Forgiving Each Other | Sharing Our Hard Conversations 

“May the Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.”  ‭‭Numbers‬ ‭6:24-26‬ ‭

My grandson was murdered just about four years ago. He was murdered 2wks after his 20th birthday. The murders haven’t been caught. His so call friends haven’t cooperated with the police. I know they know a lot. I’m been told this through my Holy Spirit. Its has been very hard on the forgiving side. Forgiveness is the key to a life with Christ. Thank you for this conversation. It is needed so much right now. Blessings and ❤️to you both and that beautiful baby girl.

First of all Lexi is so pretty second being in a interaccial relationship I want to thank you for this video.. Continue blessing us with your videos... God bless your family.

Lexi is so sooo beautiful. Greeting from Johannesburg , South Africa. May God expand your territories fam !

I’m dealing with that forgiveness toward someone that I love who did me wrong and I’m giving it over to God because these relationships aren’t perfect and the main focus needs to be of self and relationship with the Lord and being grounded on a Soul Level with the Lord!✨🙏☝️🙌💕

It's wonderful to see a relationship rooted and grounded in God. First and foremost that has to be a factor to even start the process.☺❤☺❤☺❤☺❤☺❤☺❤☺❤

This may be one of the MOST insightful vlogs yet!! I am a Single Black Man who also happens to be Gay. And you can image have had to REALLY evaluate my relations with SOME family and friends! At 64 yrs young I have come a long way! Thanks for your wisdom and positive sharing/caring voices!!

A great convo, guys! So needed in the body of Christ, but also for everyone. God bless!

Thank you my husband and I are intercultural just like you guys we have been married fo 19 years we live in NC and we have a daughter together and my husband has a son from previous relationship before we met. We love the blended family but we have those family issues as well. So we pray on it we try to not get involved in family drama. But my last 3 yrs has been a hot mess. This conversation has open a new light on what needs to be done. I love my husband we met online 22 years ago before internet got crazy.. I just cant see my life without him. I love yall keep sending us positive vibes

I know I've said this before but it's true... Every time I watch your videos I feel like am attending marriage counselling. I always leave with something to think about, or that I can apply to my marriage.

I love how honest and transparent you guys are

I love that you guys openly speak about both the ups and downs of your relationship. It comes off very real and authentic. Wishing you guys an eternity of love and happiness

Why is your hair so gorgeous!!!! Amazing!!!

I love what Brian just said about that there are layers of forgiveness that’s so real and it really is a process that needs to continue. Because depending on the kind of violation you really have to work through the issue through prayer and reflection.

Lexi you look so good after giving birth. It always good to hear you guys, very real and to the point. Thanks for sharing.

This is how to have a mature relationship. This is mature love..

Wow, this is amazing. I justed did a Bible study yesterday on forgiveness. One thing am taking away from this video is self evaluate myself. I had a misunderstanding with my sister and I didn't talk to her for a few weeks. Once we talked, which was last week, she asked for forgiveness and I did forgive her. Thank your for this video and I know this was very timely to my life.

The videos are really helpful. Thanks for the advice in forgiveness, The Cole Family Rock🙏🏼👀👊👋👍🙂

When you mentioned you felt protective of your wife's physical safety. I felt that one. Yikes.

Cole life: A lot of times I hear people talk about forgiveness but it seems that they are blending forgiveness with reconciliation. I hope that you feel better about where you are because it sounds to me that you are in the right place and you have forgiven this person. You are at a point where your struggle is now with reconciliation .. don’t beat yourself up it is a long process and you’re going to get there. Keep those two points separated . forgiveness is one thing it means you’ve giving up your right for revenge. Reconciliation means you trust the situation well enough to bring them back in to your inner circle which is very very difficult and a longer process if it happens at all. God said forget so that that unforgiveness will not hinder you receiving your blessings .he didn’t say anything about trusting that person again and bringing them back into your inner circle. As I said don’t be so hard on yourself and jump ahead of what the Holy Spirit is doing in this situation ..you guys are doing very very well. I really enjoy listening to your post podcast on RU-vid

God bless you Lexie - love your homage to Mother Africa in that lovely necklace!

I truly appreciate the transparency of this video. Successful marriages and relationships do not happen overnight.

I love the deep conversation that your family has on you tube I can tell you both are Christian and know the LORD, your channel is very refreshing from most of the mess that the other channels have , lots of cursing, lots of pranks, nasty words to music, and it's different from most of them on here, have AZA in more videos she is so precious and beautiful.

