Friendship Reset: Rebuilding My Relationship With My Ex Best Friend | E2  

Wunmi, I know it’s hard because I struggle with it too but please Learn to let people complete their thoughts. It’s especially important in a conversation like this.

I can only imagine how difficult Wunmi’s jealousy would have been for Rebecca to navigate through. It’s so horrible when you’re doing well and you can feel a shift in your friend towards you, don’t want to celebrate you and act as though they can’t see how well you’re doing. That can cause scarring for life! But it was good to see Wunmi own up to that as many women just don’t want to admit things like that and will just gaslight you into thinking nothing is wrong. I commend them for coming back together though. The conversation was a breathe of fresh air ❤

I think I understand Rebecca... It's like always being the chill friend, so when you need your friends to support you and stand up for you, nobody comes through because they're too used to you just doing you and not needing much from no one. I think our personalities are similar... we just distance ourselves if we think someone is not at our level of values in friendship. If that's the case, I definitely relate to her...

I truly pray God heals your friendship and restores what was lost! These conversations are so necessary because friendship breakup are so painful!

Love how Rebecca doesn't cut her off and takes her time before speaking because she does not want to say something she will regret later. A very intelligent woman. It was nice hearing a little bit of both perspectives. I do believe they each had different needs in their friendships that the other one could not fulfill. A lot of us have to remember that nobody is a mind reader, if you want your friend to be there for you you need to let them know clearly. Most of the arguments that happen even in marriages are caused by one or the other expecting their partner to be a mind reader. at least if you voice your need and that person is not able to be present then you can make a decision. Let's be realistic.

Body language speaks a 1000 words......you can tell the lady in yellow (Rebbeca) has definitely found her inner peace and her tribe....

I don’t think Rebecca want this friendship anymore. Understand!

Rebecca you are a class act. Enough has been said, you gave her her ponderosa, keep thriving. No looking back❤

I feel like you were speaking for her a lot of the time like you can tell she is holding back still

How I wish I could have such a sit down with my ex-bestie and just talk things out. Till this day my heart aches when I think I've lost my soulmate, after her friendships have never been anything that can match ours, the balance the fun, the craziness all of it from just one person. One say some day I do pray we'll also have such and organic conversation. I so relate to both your personalities and experiences only female friendsships have such vibes 🤭beautiful episode.

What I need to know is who approached the other first to fix the friendship .

Rebecca comes across so grown and a genuine nice person. As a male and first time watching with bias I think Wunmi still needs healing and growth and she seems like the problem and needed this for her own self gratification. Miss R just over it and that’s ok but she knows in her heart that she has been somewhat pour. Wunmi needs to explore who she is and just humble herself a tad.

So proud of my girlies - this was a beautiful & transparent conversation!

You can tell Rebecca was definitely holding back. But can you blame her? There were some shady remarks

this video came right on time! Im also in a friendship where we grew up together but since uni started (we’re even flatmates) everything’s changed and we’ve distanced. talks are very important and i hope one day the air can be cleared.🙏🏾thanks for this video.

Loved the transparency ❤️❤️ I wish your friendship the very best

Rebecca seems super understanding and comes across as patient as kind

Listening to this conversation was healing in so many ways

My constructive feedback after watching this, 😂😂. I see the love you two have for each. However, you both need to listen to each other more. Wunmi you need to listen more and before you brush over any feelings becca express in a conversation, asked your friend this question "are we getting mad over feelins together?, how do you feel about this? how do we need me to be there for you?. And becca you need to speak up more when you need your friend. It's show that you are always ready to listen and give good advice to your friends.but when it comes to your own situation, you don't talk much and expect your friend to get you even without saying much, and you are always afraid to be misunderstood when you express your feelings.. love the place you both are right now ❤️❤️. Talk to each instead of the middle friend "tummy"

Wunmi, I feel like you spoke over Rebecca a lot, you interrupted her and couldn't let her finish her thoughts.

Don’t know how I stumbled across this page or why I watched the long video but it was a great watch. Their connection after all these years is undeniable I hope they continue to keep their relationship healthy and growing for the better.

