I"ve been needing to watch this all week. I've been in a real bad place after the first date ghosted me. In just a few minutes you helped me realize the things that i need to be focusing on. Thank you, Blaine and Merry Christmas. You're an absolute treasure.
#4 is pure gold. I used to believe all justifications and promises and words. Now I mainly look at behavior and, although I still am a bit too keen on believing, this has saved me a lot of time. Keep the videos coming, Blaine ❤
I think the main difficulty is keep approaching and iterating it since rate of rejection is at least 50% and rejection hurts. With that said thank you for helping us coping with this
@@aleestuuh I've never said I'm too afraid to approach and of course, you can't be good at basketball if you don't play it. I just expressed what I think makes approaching not so easy to master. I think everyone can become good at it and thanks to Blaine the path to follow is very clear to me.
Working on oneself as a man is pretty good idea until you are over 40, if a man wants to have a family, it's best for multiple reasons that the woman is max 35 yrs old. So the age gap widens every year(from 35)and time will crush you if you take "time out". I feel like after my 10 year relationship ended and 1 year or recovering from it, i have no chance for a family or future. Basic things are ok, i'm good looking guy with a great smile, i go to a gym, have a good job and i have no fear of approaching anyone. Things that worked in dating over a decade ago don't really anymore i.e. not playing games, being honest. Also clubs and bars are pretty much the only places to meet women, try to approach any women in a grocery store and it's like she's a deer in headlights :D I don't even know why i wrote this, maybe just to vent and trying to accept that there is no time anymore and thus, no hope. Your video is still good regardless.
Quote..Teach a person how to make a fire, and they might remember. Show them how to do it, and they will stay warm for a night. However, if you teach them the principles of making a fire, they will be warm for life.❤️💯
Wow those were some great ideas to think about! I agreed with most but not necessarily with Blaine's characterization that if you are not having success dating, it it because of a lack in mental health, happiness, or career. I know plenty of people who make six figures, have a balanced and healthy life style, and see a therapist yet still struggle with dating. Like anything in life the reasons vary by person and are multifaceted. I know some that live in a more rural area so the dating pool is smaller. I know some that have a kid so that shrinks their dating pool. I know some that are in military or travel a lot for work. I know some that a deeply religious which shrinks their dating pool. There are so many more factors that go into successful dating than just those three. I agree they are extremely important, but not a cheat code. You could be the richest, most level headed and outgoing person and still struggle with dating.
As an Italian guy who I man, and who really can appreciate the beauty, the senso of feminine in a woman, I think you Blaine are one of the most fascinating girl I ever seen. your content is interesting and very well done. Maybe have the chance to woo you Blaine...❤️😁
Obviously if some random girl in public is rude to me and makes me walk away, I think about it for like ten seconds, and go to someone else. I'm no longer thinking about her the next day; why should I? I feel like some of the points you make in your videos need to be developed further to include situations where you've already met the women, or you have to be around them, not just "random" ones we choose I had a girl not so long ago call me "ugly ass" when I approached her and I just laughed in her face because of how ratchet she sounded and loud she was being. I called her an "insecure little shit" and she got off the train just to get away from me. Point number 3, put yourself first, this is good advice. However, I'm wary of falling into the trap then that "If you're not getting results, it's because you're not interestING enough" is... the default reason? I don't believe that about myself. I already tried the "adding things to your life just to add them" strategy, and it doesn't work, because they're not things I'm actually interested in and it ends up feeling like pretending. I hear all the time that guys have otherwise great social lives, but with women and dating is the one area where they are in just constant drought/games/texting buddy/no dates. And it annoys the shit out of us to hear "Oh well if you just meet more people/do more" when that's literally what we've been doing for years.
Insecurity is a huge thing, but the trick and fact is that you are good enough right now. People get caught up in bettering themselves which is great, but it doesnt change your inherent worth. The issue is casting judgement, the ego's way of separating you from the moment to maintain an illusion of safety.
The older I get the more I'm learning that less is more and this includes keeping my circle ⭕ small 🦐. Someone once said "Joe I only have three people who if I was stranded that would come get me!". Stay consistent!
These are great tips. I'm pretty good at the eye contact and smile.....lots of practice. I like the second tip: don't let it get to you if she's not interested. I tend to believe if she's already married or has someone then it's not really rejection, it's inconvenient timing. These videos are getting me excited for someone new to come into my life.
