Oh goodness the timing of this couldn’t have been better for me!!!! Thank you for continuing to do these and I think the idea of talking through a specific topic each time is excellent. I am 8 months AF and had been considering moderation this past couple of weeks for the first time since my early days. (I have “consumed” less quit lit in the past couple of weeks too as an attempt to lessen my thinking about it to in turn lessen my judgemental thoughts towards my husband and his continuing to drink 1-2 drinks most days - he’s cut back a lot, but not quit). I’m finding reading, listening helps me stay strong in my resolve not to drink, keeping the negatives to drinking at a forefront HOWEVER it also strengthens my judgemental thoughts regarding my husband’s drinking. Really tough balance!
Great video and content 45 Days sober today and couldn’t be more proud of Myself after 35 yrs.of 🍺 abuse ,feels like a new life . Eating right ,working out and staying busy .”The idle mind is the Devils workshop” 😀
Quitting alcohol is similar to a break up with an ex, at one point that person was a big part of your life. However, now you’ve moved on even touching that person again would make you feel sick.
If you want to to cut back your drinking then you have crossed that line of no return where moderation is impossible. Unfortunately I agree here that part of quitting is required to learn that lesson, and most of us learn from experience.
I swear my brain loves to troll me I take a sedative, brain over releases stimulants. I take a stimulant, brain releases sedatives. Usually while I'm at work! Brain be like "lol nope, ur gunna feel like shit haha!"
I used to binge drink 2 or 3 days (weekends) then I quit for 5 months and now I moderate my alcohol to 1 day a month and have been doing this for the last 8 months. It can be done and it works for me. I would be a miserable person if I was AF for the rest of my life.
Drinking 1 day a month is keeping you from misery? How do you decide which day you will drink and how do you make sure you don't drink after that for a month? I'm sorry but that sounds brutal policing yourself like that. You will be binging again before you know it and back here again watching these videos... I've been there and used to binge like you. I tried moderating for years and also only drank once a month before finally quitting. I was counting my drinks and tracking which days I drank. Completely lame.
@@GethinJames working well for me. I don't have alcohol in the house and the day is determined by how important the event is. I also write the following day off as I'm hungover and feel like crap but that's the price I'm happy to put up with. I'd never go back to binge drinking again. Nearly 9 months now. I have a totally different attitude towards alcohol and would never fall back into my old ways.
@@TezTezTezTezTez if you are hungover then you binge drinking. Binge drinking is having more than 3 or 4 in a sitting. (I forget the amount). if you are OK being hungover 12 times a year then have at it I guess... I was sick of that myself. When most ppl talk about moderation, they are envisioning being able to drink and never have hangovers. They envision it being a take it or leave it relationship and they envision not even needing to think about it... all these are impossibilities... as you have described yourself.
Seemed impossible, but it’s been over 7 months and I don’t crave a drop of alcohol, the KEY difference was that I didn’t suffer withdrawal, not even within the first 30 days after I quit. No need for AA meetings or meds either, I just go’ogled Steffon Barkload’s Quit Drinking Forever, and I just don’t even think about it anymore
When you speak about an instinctual feeling that you have (negatively) toward alcohol, how do you compare this to learned behavior. I understand what you are saying, however, I feel that can only come from experience??