This needs to be heard by EVERYONE! Soooo good! My husband was trying to help someone see another perspective on a topic and it was so unfortunate to see how unwilling they were to consider what he was saying. Thank you for this video 💯🙏🏽

Thank you for this video. It was honesty an answer to a prayer I prayed. It was very healing for me to watch. Love you guys!!

This is beautiful, you guys actually do know where you are emotionally and spiritually, I love everything that you've said in this video and the honesty. God bless you and your relationship

' forgive our trespasses as we forgive those who tresspass against us'.. Patience Self-evaluate Be forgiving ❤❤❤

Deep! I was listening to Voddie Baucham sermon about forgiveness. Sometimes you think you have forgiven someone and one day you burst out of bitterness. It's really not a great place to be. Open to forgiveness because God forgives us for our sins and He never just hold grudges. Let's become more like Jesus everyday.

Yes! So glad you mentioned Counseling. Do many of us don’t realize our behaviors or thinking patterns are problematic until it causes us significant stress. Great content!

I think you both made many excellent points throughout the video. I totally agree that purpose, intent and constructive outcomes are key. Sometimes asking ourselves those questions can positively guide the process even in the most challenging circumstances. Hopefully the result will be growth for all involved!

Can I just say why don't you guys start a podcast use anchor app it's so easy and we can all listen to these/this amazing relationship stuff. Think about it?? ♥️ Love y'all

I absolutely love you guys!!! You two are like my friends/therapists all in one lol. This conversation really hit hard with me. Just when I thought I was a forgiving person, I realize that I now tend to think back on certain past situations and relationships and what I should've said or what I should've done instead what I actually said and did. I was thinking of how I acted in past relationships that, had I known all this back then, I believe those relationships would've started and ended differently. I'm definitely going to 1. rewatch this vlog a few more times and 2. take all that was talked about today and use those tips from here on out. Thank you for being so open and honest.

Love this conversation and it was so needed. Forgiveness is hard to give some times. When emotions get entangled and you constantly play back the situation that lead you to feel a certain way, it becomes hard to try to untangle what actually happened to heal not only yourself but also the relationship.

You guys have such great conversations/discussions. Such wisdom and so insightful. Love you both💕. God Bless!

Such a great topic today. I needed this because I am struggling with a couple of friendships. The Lord is telling me to pause before just going into my flesh and cutting them out of my life. You gave me some things to think and pray about. Love your relationship and you beautiful family.

This was so good!! I love how transparent you guys are about your thoughts and emotions. This type of free flowing communication is greatly needed in order to maintain a cohesive and permanent bond within marriage. Thanks so much for sharing this vital information with us. SIDE NOTE: Lexi is so beautiful and Bryan is so handsome. May God bless and keep you always! 😊❤🙌🏽

This is such a great conversation! I’m so glad I’m subscribed to you guys! Thank you and God bless your family!

Love you all. Stay bless!! That was a very deep conversation. Can’t wait to see the new house.

Timing is perfect! Going through this right now! Forgiving someone is hard but absolutely worth it. It’s the acceptance of the forgiving yourself that’s even harder. Expecting so much from yourself like I do sometimes comes off to others as having super high expectations which lead to disappointments and separation (he broke up with me me) in relationships. Thanks for a fresh word and perspective on something I have had to do time and time again. God Bless you two!

Hello🖐 Cole Family, OMG it's so amazing bc we just talked about this topic yesterday after the service in our house, we are an interracial christian couple as well, we just subscribed to support you as well, GOD bless you!

Thank you guys for being so honest! You have such a great impact on young people like me 💖

This was an awesome session, I really appreciated this and got some Godly counseling. I appreciate how you let God use you!

Wise words from the heart. Bless you both!

So much respect for you guys and how you show up in such authentic spirit. Appreciate this conversation so much ☺️❤️

Hi Good evening - It's so refreshing to see a couple who has that open communication with each other. This is what is needed in all relationships / family life, it's by communicating that I believe that problems/issues can be dealt with. That we can understand where our spouses/ children are coming from. Brian - I totally relate to you on forgiveness, sometimes I think that I have forgiven the person unril some issue arise and then I question myself on it. I call myself work in progress. But I believe that as long as we keep our eyes on Jesus that true forgiveness will come and his love will shine forth. May God continue to bless you , Lexi & Aza

You all are so blessed to be able to be so open about the issues you have encountered with other family members. And most of all learning how to forgive and do self evaluation. I pray that God continues to give you guys the strength and discernment to forgive.

