For Single Christian men 

Dated a girl who literally was all that you described. Thought I could save her, that she just needed love. My Mother, family and friends all told me don't do this...proud and vain, thinking I could do God's work I didn't listen. I gave her everything and it was never good enough. She'd use God against me but when I brought up that she wasn't in line with God she said "why are you bringing God into this?". I learnt my lesson.. In the end I was left broken but Jesus used this to humble me and draw me closer to Him. God used this to make me realise how far I was from HIM. To anyone in the same place- REPENT and turn to God and HE can turn even a horrible experience into a blessing. God is good.

Most importantly, don’t settle for a woman who calls herself “strong and independent” You avoid those types and you basically avoid all the bad qualities listed in this video

hmm..having a hard time with the "contentious with father" part because my dad is a narcissist who believes he never does any wrong. He's controlling towards my mom and manipulative. Kinda hard to have a healthy relationship with him and agree with his ego driven perspectives.

In other words : DONT SAVE HER, SHE DONT WANHA BE SAVED🗣️🗣️🗣️

I always have trouble with mastubting and not being pure. Please pray for me

As a currently single woman, I’m taking notes

Goodness, how God speaks to me even when I should be reading my Bible right now. Still finds a way to speak directly to me through people, thank you Isaac.

Those are pretty good standards. Not unreasonably high and not too low. That is the description of a mature true christian woman. No christian man should settle for less.

I’d say being agreeable is the MOST essential “personality trait for marriage” in women…because if you don’t have a wife that’s willing to listen, to discuss, to share her thoughts, to be kind, to be patient…basically, to be willing to SUBMIT…you really can’t be the best husband you can be 😕 Srsly, is this guy single?!

If you're somehow offended by the very good advice he's just given, you are part of the problem and need to reassess.

Literally my life right now. I don’t have Instagram , I’m always in the word of God I’m obsessed with Jesus, I broke up with my boyfriend cause we’re un equally yoked, I just restored my relationship with my dad a year and half ago.

I hope to find a woman that worships god and isn’t all that you described in the video. Excellent advice but in my generation, trying to find a woman like that feels like I’m looking for a unicorn sometimes 😂

Merry Christmas 🎄 I’m glad I came across the video I do want a girlfriend so bad but I need to love Jesus and love myself 🤞🏾

As one who struggled heavily, and is still working on being contentious, don’t fall for us! We will simply exasperate and discourage you. Our Lord is gracious and surely I (and many others by faith I say,) are being molded into being trusting, submissive and respective to male figures. 🙏🏾

Please pray for me, I’ve been changing my life for the better. I fix the relationship I have with my father, no longer having premarital sex and quit smoking weed and they gave my father last year but everything else happens at the end of this year and I’m still struggling with certain things. I’m trying to have a close relationship with God and I’ve been crying and praying every day.

Love Jesus before love a girl! We’re on this together my godly brothers!

I literally saw guys say they'll date the most immodest women just so he can tell her how to dress and act, otherwise there'd be nothing to be controlling about.

ya but stop making it sound like WE HAVE to get married to be happy

Protect this man, he knows his stuff.

I didn’t listen to Gods warnings and ended up learning it the hard way…

Go live your married life 😂

Hello brothers and sisters in Christ! I'm just asking for some prayer - recently one of my sisters has started exhibiting symptoms of Alien Hand Syndrome, except she's had no trauma to her brain. I refuse to believe that this doesn't have a cure, and if the neurologist says we can't I believe God can. I don't know what's causing it but I know that somewhere deep in my soul it feels diabolical, every time I witness the symptoms I have an almost uncontrollable urge to just grab her arms as tight as I can and pray so I feel like it may be demonic? Whether it is or not, I refuse to believe it doesn't have a cure. Thank you for your time everyone, all glory be to God. 🙏

You're going to be an amazing husband. God bless you.

i’m contentious with my father and it is one of my biggest weaknesses. I love him more then I can even comprehend and I take everything out on him. I pray for strength in controlling those emotions and please if there’s any advice share below. God bless you all ❤️

So true. Thats why I always say, I don’t want a Rich Man. I want a Wholesome Man! There is a difference ❤️

