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I really appreciate this, I’ve seen some Muslim trauma helpers push not to cut ties, but I literally shut down when I try to talk to my mom, my body has strong reaction to her, it’s hard to speak to someone who has abandoned, slandered and gossiped about you… even threatened me. Every one was like but she is your mother… but when I asked for her help, when she saw I was an abusive relationship, she literally told me , she can’t help me , im on my own with kids. Hopefully one day I will be ready .
I and so many can relate to this. I came across a video from a muslim speaker and remember almost switching it off because I felt there was a lack of insight into how I was feeling and how my own body was reacting to a situation. One of the most important things before deciding to do anything is feeling safe. Safe in our bodies, in our homes. Sometimes that means for our health and sometimes to the extent of our very lives (reference to Gabor Mates Book: When The Body Says No), we have to move away from the triggering situation or person and focus on ourself. This with the intention of bismillah and insha Allah reconciliation with boundaries- for people like our immediate family such as our parents,. I can see this is an important relationship for you , may Allah make it clear and easy for you ameen. The most important thing to remember is that every persons situation is different and to give yourself space doesn't mean being mean, but being kind with limits. I'm not sure if your on my newsletter but I share some more insights on there and regular updates on new videos and my free course. Here is the link to join if you feel it might help: FREE Chapter of my book The Woke Writer book on how to let go: sendfox.com/aishahalam
