Women Over 50, These are Men's Top 8 First Date Turn Offs in Over 50's Dating 

Great to hear that. I’ve chosen the same path for myself. I’m tall and relatively average weight, but just sick of the games. So I enjoy my life without them. We all have different reasons, so I pull for you for that last 20%! 👍😊

Bright blessings on you girl!

I hate to bust their big head, but just because a woman talks to you doesn’t mean they want you! Sometimes we just want to talk. I’ve even asked a few guy friends and they said they do think like that. Those guys are probably missing some great friendships ♥️

@@anitanapp6759 🎯‼🎯🎯🎯💯💯

Lots of hugs your way. You are AMAZING!

That's great!

Well, also 67, still working full time, and love having my home to myself. I have a few friends and plenty of family. Yeah, loneliness isn't a thing. Anything I want to do, I go do. My bucket list is short and uncomplicated. Having said all that, my actual comment was to be that I find it hilarious that Robert and I each clicked on this video!!🤣 (Curious minds....)

Get kitties

Me too 😊

@@SchoolofPages Dogs are my solution!

Thanks for sharing your list!

You think revealing clothes is as statement of sexual availability. FO back to 1951, you uneducated Neanderthal. I don’t dress for men!

Thanks! I was scrolling hoping someone summarised.

@@LisaCopelandDatingCoach You did not notice that it was your list summarized? Not his list. I hope your comment was intended as a wink or humorous because otherwise it does not bode well for your analytical skills.

Men are wary that women see them as ATMs

Sir, you are so so right. Its not worth it at all. No value added to my life at this point.

I quit dating and got a dog. Now I have great friends.

It can be highly overrated indeed, and solitude and a life outside of dating is highly underrated. Many people are terrified to be alone and it’s a recipe for disaster, especially if kids are in the picture.

I totally agree!! I love being single. No drama, no worries.

Being alone and finding fulfillment with your own company is amazing. Sharing your interests with a companion is also wonderful. Whatever you choose, may it be fulfilling.

Thank you for being a great, wise and respectful man. Have a great day!

That's so nice to hear 😊

Thank you! It’s wonderful to hear from an actual man about men’s views!

@@Jan-qv8ku I dont believe you and Im going to call you out for your comment Jan because you and women like you are the reason over 50 year old men are RUNNING from women like you. You see over 50 bitter women like you throw in the insult that poor old Alfredo is in capable of copping onto, there are lots of lonely simps like Alfredo out there but he does not represent masculine men and he most certainly is not an " actual" man as you try and thrown shame onto other men. Have you seen Alfredo Jan? How do you know he is not an obese man living with his other after his 2nd divorce? Now he may not be but if he was?.... do you still consider him an " Actual man" or do you recognise the bitterness and resentment in your own comment? What you think is so wonderful is the empty validation you just got from a total online stranger. " The sum of all those parts turns my heart on"......... is that even the words of an actual man? Jan? let me ask you something, are.... are you Alfredo? Do you have two email accounts? Because if I had a make friend who spoke like Alfredo does or said such a cringe comment in the company of other men they would first laugh and then vomit and its entirely likely one of the men would slap Alfredo for such cringe thinking. At least Jan thats what an " actual" man would do and been a man I know better than you what a man is and what a man should be and CUCK no 1 Alfredo is not it I assure you.

Alfredo, I think its fair to say you dont hang out with a lot of " actual" men and your comment is an embarrassment to our sex quite honestly.

We feel the same about men doing the same things. Red flags 🚩🚩🚩

​@@LisaCopelandDatingCoachShe did say women AND men.

100% I don't understand it either, better if anything to understate yourself and save a bit of wow factor for when you do meet.

I once thought about lying about my age, but quickly realized I would have to change important details of my life story. It would not be one lie but hundreds.

@adrianred236 you are right! It reminded me when I used an online dating site years ago and being new, I put my body type average, which, in fact, wasn't. I was more athlete at that time. I didn't do this on purpose as I never saw myself as an athletic type. So, I went on a date with this guy who was quite nice and said, "You aren't average." You are perfect and quite athletic. It was a happy moment for me, actually.

This is so inspiring! Thanks for sharing your stories!

happy for you, you find the right person at the right time, but the odds are against most of us after 60

@@michaelsix9684- Thank you. Hope is still out there. You may have to do something out of your comfort zone - like internet dating. However, it can happen. I should mention my husbands 1st wife had passed away at age 56, and my husband suffered from mental illness and sin & chose to leave me to move back home with his mother.

Great comment, thank you for sharing your story! God bless you and your husband 🙏

@@michaelsix9684 the odds are hard but also if you put a lot of effort in, that really improves your chances!

Hey Mag Steel, I think this goes both ways with men and women feeling deceived by the opposite sex. Sadly, I feel that comes from fear of making yet another BIG MISTAKE. So appreciate you sharing your thoughts.

@@Lisaann268 I didn't think it was fear of a mistake. I felt it was just that people are lonely and want some attention, affection,and validation. I've always been really honest on my dating profiles but unfortunately honesty isn't the best marketing strategy.

100% truth that 95% of women lie 90% of the time...

I've had the same experience. Many of the women showed up 40 lbs or more heavier than their photo and more than 70% lied about age

Get Your Passport Bro 🛂

Well said, and so very true!

Bullshit and Ill tell you why. What you just explained is a womans issue and has nothing to do with men whatsoever. Women dont dress up for men, they dress up for each other. No man ever looked at a woman in nice jeans, shirt, boots and a little make up and said " No thanks" provided she was fit and healthy. The toxic soup you describe is a toxic soup made by and for women. But men have the same toxic soup again made for women but directed at men and that toxic soup is one of expectation of a financial ability to provide for a family for life and with a divorce rate of 55% the financial ability to provide for a family in divorce too even though 81% of divorces are filed by women. So your comment is somewhat accurate but your simping out of the reason because you are afraid to hold women accountable. Its women who have done this to other women.

So do men with being over 6 feet, making 6 figures, living in an expensive mansion and etc... Pressure goes both ways. When you do your thing then women of all ages want the top men and rest of the men ard invisible. Its sink or swim. Pressure is on everyone!

