Gave Him Lobola Money To Marry Me - Ntando 

This lady deserved an interviewer with sympathy because this guy seems like he just wanted izindaba but showed no emotion at all. My heart goes to you beautiful woman of God ❤❤❤I’m happy to see you being a living testimony , may the Lord continue to pour His love on you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

To every black person who has undergone trauma as a child, baby work hard & take yourself to therapy. Relieve your childhood and heal yourselves. Take yourself to every place you wished as a child. Because we make the mistake of looking for healing in other broken people , and re-traumatize the child & adult in us. All the best to this beautiful lady

This lady’s story is so important for parents to hear! It was tough growing up with ignorant parents. The interviewer must sharpen his skills. Why would you lough, and giggle like that? I am sending this lady so much love and healing! ❤️❤️

Now I understand how Ntando got here, childhood trauma affects your self esteem in unimaginable ways. This broke my heart💔

Childhood trauma is actually dangerous because it changes how you perceive yourself. It allowed other people to warp her perception of herself and make her feel ugly. She's a beautiful woman who didn't have a place to belong and from what I hear never felt at home with anyone. I can't blame her because as humans we all desire companionship and human company.

Thank You Justify and Thank y'all for watching. Thank you for your kindness and beautiful words 🫂❤️😭

I said this on TikTok already but I’ll say it again here. To all spiritual women, whether you’re a prophetess or just are in tune with God and yourself in that regard please be aware that we get targeted in areas that are blind spots especially if there is a yearning. I’m a prophetess myself and have experienced this spiritual blinding many times due to the wrong relationships (not just romantic, it’s friendships and family too) When she said she usually sees everything before it happens but failed to see this, it’s really because her trauma left a void that created a blind spot because she placed the wrong person in that void. My sisters please please please ask for discernment when it comes to any relationship and don’t fight when the answer is a no just because you like the person or you think you can change them. A spiritual blockage is no joke, you will be done the worst things to so that you lose your faith and never find your way back or use your gift ever again.

I just want to hug Ntando. She did not deserve any of this. What a beautiful, actual exquisite, and is clearly despite her pain, is so internally beautiful. I am so glad you are alive to tell the tale. You got this.

I’m so sorry for what you went through. Ladies never pay for your own lobola.

never tell a man your past .just focus on the present..coz uzohlekisa ngawe

Her story must be a TV drama or some sort of a movie for an awareness to other people out there not to fall in such traps.Both genders must not ignore red flags 🚩 in the relationships.This is the most painful story 🥺She’s an Angel..she deserves more Love ❤️

I love how this interviewer gives this lady a chance to talk, very rare these days

Wanting to belong is a very dangerous thing... Ntando had a childhood wond 😭😭

She's strong after everything that happened to her she's still beautiful n u cab see she's a very kind n polite person ❤❤❤❤❤

To anyone who can come across this message who is near this lady please tell her God loves her.her story is so touching the world is praying for your restoration darling ❤❤

'God loves you' This is very powerful. This guy may not show any sense of emotions to Ntando but what I learned is he showed them spiritually. those words don't just come out of any person's words. Ntando my sister you are very brave and one thing I can say those tears you gave on this podcast showed that you did not lose anything but gained a lot out of your experience. I will repeat in bold that *GOD LOVE YOU*

I have never been so charmed by an older person like this.... She's really beautiful 🥺

I just don't understand, why would someone treat another person like this. Someone who loves him dearly, someone who has given him nothing but love and had gone all out for him. This guy is so unfair. Using the word unfair to him is such an understatement, he has done so much to hurt this woman. That guy knows in his heart that this woman did not deserve all the treatment he gave her. This is such a wonderful woman with a wonderful character. Decent men would love to have a woman of such character as their lifetime partner. All that this guy did is spit in the face of such goodness. Life at times is really wicked and unfair. All that I can say to Ntando is that life was also unfair to Job. Job never understood the unfair difficulties he went through. In all of that, difficult as it was, Job kept his hope in God, to see him through. I pray that despite the difficulties you are going through, I plead with you not to remove God as your hope. In the same manner that God eventually came through for Job, may He come through for you in Jesus name. May God return double fold all that the enemy, the devil has taken away from you.