10k like. Omg true

Women are held to impssible standards. My dad is abusive and not a godly man, and for men looking for this "perfect woman" that counts against me for some reason

This is the kind of man who asks a girl what she was wearing when she got SA and is fighting against people with uteruses basic human right to decide what this person does with their bodies. Even though hee doesn’t have a uterus but some how thinks he has the right

As a single Christian guy, thanks for the advice, but I'm not interested in dating and I'm also not interested in a relationship. I have went through so much Hell when I was dating (Like how I got accused of something I never did. That was worse than going through an Act of Congress and I'm surprised that I didn't get in trouble...) that my heart has pretty much turned into a heart of stone and has turned down the idea/thought of dating then marriage. I don't care to date any more. I don't care to get married anymore. Younger me wanted a girlfriend so badly (I was lonely and wanted a girlfriend badly) but me now being 19, I don't care to have a girlfriend and I don't care to get married and I've been like this for about about a year now. And I'm fine being "alone", I got my Father, my Savior, and my Spirit, 3 in 1, and that's more than enough for me. I've turned down many girls politely and I've explained to them that I'm not interested in dating. And these same girls still have huge crushes on me- it get's annoying sometimes if they make it obvious. If I even notice I should say... I've gotten to the point where girls can give off obvious hints that like me more than as a friend and I will be completely oblivious to it. Like I won't notice at all. I can catch on to many things pretty quick but when it comes to the idea of dating and marriage, you lost my attention

I have a first date Thursday, we’ll see how it goes, we’ll see if it’s gods plan or not, I’m having some doubts because she’s not my denomination of Christianity and I’m not sure she is a practicing Christian. Pray for me brothers and sisters.

Thank you. I will wait. And focus on my own flaws till the day I meet her

I’m currently going thru a lot with my current girl. We have a 2 month old baby girl, but me and her keep running into roadblocks. I love her and do still believe the Lord is still working in between us. Our love is currently being tested right now. Only the Lord knows the outcome of this one.

It's so hard to find someone who is passionate about Jesus Christ, who at the same time is single with no kids (I don't have kids of my own) and who would even give me a second glance. I made the mistake of settling with someone who had little interest in God (I made my mistakes too it was both of us) and last Monday I woke up to a message from her saying she's leaving. I got too proud and comfortable, it was my fault. The Lord gave and the Lord hath taken away, Blessed be the name of the Lord forever. Even if it does hurt like crazy

The only reason that you can have everything he said about a woman is being fully persuaded in the things of God. And a wife is a thing of God.

Haven’t gone after anyone seriously since high school. I’m 23 now and am at a spot where I’ve learned to love myself and start working on my relationship with God more. I’ve got a long way to go but at least I’ve made more progress. Though since I’ve been on my own for so long I genuinely don’t see a point in a relationship at all now. Maybe God will change my heart, but then again I did pray he’d take the desire of a relationship from me.

And that … my brother … may be why you’re still single. I would simply say: “don’t settle for a woman who has not been handpicked for you by God”

As a women Im just over here taking notes, I struggle with different things then you mentioned and I know that (even though im only 14) they will hurt a future relationship. I want to start working on myself while Im still figuring myself out so I don't drag my feet around trying to be a good Godly Women when I can just work on myself while Ive got nothing much going on. No time like the present. ❤ 😅

I needed to hear the last two. My last relationship was full of both of us constantly unsatisfied with each other. I wanted a better body out of her, she wanted a voice deeper than her ex's. Everytime I met her I treated her like a lollipop that when I was done I just throw the stick in the trash. Above all, I was lost. So I never loved her because I never knew God and I wanted things to go my way because that's all I knew, ME ME ME ME ME. Women are a whole blessing from God and since that's the truth, then I no longer want to be in the place of the real designer❤️

Sorry I don’t understand most the things you said in this video

When are you gonna wake up?? There is no participation from men until the law changes. I asked you before why are you advocating marriage for men when the one who created marriage has been cut out of it??

I need no one except the lord. The world is temporary, but the lord is eternal. Praise Jehovah, amen 🙏

Take a look at the father first before you write her off for that one. Sometimes there’s a legit reason for the contention.

