nothing to show for it except depression and trust issues caused by 2 relationships barred with trauma. I feel inferior to the point I won't talk to people because I feel I'm not worth the effort. They didn't love me and stay so why should anyone anymore. I miss who I used to be. I used to ask why grandpa was so.. angry or cynical.. I see now why he feels the way he does.
Im surprisingly still a 12 year old stacked with pressure from everyone in school. Im lost on everything and its barely the second month of school. Im wondering if everything i dreamed of would happen. Some people might think this is discouraging that they realize its hard to be immediately successful but this helps me a lot. Reminds me im still young enough to try my best, and that its fine to be lost even by the time the age in this song is my age.
My sweet summer child, I'm 37 and still wonder if my dreams will happen....some have, most haven't, but if I could give you one piece of advice, it would be to just enjoy the journey everyday no matter where you wind up because one day we all reach our final destination. 🙏🏻
I would have cried listening to this song 2 years back. Now I'm in a much better place in life and I'm grateful for where i stand. Insecurities and hard ships will go away. Believe in yourself and work hard in what you want. You will be in a better place too ❤
Thank you so much for sharing! I restarted university last year at 38 and feel a bit alone with that :D (and here, I have to study for 5 years until I finally can fulfill my dream of becoming a teacher)
@nriamond8010 I'm 36 and I feel like I'm restarting life. My chronic illnesses caught up to me right after I graduated with my masters. So I've never gotten to actually work in my intended career. Now all of my credentials are out of date and I'm starting an art career instead of taking those credential exams again.
I'm also 32 and 10yrs post college, wondering similar things, but also enjoying my 30s and finding a new sense of peace. Hoping you and all the other 30-something millenials are feeling more peace, too.
Those breathy high notes were absolutely angelic!! I sometimes feel like I had more potential in life and should've continued on with my education, but then I remember how scary that leap would be, how much effort it would take, and how I'm very comfortable where I am right now, and I feel okay again.
I like this reel cause it hits multiple levels. Like the first song irritates me a little, but the second one I relate to. I really like contrast. If you happened to listen to this when you were in first year of college, listening in 10 years would be very interesting
I would have cried listening to this song 2 years back. Now I'm in a much better place in life and I'm grateful for where i stand. Insecurities and hard ships will go away. Believe in yourself and work hard in what you want. You will be in a better place too ❤
If you can relate to a 32 year old woman with Pink Hair who apparently has accomplished NOTHING in her life despite attending college, then YOU ARE DOING LIFE WRONG. Time for a change.
I’m 20 years from college and still dirt road poor. That’s definitely not bad thing and I’m happy to my core. My injuries from my youth hurt more and more. I’ve been married to the love of my life for over twenty years and while it took us 18 of those we finally had our boy. The things I thought I needed when I was 2 days into my adult life, have faded and been forgotten and that’s okay. I’m so happy when I see my wife and child play, I silently thank the lord as a happy tear runs down my face. I hope I live long enough to see him do the same. Just know it’s okay to not know where your going or where you put your keys just be polite to the guy who helps you get into your room because 20 years from now he could be the me to one of you… I would love to hear a duet of both you and her, maybe even combine your knowledge and make it a full song. It would sell massively and maybe along the way you could get a Collin to add a verse to it. It hits me hard with a huge slap by nostalgia, I can’t sing or write a verse very well but I wrote it for my wife who I’ve been married to for 22 years.. half of my life she’s barely left my side. Military service would take me away but I always came right back. I’m now a medically retired, Disabled vet. She has to help me do thing that I can’t do on my own. I’m so thankfulnthat I have here I only wish I could do more just show how much she means to me, but you know the whole dirt road poor.. Two adults in our 40’s(me reach mid forties now) raise a 3 year old only child. It took us 18 years and tens of thousands on medical stuff that was supposed to make it finally happen. Even her going into pseudo menopause, which was an absolute nightmare for us both. I would call to say I was on my way home and before I could ask if she needs anything or wanted me to pickup food shit cut me off and totally aggro’d out on me. I would stop and realax for a minute and maybe stop to get dinner and a DVD. I know she never meant it and was all the hormones. I joked with her that whenever she does go though it for real I may need to make a primitive structure in the woods that I can hide… we still never got a Honeymoon even after 22 years in the military it was timing and constantly using our leave to visit our families who lived on different sides of the country. After I got hurt and medically retired they didn’t start my pay right away and even though I had to sell my beloved firearms collection (I used to shoot in competitions and had a nice collection)we still had to sell our house to keep it from being foreclosed on and do volunteered repo and move in with my dad. It seemed like we were just starting out again in our 30’s and it was rough. It took us almost a decade before we could finally buy our home. We’re still paycheck to paycheck so I know it’s not possible now, but man I would love to take this beautiful woman on a week or more long trip to England and Ireland. She is a citizen of England and the US. We both joined the military to travel and got stuck in Texas for 10 years based on my job not available at every AF base. Right now we are pinching pennies just to maybe get a second car either a truck or larger SUV. that can handle the 20 hour round trip . My sone has a grandmother and great grandmother he’s never met and I know it’s just a race of time. I need him to meet them and I’ve not seen the for maybe 15 years myself. Then another 16 hour trip to get out belonging that have been in storage for the last 4 years and introduce my son to his aunts and ALL of his cousins(he has a LOT of cousins, lol). I love you KK!!
