2021, my husband traveled on the subway 2 hours 1 way, EVERY day to get to me. Brooklyn to Harlem. And still maintained his job. In 4 months, it'll be 11 years. ;) He speaks facts. Loved, love, and will always love you Steve Harvey!
Number 1 made a great decision. He is looking for someone to marry. It would look pretty bad to know he was her second choice if they got engaged. Number 1 stuck with his principles and is not controlled by his sexual desire. She missed out on a great man with a funny personality.
My husband and I met online, and he lived in Kansas City and I in Dallas. The distance did not keep us from falling in love, getting married and having two beautiful babies. Distance doesnt matter if its "the one", get your butt to drivin lol.
Topside Hey , i wanted to share something here, Me and my wife r from 2 different countries, another culture another everything, we stayed in contact online 6 yrs with 1 or 2 times meet like holiday together every year in my country because she loves my country, after this 6 years ( 8 times met together in this years) we married, i gave my life up for her and i did let everything in my country, we r now together and we have a nice life If u find the one don’t lose him cuz maybe u don’t find him again
He shouldn't have returned in the first place then like Steve noted or shouldn't have opened with that silly statement. He only attempted to be polite towards the tail end of his remark.
I drove an hour and a half each way after work driving a gas sucking v8 to see my wife every night for 2 years tell we got married . You will do any thing for the one you love
I drove an hour and a half just to spend 30 minutes with someone I wanted just to turn around and drive back and I did that several days a week for a while till she absolutely stopped talking to me. My guess is she wasn't over her ex. Her loss though.
Lolll.. you must still be a child at least mentally. It is because we all know that he would be a second choice as it is being aired on TV that you make this silly statement.. When you go for a regular date with any woman, how do you know that she hasn't dated 14 other men before agreeing to go on a date with you? How do you know how many sexual partners she's had before meeting you? The truth is that at that moment you don't care because she is there for you as you are for her and both of you are willing to try it out.. Number 1's response was immature and unnecessarily egotistic. He probably doesn't want to return to friends that would forever tease him for settling for second position re-enforcing my opinion of him and those who support his response as quite immature.
@@emetdara2999 Don't you think it's a bit hypocritical to call someone immature because they don't want to be a backup plan? You don't know all of her previous people or who she's dating, that's the point. You can't be mad at what you don't know.
Ash Newby... EXACTLY!!....If you didn't want me the first time, then Why do you want me now?because the first date wasn't to your liking? You won't be treating me like a Rebound.
Marb Rob woman say that want a gentlemen... but that's not who they are choosing 9 out of 10 times... or there wouldn't be so many complaints that there are not nice guys available... also, she had a gentleman and she didnt seem that interested and seemed more interested in mister mysterious #1...
If number 1 didn't show up to this episode, he would have been called a coward. At least he showed up out of common courtesy to respectfully decline. It has nothing to do with defense mechanism Steve. He knows his worth. That's all. I support him 100%
Steve had to do that in order to make her feel better. He had to give her the opportunity to decline which is why even though he said he wasn't interested, he still asked her if she wanted another date with him.
But he did not respectfully decline. He was quite disrespectful. If he really wanted to show respect, he should have just declined coming back to the show period.
Personally in my assessment, I think she is more compatible with number 1. I won't say the number 1 was disrespectful by saying he is no longer interested. The truth is that he actually felt a strong connection with the lady. He was shocked to his spine when he wasn't taken by her. I've come to realize that most women can't accurate assess a man's attraction to them. I watched this video and I know for a fact that she would have been more compatible with numba 1.
I ll tell u why woman cant assess man's attraction towards them because they have their head up their assess so much they are blind to what is being offerred. Secondly, they also have a list of people in their minds. So they put u in some hierarchy in that list. To women like these they are just options and men hanging back around for em usually get their self-esteem lowered. Power of cookie i tell ya
Susan T let me chime in on this, dignity has nothing to do with pride first of all. Secondly if you read the bible Steve has it all backwards women doesn't choose the mate the man does. And for her to sit there and play like she got option then you will never be happy...
this interesting its not that he had pride what number 1 did was interesting. he said no and then wen the lady saw that she does not have much options she went for the guy from first date. i dont think she would went on second date if there was an option. she did not realy look like she wanted a second date.b
Sierra Jameson i know right he separated himself and she tried to clap back. have u seen the episode with the rich guys. the guy that could play guitar and had a wine selection was not chosen but instead it was the guy with a massive boat.
I don't think either of them were interested in the other, but to save face on tv they were being polite. She was about to pick #1, until he said what he did. She didn't want to be left n the cold so she said she'll go out again. Steve picked up on that too and wanted to say something, but offered her other options if their date didn't pan out.
my mom was my dad's 2nd choice & they've been married for over 35 yrs. Everyone's bashing the lady, but the 1st guy's pride (and ego) will keep him single. He most likely didn't have a connection w/her, cuz if he did he wouldn't care if he's her 2nd, 3rd, 4th, or 5th choice... if he likes her, he'll be happy to go out with her. Remember what Steve always says: "Men are hunters" so, no matter how many times your prey escapes you.. you keep chasing until u got her!