My ladies we need to start loving and treating ourselves better. Before we love and treat other people better. No one will love, respect or treat us better if we don't value ourselves. Give Love to yourself my beautiful darling.

Facebook brought me here.... This is so sad😢😢😢😢💔💔💔

The only thing I can say after watching this is, fathers lets love our daughters, they will never feel alone and they will never experience what sis Ntando experienced. I am so sorry sis Ntando, you are so beautiful.

I am 48 never been married ndi grand bafethu I know God loves.

I just hate men that makes women cry😢 such a wonderful,humble soul you have my lady...never lose hope God loves you. His time is also coming You will always be in my prayers

Oh Thixo such a beautiful lady to endure so much pain yhoooooo, but God will come and heal your heart,you deserve better and that better is approaching...❤❤

TikTok brought me here ke sana😭

I’ve never wanted to hug and love on stranger like I do with lo sisi. This story hurts wow! sending her love, strength, courage and best wishes for her future.

That " God loves you" came at the right moment. " God loves you."

Yoh for the interview to laugh and say "yoh people are crazy". Kanti where's sympathy?

Sad part is, the other women think they are winning a prize but they are all being played by that man.

Ntando stop beating yourself up my sister, forgive yourself we all made mistakes. I pray that God shows up for you in a big with healing and prosperity. You are here today because God loves you beautiful woman.

Wow what a sad story... Ntando doesnt realise how beautiful she is. This woman is so beautiful so melow, soft and sweet. If I was a man and I saw her for the first time, Id make her my wife. So sorry for her that man took advantage of her😢 She just wanted someone to love her and to fill that void.

Ntando, what an amazing woman you are. I cried the entire interview; God truly loves you don't let life's experiences tell you otherwise. There's a reason you survived. Wishing you love, healing, and all your desires in abundance.

The interviewer kodwa could’ve had the conversation about the kidnapping and r*pe more sensitively. Saying things like “that’s crazy” is insensitive - there needs to be better journalistic skills

Ngaze ngamuthanda lo sisi, Everything she has been through. She doesn’t deserve. She has such a beautiful smile and her soul is sooo refreshing to witness even for a person that doesn’t know her personally. The fact that she could move away from everything and pick herself up, is a true reflection that her life story is a testimony of good faith and her situations aren’t gonna be her downfall, not before she serves her God given assessments… She’s such an amazing individual

You are destined for greatness sis wam, God is doing a new thing, you can only go upward from here,,,,,I love you ❤

Oh mntase, your story is so touching and very sad. You have been through a lot. You are not responsible for anyone's actions towards you, but your own actions. Am glad you are speaking out, it's the beginning of your healing journey. I'm glad you're looking back in hindsight and acknowledging your mistakes. Please, never doubt God's love for you. There is nothing that can ever separate you from God's love. Remain planted in Christ. Sending you hugs and love...❤💖💞

This presenter...haai, he is not good to handle emotional and sensitive interviews like this. The was a point where he laughed when the lady explained how the rapist took her forcefully with a knife. Sis! She was seeking to be loved that's why she ended up paying lobalo for herself. I don't blame her. I'm sorry for all that u went through girl and forward u go! Stay blessed ❤

Please spouses/partners never talk about all your traumas and mistakes- bad people use it against you

Sis Ntando, you are so beautiful daughter of the Most High...you going to beat this beast because your Father is a KING and owns a Castle and everything in it.

What a heart breaking story…. Thanks for opening up, your story has so many lessons. Child hood trauma, GBV, Scammers. May you heal Ntando. You will get your happy ending sana….

I'm 39 no kids and not married. God knows I'm not married he will ordain the man and the time I will get married. And I will never lobola myself, thank you. Women do this out of desperation

Now am understanding uNtando much more as she opens up about her past....God she deserves loves and happiness

You are pure in and out such a spiritual person by heart I like how humble you are walk tall and connect with the most high❤❤❤

Karma never misses the address mtase. You never build your life with someone’s tears and get away with it. God loves you and is not a fool. you are very pretty and hearing about your past you have built your self. You’re very strong, I admire you. ❤

Ntando your story is similar to mine. I have been through more or less the same. I went through the worst. But believe me Jesus saved my soul. Defeat and failure are things of the past. I like it because your best source is Jesus Christ. I wish I can know you in person. I'm a woman living in Joburg. I'm a professional and a Christian. May God locate you in his mercy

Yho Ntando 😞😭💔 As beautiful as you are cc. You really don't deserve this.