Namaste’👏👏👏

80% are Overweight & 80% of those women are OBESE....these women are undateable.....but yet these same women demand perfection from a man....& he of course has to be rich to support her lifestyle....

Amen, girl. At almost 60, my days of worrying over whether I’m doing what a man wants are OVER

A 101 year old woman said that was the reason she lived so long. lol. But, when you have a good man in your life, life can be a lot more fun and its good to know someone has your back.

Being single is awesome and I can't even imagine catering to a man any more.

@@LisaCopelandDatingCoach the only fun thing I miss is sex (which is fun and I do miss it) but the rest I can get by myself or with my sisters and friends and my life isn’t an eternal compromise - by which of course I mean he does what he wants and I do what he wants

Men everywhere agree that old women should remain single.

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I am a good catch, but you can't have me. 😮

10000% SELF HONESTY IS NOT PURCHASABLE WITH SEX SPREADS FROM AN OLD JAR.

Also 73yrs old, couldn't agree with you more! I'm happy to be happy with myself. I am not looking for someone to take care of in the last time I have here! And I certainly don't want to be involved with anyone that will only turn out to be a disappointment. 🤨

Thank you for sharing your perspective. It's really important to prioritize your happiness and comfort, and if that means enjoying your own company, then that's perfectly valid

most women are overweight....i guess they don't care what they look like...? & we all know, they don't want sex.....

I like younger men. I like sex, but there needs to be friendship... not into casual hookups.

@@PerrySkyePhoenix i like your answer...when you care about the other person, it makes it a LOT better....problem is, finding that person...

I am sorry for your loss. Forty years is a long time. I, too, am in my mid-60’s and single by choice after an unhappy marriage. For me, putting aside the phrase “dating partners” and substituting this with “seeking new friends” as my goal keeps me focused on what I’d like - a deep friendship then maybe a relationship. This removed a lot of pressure!

@@lesliemontagne6797 Yes, you have the right idea! I met my man 5 years ago and we have just moved in together. We have lived next door to each other the past 3 years before I would agree to take the next step

Man, get a hobby or 3. I'm 67, widowed (8 years), and pretty content with my life.

Maybe try dating women you've actually met in real life. One thing to keep in mind; women get rude is that we get tired of all of the inappropriate and disgusting messages we are inundated with on a daily basis. Women - yes even older women - get rude, overly intrusive, and sometimes even just gross messages from men all the time. Whether online or in person, how you approach a woman matters. A lot of women are less receptive to messages from any man after they've just sifted through dozens of distasteful messages. Honestly, I think that online dating has ruined the relationship experience for a lot of people. If you are really looking for someone to connect with, I find it best to meet people during the activities you are already doing. If you go hiking or participate in a club or organized activity of some kind, you will meet people with whom you already have a shared interest to bond over. You will see women in their true form - not over-dressed for a date, and you will already see some of their interactions with other people to know if you are even interested in the first place. Don't give up on love. Just go out there and meet real women in real situations like you did when you were younger - before all this inline match-making nonsense got started.

So sorry for your loss. Thank you for your feedback and much luck to you on your dating journey.

Glad you walked away from that.

Why?

No way. 😮

You go for it!!!

Yep...I think we're through with all that.

Thanks for not wasting my time. Any woman I date for relationship possibilities must be under age 25 and be in excellent physical and emotional health. All the rest are for entertainment and amusement only.

That's THE problem with most women today- you don't CARE what men actually want, it's nearly always all about what YOU want. If you read female dating profiles, they almost invariably consist of long lists of criteria and demands that any potential partner must fulfil. Very rarely do women divulge what, if anything they are going to bring into a man's life to enhance it. Most seem to think being female alone is all that is required. It's NOT men who have unreasonable demands, they can be summed up by the 3 F's= Fit, Friendly & Feminine. It's that simple.

No need to think. They want a young hot woman who is loving and supportive.

Sorry this has been your experience. I can assure you there are plenty of quality women that do not possess those characteristics looking for Quality Men to date. Please share this video with your single lady friends over 50, as that is who this video is made for. Good luck!

what a surprise -- these are women who are products of feminist programming and a toxic culture, with age they don't improve

Kevin Samuels did videos on this, older women in his view were too hard to be around and this is why men don't want them

Absolutely... Most modern Anerican women are extremely unrealistic.

@@LisaCopelandDatingCoach Yes I do believe there are good women out there but I have been dating a lot and it’s slim Pickens out there

Meeting in real life is an idea way to meet someone because you are seeing both what they look like along with their personality which can make them attractive in a way online dating can't. The advantage of online dating is the majority on there are single. THat's hard to tell in real life.

Pheromones are an important part of attraction, as well as eye contact and of course personality. I agree that your suggestions offer more possibilities of meeting people but it's just hard for the introverts though. We are not much on joining groups and initiating conversations.

Amen.

Very true!

Focusing on self-care and happiness while treating everyone with respect is truly important. Much love and respect to you! ❤❤

I agree...but Taylor Swift just called!

Absolutely agree. As we get older, we mellow. Nothing else matters but be happy, be yourself, be healthier and be at peace with yourself. Have fun in your own way in any shape, size or form that suits you best, even the simplest thing in life is also fun and learning to connect my body and mind in whatever activity is therapeutic and enjoyable as well.

REAL SATISFACTION IS THE ATHEIESTIC PAYINGS IT FORWARD, TO HUMANS. SELF- TIME-SPEND LIKE THOSE VONUNTEERS OF "NOT FOR THEMSELVES" PROFITS! MUSIC.... AND SHE TRYING TO BUY HER WAY TO H EAVEN?