My name’s actually Colin and I’m 32. This is such a cute and sad song all at the same time. We’re all trying to figure life out and making it up as we go. The best thing we can do is not compare ourselves to others but find joy in the things we can control.
I'm genuinely tearing up -- I promise it does get better. I'm 41 and it took each decade past being 2 days in college to recognize that *everyone's* 20s and 30s are devastatingly hard.
42.8 here.... now health problems have been added to all the rest 🤣🤣🤣 though i have a loving partner, can't complain there. all the best to everyone who reads this 💕💕💕 you've got this!! one day at a time 💕💕💕
It will never get better. This world is a pointless sesspool. Full of plague walking around on two legs. What's the point to breathing in this shit hole? There isn't one. You are born. You suffer. You die. You are forgotten. If you are remembered you aren't remembered for the life you live but for the life people imagine you lived. Living is pointless and means nothing. So the fact that we are stuck here is bullshit.
As someone who just turned 33 this past month and who went through a semi-existential crisis, i resonate with the yen years section so much. To anyone else who feels like that, just know it's okay to not feel okay sometimes. We're all in this together whether we know it or not, and you got this! Also, should probably have said this sooner but amazing voices and storytelling here!
I'll be 39 in a few months, and I found myself only 3 years ago. Things get better, friends. Not as fast as we all wanted or envisioned, but they do get better with every struggle and every challenge and every risk. Sending love to all
good to hear but it can still be rough sometimes. I'm a late bloomer/has to restart because my dream career just wasn't possible anymore. gonna go back to school with my siblings who are 10-14 years younger than me 💀🙃
I needed this. I’m approaching 30 quickly and I feel so lost and feel like a failure since I haven’t achieved all the greatness I feel like I was supposed to hit before 30
I am going to be 40 next month, and I also discovered my calling a couple of years ago. I am back in school to pursue my dream and will finally go after the life I have always wanted. Its not too late.
@@andrerodon3921 oh damn you are right! learned something new today! Thought you compare yourself to others, hence self-comparison. My bad. Thanks for letting me know!
Yesterday was my 32 birthday and damn do I feel this. Like a punch to the gut. I’m glad in a weird way I’m not the only one that feels this way. Millennials have been so divided over the years on so many things, but when you sit down we are all just trying to do our fucking best in this crazy beautiful fucked up chaotic world. For those feeling like me don’t ever stop fighting forward. Find the beauty and grasp it tight. I wish us all luck as we move forward.
Much love. Us millenials have been hit the hardest. Made to believe we can do anything, hell a lot tried. But it's true, we're just trying to make the best of our situation. Got tears in my eyes. I'm 36.
I'm 32 also, a mother of 3, a wife for 5 years, but in the relationship for 17 years, and somehow I still feel like I should be a kid. I'm not emotionally or financially ready for this world. I need the time to slow down or a restart. I really don't think life should be this freaking hard. But all we can do is keep moving forward. Happy belated birthday and I hope one day it will get easier for all of us and we can stop fighting to live and just live.
@@mistibransford6954 One thing, from a 55yr old male...who has kids half your age......KEEP going.....NEVER blame yourself....ALL of us - EVERYONE, is getting pumped over - Nothing is personal - NEVER EVER Blame yourself - Positive Mental Attitude - PMA. x
Look don't take this the wrong way you are where you are because of your choices just like everybody else apparently on this thread I'm 34 I'm a millennial then make better choices I get there are things that are out of our control but I know a lot of millennials that are in your position aren't focusing on what they can control they focus on everything that doesn't matter between our generation and gen z everybody wants to be an activist instead of just taking care of the responsibilities
This cover couldn't have come at the most perfect time. Is there like a full version? heck even and hour long one? could be a good background for one of those self deprecating nights.