Women are brave👏.... My comment is based on the part where she decided to just go to North West out of nowhere 😅......I'm sorry for what she went through nonetheless.

Her voice is so mesmerising,she really should be a TV or radio host😍😘🥰😍Love & Light to you sis

this woman is so soft spoken but she is something special inside.u are strong as granite. God heal your emotional scars sisi.

It's amazing and shocking to hear such a beautiful lady thinking that she is not beautiful. It's important to have people around you who treat you with decency and respect, but sometime these are not always easy to find just like in her case. God bless you sis Ntando, and continue to love fully. God loves you indeed, wether you believe it or not but it is true.

Ntando Almighty God is watching you and those tears God open his hands you are healed in the name of Jesus be blessed 🙏🙏🙏

This is very painful to whole situation you look so happy and very strong. Life is complicated you are the child of God. I wish all the best 🙏🙏🙏

The society is putting so much pressure to us that we end up doing such thing because we want to belong .I'm so sorry cc that you went through so much in your life. may you heal and find happiness . never forget that you come first, never ever compromise urself no matter the situation.

As ladies we tend to be bob the builders and it rarely never ends well 😢

Thank you for sharing your Ntando. You are so brave for standing tall. For taking accountability of your part in the journey but more so for taking your power back. God loves you and this was Him protecting you and setting you apart. And yes, you are a very beautiful woman, never let anyone tell you anything else!! Stay blessed!! ❤

You are a strong women indeed and this will be a stepping stone cc You will look back and laugh Shine girl❤

Oh Shem Ntando I could feel the pain in your voice from this childhood story. You are a very strong woman

"what kind of women who pays lobolo 4 her self" the way u ask ur question brother

You are such a powerhouse Ntando, God has a big plan to prosper you , oh my God - your purpose here on earth is greater and bigger than you can comprehend. Let grace and be yours in abundance my sister. Thank you my brother for allowing Ntando to express herself

Although l have never suffered such upbringing- this lady deserves our respect and the interviewer equally conformed to the the emotional rollercoaster and experiences of this lady that provoked his past upbringing. Hats off to her and the young man eventually got it

Some men don't know what they want. They get a power woman, they can't handle her warmth. They dont know what they want.

Yho! this video will always uplift me when I'm down. This girl has seen it all shame.

She is beautiful Natural beauty and she's so humble.....i love her❤❤❤

I like the smile cc on ur face....be strong cc..we learn ngamamistake

Its so soothing to listen to someone shares their story without fear of judgment. So open, so honest, so detailed and owning their story. Sis Ntando you might not pick it up now but youve come far with your healing. May God show you mercy

😢this woman don’t deserve such may Allah bless her with a genuine love. Sometimes what us men do to women is not fair. 😢

Ntando you are so beautiful sisi, inside and outside. You've got a beautiful heart, infact you are such a beautiful soul. Please forgive and forget and move on with your life. Please put your trust in God and Please never look back. Just forgive yourself, pray to the Almighty because he loves you dearly although you might not see that right now, but you'll soon realize. Leave everything to the Almighty. You story touched me in a way that's difficult to describe, I'm sure many too. Keep it up girl, we love you.

Sending you lots of love, Ntando, and thanking you for sharing your story. You are actually opening eyes to some ladies out there. May God continue to heal you.❤

😢😢😢 I'm crying while watching this bcz we are many of us who went through lobuhlungu obakuvelela....😢😢😢😢 stay strong mama you are loved n umuhle

Weeeee Hai Sana Amadoda have Outdone themselves ke Apha! Yho.. & to think she was being kind & loving all along… his Karma is still being prepared I’m telling you… uxolo Ntando. You beautiful & deserving of all the good things in Life.. I Pray God Heals & restores😘

I hope this woman finds peace and a man will truly love her, and treat her like a queen she is.❤

Oh Lord give you your best man that you deserve, He's your healer and your savior ❤❤

U are soo beautiful Ntando.May God Heal ur inner child and restore u with a Husband that loves u more than u love him. Never let go of God's hand.He loves u❤

Ntando u are a perfect human being, you were just unlucky to meet the DEVIL himself, let YOUR ANGELS FIGHT FOR YOUR SADNESS. YOUR STORY PAINS ME, PLEASE BE STRONG YOU WILL BE ANSWERED,

Just a well-spoken queen. Beautiful, you got this....kero going Ntando....there's more to life🎉❤ your kids have you. You are attractive in and out!