How about instead of all this silly obsession on finding "Miss Right" focusing on yourself as a man and learning to be happy, content and even thankful that you're a single man! Work on yourself, your physique, your health, your career and what makes YOU happy! Don't waste your life away worrying about what some silly, phony, greedy, manipulative and selfish female thinks about you!

It’s very hard to do these days, don’tcha think? A lot of women in my generation couldn’t care less about God, are hyperfixated on their baby-daddies, would rather be for the streets (as the women of this world say it), and would rather settle for bottom of the barrel when it comes to men. All of this from personal experience, and especially since I’ve tried so hard being my authentic self. Though I am dating someone of the same sex, there was sufficient reason, and it’s because I have dealt with way too much hurt from the opposite sex, which I have undoubtedly gotten *VERY* tired of. So y’know what? God help me if my choices have ended up failing me in the end, but chasing after lost causes & women who mock God only leads to inevitable failure. I’m tired of trying, and God bless me for getting out while I still could.

you're doing the Lords work , yesterday i cried a lot , i'm a 26 year old virgin although i am not ready for marriage i asked god why he left me without any spouse and lonley , i think i'll fully trust lord on this one

Try to just love God first with all your might, women will flock to you, but why settle for a woman when you can be 1 of the 144,000 that returns with Jesus in Revelations (and they were undefiled by women)!

In other words- Be alone than be with the wrong woman. Got it. (Standards matter and just being with anyone doesn’t make things better- only worse)

Im asexual sorry

7 don’t settles for women and 4 for men. How appropriate

Oooh amen my brother in Christ! Amen amen Amenn thank you for this message, I needed this :).

Believe in Jesus. Repent of your sins. Jesus loves you. He is coming soon!

Thank you for this reminder because my job to be patient. I am married and we are struggling very very hard right now, patience is extremely difficult. But God is still helping me in spite of all my failures

You should see Jesus in her.

Jesus Christ loves you❤

Thank you

Love it❤

I love how you talk about how God molds us!! Like, no one (except for Jesus of course) is perfect as we are, and everyone needs Jesus to sculpt us into the men and women of God we are meant to be. I heard this once and LOVED it: I think for singles it’s important to remember that rather than constantly obsessing over the person you are meant to be with, focus on the person you are. Ladies, rather than endlessly searching for your man, become the woman of God he is looking for, And men, rather than endlessly searching for your woman, become the man of God she is looking for. As a single lady myself, this can be really tough, and I get distracted way too much, but I know it is worth remembering and valuing!!!❤️

I've just accepted that I'll be single forever. I'm sickly and underemployed as a result, not attractive, and shy. I'll make myself useful to my church by laying down a 4 on the floor beat to mediocre CCM for 30 more years, and then I'll die, buried by the grandkids of people I hardly know now. But after that is the good part anyway, I guess. :')

I’m not going to date and I’m not going to marry off of love, I’m just going to marry off of duty, because love is nothing

Word

Fax

Question. What about music? As a person who really in joys louder more heavy sounds (slipknot, KoRn etc) what does the gospel say about that kind of music?

My father was abusive so there was definitely tension there. Does that mean my husband settled?

“…He is going to mold her, it is your job to be patient…” truer words have not been spoken.

Amen! This is so true! We have to be careful when we date! God bless you, brother!

Jesus loves you ❤❤❤❤❤

Basically a sister that desires God, help you getting closer to God, and prioritise God. Very sadly nowadays I been saying the same things again and again to my brothers in church and my cousins who are Christian as well, many of them actually checking those boxes at the last, surely everyone has reasoning about “cause that girl …..” man don’t blame the marriage, blame the ones who were thoughtless of the truth when they seeking a company instead of God!

Marry a women who will obey you

Amen brother, love God first before anything else.

❤❤❤

Imma die alone

Thanks bro I needed this I get inpatient and try to settle for girls who care more about male validation then god. I need to trust gods timing thanks bro ❤️🔥✝️

Amen, keep on speaking truth and wisdom brother!

Finding one of those women in todays world, good luck

Don't settle!!!!

Also one more thing.. Which Bible says.. But he didn't say to not come off as sexist.. But nevertheless I will say it If a woman isn't ready to be submissive to her husband.. Don't go for her.. Ask her about this before-hand .. And make sure she is being truthful.. Examine the spirit.