I'm sixty now and just learning that life is grand today with or without accomplishments on a schedule. I've beat depression, cancer, and hope springs eternal that love makes all the difference in life. Drop the schedule and embrace now!
This gave me so much comfort. You seem like a very nice person! I’d love to “drop my schedule” but unfortunately I’m 29 and I have to survive somehow. 🥲
Old millennial here, I'm 40 and finally have a good job, steady income, decent home, and loving relationship. Some of us pull it together later than others. Never compare yourself to others. You only see what they want you to see on social media. We are all struggling in our own ways, even the people who look like they have it all figured out.
Another old millennial. Took my kid and ran from an abusive relationship. Went back to school. Completely starting over and I’ll be 40 in October. Terrified, but I have no other choice. Kiddo starts school in fall.
You have this. Little younger than you guys, little older than OP but I can tell you this your not starting over your just doing it your way. There's only one end to our story and there's nothing after that!
36, and somehow still single, dream job has fallen apart and has turned into a nightmare … I feel this song in my soul. Sending love to everyone here! We’ve got this! 💪 I don’t think anyone has it all together. Everyone’s doing great. Hang in there. Be proud of yourself. ❤
Im 39 this year. Happier than ive ever been and more settled than i thought i would be. I didnt succeed, in my 20's or early 30's i had lessons to learn and things needed to fall apart, to fall right where they needed to be ❤❤
Turning 41 in a few months. My life gets better every year, but at 30 I would never have believed it. No joke, the most accurate statement I still reflect on was from the sex and the city movie, something about your 20s are for mistakes, your 30s paying for those mistakes, 40s for picking up the tab. My heart breaks for the unique challenges of younger folks, but if anyone ever asked me I would tell them the best thing I've learned this far is to stop competing, delete social media, dump the ___ you only see potential in, get a therapist and travel. I'm stoked as hell for 41...42...
Yes! I’ve got an additional verse in my head that starts “ i’m this far out of college, things finally fell in line, I wish I could tell my former self things are gonna be just fine”
I'm 48 and just now getting on my feet where I feel like I've accomplished something and I still have plenty of goals to achieve. Don't give up folks, just because it's not happening for you right now doesn't mean it won't in the future. Take baby steps to get to that goal. Don't overwhelmed yourself about what you think you should have and focus on one thing at a time. Sometimes people need to take a step back and shift their perspective and take a look at the bigger picture and look back at what you have accomplished in the past. Stop beating yourself up and get out there and do what you need to do to achieve that first step in a long list of goals.
As a fellow 48 year old who seemed to blow every opportunity and careen into every brick wall, I can attest that achievements and accomplishments don't really provide lasting satisfaction. The only thing that really provides fulfillment is learning to appreciate exactly where we are with all its joys and sorrows, to experience ourselves as simply another flourishing of nature, no greater or less than any other, with all the poignant beauty that implies
Oh dear love, this is all too relatable. I’m 30 now and am only starting to get grasp on my life. My 20s were absolutely hellish mentally and emotionally, and I probably am behind from most of my peers, but that doesn’t matter. I learned to stop comparing myself, and am just living each day peacefully, slowly getting to a point where I can sustain myself and be content with my life. I hope everyone else who’s struggling will be able to do so too. Wishing the best for everyone ♥️
I'm almost 40 and as a Xillennial, there's a lot I feel so behind on. I feel like I should have more stability and security, but seriously, my 30's were better than my 20's, and I'm WAY more excited about my 40's than I ever was about any decade. None of us really have it together. None of us really know anything. But at 39, I'm feeling cute in my own skin and I'm always open to learning more.
I’m 38 and thought I had my life figured out. Made my permanent life decisions. But then I got a devastating illness that leaves me often bedridden and house bound. Even if you get it figured out at 24 like I did you have no clue what life’s going to throw at you. Be grateful if you’re healthy and can still make choices. We all have our own battles. No human fights alone
Same boat here, but I got sick at 18 right after getting married… divorced now, and way better than I was, but it still is a battle every day and some weeks and months I’m back to where I started. It’s tough.
