Scammed By TikTok Boyfriend - Avela 

She seems so sweet. That guy took advantage. Make him trend

You might find he is not even married,it was his way of getting out of the situation

My stinginess and lack of funds will always protect me from this

The problem is DESPERATION…

I’m just happy she’s alive and lived to tell the tale because what do you mean you sent a stranger from TikTok your location and hopped into a strangers car IN SOUTH AFRICA.. wuu

Fear alcohol and loneliness

I wish i had a decent uncle, this woman sounds like a good woman who just need a loyal partner. I wish God can send you the right partner. A partner that is gonna love you right. ❤❤

It's so sad how life really works. Good people always find themselves in the hands of wrong people.

The problem is alcohol lah , if you stop then you will make good choices sis you are good and kind hearted

She has a beautiful heart,unfortunately people this days take advantage of that.Im sorry sis,but I honestly admire ur braveness,U r opening our eyes aswel

My brokenness will never allow me to do this, I mean INDODA must haibo 😂😂

The only financially generous Xhosa hun I’ve ever seen.

He took you to Recharge for the 2nd time when u were SOBER and u still gave him card and pin😱 I'm happy he didn't ask u to get a loan for him because u would have agreed.

You can’t be soo generous for men who won’t even bother to lift a finger for you. These guys are NOT your boyfriends, abantu be strada.

Shame, such low self esteem, this is a deep seated problem. I pray she finds someone who will love her first who she is, not what she has!

Hai khona my sister you need to change, for your own sake. You're lucky to be alive after this incident.

At least they used protection

More than anything I need this lady to understand how dangerous her actions were. Giving a person you hardly know your numbers,address and bank details is just unsafe and waking up with no recollection of what happened is really just so dangerous. I hope she becomes a bit more cautious. She seems so caring

This lady needs help. Can we PLEASE get a life coach to help this woman! 😢PLEASE!

Never allow a man that doesnt pay your rent to come to your house ok.😊

If a guy ask me for R5 airtime I run for my life 😂😂😂 thank God im not drinking 😅

She lacks SELF LOVE. What a shame!

I feel sorry for her, but I also feel we should take accountability of our actions... We have to take ownership of our actions.

Don't sleep with a man who isn't your husband!

I know the feeling girl. Dating a jobless man. It's draining emotionally, financially and physically.

That's not a scam. You just didn't date him to know him better. He thought he was just doing a hook up, and you were eager to spend money on someone who didn't know, and he came back for more. Honestly, you are to be blamed here. Let's learn to love ourselves and take accountability for our actions.

Moral of the story, stay away from alcohol, specifically Gordons and Savannah😭😭😭

Fell sad for this lady 😢specially when she said maybe I’m desperate I don’t know “😢

Sisi the guy is a ritualist🤞how can you only remember a first round and the rest you remember nothing...now you're unemployed!!! The guy took away your luck, you need to cleans - at church or egqirheni mntasekhaya.

My young sister...you are beautiful and blessed. Do not allow men to toy with you. I know it's not easy to find a man who wants to stick around. But keep yourself safe and clean. There are a lot of men who prey on "allowing" women. Have standards and boundaries and dont be afraid to say No

Avela has long money, haibo!!! 😩 The red flags were there but she saw pink flags😭

Come on, how on earth can you be like this in SA in 2024 Allowing a stranger as a woman in your house on 1st day

I'm not judging neh, kodwa with so much human trafficking...this lady does not love herself shame, she does not know her worth she wants attention. I respect the fact that after she found out he has a wife she stayed away...I wish her happiness and peace in life

Amanye amajita awanawo amahloni, I do not think I can be able ukucela istranger imali kangaka.

Low self esteem plays a role in these matters 😢😢ai matters of the heart guys, it I was bad as it looks

Jah when she mentioned paying R26 transport for her ex man....my heart broke for her😢 not sure if it's low self-esteem or the yearning for love

Her problem is alcohol,not man.

These women are creating sassy men. Fuck, that’s why these men are out here expecting the most from us. Mama, stop your nonsense please!!! Umfazi doesn’t bheja. 🤢

This is the most bizzare story I've heard in a while. This lady is so irresponsible with her life and you guys want to shift the blame to the guy😢... Self love and accountability is important Sesi, and quit alcohol.

That man is a spirit harvester.He was sponging off your soul.all the asking of money and so so was the test to see if he succeeded 😢😢😢❤

I don't think is married he was running away bcz he owe u I'm sorry sister ur beatiful pls reduce alcohol bbe man will take advantage of u love urself sesi

He didn’t scam you ke kodwa because you would’ve continued giving him money if you had not found out he was married.👀

There's no job,no wife probably no childrens also.