This was an awesome video. Thank you for this. Sharing a tid bit about me and my husband....he would always be the one to apologize to me after we disagreed about something, because he always just wanted to make me happy or smile, and I had to realize that, that wasn't fair to him, and I'm not looking at what I'm saying or doing, so I had to learn to put my ego/pride aside and realize that I am wrong in most of these discussions, and apologize. We've been together for 21 years, and we are always still trying to grow. We have to always be willing to open our hearts and minds, and listen, hear and be vulnerable, so that we can grow as an individual. Again Thank you for sharing you guys.

Thank you guys for this video. My hubby and I (I'm black and he's white) have been having "hard" conversations lately. And we tend to not understand each other and it always ends with one of us or both of us feeling offended. We never apologized or addressed our feelings afterward. As you said, we would give this little smile and end the convo. And that is not solving anything because when another one of those convos comes up someone gets offended right off the bet. I am more like Lexi and I feel like it takes time for me to really understand how I feel while my husband tries to quickly get over it because he doesn't want any tension and he just wants to see me happy. I will definitely take your advice. Thank you! God bless you and your family!

God bless you two wonderful parents and your beautiful Aza.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Sometimes forgiveness is a journey. Stay on that path. I love you guys! Such a blessing and you both give so much hope.

This is the best truthful video of RU-vid. Forgiveness is the key of life. God does not dwell where there is no forgiveness. We forget that when you curse people you curse yourself 4 times see your fingers. God Bless you guys for sharing.

I agree with you both that hard/difficult conversation are so needed for relationships growth (marriage, siblings, families and friends). It is hard because it makes us uneasy and that makes people uncomfortable, but that is so necessary for personal and spiritual growth. I loved the video and I wish you both all of God's blessings.

Thank you guys so much for your wisdom. I know for anyone like myself needed to hear this. I am truly blessed with the wisdom given. God's love is everlasting. May God continue to bless you all. Big Love!

I too had some evil things done to myself and the family. 14 years of evil to the point I can not seem to get over it. I would speak to God about it and at times I would pray and leave this problem at the alter. but after a while it comes back to me. I have to question myself all the time, am I a true christian because I can't seem to forgive. I'm so glad for you both speaking about this topic.Thank you so much .It helps me to look at myself as a christian to be truthful and to forgive. everything you have said is what I am going through. I'm angry. so pray for me please. I need a release.

Thank you for being so open ❤️😊

I’m praying for complete and total forgiveness. Keep letting the Lord GROW you guys...I love the openness you all have to hearing the Holy Spirit. Beautiful!!!! I’m teaching a workshop on forgiveness in October to complete my Masters in Ministry, so this is so important! God bless you!

I got to this vlog by mistake and I have been binge in it for 12 hours now, I am so happy that I found it, God had to lead me here ,you guys are ministers to so many people, think about it you can't reach as many people as you do in a church. I am 70 years old and I thought that I knew THE WORDS and wisdom of God, but watching your vlog has given me a whole look on every thing that I thought that I knew. THANK YOU for increasein my faith and trust in God, I don't know you personally but I love you so much for helping me become closer to my creator, I just can't THANK you enough, this is your ministry DON'T STOP PLAYING the world needs you, God does all things for a reason, you two are better and more knowledgeable then all the preachers I have ever known. I believe that God intended for me to find you for a reason. THANK YOU so much for allowing God to use you for this old woman to leave here with love, peace, trust and wisdom.

Deep...Deep. Guys, I'm so impacted by this cov. Thanks be to God who giveth & giveth again & again. Continue to pray about the situation with fam & He'll miraculously change the situation when you least expect it.

You betta PREACH on forgiveness!!!! I LOVE you all’s journey 😍🥰 that 3-cord strand is a beautiful thang! #GodHusbandWife

Forgiveness is the one of the corner stones of healing! I'm working on the self and relationship(s) evaluations.