You all are so compassionate! I thought I was gonna get so my hate. I’m so sorry you all are ill as well. I hope you all can at least cope with the hand you’ve been dealt and find someone who will love you just as you are ❤❤❤❤
This isn't some feels good fantasy were in a global economic recession seeing a decline in quality of life. The working class is losing ground day by day. It's great to feel the good vibes and all but your an adult and you should face the facts in front of you
We often feel we are behind and not where we are supposed to be in life. We don't have the right job making the right amount of money and benefits so we have no way to buy the house of our dreams, heck, we can barely pay rent, even with sharing expenses with annoying and unreliable roommates. We haven't found the love of our life, either, to share our journey with, except that maybe we did but just didn't realize that this someone was THE someone. It can be very frustrating and depressing when you feel that not only are you not where you want to be...but that you never will be. It's hard to be a human in 2024. All you can do is just keep trying every day to put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward.
I feel horrible for the children who bought the lies about college, now stuck in debt,high cost of living with no marketable skills or experience. The only thing that saved me was I dropped out of school.Started working two jobs, renting my bedroom from my parents, and saved every penny possible. Own my own home now free and clear. They sell you a dream with a price tag, library cards are free. You can still go to college parties, especially when all your friends are there🎉
The production is alright, if she's the one who actually composed / learned whatever software she's using. But you know it's 100% autotune making the "incredible voice" part right?
I'd love for this to be an on-going song, updated at each decade of your life! Not only would the lyrics expose a different perspective at each age, but your evolving and maturing skills with singing/songwriting would be a great testament to your life and talent💖
Being 28 I have some unsolicited advice (featuring bonuses from my mother) Fuck everyone else. Much easier said than done, but it took until my 26th birthday for the switch to flip in my head. At this stage, no one else’s opinion matters. They can give advice, sure, but it’s not worth tailoring everything you do to pleasing other people. It’s not easy at all. And also, don’t compare yourself to other people. Everyone is going at their own pace, and too many people are spending too much time looking at everyone else and wondering why they aren’t where that other person is. It is a waste of precious time and energy
I have more unsolicited advice as a wee old 27 yr old. You always hear the kind of advice that says “make every day count” “life is short” “you only live once” and those kinds of things. The thing is, that advice was made by older people and it puts a lot of pressure on you to always be thinking ahead and pushing on. And yes, that’s good. But it’s also bad. It’s too much pressure. Our society puts too much pressure on younger people. So you have to balance that and take time to fuck around and find out. Take time to lounge all day and do nothing. Take time to do that hobby that people judge you for. Life isn’t short at all as long as you give yourself the time to live it. For old people, yeah, their life be short. Cause they fuckin old. Us? Nah, we have time. They just want us to believe we don’t.
Thats because we all pretend we have our life together. You can only see the outside. Everyone struggles and you are not behind. Go your path and dont forget to take breaks to enjoy the view❤
The lyrics, the cadence, the pretext about "Collin", the sweetness in her voice, the use of her syllables, just Wow. I'm impressed. She has a very promising future as a song writer.
The wall has arrived, she's realized that a family should have been a priority and she squandered her prime years riding the c.c. Now its time to think about moving in with other modern women for survival.
47, and I thought I would have more wins then L's too. I feel for every step forward I am able to take I am pushed back five. It feels neverending. I'm crying while listening on repeat now but know I have to x out soon because I don't want my little one walking in on the tears. I needed this video, even for just the five minutes I am able to take for myself. Thank you.
I'm 40 this year. Can't buy a house, separated with two kids (and still living together). I have a good new job but I'm still constantly broke. This world sucks right now. I'm rooting for you, Steph!!!
@@Palafertiil Perspective is everything.The fact that you have a roof over your head and are able to provide for your children tells me that you're doing pretty well. Millions of people would love to be in your position. Don't forget that.