Im looking for a women who is a match for my mom. Kind, loving, headstrong, and playful. Thats it.

Wow wish I had heard and taken on board this advice 4 years ago. For those listening this really good advice. Don't marry a girl with weak faith and daddy issues.

Don't settle for a self-righteous wolf in sheep's clothing either. The key is knowing God's Word like the back of your hand. Be prepared like your going to debate a Pharisee. Edit: I say this to say; you may THINK they meet all the qualities of a Godly woman if you underestimate the subtlety of Satan's methods. So if you don't have a good handle on accurate theology you won't recognize the deception.

JESUS is Risen! May HIS LOVE fill your heart, & May His secrifice strengthen your soul. Have a BLESSED day. JESUS COMING BACK SOON. ❤❤

I’m genuinely curious and wonder how I can respect my father in a Godly way. My father thinks he’s a prophet, but he is evil in character. He thinks it’s funny when people suffer or get hurt, he drinks to drunkenness, curses like a sailor, he’s violent, very abusive. When he divorced our very steadfast mother we worried he would hurt or kill her. I used to want to say awful things about him but now when he is mentioned I don’t try to disparage his name but I do tell people what he’s doing cause I don’t want to lie. I want him to be saved but I can’t talk to him, he’s a very scary man.

God created man and woman in HIS IMAGE!. When God created Adam and Eve. Adam was asleep when God harvested a rib from him to create Eve, this means that Adam had no influence on the creation of Eve. As a result no man or woman for that matter should ever try to mold any other human being to best fit our image of how a woman or man should be. For God created each one of us in his own image might we have evolved to become flawed here on earth? of course but those flaws are fixed by God and not by humans. Save yourself from being in a toxic relationship and really choose wisely who to marry.

The hardest thing I’ve heard in a recent teaching was “would you want to marry a person who isn’t serious about the Lord or who isn’t content with Jesus alone?” That hurt bc, as a woman who is waiting, I don’t see any where in Scriptures where we see a woman going after a man for a husband. So it’s kinda left in the guys’ court. And I def don’t wanna settle for an Ishmael when God has an Isaac for me.

My only concern now is focusing on God! No more relationships!

God doesn't exist.

Being single is a blessing, you don’t have to worry about dependents. Also if you choose to be a eunuch, you get a greater reward, perhaps even something His Sanctuary. So either way single or married, both are a blessing.

And lastly you won't find her in America

I would add emotional maturity/availability, some domestic skills, communication skills, conflict resolution skills, some skill(s) that could bring money in, financial responsibility, childrearing skills if you want them. Submission (with an added on board facet if there aren't kids in the picture), which is really being receptive and putting the ball in your court while trusting God, having her own life or interests yet an ability to gel with you easily...and probably some others I'm forgetting right now. Besides putting God first. Women should have their house somewhat in order in their own way.

Jesus loves you so much never forget that he died on the cross for you, repent and put ur trust in the savior today to be saved 💖💝💝

My father is contentious with me: does that count? 😂

Your eyes tho

Amen!!

I won't marry ever I'm forever single 🗿😎😆

What if I want to not have a wife/girlfriend. I'd prefer to be alone.

Awesome video, thank you and god bless.

I met her, but she isn't interested 😢 Can't blame her with my baggage though.

Real, Praise the Lord Almighty

We all like validation bro

Huh, good to see the church is still as exclusionary and dogmatic as ever. Jesus was a man who preached the word of peace and hope to a group at the end of their rope. The Jews had suffered at the hands of the Romans for years, so it makes sense that his stories would captivate them. Who wouldn't like to think that the Romans will burn one day, and you and your Jewish friends will be rewarded eternal salvation in heaven? These fictitious stories brought comfort to ordinary people well into the Middle Ages. After the scientific revolution, people had an alternative to ancient stories that still answered most of their questions and gave them hope, not from a false pretense of eternal salvation, but instead the real hope of better lives through advances in medicine and technology. In order to survive, Christianity evolved into what it is now, exclusionary, hateful to several groups, and isolationist. Hence is why it is frowned upon to date outsiders in your religion and why (up until very recently) ex-communication was in practice and still is in some sects. I would love to hear why you find the idea of restricting yourself and the love of others so captivating. -Sincerely, your local non-conformist.

amen! I agree