My God the emotions 😢 I'm going thru, a touching story and I pray God heals u sisi coz there is so my power in tht. Thank u Sir for bringing this beautiful lady on, u have gained a new subbie❤

This is so touching! This manifest significantly in churches nowadays. It seems like most ladies in church are desperate for marriage. This serves as strong lessons to all of us.

Ncese, you went through a lot, sisi ukulunkulu uyoku khumbula ngelinye ilanga. Just thank God that he gave you the strength during that difficult time. Ngoba inhliziyo ibuye isi lahlekise. Time heals Ntando, you will be fine. I'm very proud of you that you're not ashamed of the past. Love you ❤🤗🫂

Ntando is so beautiful to listen to yazi. Such a beautiful storyteller. As much as she shared heartbreaking stories, she did it in such a graceful manner. I am in awe of her. Wishing her only the best in her life.

Ntando please have your own show, you are a good narrator,I enjoy this show, you make trauma disappear ❤

One of the best podcast I have ever watched. Thank you sis Ntando for sharing and being a voice for the voiceless. ❤

Yhoo Sis you went through a lot you didn't deserve all of that, thank God you came out alive and I pray God gives you strength.❤

Yoooh aii kuningi bakithi... The rape part just hit home and brought all bad memories. I hope she gets better and heal completely coz such traumas may last for a lifetime. 😭😭😭😭😩😢

Thank you for having the courage to tell this story. Many will learn from you. You're an amazing, brave, God protected woman. You deserve the best and you will only have the best in the name of the Father.

You are beautiful Ntando. You deserve the best. Thank you sharing your story.

Sending you so much love Ntando❤🩷🩵 You are worthy, deserving, and lovable.

Sis Ntando I love the fact that you are true believer and follower of God take that as a journey or path he wanted you to go through because I believe as you mention that you are prophet you can able to see things we cant see which the gift that God give you but he never allows you to see him meaning God wanted to test you just stay strong my dear and heal and you are Very Beautiful you are an angel my dear stay strong you have done and passed your test

so proud of Ntando.... sending her all of God's love, grace and many more blessings

That is a lessons to all ladies outside there don’t worry you will get a man will love you

"lets get down why u are here actually " after being told such painful story... is something...

Your childhood experiences play a significant role in shaping your adult personality/character, especially if you haven't taken the time to heal. If I had valued the institution of marriage, I might have made the same choices. The way I used to engage in relationships was a reflection of how little I valued myself. Thanks for sharing sisi sibanintsi but it's time to heal.

Oh MY GOSH!! I would love to hug you!! And I would like to tell you my story!! Ntando!! You will Heal!! You are a giant, it’s darkest before dawn!! Your day has come!! You are a strong human being!!you are alive and u were meant to experience all this hell!! You had to share this!!

You are beautiful Thando. You deserve the world!! Thank you for being such a gentleman Justice. Your closing statement drove me to tears,

You will rise better bigger and beautifuly evolve from this Sis,this is your foundation of a beautiful turning point of your life birthing a new version of your beautiful being that i see so much inside you.choose your goodness because it's all in you and not outside,let it come out and shine.im inspired by you and your resilience ❤❤❤.love you

Dear sister Ntando. God loves you without a doubt and whatever youve been through will not define you but make you stronger. Allow yourself time to heal, put God first and your blessings will more than double. Youre such a beautiful woman with a big heart and the best times in your life are ahead of you not behind. God bless you sister

The decision to go to a random place and deciding at the taxi rank was wild😂😂😂.

What a lovely lady, very lovable...hope she heals from all wounds of her past

What a touching video. Strength and Love to the Lady ❤

Thank you Ntando for sharing your story with us, may God Almighty heal you, and give you more wisdom to deal with it. You are so beautiful sisi.

your heart is pure...amazing phenomenal human being, eternal peace deep down the ambit of your soul had never left you and it never will, turn around and look within, you're never alone🙏