FORGOTTEN | Award-Winning Short Film | Alzheimer's Disease 

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Thank you for the excellent film.

I read "Still Alice" and saw the movie. The book was better. "A Song for Martin" was fine and the book, "Someone Who Used To Be" was great too.

Thank you so much for posting this wonderful film.

I am in tears reading your comment. This is my mother. I have been at her beck and call for three years now. She is slowly deteriorating more markedly in the last 3 months, few weeks even. She had a big fall on Christmas Eve whilst in the care of my sister who took her to a totally unsuitable cottage for Christmas where she lost her balance and fell hitting her head very hard on a brick floor as she tripped on a step in a bathroom. It was lucky she didn't die from the impact but she has fortunately survived but she is so different even from last week when I left her just before my sister collected her. Then she had moderate cognition not perfect by a long way, but was still just about able to live independently with a little help from me and friends. But sadly now I think we are at the stage of formal care as she will not be able to carry out simple day to day tasks without some one helping or watching over her. She is frail and walking with her she often stumbles and needs to be steadied by an abled bodied person. This morning when I arrived at the hospital as she is still in hospital because of her injuries and confusion, she didn't recognise me which has happened before, but this time just felt different. I just feel we have reached a critical waypoint we cannot return from. I am so mad with my sister for taking her to this renovated cottage on the coast which might be beautiful but is totally unsuitable for an elderly infirm person with reduced mobility and cognitive impairment even before the fall. My mother said she actually fell twice and has should me her grazed and bruised knee which she said happened the day before. It is heart breaking as I spent the last three years making sure my mother was safe to ensure she had quality of life and security in her remaining years.

@@alexmorgan3435 I'm so sorry Alex. I've worked in just about every field medically and this is by far the worse. It takes over both mentally and physically. Falling is another problem but the last maybe 6 years my Dad was in a wheelchair because of his knees. In less than a year, my Dad destroyed my parents home. I'm not sure if you know about Sundowning. It occurs at night and this is when Dad got extremely violent. I feared him for the first time in my life. Very large muscular man so he just destroyed everything. It was horrible to watch. We had to remove knives from the kitchen, everything that he could hurt himself on or others. Also sundowning is when they seem to become much more confused so of course alarms went on every door. He would try to get out of the house as if someone was chasing him. The part that confused me was the first couple years he would go through days where he almost seemed completely coherent and at the flip of a switch he turned. We controlled his medication which I am thankful for because we didn't have to bring him in to see his Dr every time he needed something. I know so many people that are unable to care for their loved ones feel so much guilt especially when they have to put them in a nursing home. I know this has to be such a difficult decision but think of it this way, most people could never care for someone with Alzheimer's. Trust me. My Mom, my sister and myself are all nurses and even with the 3 of us, we still had to hire people to help. The only advice I would give is if and when you decide to put your Mom in a nursing home, please do a background check on these facilities your considering. See how many citations they received from the health department. All of that has to be online for anyone to access. Support groups can be a positive thing for people but honestly, I couldn't get involved. I tried but found myself feeling worse after the meeting. But I do know these groups can be helpful. I had no intentions of leaving such a lengthy comment. Sorry it upset you. Sometimes you need that release. I wish you the very best with your Mom. I know how difficult this is. I do hope you have people in your life to support you. If you need anything, don't hesitate to reach out and if you'd like my email, just let me know. I don't want to push it on you but sometimes talking with others that has been through the same thing can help. My Mom was different. Many of her friends wanted to visit her and get together but she is extremely private and eventually people just stop trying. Please reach out Alex if you ever need advice or maybe have questions..I don't mind at all. Best of luck to you and your family. 💖

​@@RobinMarconeCassidyRN I am in tears reading your thoughtful kind and considerate message. It obviously took you some time to compose. It is of great help and comfort to me in so many ways I have never even heard of sundowning, but my mother's behaviour in the evening after supper or later at night before bed definitely matches your description of it and your experiences with your father. My mother has lashed out but not truly violently although she has scratched and slapped me. Moving from her last rental property to the current one, on the day of moving she still sat on the edge of her bed in her night clothes at gone 10am amongst a sea of her mess and rubbish. She had to be out and handing back the keys at 2:30pm to the agent checking her out. I was trying to tell her to get her day clothes on or just put a big coat on her shoes. I found her shoes eventually tried to put them on her feet and she kicked me in my balls. I nearly keeled over in pain. She also took a swipe at my head. So yes she has been violent to me. She has huge mood swings. She binge eats Swiss chocolate biscuits and chocolate. She's not fat but it means she becomes hyper then has a massive low as her blood sugars spike massively then plummet until she gets her next fix of sugar. I am feeling pretty low now. It's just gone 3am and I cannot sleep. I have to be away in the morning by 9am back to the hospital to my mother. I didn't get home until 10:30pm last night, had something to eat and now can't sleep. yesterday was another rotten day. had another huge argument with my sister as she refuses to take ANY responsibility despite our mother being her sole care. She told me "I cannot watch her the whole time!" You have to, she is OUR mother. "She was in a bathroom she shouldn't have been!" So the property is not suitable for her needs? Did you do a quick risk assessment? "Why should I?" Because our mother is vulnerable, she has limited mobility and cognitive impairment she cannot judge risk or hazards any longer. This is totally lost on my sister. She is now trying to deflect any blame she has by making me out as the bad guy. Who needs enemies when you have family like this? Thank you so so much for your comment. I don't even know you and I am in tears.

I understand all that you so eloquently wrote. Been there; done that. My Dad suffered 20 years.

Yes, I understand and connect to what you say. My father was alzeihmer patient....love to u....🤗🤗

Wow , incredibly, I can't even think of the right words . I haven't heard my mum's voice in so many years , it must be 20 years now that I've been caring for her . I'm glad you saw your dad like that ,even if it was brief. 🙏🥀

So did mine.

Is it genetic?

@@virginiaconnor8350 May be, may be not. However if your family has a pre-disposition to it then it would indicate it could well be, although no evidence to suggest it actually is at this stage.

Actually, you lose them three times. My wife has it. Diagnosed at fifty-four, 6 years ago. So first loss, as you say, slowly watching her disappear, then the second loss was when her Care Manager took her away to the Care home, that was just over 2 years ago, and now, I will have to wait, slowly still, for the final loss. We've been together for 37 years. She is 60 years old now.

My dad has it as well and my mum was diagnosed with breast cancer 4 days after my wedding

Yes it is, we lived it for about 9 years with my mother. Heart and Gut wrenching

That's what Michael J. Fox (and several other actors) has. I believe Robin Wms. had Lewey-Body Dementia, but I don't know if the 2 are tied together or not. There was a young lady in England, age 31, who had an young onset type.

Parkinsons is another form of dementia characterised by increased risk of falling. It manifests in the same area of the brain as other dementias. Dementia is the generic name for Alzheimers, vascular dementia, Lewy Body dementia, frontal lobe dementia. There are other dementias.