thank you so much, I am going to my first funeral in a few weeks for a close family member. and I had no idea how to act or what to say. this helped me a lot
Dear Andrea, First of all, I'm very sorry for your loss. Death is very hard and our emotions are all over the place. The most important thing is to remember to be respectful--in your dress, and your behavior, and be very understanding that people handle grief differently, so be flexible. I'm so glad this video helped you, and please keep me in your loop--I'm here to help. With deep sympathy, and warm regards, Heidi💕
Having very recently and suddenly lost my husband, the most thoughtful and sincere things people have said was " I don't know what to say" and "I am so sorry for your loss" that's it. Please don't say "they're in a much better place" or "they are finally at peace" "they aren't hurting anymore" that doesn't help our grief. And don't ask if they need something. Tell them. Tell them you are coming by on Tuesday and bringing lunch, will you be home?
Hello! I am so terribly sorry for your deep loss! How terrible, it must just be awful for you losing your husband suddenly. I am so sorry. Your comments are absolutely Spott, and they are coming from your broken heart. I hope many people read these comments and take note. Well said, thank you and I wish you much peace. God, love you, kind soul 💕💕💕🙏
Hello! You’re very welcome, and I hope it is some help. It’s such a tough subject, and if I can be of any help during someone’s time of loss and sorrow, please reach out to me directly. Warm regards, Heidi.💕
I'm shocked at how some visitations move so slowly due to to some people in front of you having "long" conversations with the family while 200 people are standing in line behind them...Very rude.
Hello! Thank you for watching, and leaving a terrific comment! You are right, even though your heart is broken, and you want to express your sympathies to the grieving family, try to find an appropriate time to, privately, share more lengthy condolences. Even in a time of grief, please be respectful of the other foreigners, and be brief with your comments with the family while waiting in a visitation line. As far as people waiting in the line, they too need to be respectful of different levels and manners in which people grieve. Please be understanding if someone seems to be speaking longer than expected to the family. Most importantly, is, this is an incredibly difficult time, but, please trry to be respectful. 🙏🙏
Hello! It’s nearly impossible to truly know how someone else feels when they have lost a loved one. Make it about them and their loss-we tend to sympathize and talk about our loss and how we felt. We’re all a bit guilty of this, with only the best intentions. However, what this does is make it all about us, and our feelings, and our loss, when we should just be present for this person who has just lost someone dear to them. Thank you so much for watching! At the end of the day, we all just want to express our love and condolences in the most respectful way possible.🙏🙏💕
Hello! First of all, I am deeply sorry for your loss. These are the most difficult times of our lives, and sometimes it’s hard to know what to do and what not to do. Regarding how long you should stay at a visitation, stay as long as it’s comfortable for you. Sometimes it’s nice if you can stay until the end when all the people have gone, other times you stay to help the other members of the family, and sometimes you need to to focus on your own grief. If you can, stay as long as you can, however if you feel you need to leave, for whatever reason, be sure you let the other members of the family know, they will understand, because everyone handles grief differently and in their own way. Thank you for watching, and I hope this is helpful. If I can be of more help to you please let me know. With deep sympathy, Heidi
Thank you! Thank you for your kind words and thank you for watching the video. I think you have so succinctly, said exactly what we need to say when talking to someone who has lost a loved one. Sometimes we go onto long, or we say inappropriate things, because we’re just really not sure what we should say. But simply saying, I am sorry for your loss, And genuinely mean it, is the best sentiment you can express. Thank you very much, and I’m sorry if you have suffered a loss 🙏🙏
Hello Natalia! Thank you for watching, and thank you for the compliment! I hope this video was helpful, but I’m very sorry that you must have lost someone and needed to see the video. Sending you very best healing thoughts and best wishes. Warm regards, Heidi.💕🙏
The problem is that funerals have become so depressing that they defeat the purpose for which they were intended: helping the survivors cope with their loss. This is pointed out in The Funeral Critic, which also (albeit lightheartedly) points out how to have a better funeral.
Hello! Funerals are sad affairs, no matter how much you celebrate a life-it’s still lost. Celebrate with reverence and fondness and help each other manage through the loss. Thank you for your comments!💕🙏
Dear Ashley & Grant. First of all, thank you for watching and asking. Such a important question. Secondly, I’m very sorry for your loss that you are attending a visitation. When, deciding what to wear for a funeral visitation, one word should come to mind, and that word is respect. This is all about respecting the life that has been lost. So, you want to dress accordingly. Traditionally, dark colors are most appropriate, and something very modest. Something like a dark dress, pants, suit, some thing that covers up, it does not show a lot of skin. This is the time to be very modest and respectful. I’m sending my sympathies to you and wishing you all peace. I’d be so grateful if you can subscribe to the channel, and keep in touch and let me know what you decided to wear. warm regards, Heidi 💕🙏
I say, dress as well as you can afford to. I don’t believe a loved one wants you to go out and buy new clothes for yourself and your children, if you can’t afford to, and then not be able to pay your bills. Do not wear clothes with logos or sayings on it. If in dire straits, I think a clean pair of jeans, and a clean shirt, is better than not showing. Make sure to wipe your shoes as clean as you can get them. I feel if they are family, they probably know if you are struggling financially.
Thank you, Scott, attending a visitation is very hard, and luckily we have our etiquette skills to help us through. Thank you for your kind comment, Best regards, HEidi