Thanks for your feedback and sorry that has been your experience. Fortunate for the women I work with, we are finding plenty of quality men for them to date and creating meaningful relationships for both women and men. Please be sure to share this video with your single lady friends over 50, as that is who these are made for!

you are so right,

100% with you brother.

face it guys, you're looking at the leftovers, misfits, or losers now -- with RARE exceptions most women 50 plus are no longer suitable date or partner material, late Kevin Samuels said it many times -- he said "older women are just too damn difficult to be around and that is why men their age don't want them"

Agreed, there's a reason Redpill and Mgtow now exist. Also there's only one for men and there is none for women. The fact it is expanding in all country's and not just one isolated (cultural) one e.g USA. Means the problem men see in women is worldwide which is interesting. Another interesting thing is Redpill creator's say " we don't recruit...they find us"

It's important both men and women are clear on the values they are looking for in their partner and stick with it, as well as become the person they want to be with. Good on you endng a relationship that had no future for you. Please share this with your single lady friends over 50, as that is who these videos are made for. Thanks!

@@LisaCopelandDatingCoach I am very progressive and seek someone who has similar values. I am also non-religious. Common values are a huge factor in relationships working out according to many professionals. John and Julie Gottman are psychologists so check them out.

Must be 6ft tall, 6 figue income, 6 pack abs, own his own house, be attractive, be single, own his own car, pay for everything, not be conservative or be a Trump supporter and the list goes on. By the time their requirement list is complete, less than 1% of men meet all requirements. They will remain alone while waiting for their unicorn to show up.

Well looks like she likes only democrats

Its important these days. I would too. Not as optional as it was

Thank you for sharing your story. It's never too late to make time for romance and seek out companionship!

It's too hard to find a quality wife....Women don't want a quality partner...they want someone they can control, take his money & his house....& of course, there will be NO sex...

​@@stevegaines-vq3bdnot true for all. I personally am just looking for a partner to enjoy my free time with.

I wouldn't listen to Steve the jaded. I'm 56 and I'm looking for companionship w/ a kind and gentle natured man. I would like to spoil someone a bit and have them want to spoil me a bit. I miss making meals together and just simple things like taking care of the home together. Going for walks, a nice drive to a little burg to walk around and find a homey diner. Some women are looking for simple things. Someone we can get along w/, ease the loneliness and make each others lives fuller and richer.

@@saintejeannedarc9460 i admit, i am fed up w/ all the misandry from women....

Dang, if I was in your shoes I'd be angry too and probably would have ended it right then. I no longer have tolerance for liars. If that's rude, so be it

Women also see a lot of misrepresentation in online dating apps. I can completely understand your disappointment.

I was on a dating site fifteen years ago, my pictures were current I bought more dinners than Michael winner!! Women do this as well ten years out of date photos three stones heavier. Some of them were still married, one I met wanted me to beat her ex boyfriend up as he fiddled her out of a load of money. I told her at the end of the night your looking for a Hitman not a boyfriend!! I did meet two out of probably a hundred that I had a relationship with first one was absolutely stunning petite trendy but she had borderline personality disorder had to let her go her jealousy was overbearing. Second one I lived with for seven years very classy lady, were still friends

@@peterbalac1915What went wrong after you lived with the second one 7 years?

That’s been happening for years and will continue. People can’t help themselves.

Thanks for summarizing! Much appreciated 😊

Beautifully said.

I resent changing my lifestyle, too. Don't change to please these entitled jerks!

TMI for sure. That goes both ways. Men do that too. Have you ever tried changing the subject?

Most dates turned out well enough that I was interested in a second one. Only 3 that I can remember (out of maybe 70-80 over a 9 year period) were so boring I wished them luck and went my way. Slightly over half turned down a rematch. But I am re-married and off the dating-go-round now. We are always looking for friends, though. Close friends, if you know what I mean.

You are a good listener, but are you a good conversationalist? Direct the conversation towards another topic.

@@LisaCopelandDatingCoach women talk, WAY more than men do.....don't try to shift the blame....

😂 You're a funny gal, Melissa!

Me too. I need it for work

I was wondering myself....😂

Right? I wish.😜

Atleast its not a moo moo or pants. They think lip gloss is make up. How boring.

Love this about you!!!!! And the phone is an issue both ways. Very disrespectful unless its an emergency.

im 60. love being single. who wants a guy talking non stop about his deceased wife his wrinkles. his health problems. ugh.

Absolutely! More & more people are becoming "addicted" looking at their cell phones. Talking face to face, it makes us feel INVISIBLE when the guy is scrolling & texting at length more than once, in front of us! Next time... I'm walking out. Don't care? Buh-bye, adios!

It happens for both men and women, sadly. Thanks for watching my video. Please share with your single lady friends over 50 as this is who these videos are made for. Thanks!

Men are the same

not surprised

The correct HR term to use is, they showed up robust and rotund and ready to rumble.

My sister met a guy online and had a full head of hair, but the guy who showed up is bald.

Yep, it has been many years since having a date. Life got in the way first, then where I call home does not have what I am looking for. Everyone needs a match with chemistry and being a certain way has nothing to do with it. You either have it (with the polish and flow) or you don’t. As we age we learn what to invite in or what to leave behind. If there is no contrubribution, no need to be there. An example, from my prospective, I had a relationship with a nice lady, educated, lots of money, good looking but something was just off. Turned out she had medical issues that you just could not live with. It takes time to not leave the remains of a tornado behind. I quit looking and I say, I do not need a woman but It still would be nice. it is a new day so smile and help others you see in your walk today!

Two turn-offs: him pointing out all the other women in the room who are so much better looking, and talking about his medical problems. I've been on dates with men who have done both of these...and it didn't lead to a second date!

@@feliciasampson8032smart. No second dates there. If a man you are out on a first date with is pointing out the better looking women in the room…run..don’t walk to the nearest exit. That man is not there for anything serious or lasting and is very shallow in my never to be humble opinion.

@@feliciasampson8032you dodged a bullet. Why waste time with someone that disrespects you like on the first date? You deserve bettered, much better.

​@@k-mac5511I think I've dodged several bullets. Maybe they feel the same about me! I stopped dating after I broke up with someone in 2020.

So so true. 🙏🏽

@Linl I like the sea for snorkeling but but beaches not so much, mountains much better imho, a good walk up in the fresh air with fantastic views.

@Linl love sunrise and sunset of the sea, when I'm on holiday I often get up before sunrise to see it, sets me up for the day. So many places in the world to experience, personally I like the Greek islands for.beachy type holidays with some exploring etc, Chamonix is good in summer and for skiing too. Living by the beach was always my wish for retirement, some people say they get bored though and don't end up going to the beach much, do you find that?