It seemed like it was gonna break down no matter what because the relationship was intense and they had expectations of each other. A healthy relationship shouldn't have expectations but obviously you lot were young and honestly just growing up

theyre so cute i love this rekindling and honest conversation!

Like a lot of people I felt like i could only hear Wunmi speaking most of the time.

Yes Rebecca, love the designs❤you go girl!

Wunmis energy is absolutely not good. Heal!

Great conversation🥺 & Wunmi those biceps wow🤯

Love this ! so real and needed xxxx

Rebecca seems passive and is resentful because of it. Wunmi is or was jealous of her friend’s past successes and privileges. And may have minimised her friends needs. They both need to be honest, and admit to their emotions. “I was angry” “ I was annoyed” “I was jealous” just be honest…to many instances where they were circumventing their true emotions. It appears Wunmi probably couldn’t completely open up to her bestie because of the pedestal she put Rebecca on and self esteem issues. I may be wrong with this point but this what I perceive so far based on what they have presented.

Wunmi needs to work on her interviewing skills. She definitely does have a presence but we need to get to know the interviewee more. The interview did not have order at all!

Plumstead was a vibe 😂

Is there a link please for her business

Love this ladies ! ✨💕🙏

Love this

Big ups Wunmi 👏🏿👏🏿

Divine friendships, destiny helpers God is good ❤

aww they have matching tattoos

Is Rebecca Zambian?

a lot of people are attacking wunmi but I really sense some coldness from Rebecca and it's a bit unnerving

love your outfits! where are they from please ?

Wumi your podcast are great as a fellow fast talker I would say just slow down with your speech a bit. It will help people to understand you better and improve the flow of your interview. Think about all the people listening to your podcast for some English may not be there first language, they can still get the jist of your entire conversation if you speak slower

I applaud you ladies for having this conversation! So many of us wish we had this opportunity All the best to you ladies 🤍

It would be a healthy outcome if Rebecca actually had more space to express her true feelings, it looks like there's still a lot of holding back and unresolved issues/tension. There's no true healing if there's no honesty, and accountability. Wunmi, please learn to listen more not project what you are hearing but reflect and let it sink in. Your personality, perspective on things comes off overbearing, and draining. I had to learn that about myself, be considerate to others because I can be quite brutally honest, and strongly opinionated.

Me and my ex childhood best friend haven’t spoken in almost 2 years and I am no way ready to have this conversation with her. I applaud y’all fr.

Don’t know both parties: I just stumbled on this podcast but sheeesh: Wunmi speaks over Rebecca constantly. She isn’t given an opportunity to fully finishe or speak almost seems like she’s being brushed off. Nice concept though

I’m reading a few comments and wondering if we watched the same thing? Lol. This was a wonderful conversation and honestly has inspired me! This truly shows how organic introvert and extrovert friendships can be too and I identify with both of yall - I really respect the honesty and going through the phases of both age development/timelines too. The last part where you sang a bit of your song was SO cute - I literally felt the nostalgia! Rooting for you both 💗💗💗

I wish there was a meditator. I agree with Wunmi I think that it is hard for women to have hard conversations like this because we don't want to be mean but there's an expectation on us to be "morally" correct even in things that we cant control like emotions or thoughts. And we are all human and have bad thoughts or do things out of impulse. I'm happy you discussed this. However, because it is Wunmi's show and she's the host, I felt like she kind of led a bit too much. It felt as though she narrated her side as fact rather than offering Rebecca the benefit of the doubt. But I get when talking about your side, I get that it would feel as though it is fact. I wish there was less interruption and only say what you felt happened after the other person's finished their point. But i guess this is a real convo and in real life, we all interrupt each other lol. I think an outsider or someone you both feel is neutral and have a relationship with (if you prefer), would have allowed us to get a fairer insight into both sides without one comprising for the sake of peace. All in all, good show and talk !

I wish Rebecca would’ve been more real. She held back a lot.

