Thank you for the shout-out and your spooky items are great. I have stage 4 breast cancer and am disabled. It does hurt when people walk away, avoid or actively insult you. So instead I focus on who I am and how I would like to spend my time. Much love, I agree with a lot of what you said.
Hi Francine, I’m so sorry your friend ghosted you..that really does hurt. When I was diagnosed 15 years ago with everything, I lost a few good friends. Even family. I have no one who calls me except my Autistic son and my fiancé who lives in Great Britain. I don’t know why people act the way they do, it’s puzzling. I love you 💗💞 I got some bad news on Friday..I have Colon cancer. I haven’t been staged yet and I have to hear tomorrow who I need to see. I’m scared.
When my bestie got breast cancer.. I stayed by her side.. cooked for her, surprised her with little gifts, sat with her during Chemo, was there when she had her surgeries.. I couldn’t imagine abandoning someone in a time so difficult.. no one needs to go through this alone. Sending much hugs and love and may both sides of your pillow always be cool. 💕💕
I’m so sorry to hear about friend shining away. I don’t understand it. When my friend got breast cancer. I wanted to go over and visit her. I wanted to talk to her on the phone and see how it was going.
@@lauraodle5816 yes, she was very receptive to it. I went over to her house to bring some lunch for us. She was so happy to have me come that she wouldn’t let me bring lunch and had her husband go out and get us something.
I was born disabled and have been chronically ill most of my life, so I never really had a lot of friends to begin with. But now it feels like I have no friends at all since I got cancer. People started ghosting me.... You are not alone and it happens to a lot of us with cancer. :(
Bless you, Francine. I'm glad you feel loved. Humans have the capacity to disappoint. I'm a very positive, giving person but without being negative/unkind, i believe people are simplistically, givers or takers. Such is life, sweetie. Surround yourself with the people you and, who love you. That's all that matters. Have a good week. Take care. Huge love and light, from the UK. 💞🌟 xx
Many years ago, when my husband was in the military and we were living in Georgia, a 30-year-old neighbor of mine was diagnosed with breast cancer. We weren't friends, but we would chat over the fence. I was going to be in California when she had her surgery, so she gave me her mom's phone number. I called the evening of her surgery and learned she had to have a double mastectomy. When we returned from visiting our families, I brought her a gift, and we sat and chatted. She had worked for a company for 10 years before getting married and moving. She felt like her coworkers were true friends. She told me I was the only one other than family who acknowledged her cancer. No phone calls, nothing. It was obvious that she was very hurt. That left an impression on me. I can't say I was ghosted when I was diagnosed with cancer. My problem was people making comments that were hurtful, implying I was possibly to blame for my own cancer. I think people are frightened of cancer, and that is why they stay away. I understand it, but then again, I don't. 🤔 I'm glad you have a RU-vid channel where you can make new friends. 🤗
Hi Francine, when my Mam and my Sister were diagnosed with cancer they both experienced being ghosted by some of their friends but some people stepped up too so I guess the fact is there are some who can handle it and some who can't. I myself have experienced it too because I have a chronic illness and consequently suffer severe depression I have lost a lot of friends and now I find it easier to not waste my time feeling sad or angry at them but to enjoy and love my own company and myself. The wedding pics were lovely to see, you looked beautiful Take care love & light 🐰
Yes it does happen. It happened to me with a cancer diagnosis in 07. My best friend and co- worker along with my other colleagues never acknowledged my illness with a phone call, card, note, visit, or anything. Later, her son unalived himself. I felt so bad for the whole family, but I just couldn’t make myself react. It was very difficult to understand why I felt that way. I loved that kid.
Good morning, beautiful. You're so right, but on the flip side of it, I've known people that I concerned friends with a teremal illness that have closed down, shut the door, stopped talking to others by their own choice. I understand to a point, but it hurt no less to be shut out of their life due to their illness. It's sad and hurts all the way around. Love to you always!
I have cancer, was diagnosed 3 1/2 years ago. Not terminal yet, but Stage 4. I shut out certain friends at that point, didn't want to bother with people that didn't "feed" me since I knew my time was limited. So I'm now down to a few good friends and I'm fine with that. Not sure if this applies to your friend, but I understand it. Everyone handles things in their own way, I guess. This was my way, good or bad...
@brendamichel7486 I am not saying it was bad nor good. Everyone handles things differently. I was just hurt, not having an explanation from her. I totally understand! I wish you good luck and send good vibes to you! Miracles happens and I wish you a miracle.
This is VERY true as well. I've been fortunate not to have experienced this, however. Anyone I've wanted to be there for was welcoming the love and support. 💕
Francine, I’m really sorry to hear about your friends ghosting you. It’s tough, but now you know who your true friends are. I can relate-I had a best friend who I was so close to, I even introduced her to my brother, and they got married. After that, she stopped talking to me for no clear reason. It hurt, and I learned the hard way that she wasn’t really the friend I thought she was. This is the time you need a real close friend and she let you down. I truly understand what you’re going through, and I want you to know that I’m here for you. I consider you a friend, and I’m always ready to listen whenever you need to talk. Just keep reaching out to us-we’re here for you. Take care of yourself. Love you! ❤❤
Aw, Francine, the wisdom with which you have been blessed is remarkable. And the fact that you choose to share that wisdom with us ... is such a great blessing. Cancer touches all of our lives, in one wat or another: with me, it was my precious mother. And it may be true that some shy away from those with a cancer diagnosis, to me they have a selfish personal protection ism, a regrettable character flaw. I love people, but i do not need a pseudo friend. --- You ARE loved, and greatly respected, Francine. We may be 'strangers'...but we are true friends you never met. 🎉
Francine, I also lost a lifetime friend. Our bond was extremely close. Always there for each other. A personal crisis occurred last July in my life. She stopped calling me in August. I'm a very private person, and I rarely let people into my heart. I believe my grief, immense pain, and my constant sadness were too much of a burden to deal with. How much can a person deal with? Maybe she needed to set a boundaries with me. I miss her very much. Sending you much love. ❤🌻🦋
I think every relationship has it's own dynamics on what one partner can or can't deal with. I'm sorry that happened to you. She's probably sorry, too. 💕
Thank for your sharing. It is sad but it is true. It seems that we can who is your true friends under this condition. Sorry for my English is not good.
I just don't understand . I lost my sister , from cancer her birthday days is in two daysit broke my heart .. She has a site Carlenes Adventures ,I also lost touch with a childhood friend who died from cancer last year I was there ever day there after . People need people 💞 I don't know how we meet but I feel I know you forever 💞CANCER IS UGLY
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