Thanks for your feedback Nicko. That's why I'm hear to guide women over 50. Much luck in your dating journey!

@@LisaCopelandDatingCoach but your message is ....hating men....you women are always right....& men ae always the problem....keep hating us & we can keep hating you....

Men always want younger women. And with the new crop of single desperate younger women wanting sugar daddies or other pay for play action, retirement aged women would be better served by living together and looking after themselves in a woman cooperative living arrangement. Or ladies enjoy being a grandmother or matriarch in your families. Dating men your age is a pipe dream! I'm 62, a widower, in good shape both physically and financially. I'm not going to date women my age, the effort isn't worth the results. I'm enjoying my peace. Alone but not lonely.

I have heard it from men though, they would rather a humble woman who has some insecurities and they would rather deal w/ some building her up, than a woman who is full of herself and is intolerable and demanding.

I love your forgiveness practice and your gratitude. Qualities like those make for great partners so it is no wonder you found a beautiful match. Much luck to you both!

Wishing you both the best! You sound like the rare gem of the dating world. Many blessings!

Perfect response, David. Good for you 😊

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Congratulations on your decades of marriage. You're so right, the change a man makes, comes from his own desire to make that change. Thanks for sharing your insight.

Well said August

@@paula-pw7yd thank you Paula. I’ll share with my wife your regards.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. These are all definitely valid points and the list could be quite extensive. And based on my years working with women and talking with men about these specific things, this video encompasses the top 8...it's not a complete list by any means. I appreciate your feedback though.

@@LisaCopelandDatingCoach Oh yes, I totally agree with you. I just talk from my limited experience, trying to add some humor to a very complex topic. Thanks for your reply!

#10 is just the summary of 1-9. Bragging about her ex‘s status tells she has no clue about men even after decades. Men don’t want her because a lot of „high value“ men already had her. That’s a thing in her tribe only.

Sounds like you’re the problem, Mack

it is, don't waste your time, go overseas and skip the hassles here

Sounds like a deal. lol

Translation - a head of hair defines a man's value, given it is something genetic that cannot be controlled or changed, but being obese is just fine and nothing to put any effort into.

@@LisaMedeiros-tr2lz Wow, your sarcasm is definitely a choice. I presume men don't like women who wear shapewear because they feel it's a form of deception; ie, a woman's not presenting herself as she really is. I feel similarly about men who wear baseball caps all the time to hide baldness. FWIW, I don't give a hoot if a man's bald, so long as he's a good, kind person with a sense of humor. But if he doesn't want me trying to hide that I'm overweight, he shouldn't hide that he's bald. It has nothing to do with whether a physical quality is inherited or acquired. BTW, studies increasingly show that being obese is more than a lack of willpower; it's a complex mix of diet, exercise, genetics, economics, and environment. Most fat people can give you a detailed rundown of every failed diet and exercise program they've tried. It's not helpful to shame or criticize them for wanting to be accepted as they are until they can get their personal weight issues figured out.

From a 61yo with full red hair: ever thought about wearing a cap to not get sunburned? It’s the same for „body shaping“ your lower leg because of medical conditions. It’s just needed!

@@SarahRenz59 agree! Not every woman is overweight due to overeating , lack of willpower. Childbirth, genetics, aging bodies slow metabolism. It’s not excusing, sometimes it’s science, biology, genetics!

Wise words that I feel go both ways. Thank you for sharing them.

lol

Too hard to wear that stuff- it doesn’t really change your appearence anyway

The fitness store is where you find Shapeware that works😂

I recognize it, minus the physically intimate part. I have a guy best friend of over a decade. He done went and fell in love with a younger woman, which is great! I'll be at the wedding. She was wondering a bit about our friendship, as our families did before her, but I think she has it sorted now. He and I have different home-life styles that wouldn't work but we still like each other for what we do have in common. I encouraged him to communicate on a deeper level and enabled him to have this new relationship. He called one day to tell me that and to thank me. I've met her and her two preteen kids. If they're happy, I'm happy!! The friendship was great. We always had a ready plus-one, someone to pick us up when cars needed serviced, a hiking buddy, dinner friend, person for advice, drinking buddy, movie or activity partner, etc. It was nice and we're still friends, albeit more distantly. More recently, an old male classmate and friend of mine got back in touch. We spent a day together doing fun stuff. As long as he doesn't go "romantic" on me, we're good. (I'm honest with him on where I stand.) Luckily, he doesn't live close by. I'm being cautious; from his history, he seems to "fall in love" easily. Also, he wouldn't know what paradoxical or conundrum mean.... I'm not sure in what context you're using the word "intimately," but maybe could guess since you're male? In my world, to ever get to "that," one would have to pass the brain test and then the heart test before any chance of "that" (i.e., must take the time to pique interest and soften heart to kindle desire). Older and wiser. I'm sure there are women out there who would be amenable to your thoughts. Make perfect sense to me!! (Just beware the gold diggers and scammers; they abound.)

I feel the same way. I'm very independent and free-spirited. I'm a contradiction of sorts, because as much as I don't like to be tied down, I value connection, open, honest communication and I need stability and consistency in a partner.

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Yes I get it Dustin. Men want to feel needed. As women, many have learned to do everything on their own out of necessity. Doing my part to teach the ladies.

I once said to a man that I don't know what I would do without him. It just came out of the blue and I couldn't take it back because it made me sounds needy. I was so embarrassed and feel humiliated at the moment, but his eyes was locked into mine as if he was about to cry. To be fair, he was helping me with handy work around my house so maybe I was so grateful and feel overwhelmed.

@@chanthana7694 when you tell a man that, in my opinion, is the most respectful thing a woman can say. A man will sacrifice his life for a woman who gives him respect. I wouldn’t feel embarrassed at all. He probably became emotional because he had never heard a woman say that to him.

@@dustinquinton I'm glad to hear that it doesn't sounds helpless and needy. I do everything my self until I can't, don't like to rely on others.