I'm on the floor when he said "he respectfully decline" 😂😂😂😂 steve hollering "then what you here for, done put the shirt back on" man when I tell u I about pissed on myself. 😂😂😂😂 man somebody come get me up off this here floor.
@Hakuna MatataYou could tell that relationship ain't gonna last long. The driving won't be the only thing he'll be complaining about. Look at his outfit. Wearing jeans and sneakers with that nice suit jacket and shirt. Not saying he's broke but not someone that could her high maintenance self. I hate to sound like a hater but she looks like the old school "man pays for every meal" type of lady and I don't think dude is gonna be cool with that. Hope I'm wrong and wish them happiness ever after lol
@@JGoodie02 It wasn't a relationship. It was a date, and trying to get to know someone. I just think he said something, because Steve asked him a question. And that was the only con that came to his mind at the time.
What did she do ?! I def would have picked number 1! He seemed sweet, genuine and sincere . The good guy you can take home to mama! Number 3 was too cocky and wannabe
No this guy only wanted sex with her not family bond because she has kids who are still underage and has to take care of them and number 1 wants to just take her and go to so many countries and just have sex year round. The guy who she went out on a date was really comfortable with her kids and doesn't want her just for sex. But that's not cocky what your talking about that's call caring but number 1 was very cocky and like i said you can tell he doesn't care about the kids or want to be in a family all he wanted was to get he's groove on with her only. If i was there i would tell her to keep number 3 instead.
I understand why Steve gave her the option to pick the other guy just for the purposes of the show.... but I have to say that if this had been 2 women and a man, and the other woman said “I don’t wanna be anyone’s 2nd choice”, she would’ve had the whole audience applauding her so I understand what # 1 was saying. I wouldn’t wanna be somebody’s 2nd choice either. 🤷🏼♀️
Number 1 dude played his card too soon. Should've waited until she picked him and then say what he said. Cause it looked like the mom was ready to switch.
Hes probably not into wasting time. It would have burned her worse if he did that but he probably didn't care enough for revenge or isn't the revenge seeking type.
@@mitty2575 valid point. Maybe he's a little petty. Or maybe he didn't know the reason he was there such as he wasn't informed beforehand that they would offer her a chance to go back to him after her date with the guy she chose didn't work out.
True, but he's always put together. Also, jealously, I can tell you white dudes don't look as good in brown suits, and has a pretty good collection of those.
I've heard Steve say he traveled 1,400 miles when he and Margie were dating, so I know this guy's "100 miles is too far to travel" excuse didn't hold water with Steve.
Is he crazy one hour is not that far. My man and I are 2.5 hours apart and we have been together for over a year. He does most of the driving because that is what he wants to do. So if you find a good one, don't let distance be the only reason you won't date him/her.
Nah, dude said 1 hour with no traffic. Most guys that can get a woman close to them aren't going to be in a committed relationship with someone that lives that far away. May as well just date someone closer that you can see regularly without having to travel that far.
We'll that's when you know he has women tell him to be more confident and so here he is doing that. Now i don't know what kind of confident females want cause that kinda of confident i think fits for that word is a nice guy figure not a bad boy type who only cares about what's in your pants and not your life. I don't know girls are so confusing has to what they want and don't want. cause when confident or bad boys do come up to them they are like hell no yet when a guy who would treat you right and be able to be on equal terms they don't even go for them either cause then those nice boys has no skills or at least half skills in bed. But again females are just crazy i say a good tip for any man is just look at their dads instead cause that's how they get their boyfriends if they are like there fathers.
Right? She was gonna jump on that opportunity. Dude said, "nah, you chose what you chose so good luck to you." And then walked away. He wasn't rude or anything about it so I don't know why Steve had to act like he did, especially since she was a good sport about it.
y'all are so darn insecure. what in the hell. it's not like they were dating for a long time and she pushed him aside to then want to pick him up again. it's the equivalent to a Dan dating game show. don't be telling me y'all never just dated women and then maybe one was more compatible than another. that's why it's DATING, not a relationship yet. jeesh. y'all are sounding like fools just like "1" did about being second option. he got butt hurt and was insecure about not being chosen the first time on a dating competition he knowingly signed up for and then decided to make himself look like a fool by coming back on and disrespecting the lady on air cuz his little boy feelings got hurt. by the way, that goes both ways. if it were a woman doing the same thing, she wouldn't have gotten clapped for it. #growup
Agree with you. My husband use to cross a bridge to come to my house and i lived one hour away. Never did I hear him complaining. I was worth it to him. She needs to run. He is selfish and doesn’t want to but in any work on the relationship that’s why his other relationships didn’t last because all he did was think about himself. Eventually if a woman sees you care about her she will drive up there for him as well. But right now he complained about something so little. This woman needs to run.