Let me first start by saying, you guys are my FAVORITE RU-vid couple!! Lol And, I feel this way because of videos like this one! I can truly relate to so many of the things you guys discussed, especially having a similar personality to yours, Lexi. Unfortunately, one of my friendships is in a rocky place as you guys called it, to say the least! And, because she is more of the type to say, “okay let's move past the issue” in her life in general, even at the expense of being “happy and good” because she doesn't know how to address confrontation without it either being an argument or no resolution at all. So, please keep me in your prayers and posting more content like this, because it is truly helpful! 🙏 - ❤️ Kara

This is so true. My friend of 20+years said some things that hurt me so bad I just wanted to avoid/stop talking to her. What we have to assess is this. Do I value this person enough to hear there point of view? Is it possible to move forward? But with all this TRUST is the biggest factor.

This conversation addresses very key issues specifically the way people interpret situations/words differently. I have found this very helpful! God bless you both!

Thanks for sharing this! Great and definitely deep 🙏🏾

So true, communication is one of the most important thing in a relationship to make it work.

Thank you for this time of sharing. I appreciate your putting God first in your triangle of love. Abundant Blessings ❣️

Thank you once again for an outstanding and mature video. Lexi your statement toward the very end struck a chord with me. We're told as Christians that we need to forgive and to do it quickly but I appreciate you acknowledging that forgiveness takes time and it's a process. I have struggled with this because I too want to do a lot of introspection and understand myself better so that I don't make the same mistakes and understand also that many times I find myself in conflict because I did not listen to the holy spirit in terms of who I needed to be in relationship with in the first place .whether it be a romantic relationship or just a friendship. I'm discovering now that who you are in community with is critical to fulfilling your purpose. As people often say it's not about us. It has never been about us. Please pray for reconciliation in my relationship with my daughter. My ex-husband, her father is a narcissist and quite blatantly has caused significant division between she and I. She's a wonderful young woman and I know that God has a mighty plan for her as an individual and for the two of us as a mother and daughter team to minister to other mothers and daughters who are going through difficult times. The season of our estrangement has been very long and at times I grow weary. I have gone before the Lord and asked him to remove anything in me that does not bear witness to his goodness. I don't want the enemy to use me in any way to hinder her from a relationship, a strong relationship with Chrit.she has accepted Jesus Christ as her Lord and Savior at 13. She is now 17.Walking this thing out however as we all know is a very difficult and different matter. Please pray my strength and pray for her heart that as God reveals the truth of who her father is that he would protect her heart and her mind. Nothing is wasted in God and all that she and I have been through will be used for God's glory. Thank you so much.

For such a young couple I learn so much from you regarding love, sacrifice, compromise, commitment, and security. To witness such love from a truly Christian couple is wonderful. You allow me to hold on to Proverbs 18:22. As I continue this journey on earth, you've allowed me to believe in the possibility of having a love of a lifetime even at this stage of my life. You are a beautiful couple. God Bless You and you're fantastic family.

Good talk (teaching). Many people do not know that unforgiveness puts them in bondage and keeps them there. Thank you for sharing.

Hi, you know this topic of forgiveness is so huge, am particularly happy about the part where you guys hint that knowing that forgiveness does not come easy and that you don't have to be pretend to be in a place you are not. I feel like often times it is easy to say that you need to forgive and yet there is a lot that comes with that. I feel a lot of the conversation on forgiveness has to change to hard and difficult but possible journey of forgiveness

Congrats. I mean considering all the drama and stuff you had to deal with. !!!! 💕💕💕💕💕

I truly appreciate the transparency of this conversation and I honestly learned a lot on this topic from you . Thanks

I hear so much wisdom from both of you. I am grateful to hear your struggles and hope you have overcome them. My husband died in 2015 we had been married 29yrs. We both loved each other, however family members caused a lot of pain. I understand what you were saying Lexi, I have forgiven them, but my thing was what do I do with the damage that this has caused my husband our children and myself you guys are heaven sent. God bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you peace in Jesus name.

Hey, greetings from Jamaica 👋😁. Thank you so very much for this video. You have posted it at the perfect time and I believe God did that just for me because my best friend and I have been going through a really rocky moment in our relationship, especially for this week. You have made such great points and have simply reminded me of what is important in a relationship worth fighting for, thank you! God bless you.

You two are so wise for a young couple of how to tackle anything so far that would come you way in life,! I think, there must have been a reason why god have brought you together! Aza is blessed to have such loving, wise and caring parent! When can we see the little bundle?

I love the convo... It is important to have hards conversations and align them to God's words... Thank you for sharing you guys!! God blessed you two and the fam!!! XOXO..