@@chanthana7694 I would not take that as being needy at all. On the contrary. I would take it as being vulnerable, which is good. Men and women should be vulnerable with each other in relationships. I feel that was a big issue with my ex wife. I was vulnerable, but she was not. Of course, men and women can survive on their own, but we need each other in relationships. Sometimes it is ok to put one’s pride aside and ask for help.

Thanks for your feedback. Please be sure to share this video with your single lady friends over 50, as that is who these are made for!

Me neither. Scared of meeting crazies or those anyone would reject

GREAT match. Best to y'all.

Hi Nancy, it doesn't have to be that way. Please continue watching more of my videos, and if you would like to get more clarity, apply for a Complimentary Find Your Mr. Right Breakthrough Session: findaqualityman.com/talktolisa/ with me.

You got that right. Finding most men want women their GRAND DAUGHTERS age even though they look ridiculous and have to pay for them to keep their attention

I hit 30 and stopped approaching. Part of it was I got tired of asking. Part was I began to resent it and the way I was treated just for asking. I don't find women over 30 attractive and I want children. So I'm calling it quits. Like most men these days.

@@LisaCopelandDatingCoach so you spread your hate message & con women out of their SS money....how nice of you...

@@teresacroft7409 you're drunk....get off the sauce teresa

Thanks for your feedback. Most women in this age group are strong and independent because they have had to. They've been divorced or widowed and had to be strong and independent to make it through. That does not mean she is not feminine and most certainly has absolutely nothing to do with wanting companionship. I think you have those confused. The beauty of strong, independent women is that they don't need a man to make it...they WANT a man to have companionship and a relationship with. Good luck!

@LisaCopelandDatingCoach I would ask them why they are divorced, since it's usually women who file for divorce, leaving a good man's life in shambles. Usually, because she got bored. I don't want to fall prey to someone like that. History repeats itself.

@@mikehawkins4752 And they are independent because divorce court gave her half when he earned/supplied 80%. Provides the independence part, but the strong part not so much.

@LisaCopelandDatingCoach My ex, who lived 100% off of me for 18 years and then walked off with half of everything I built and who claims to be strong and independent is now living in a house purchased with my retirement savings and driving a car I bought her weeks before she filed for divorce. That ain't strong and independent.

As a woman I agree with you but I'm old school men do men jobs and women do the women jobs .😊

Both men and women deserve to be treated with respect. Thanks for your feedback. Please be sure to share this video with your single lady friends over 50, as that is who these are made for!

Isn't this what online dating is about? I'm so skeptical...don't people ever meet in other ways?

lots of retired women in Florida do this to get free meals

The foodie call is killing dating

​@@michaelsix9684oh come on, you can't be serious. 😂

Thanks for your feedback, Tom.

I'm a woman and never date men who lie about their age, which is most of them

You sound wonderful. I hope you find a good and honest woman.

Tom, this is so refreshing to read of a man dating an older woman in this age group. I don’t date ( I’m 65 and also a yogi!) because I have a belief that men in myage group go for much younger women - and mostly get them too. Thanks for making this comment on here as it’s lifted my spirits 👍

Oh, and your lady sounds like a catch

I am finding that a lot of men that are older than me, are looking for a "nurse with a purse". I am financially in a better place than a lot of retirees. However, I am frugal and live on a budget. I will not financially support a boyfriend. I also spent 30 years as an RN and those days of being someone's servant are over. I want a life partner, not another patient.

Yes, there are lots of scammers out there but there are good men to our age who want women closer to their age or even a bit older. One of my clients married a man 10 years younger than her.

Just be yourself. Dating is just a conversation and shared experiences repeated over and over again.

Be polite, smile, and treat the lucky lady like she is the most interesting and beautiful woman in the room. Take it slow, be patient. Listen more than talk. And get a new outfit that you feel comfortable in--when we look great, we feel great! You didn't exactly ask for advice but the big sister in me wanted to help! Good luck!

@@thenursepreceptor5376 I really appreciate your insight and advice. Thank you for taking the time to comment!

@@k-mac5511 I've never thought of it quite that way. Thanks for giving me a new perspective!

Thank you for your vulnerability. Based on this, you're going to make a great partner. Much luck to you on your dating journey.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Honey, we men do not expect sex after a date necessarily, but we, by no means, are ruling it out either. You see, after a date, we men may want to make out or have sex, however, we do not know if you feel the same way. What we do know is that you are not going to initiate sex it even if you wanted it. Therefore, we men have to. If we do not then we are out. If we do and you do not want to then fine but then you accuse us of 'expecting" it. We can not win with you. Already i am turned off by you. Just say, "No thank you, but i would like to see you again." or something like that instead of setting him up to fail in a no-win situation. That, my dear, is disrespectful to men. Initiating sex after a date is not disrespectful. We have to do it because you won't.

@tronmartin1 How about just getting to know somebody without initiating sex or expecting it period. Your comment shows that you already have it on your mind to begin with. The problem with today's women is that they don't seem to have any standards. These women are low hanging fruit ripe for the picking for a dusty man who has nothing to offer them but single motherhood. Am I turned off by you? I'm glad because you are not the type of man I would be interested in anyway. 🤣

@@tronmartin1 well, in my case I must just be myself. I have no expectations when I date. If I enjoy her company I may ask her out again. Dating is made to-get to know someone, their energies, wants and lifestyle. What if you sleep together and have nothing to say afterwards? Do not get caught in those traps. Meet on even terms without expectations and you won’t be disappointed !

@firstlast2034 That's the best way to do it. Honestly, I needed a break after I broke up with the guy who I was seeing. I'm not totally blaming him for the breakup. I was seriously ill in 2017, and I needed to focus on resting and caring for my health. I just didn't have the energy to keep hosting him cooking for him and catering to his needs. He also didn't take me out that often in better times, and when I got sick, he became a burden because I not only had to take care of my health but he wanted me to cook and cater to him. I immediately broke it off because he only added to my stress. In addition, I needed to work on myself and stop over giving and nuturing a man like a mother. That part of it was my fault. I also should've spoken up and said to him "look, I've been buying pizza and hosting every weekend and you never offer to pay for a pizza. I don't mind sharing but it would be nice if you also shared." I was too embarrassed to tell him how I felt. I felt hurt and I felt used.