💝 I'm sorry you're struggling. Remember that it's okay to take a moment every now and then to recognize and feel your feelings... feeling what you feelnis not a denial of the good in your life. Acknowledging that things aren't the way you wanted or expected isn't wrong or bad. It's totally natural. Healthy even. Also... remember that it's okay to let your kid see you having feelings and even struggling... it's important they can see you working through those things and moving forward despite your difficulties.. if you hide it always, they'll maybe come to think there's something wrong with them for not understanding what to do with their own big feelings... maybe don't give them all the whys and wherefores of your big feels, but it's okay to let them see that sometimes life is hard... that way they'll know that they can come to you when they're struggling because you're a safe place to collapse and reorient themselves. Sending you a comforting hug from a total stranger on the internet. You'll get through this. 💝💖💝
I feel you. A few years older than you and feel like I've had more L's than W's, but I think it's perspective as there are always people worse off than me even when I am struggling. Saving grace came as a new career after turning 50 in a field I never dreamed I wanted to work in. Finally have a career instead of just a job, but now dealing with hubs severe health issues, but it's okay as it can't always be a bed of roses. Somehow we'll make it through like we always do and I know you'll do it too.
@@ladymoonmyst4872 At your age, you should have better wisdom to pass on. We're SUPPOSED to have more L's than W's. Who told you it should be the other way around? Life is supposed to be full of challenges to overcome, and those challenges increase with everything you bring into your life. (Job, Kids, Husband, House, etc.) It's how we learn, grow, and get better. Difference is, we have SO many tools to help us face those challenges, and we're acting helpless. Comparing your life to other people like this woman is doing in the song is a recipe for disaster. Showing empathy is fine, but please don't feed into the "woe is me" narrative that pollutes these comments. Saying "you'll get through it" can be encouraging, sure, but that downplays the degree of difficulty they'll experience in their life. The truth is, they're gonna have to deal with shit like this for the rest of their lives, and it'll probably get worse.
28 and watching everyone pass me by, my siblings, my friends. Everyone so far ahead while I'm struggling just to make any progress. Feels like I'm walking in place shackled to where I am. Both are relatable and I needed this cry.
I started college at 16 & now I’m 27 & nowhere near how I imagined my life would be. Maybe it’s all the same for us, things won’t always go the way we expect them to be.
Wow, I truly felt this. It brought tears to my eyes. I turned 29 this year in August and truly thought I would have been married with a family and beautiful home by now. Instead, I lost my mom, had my heart broken way too many times, and have struggled financially for years. Besides all that, I’ve always had a roof over my head, food, and people that love me in my circle. Don’t give up, God has something big coming for each and every one of us.
It hurts me knowing how many people relate to this too. As if we are all somehow doomed to fail. Then i read the few comments who preach hope and finding themselves at last, and i realize... There is no specific age that life is supposed to click. Not your 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's, etc. Your life is uniquely yours, and your story might not look like others, but it's still your story.
It's like an entire generation did as they were told, and everything we were told we'd get isn't there. No affordable living, terrible wages, and the largest percentage of depression. But no one's angry. We're all just too tired.
My mom only got worse, and she passed last month beforeshe could do any of her dreams, and now I just cant help but think of the point of all of this, when everything can be taken, all my hard work just gone before I can put it to use. I like to believe me and my siblings are her achievement in life and I can try to make her proud, but I am 19 and I dont have a job or a car and I cant get hired. She saved up so much money to get a camper so she would have a place to live, and she passed before she could even go inside of it.. I put all my work into becoming an artist these last 8 years, but now ai art is coming out, and 2d is not really valued as much anymore
If it makes you less sad I went to uni, found my wife there, finished my degree and got a fairly good job (bit later than intended due to COVID), bought a house, got married, had a kid and I've not turned 30 yet. Sometimes things do go "as they are supposed to". But I'm also privileged to live in a country where I was helped through all of it.
How cool if each generation did one verse of this song, so we can all understand each others' struggles a little more. I'm Gen Z and currently in college so the first one hit, everything feels so uncertain and the world is so big and always changing, I always feel lost in the shuffle.. It feels like I could do so many different things, there are so many options available that choosing one feels impossible :( Also, getting locked out of the dorm. lol
I’m 20 years out of college, and my life feels halfway over and I’ve only just barely gotten anything started. There’s so much to do and so little time. I’ve found myself and my place and I’ve begun carving my spot in the world but I’m wondering if I’ll finish before I run out of the time I’m given. I just need more time.
Gen x here: I've never had a problem, and nothing bad ever happened. I got challanges galore, which sometimes turns to growth opportunities , and as much as it may suck, I embrace it and move on. This is why I know for sure: it's all good.
"...there are some many options available..." That is the good problem to have. Pick anyone to do. It literally doesn't matter which. And when you do it you might discover you like it and boom, it's all good. Or you may discover it sucks... and thats fine two because it just helped you narrow down your options and fine tune your search. You got this. Options are good.