Low Key diss in her response, it sounded practically like, since the midnight train to Gorgia has left, ill go out with him again. He's a nice guy... XD
Chiara - Culture With Coco exactly. So her first Choice now became her Second choice by default. If I was sitting beside her I would respectfully decline also, she don't want me. I got pride too
That man who declined made the RIGHT decision!! Steve swung and missed on this one. That man would've only been 'leftovers' for that woman, second fiddle, second choice, and who the heck wants to be that?? Was he supposed to be excited just because she wasn't really feelin' the first guy? If I'm not your FIRST choice, then FORGET IT, and FORGET YOU!! He did the right thing by walking away.
although all the guys and girls coming to steve's show are for sure desperate to the bottom and I pity them but for the first time liked this guy no#1 having atleast some self respect. kudos. hats off
She lost interest in the 1 she went out w/ anyways. When someone says "I wouldn't mind" going out again w/ such and such...I'd take that as not having much interest. Like I wouldn't mind taking the trash out, but its not something I'd like to do, it just needs to be done
Number 1 sis the right thing. If you do not respect yourself enough to not be a Backup Plan then no one else will respect you either. Always respect the decision but if you made it you gotta live with it.
No they are right 1 is full of pride he may also have jealousy & possession issues. What if they were a great match & their love story was that she picked another man for a first date, but they met, the first one was a dud & the rest is history. It's not like in the first opportunity she declined him disrespectfully or made negative incorrect statements about his character. It's not like she dated #3 on several dates, or that they were together then she changed her mind & contacted #1. Nor is it a situation where she has had hours & hours of chats with #1, but declined & chose #3 for a 'meeting'.With all his pride, she dodged a bullet. Steve is right too, defense mechanism as well.
An hour away is a problem? I'm from The Netherlands and my better half is from Sri Lanka. We lived 10.000 km / 6,000 miles away from each other while being in a relationship together, not knowing it would even take close to 8 years before my wife's documents were in place for us to be able to get married. God gave us true love for each other and the patience/persistence to not give up, although it has been tough at moments, especially if you have no idea if/when you will finally be (really) together. In the end, we got there. We married in 2015, now 7 years ago, and since then God has blessed us with 3 beautiful children. Don't worry about a little distance.... a (good) woman is more precious than rubies!
wait wait did i hear number 1 correctly?? mmmm ego is mixed with pride and will always shoot you in the foot...glad she didn't go out with number 1 ...growth is important and to have someone say something like that speaks volumes to his thinking...he just might be a nice person but smh life is too short to lead with ego/pride and it will never work in your favor to get what u want with that kind of energy put in the universe..this woman was very classy in her response though...glad she didn't react negatively cause it isn't worth it...
Adorée #thelifeofaperformer you said a lot to amount to nothin my friend. He has pride in his self worth nothing more. As you heard from her “ that’s the mans job” bs he dodged a huge bullet. She is not worthy
A real man sticks with his dignity and integrity for its priceless. Number 1 is truly a number one for a real woman who is truly looking for commitment. I salute number 1, He is a real man refusing to be a second choice. You will be surprised he would have gotten applications from women watching the show.
nr 1 might lose out. It's not always you realise who the big love is at first sight. Not like she had much to go on. It's pretty much a coin toss. I don't believe much in pride though, has to be said.
i have to respect no 1... steve make him look bad there... but if its were me, i just cant accept being second choice... its like " well, first choice is gone, second choice will have to do''.
I wish Steve would fix me up. I have ALL that a good man is seeking. I didn't always have "it". However, with growth and mental maturity; I am now SURE of what I have to offer at 32yo. (No kids, great career and love Jesus)
2 Hour Drew is not the one, I can tell from his body language! More I see this woman, the more I realise war a great catch she is! Daughters are right, she deserves the best! Steve needs to up his man picking game!!🙏😎
I lived in Louisiana and my boyfriend at the time lived in Los Angeles California. He made time for me and asked me to marry him after three years. We have currently been married for 21 years and still going strong. If a man wants to invest in a relationship he will travel to the ends of the earth if he wants to be with you. Girl he’s just not into you, he’s complaining about 1 Hour Drive to see you. Don’t waste your time on him.
My husband lived in houston and I was from cabot Arkansas and I flew to meet him, i travelled because i wanted to see houston, and we married and have a daughter. I ended up moving to houston 3 months after our first meeting and got married. If you love someone distance ain't nothing
@@skylersilva6135 almost everyone who's in a relationship or has ever been married hasn't been someone's 1st choice. We've all dated likely multiple people who it didn't work out for 1 reason or another before we end up w/ whoever we're with now. Like it or not, if you're with someone now I can almost guarantee that you were not their 1st choice
I crazy part is ol boy was right to turn a date down wit her. She looked like "oh sht I could go out with him too?". That's who I think she wanted the first time. He just fukd up wit the telling her bout not being ready too soon.
NOPE if I was Drew I'd move on 2. Reasons 1. Getting to see each other IS NOT strictly on the man that commute has to be shared. 2. She didn't really give Drew the glaring review that the cat deserved. POF bruh keep it moving, I think she might be slightly selfish. IMO
She seemed surprised when number 1 refuses to be a second choice, obviously he has pride. I loved him more than number 3 actually and It looks like she doesn’t want a second date with him.
I really don't care about this whole dating stuff...being a married man for over 28 years...I just be checking out them suits my man Steve be wearing!! That Chocolate Suit is FIRE!!! I've been to about 10 men's stores and they are so hard to find!! Anyway, I digress.