Very good conversation! Forgiveness is vital to the Christian walk. I like what you said Brian about asking God to show us what we need to change in our life. Once we sincerely ask then God can show us as well change our heart! He said if we can't forgive others then he can't forgive us!!!! That concept alone gives us something to truly consider!

I loved the video, very absorbing points! Thanks

Such a powerful, needed conversation 🙌🏾

I love this, I can really relate with this. Thanks for sharing. God bless.

Lexi is a Queen, her necklace 🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️

Very intentional, truthful and vulnerable conversation. Love you guys and what you stand for. ❤ from 🇨🇦 👌

So, true. Forgiveness is not done because the person has acknowledged his/her wrong-doing. It truly is for YOU.

So Good To See You Both!! 😍😍

A very good video for couple I enjoy it very much

It’s so refreshing to see Holy Matrimony. I’m older than you and I have never been married, in a relationship or seen anyone let God lead their relationship. I would have love to have seen a couple like you when I was younger. You are helping folks. Good video!

Thank you very much. May God continue to bless you and use you as His vessels.💞

Such impactful and wholesome video! I'm working on my emotional intelligence and this was so inspiring to my journey. Much love! 🧡

I really love what God is doing through the both of you...truly amazing....sometimes God just speaks to you through other people because I am also going through a difficult situation with my In-Laws and it has been quite tough and I'm struggling to forgive them and Its like God is speaking to me through this Video . This video gives me hope Thank you for your prayers and God bless you and your family Always Cynthia Tlitli from Cape Town South Africa And your daughter is soo beautiful 💕

Amen. Speaking the truth in love. Humble ourselves and take ourselves to the Lord first 🙌🏽

Forgiveness is really powerful.in fact, freeing or forgiving people can actually cause our blessings to flow to us. when I took away bitterness from my heart towards somebody in my church, I got baptized with the Holy Spirit. That's how come I know what forgiveness can do for our spiritual life.mehnn...God blesses us when we forgive others..God bless you both guys .very powerful subject.

I don't comment much thought I am often moved by the thoughtfulness you bring to your channel. Respect the transparency! Yes, any relationship/marriage takes focused, positive energy, many call it "work!" Appreciate that you guys have come to emphasis ethnicity and culture rather than race (a social construct), particularly important in a bi-ethnic, intimate partnership. Food for thought: Consider the concept that the only person you can forgive is yourself! Sit with it for a moment or TWO. How does that feel?... Take a few breaths and try again. Now, sit facing each other and REALLY take the time to share the feelings that come up for you...Just the feelings (physical) and then the emotions...There's more to this process, but this is a beginning it will take some practice. It flips what we have come to know about "forgiveness" on it's head!

This truly blessed me. Thank y'all....

Thank ya'll so very much! I love this...Ya'll are Psalms 133 indeed! 1 Corinthians 13 talk...I appreciate this insight and your experiences; I am in an interethnic relationship. ...so good! Truth...💚💙💜 Brian, that is wisdom to disassociate even though there is forgiveness, to protect your relationship and your wife! Little by little. The ones who are forgiven much love much. -Luke 7 Yes, truth in our innermost being.

Cole Fam Podcast, PLEASE! I’m the product of an interracial/interethnic relationship (Shout out to Aza! Hey, princess!) so it’s really fascinating to listen to y’all talk about how y’all work through things as a unit and separately. In a weird way, I’m learning a bit about the dynamics behind how I came to be. I have a lot of questions for my parents now (they aren’t together anymore-but are still in interracial relationships).

This video was for me God you are amazing Thank you God and thank you Coles for being Gods vessels

Love the conflict approach. Healthy info...

Love this. I'm a person who got hurt a lot because of forgiving and the person would do the same thing over and over. I went thru a period where I wanted to hate someone who was truly mean to me, tried to take me out. I went to God and said why am I not upset and I learned of the Love of GOD I wish I could really get into this conversation but I'm typing. Thanks again, I'm praying 4U2

It’s unfortunate that many people believe Forgiveness is like a switch. It’s so much deeper than that. It can be a while before a person has truly forgiven someone or something. So many things can trigger someone’s anger or hurt about a situation. I pray often for God to please give me a forgiving heart. This is a good conversational topic on relationships! ❤️

I miss seeing this type of respect and honestly in marriages these days💕