I'm 36 and this are the exact same thoughts every day. I can't stop bawling now 💔 luckily I have therapy tomorrow 😂 Wait, 1.3K likes ?!?!!!! Thank you guys!!! Feels good that we are in the same sinking boat, but still rowing to the shore 😎👍🏼✨
@RocketMomma-ig5ttnot true, my friend. There are those who can laugh at this world's nonsense because, even when life hurts, we don't place our hope in the things of this life. ❤ Jesus loves you, my friend.
@HonestlyHolistic It is the same person, she says "wonder where Colin ended up" if it was a different person then why would she mention a random person😂
@@dIxy_DazIe Have you ever had a song with lyrics that hit close to home? Thats what this comment reads. Many feel like they’re getting more L in life than they are getting any W. These same people might think they’re failures cause of this. So someone comments that you are essentially supposed to have more L than you’ll ever have W. It tells people beating themselves that they don’t have to have this mindset, they can recover false pretenses they’ve had and appreciate their growth with all the L and W. That it’s normal. Thought you needed it explained to you.
@@donsmith6640 What do you mean? I was just explaining what the comment meant, since it seemed like they didn’t understand the original commenters intentions with the post. I wasn’t being rude. You are tho. Do you feel better writing that and trying to make fun of someone? That’s why you put the laughing face. Right?
You are not alone. I’ve spent my life putting one foot in front of the other, never deciding what I wanted to do with my life, and too busy to really think much about it. Now I’ve been retired for three years, and it’s a little late for those thoughts. 🤷♀️
You finally have time to chase your dreams!!! It’s never too late! You did your part. Now it’s your turn, and with everything you’ve learned about yourself it’s a great start. Even if you don’t know where to start you’ll figure it out 😊 I believe you 👍🏽
Life’s not perfect in retirement, but I’m finally in control. Well, mostly. Actually not as much as I’d like, but I still have options. And if you need help, there are options for most people.
This is one of the most lyrically and musically beautiful things I've ever heard. Please don't ever stop singing or writing. I haven't touched my guitar in over 6 years and immediately went and took it out of its case, restringged it, and tuned it. I've written 4 songs so far using you as a muse and inspiration. Thank you for helping me relearn my love of music. ❤
I went to law school at 38. I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up, but at least now I get to be a lawyer in the meantime 😂 Anyway, the point is that's a potent age with so much potential. Taking your first 40 years to figure out who you are will make the second 40 so much happier and more meaningful, I promise. Sending you love
"Did everybody succeed now, are they happier than me now?" I suddenly started tearing up I feel this all the time despite reminding myself my success will eventually come... I know it will now I am back in college and am now working on it. Still I can't deny these feelings. But we'll get through it :D
I’m 41 now and still not married with no kids and just lost my job 😢 but i’m hoping to make something of my own and even though sometimes i dont see any hope with more debt than income… I still try to be positive and not give up. Your song brought tears to my eyes and also warms my heart.. let’s all work hard to find our own paths and be happy ❤
God loves and cares for you. Cast your cares on Jesus. There is no right way to do life. You are doing ok if you entrust and submit yourself to Jesus and focus on loving him and loving others. That's all you are supposed to do. Repent, believe, trust and love.
Stop trying to discover your “path”. Solutions are already out there and have been for thousands of years. That “me me me “ mentality will just keep stopping you.
I am 20 years out of collage met the love of life on day 1 and didn't know it. It took another 12 years to get married and 3 more for our first child. I still lock myself out at night. The difference now there is somebody inside that i keep calling to set things right.
@nwnmiria ..... please tell me you are joking. He met his love on the first day of college and got married 12 years later. 3 years after they got married, they had a kid = 15 years after meeting her day 1 in college. He's only been out of college for 20 years.
37 this year, married, burnt out and trying to stave off anxiety attacks at the end of each work day. I don't know how your cover found it's way into my feed, but thank you, it's comforting to know you're not crazy even when you're on the brink of a breakdown. This, on loop, is my drinking soundtrack until this passes.
I know how it was. I wanted to be a nurse and I made it.... before pandemic hit, which then had me questioning my choices. Four years later, I realized this is where I belonged the whole time, helping people where I can. I pray you find where you belong. In the meantime, sending hugs.... for you and your significant other
Hey, just want you to know that I'm also 37 as well and can relate. But I'm cheering you on, friend. You got it, chin up, tighten those bootstraps and remember your family is why you do what you do!