@@angelamwatts You allowed yourself to be used would be the way I would look at it. Everything is a lesson - we either learn from our mistakes or we repeat them in another form. There is no wrong or right since it is only our lesson to learn and grow!

I love your openness. Bless you! I hope you found a woman who sees you as a treasure!

@@kevinharrison3265 Still doing Gods work. Free speech isn’t valued here though. Typical of womens spaces and disregarding opposing views. Only group think allowed.

Yes, yes! Don't twist yourself into a pretzel trying to please anyone. That's the beauty of aging, I don't give a rip what others think about my looks. Also, I am thin thanks to celiac and lactose intolerance. I'm active and have always eaten healthy. Well, a lot of women who are overweight look at me with scorn. Believe me, going gluten-free (celiac is an autoimmune disease like lupus) is not a picnic.

Thank you for sharing your perspective. It's truly empowering to focus on what you want and deserve in a relationship💪💖

@@LisaGemini I'm plus sized and proud. Lol. I'm not everyone's cup of tea... but that's ok. I know what I like too... and I prefer big guys.

While it may seem challenging, there's still a great chance to find a meaningful connection with someone who values and respects you. Check all the testimonies here: ru-vid.com/group/PLoAoR0UicQ0u3vOnWAX00XT82F0LRO4cB

Yes agree with you 100%. Same applies for both genders. And when men react poorly...just further proof that you are making the right decision. It's too bad they get so triggered, but that is their work to do.

Yes, I agree, it applies to both sexes, including the insults and threats when, rejected. Been there multiple times.

Reported them to who?

To those men who can't handle rejection, tell them "Thanks for proving my point"! Their reaction confirms your good judgement. I've only ever had one woman do that to me, so I guess it's more common with male egos? I think the "pet project" issue is more commonly applied by women?

@@Gypsygirl9 The social media platform where the person reached out. If the threats of violence and harassment hit too close to home, I involved my local authorities. I had one guy use the internet to find my address, and he decided to send the police to my house for a wellness check because I ignored his messages. I knew it was him because he followed up with a message the next day letting me know how good he felt to know that I was okay. I had to let the police know about it and also involve the authorities where he was located.

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I'm glad the list was helpful. My clients are finding love online. It is possible!!!!

Hi Emily. Thanks for watching and for your feedback. Check out my many RU-vid videos on dating advice. There is a wealth of information on my channel. And if you're ready, schedule a complimentary dating consultation with me: findaqualityman.com/talktolisa/ You got this! Believing in you!

Good for you, Emily !!!!!

Thank you for your feedback. They may seem obvious to you because you may be in a different point in your life. These videos are for women over 50 who are dating again after not having done so in possibly decades. They need to relearn that again. You don't seem to be the audience for my work, and that is OK. Always appreciate feedback though. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

@@LisaCopelandDatingCoach yes, Lisa. I am 53 years old and most likely I will be looking for a new partner soon. I confess that I am afraid of being alone for the rest of my life, and that is the reason I watched and subscribed to your channel. Thank you for your thoughtful advice..

@@silvanacarr319, can I say you sounded a bit rude in your first comment? It wasn't a date, just communication, but I would suspect that you are rude sometimes and really sweet some other times. Look, at the end of the comment you show different emotion and your advice is actually good one. Maybe you are one of those hot and cold people, I don't know, but authentic for sure and you probably can find a man who likes some brutal honesty. I would really like to know, if Lisa feels the same vibes?

@@LisaCopelandDatingCoach, do you feel the same vibes as I did? I just answered to Silva. Don't you think that some people actually like brutal honesty or why such trait still exists in the world? Even if someone avoids being rude in the first date, what if they actually are, sometimes like that?

@@liivikasaarman995 maybe the problem is because I have English as second language. I re-read my note and it may sound rude to some. But I actually.wanted to say that Lisa's advice is humble ( not rumble), and I cannot imagine being rude on the first date because, in my conception, there is not need for that. However, you are right when you say I like the brutal truth. I am a very straight forward person and honest. Or you like me or not, no mid term in my relationships. Thank you!

Thanks for sharing your experience. Many women fall under this category, specially after divorce. We just have to get things done ourselves. It's definitely a learning curve.

Agree totally. You do what you must to survive.

women can be feminine looking and masculine acting. Men notice this and usually just mentally cross those women off for serious consideration as mates. But for recreational use, those women are good enough. But it's always the mans fault, that damned patriarchy, right?

Most men will offer to help if asked in a sincere manner. Be thankful and let him know he is appreciated. Take him out for dinner as a means of thanking him.

@louismalik518 Yes - maybe I need to be less hesitant/fearful of asking for help. Thank you.

It is possible. Don't give up. If ever you want to try something new, let's get on a call to help you break through: www.findaqualityman.com/talktolisa

Sorry you had this experience. Much luck on your search for the right woman for you. She is out there and looking for you too!

I hear you Mari. It is possible to meet that man. If you need some guidance, schedule a Complimentary “Find Love After 50 Breakthrough Session" so we can discuss how this can happen for you.

Im not into blondes 😁

Are you doing anything to meet men in the real world?

Real men don't date online. 😎

Thank you for your feedback.

Thank you!😇

Thank you for your feedback.

LIfe changes when you're single and both men and women feel lonely but . . . I have friends who have been in very long marriages that feel the same way as you.

A great one!

​@@LisaCopelandDatingCoach I have a question. I am very (happily) married and I'm 41. But this showed up in my feed so now I am curious. Society seems to have disdain for women that have high [ even realistic] standards. HOWEVER, As a woman that looks [to some people] as much as 15 years younger than her chronological age.... couldn't I be pickier? I make decent money, do Pure Barre, yoga & lift. Also I have a brand new car and good credit.. Is it "fair" to exercise my privilege? Is it still rude to ask if say a guy knows what credit is? What his income looks like? Also if he even keeps track of his credit score? Because how can I be sure this person is good at adulting?