Can I say this, as a typically chill person, it doesn’t make me morally superior to a talker. It’s typical for me to suppress my feelings, be non reactive but also we typically may not express our needs clearly expecting for others to read our minds. We aren’t superior to more expressive people who will tend to seek out their friends thoughts and sound the alarm and sometimes ring the alarm. Also can I say, if you aren’t vigilant, a lot of your personal stuff can be triggered when watching such a conversation. Be sure to be self reflective and maintain some curiosity when watching these two beautiful and talented young people. Both creative both successful in their own right. ❤ much love.

There was to many details they clearly aren’t ready to discuss. I was confused majority of the conversation. But I feel them cause it’s hard to put your business out there.

Yeah ngl this was a whole lot of wunmi talking and expressing how she feels and talking over the other girl. Definitely changed my perspective of her :/

I love Rebecca’s calm aura 🥺

…love seeing black women heal and love on each other. More of this!! Definitely feel like people in the comments voicing their opinions need to remember that they don’t know y’all personally. Anyways, sending love from Bermuda 🇧🇲

Forgive me but i'm just here to look at rebecca's beautiful face

Omg Rebecca the designer!!! I believe she had a sit down with Hanifa on her podcast.Wasn’t expecting this overlap.Excited to hear the wisdom, transparency, and the honesty you two bring to the table.

I get the feeling Wunmi is a bit jealous of Becky.

Love the growth but you can tell a Rebecca is still broken and guarded. Some moments were also catty for example Rebecca is so passionate about her business and those drawing as much as you may not have liked the faces they meant a lot to her. So I think there is still work to be done between you guys ❤

Both have difficult parents. People like to overthink things but you can see both have struggled with their parents and it always fucks the person up. My parents are difficult and it just does wierd things to your friendships. People that are "ambitious" when young are really just people who need to get money quick because their parents are controlling and won't let them do anything. You have to get a career and good money to be able to live freely, but to get that career you have to give up the friendships so your lonely. Parents can be terrible.

You guys tattoo🥺❤️

so basically she needed her bestfriend when rumours were going round and then it spoilt from there

I can REALLY relate to Rebecca here. Sending you both love. I hope you find the space to truly articulate how those things made you feel Rebecca.

Love this wunmi it’s different and the consept is A1! Usually conversions like this have a mediator but youre the interviewer and 2nd party in the discussion so it may come across as over-talking but you have to steer direction and paint a story for the viewer! This conversation was healthy and honestly, I think you drifted over time due to different directions and interests, which happens!

Awww Do you guys have matching tattoos?

I was literally thinking about my friendships yesterday and my friends from school. We haven’t spoken in a while, not even because we fell out or anything, but we just stopped talking. We live in the same area which makes it worse 😂. This is a sign to rekindle the friendship and reach out

I’m curious. What are your attachment styles?

You’re from ends Omds🥺

Rebecca has found a different type of peace ✨

Thank you for clarifying. I believe the comments are because an hour and 20 minutes of our time was spent watching this video and it did come across as one sided so thank you for clarifying that you guys are in a better place now. That’s really good to hear 😊

These pieces are luxurious 🥵💐

Going backwards on your channel… finding out more about you. This was beautiful, and inspiring. Really gives a meaning to the concept of PURPOSE in the midst of pain and struggle. You’re amazing x

I have barely started and I NEEDED this.

The interviewer does not listen, she is too preoccupied with her next question/statement and her own feelings. This is a very poor interview.

refreshing

The dream part is very real.God really does make you dream about the people who are not in your life anymore and it gets so hard to forget about them and move on.

I love this❤❤❤

Amazing Love this 🥺❤️

this was so wholesome, thank you guys x

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i enjoyed this, nice outfits...ladies look good. My only suggestion is to make the episodes 20-25 minutes long. I broke it down over several sittings to watch the entire episodes.

Looooool Wunmi why did you call her sketches ugly? 💀

Becky has always been chill 🤣 so proud of you guys for this and all youve accomplished 🤍 PMS to the worlddddddddd Tosin x