Practice strong will and discipline my friend. I’m 30 running multiple businesses, and never once had an anxiety attacks. Figure out your demons, deal with it and forgive yourself. Don’t go to a therapist, their job is to enable and not help you, only you can pull yourself out.
@@LoLMitBlade lol do you run so many businesses to push away friends? cuz that response was kind of insensitive.. ;) Just like therapy sometimes people's form of support is just being heard. but kuddos on being a bossass bitch
Oh my god. I'm crying.😢33 and i relate so hard. I'm married and have kids, but i still don't know what I'm doing with my life. I still feel like a little kid pretending to be an adult yet I'm responsible for two small humans. I just hope that life works out for them in the way that if feels lile it hasn't for me.
What you’re doing with your life is raising two small humans. That is as important a purpose in life as anything, if not more. Give yourself more credit. And don’t worry; nobody really knows how to adult …. ❤️
You are excelling at life is what you are doing....as long as you raise them right with a conscience and strong independence. - an old man ( and father)
I'd argue you are doing THE most important job in the world! We were sold a load of crap that we have to do it all and pretend we do it all well. Thats just garbage. No one can, but some of us are much better at marketing than others and spinning tales. @@samtheham57
Never give up trying things out. Don’t give into “living through ur kids”. U’ve got time and you’re doing great! Maybe it’s just time for you to focus on raising them and naturally sooner or later you will find your balance and you all will celebrate your happiness together 🥰 Cheers!! ❤️❤️❤️
Too real. I made the decision to move back in with my parents so I could actually save money (rent was eating my savings) and because my mental health was suffering (I needed practical assistance), and it’s been wonderful having their support, it was a good decision, but I sometimes feel so dumb for not having a house and a family of my own and a higher salary. I have younger friends in the same field making way more than me and it makes me feel like I’m so behind.
I too am moving back in with my mom once my lease is up for the same exact reasons you listed. It's nice to know I'm not alone but dealing with the shame associated with it can be so tough.
Lol, I'm 35, was kicked out of an abusive home at 16. Had my first child at 20, got a trade, now run my own business bringing in 6 figures a year. My wife is a stay at home mum looking after our 3 boys, been with her for 16 years, we have a semi traditional relationship, she has helped build me up so I can provide for our family. Dropping out of college to get a trade was the best thing I've ever done. 99% of my friends have office based jobs and are struggling to pay bills. My suggestion to you would be to utilize your time living at your parents the best way by ditching your current career and getting a trade then going self employed and taking in your own jobs.
@@Pablosplace that's horrible advice...trades are not for everyone you don't know their situation either. Being self-employed is incredibly hard and not stable, being your own boss only sounds good but most people are nowhere close to knowing how to run a business correctly. Plus you just rubbed your successful life in their face not cool. We can't all do the same thing or no one would be doing the jobs we need, you keep doing you but don't make it seem like the only way to be.
@@nerdycurls6253 I've been self employed for 8 years and am absolutely killing it, same as everyone I subby in on my jobs. It's fantastic advice, you just don't have the drive to do it. What do you do for a living?
RU-vid showing me this when I'm 10 years out of college and stuck in a hard place is really blowing my mind 😭😭. I love this so much, her voice is beautiful!
This is such a mood. I can't stop listening to this. I'm 35 and I feel this every day. I look back on all of the choices I've made constantly and realize that even though I have so many Ls, those Ls were learning experiences that have placed me on the path I'm on now, and I wouldn't change it for the world. I'm starting to get those Ws... and yeah, it's a fight to get them, but hey... it gets better! Keep going, keep fighting for those Ws, take those Ls and learn from them, and know you aren't alone!
As a lost 32 year old barely knowing if I'm gonna make the rent or not this was really hitting home. Thank you for making me and others feel less alone ❤
Somehow I find myself in my mid 70's, and this brings back the early years. I'm very happy in my modest life today, enjoying my wonderful spouse of many decades, and I feel for the confusion you describe. I find very encouraging the comments from people a few years older who finally found more of what they needed in life; I hope you do too! Life IS hard to figure out for most of us. I'm on your side!
I'm approaching 30 and I really do find it reassuring to see that most people want exactly that, a modest life with someone they love and a little compassion. I hope you have a good life, mate ❤