@@lorettaknoelk3475 So you are married and exploring what your market place value is? I smell divorce. Sure, ask a guy what his income and credit is on a first date. You seem to be really eating up the F-minist movement, where you are entitled to the resources. You sound like the epitome of what is wrong in the current dating experience.

Huh? Did he write those lyrics to Christie Brinkley? Of course he likes her just the way she was!

@@cathyallshouse2981 (The post was about the lyrics, not the artist's personal life.)

Thanks for sharing Carolynn. Sorry to hear you have gone through that experience. It is important to note, that there are good quality men out there, and they too have had their share of health experiences. There is definitely a mindset shift that needs to happen. You are more than welcome to schedule a call with me to see if I can help you or at least guide you in the right direction: findaqualityman.com/talktolisa/

Carolynn, I was looking for some mention of disability in this conversation. There’s a world of difference between 50-60. After 60, stuff happens that we never dreamed of. Let’s see what the “fit” set says when it’s their turn. We’ll be like: “People call say 'beware doll, you're bound to fall' You thought they were all kidding you You used to laugh about Everybody that was hanging out Now you don't talk so loud Now you don't seem so proud…”

Men only care about one thing me myself could care less about hair or breast. I'm 59 and looking.🍔🍟👅

​@@MfilYour words are so inspiring for me to maintain my LTR in distance, thank you! I have found my old friend we had been in love long long ago... We live in different countries, both had been very lonely before our second chance.... I'm 61, he is 68... and sometimes I think, there are lots of single women in his country, I doubt everything. But he is waiting for me, I am for him... Love is a rare thing in the world. One day, I hope, we'll be together, we both want this ❤❤

When men are young (imo) they are pretty much looking for only appearance. As we age (64) we are looking for real connection and true love ,.devotion. I have not read that you lack that so straight away. Honesty and being authentic is beautiful. Respectfully I am sorry for your loss and wish you well.

Don't give up! I promise there are still great men out there to date. Yes, we have to have some precautions, as has always been the case. If you need some guidance, schedule a Complimentary “Find Love After 50 Breakthrough Session" so we can discuss how this can happen for you. findaqualityman.com/talktolisa/

Wait. What? Being independent is a 'turn off"? You mean the fact that we are expected to pay 50% of everything despite earning less, work a full-time job, manage budgets and our own retirement funds.....but we're NOT supposed to be independent because it's a 'turn off"? Being independent means needing to be 'softer"? I'm very glad I have always been independent as my husband for 23 years often worked away from home, leaving everything to me to do. My independence also allowed me to act on my boundaries and standards and to walk away and buy my own home and be completely self supporting when his behaviour became unacceptable. We do not have to lose our ability to be independent when in a relationship. During the course of a healthy relationship you will each get an opportunity to be in the 'lead' position from time to time. Balance and respect......not deference.

@@l.5832 She doesn't say it, but maybe it's like Lisa said that you can come across like you don't need a man because you are independent and can do everything by yourself. Then why are you dating I would ask?

@@sylviacarlson3561 For companionship? To enjoy travel? For intellectual discussion? Dining out? Shared interests? Raising a family? Love????

Sweetheart take one of your Prozac pills with your boxed wine feed your cat, and call your therapist. Nevermind, therapist never hold women accountable, they tell them all their problems are caused by the Patriarchy not their selfish feminist choices. Well at least do the patriarchy a favor and never date a man again... Disaster await s him if you do date him. Also, the Pay Gap is a myth that has been disproved by several leading economists. Women earn less because they avoid STEM jobs and women refuse to take dangerous outdoor jobs. Read Erin Pizzey.

It's great to hear that you've found contentment in your own company and retirement!

Cat Lady? 😮

That sounds like a fantastic plan and what I encourage my clients to do. Congrats on your 40 years of marriage.

How wonderful that you are still married! I wish you many more years together. ❤️ I am a fit, attractive widowed woman and it annoys me that men’s first words to me are “you are so pretty “. Really? Out of all of the interesting things about me I put on my profile, that’s all you comment on? It doesn’t separate him from every other man whose first words were the same thing! When there are a lot of men swiping on your profile, saying something unique and intelligent stands out much better than the masses of sameness. It’s why I am not on there anymore.

@@hiannahgus574 I get that, and good for you! Live your life your way, and good things will happen.

@@LisaCopelandDatingCoach thank you!

@@richatlarge462 Thank you! Good things happen to us everyday, and gratitude makes it happen more so. Many blessings!

Wow, love see great men like you watching and commenting on my channel. Thank you for being a stand up and respectful man. Proof that there are still great men out there.

What is your idea of outgoing? Physical activity? Do you believe in a greater power? Spiritual? Drink? Smoke? Cuss? Abuse substances? Relationship with PORN? My Ex was a Porn Addict and yes it IS devastating to a relationship. Do you avoid fast and overprocessed food? Like animals? Enjoy the country or city life? Enjoy going out and how often? What kind of music do you enjoy? Eclectic? Enjoy wildlife/animals/pets? Attend church? Travel? Vacations? We're you raised in a home with both or a single parent? Was church part of your upbringing? Higher education? Children? Grandchildren? Volunteer work? Unfortunately, in today's climate Political leaning? Views on the male and female roles and jobs within the relationship and household? Fighting/disagreement style? Have you ever hit or caused harm to another as an adult? Criminal history? Recovering substance abuser? Take medications for mental health issues? I know this is a lot to ask, but seriously, at our age, these are questions we should be asking before wasting our time on the wrong person. I went out with a man for the 1st time this past year 8.5 years after my divorce. He definitely opened my eyes as to what is important to me and what I am willing to tolerate in my remaining years. Our ideas on family values, physical activity/fit, eating healthy, entertainment, etc, were vastly different as most people's are.

A lot of you girls drop the ball you got divorced and you spoiled your kids beyond belief especially your son's you've made them pussies they're lazy they're rude or disrespectful and you're always bailing them out. No one i know wants to set at the table a share a meal. You girls forgot to be their mother not their friend. I laugh how the gals at the local bar get pissed off when guys dont include them when they buy a round. They still think there vajaja is gold. They never buy a round so why would we send them a drink.

I am pretty much along those lines you mention.

Lower testosterone helps a man make better relationship decisions??

Knowing who you want and where your boundaries lie are a huge part of dating but there are other parts too equally important to successfully find love.

But, I think the idea behind this video and "things not to do", is it happens far too often. If she shows up highly misrepresented and appearing deceptive and dishonest, then here you have a video stating that is not a good idea. Most of this seems to be common sense, but the need for a video instructing people indicates that it not so common (the sense part).

Welcome!

We all are wired to value physical attractiveness but for women, attractiveness can develop over time as she gets to know a man.

you women are MUCH worse than men are about how hot someone is....guys just don't want a FAT woman....while most all woman demand an 8 9 or a ten....& he has to make HUGE money, or they'll keep swiping right.....

Love that feedback, Russell! And it goes the same for many age in this age group.

Have had similar experience with a couple guys in this age range....seems it's an equal opportunity affliction. I refuse to play the app game, scanning a menu of cheap fare at a roadside greasy spoon expecting to find a gourmet meal. Prefer the old-fashioned strike up a conversation (or respond to a nice person who starts to chat with me) and see where it goes or doesn't.

Lol really like men aren't totally screwed up!

@michelles2299 I agree that most men in that age group have major issues also. I'm single and in my early 50s. Most of the people in my age group have big mental health issues. They have been treated poorly and lied to by spouses. Many have chemical dependency and trust issues. The dating field is full of landmines. This has left the decent people lost in the forest trying to find each other.

@@russk1971I was married for 30 years, widowed, and went on dating apps after healing for a few years. I was shocked at the level of alcohol abuse and mental health issues amongst people online! If I meet someone in the wild, fine, but the apps have the low lying fruit.

You can 100% love yourself as you are regardless of what men think or are concerened with. And when women love and accept themselves fully, their vibration attracts a quality man who also loves and accepts them.

Thank you for your kind words and look forward to hearing from you in the comments.

The number one compliant of dating women over 50 is that they are over 50. Unless a man is 65 or older, he should not date 50 year old women. A successful 50 something man should be dating a 27 year pld

@@JohnJohn-sw7nh They are unlikely to have much in common although it's possible they might.

You are not going to find a companion by throwing all that out in the beginning. You do not sound emotionally healthy or ready for an honest and intimate relationship. I have been in behavioral health for over 25 years. I have seen a lot.

@@tronmartin1 in short, eff what he's feeling. Yet women readily complain men won't "open up" to them emotionally..😄

I feel like this goes both ways. Men don't always want to be a purse either.

I'm 67, no wife g/f or kids, have 2 houses paid off, nice truck, motorcycle, Quad, gator, money in the bank....last woman i texted on a dating site told me she has no money, on SS & has health problems & is overweight....I stopped texting her....

@@stevegaines-vq3bd smart! Run the other way fast!!!

I have my own $$ and don't want yours.😎

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Thanks for letting me know it resonated with you.

One thing that could ensure to others that a photo was current would be to have a picture taken of yourself holding a newspaper, showing the day, month and year.

Same for men to post current pictures without sunglasses, baseball caps, filters, and please don’t hide your body behind something so that we can’t see what you really look like .Just be real.

In short. Yes, there are still quality men out there.

Never panic nor lower your standards. 😎

Love your pearls of wisdom. Thank you for sharing them.

100% agree!

That's amazing. Keep it up!

Thank you for your feedback. I don't say anything to try to be cool. I'm speaking my own thoughts from the research I've done and working with many women over years. If this is not your cup of tea, I am perfectly OK with it. There are many other people on RU-vid where you might find videos more suited for you.

Thank you for sharing your experience.

A lot of men have told me that is a big turn off. I think how it's said and heard is a disconnect of interpretation. Women feel weak if they feel they need a man but they want one. And men want to make a woman's life easier and that makes them feel needed. Resonate?

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Not totally true. Some men do want younger women but many appreciate women closer to their age.

Yep. I've discovered that young men want a contemporary companion. Older men want a younger one so they might also feel younger. At my age, I'm not willing to be a nursemaid.

Men want a partner with no stress!!

Never liked young women.

Unfortunately, this is true most of the time. Which is why women start becoming bitter. And then they wonder why.

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I'm sorry you're experiencing this. Do they talk at all in a back and forth conversation?

This is 100% true.

Thanks for sharing!

I completely understand your feelings and concerns. If you're feeling stuck or need guidance on navigating the dating world, feel free to chat with me!

Sadly, both sexes post pics that aren't quite true. They think that if someone sees them online as they are, they'll pass them over but if they meet them in person and get to know them, they'll accept them more easily. Doesn't quite work that way. Most people feel they've been lied to and wonder what else they lie about. I always encourage my clients to be truthful because they want someone who accepts them as they are.

Thanks for your feedback Tom. Please share this video with your single lady friends over 50, as that is who these videos are made for. You already know all this stuff, lol!

It is very unattractive for married men to be on the prowl looking for women to basically have affairs with. SMH

I wish you well sir......

A good friend met the love of her life on Eharmony. She is over the moon and is having so much fun with him. I am so happy for her but lack the cojones to put myself "out there". I haven't even been on a coffee date in about 4 years, after I broke up with an abusive partner. I worry that men will see my photo and find me unattractive. Also, I have chronic leukemia. I'm not sure how or when to disclose this. If I include on a profile, no one will contact me. On the other hand, not disclosing having a potentially life-ending disease seems dishonest and unethical. It doesn't outwardly affect me (I don't look like someone with cancer, whatever that is!), but it's slowly catching up. At this point, I would enjoy having adventures with someone other than my girlfriends (though I love them dearly), and have someone to look forward to seeing when I'm not working.

@@feliciasampson8032 It is best not to put anything on your profile that makes you a target for abusers or scammers. Maybe in your first private message to each guy, let him know that there is a health issue to reveal. If he disappears, then he wasn't a good match. Make your profile look happy and positive (but 100% honest). Negativity is the number 1 turn-off for the good guys :)

Thank you for your feedback.