The type of men I met are exactly that type that want to be fed by us women it's disgusting I relate with u 100%

I think you could have asked her about her relationship with her dad or if her dad is present in her life...would have been interesting to hear more about that. Thank you for a beautiful conversation, that is creating awareness on the type of men who are out there

Expose him so he doesnt scam others

Oh thank God I am stingy

I was feeling sorry for her till she said "ngiya betcha mina" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I will never look at Gordon's the same after watching this😭😭😂😂😂😂

My lady stop doing things for men, they will take advantage and not even feel sorry for you.

Avela dont beat yourself too much you have learned your lessons just dont repeat them again,heal and move on with your life,we all go through lessons in life in different ways,believe me other people have been through the most,others these things happen for years they even end up marrying themselves ending in divorce and depression sometime even death for love and not have a chance to come out and tell,just be grateful you still alive and you can work on yoursef.

The problem here is Alcohol, period. If you are unable to stop on your own, get help. The situations you get yourself into will only get worse as the depression from the outcomes of your behavior slowly seeps in. Its never too late to do better.it will only get worse please stop.

The interviewers side comments are dusting me : “wak’phinda futhi!“ 😂😂

Hayi Girls☹️. Mina the moment indoda starts to ask me to buy, I run away. Especially in the initial stage of relationship, is a red flag. For someone that we have been dating and build relationships I wouldn’t mind. Mogel she was too ignorant shame.

Stop alcoholism.

This women meet wrong men while we around.😭

That scammer is not married

You're not working? You gave a stranger your bank card and pin? Bought him alcohol? And gave him some cookie 🤔🙄😪

Yooooooo hai this is too much.... my safety comes first...

Sorry sesi, you are such a good person. You've been taken for a ride. Heal and move on, you'll not get your money back

Some of y'all are so judgemental hence people will forever be ashamed to share they're stories. Come on it's 2024 majority of women go through such in the name of wanting to be loved and appreciated. Pity we meet such man who are aware that we need them. Nevertheless as women let's refrain from excessive alcohol drinking. Love and light sesi🥺💔

"He never told me he is married" ma'am did you ask?

The strange thing ukuthi usistaz uyathetha....umxhosa. Hayi odadewenu will hit you wena. I thank God for the gift of stinginess and overthinking

Low self esteem, lack of love and affection from home, causes many underlying issues when you become an adult.

She needs to work on loving herself. It's strange that she allowed a stranger to her place like ayenzi sense Tu shame

Finally women r catching up with the reality that men r daily facing.

Ehhhh kante this is what's going on in the streets? Hmmm..... Kunzima mos I feel sorry for this sista 🥺

Therapy can also help to find out the root of the problem

The problem emhlabeni is to make sure you balance ukulunga kwakho. Truth is most people like this sister end up being taken advantage of. There are many people out there who are taking chances, be careful of who you entertain in your space and time.

Accountability is also important you can’t be drinking with strangers and inviting them to your home ..it’s important to build your self esteem as a woman it helps you in situation like this

Forget about that money nono you have learned the hardest way remember he knows where you work and stay

It's the second time I watch the interviewer and it surprises me that on both occasions he laughs when women have been violated.

But.... Im not judging, I'd genuinely like to understand how you find it okay to spend money on a man you JUST met?? Johhhhh my stingy ass would never return the minute you ask me to fetch MY alcohol haibo!!! tjerrrrrrr bring the alcohol in MY HOUSE FOR US TO DRINK??? Usile this guy mxm

Yoooh nuu askisi hle ukhuleke and nalesimo usikhulekise unkulunkulu uzakupha owakho u husband ozokuthanda okweciniso ungaphinde cc uphe abafana imali eyakho imali kumele isizekwakho sonomndeni wakho nendoda yakho ngiyazicelela okunye ungasaphuzi kakhulu mtase uzikalele or ubuyeke 😭😭❤️

That's why there's high rate of women being killed, kidnapped, trafficked.. you guys risk so much ngempilo zenu.... Thank you God for ukungabuphuzi utshwala that will save me from many things

Shocked. A stranger. Women need to be more careful.

This normally happens to rural girls when they get to cities/township's

Abantu besifazane ba-brake ke nono, mina le bravery andiyifuni. Sis is a blesser

I admire her honesty. I pray for her restoration mentally

Na shame she is too young, expects say that your brain only fully develops after 25 years. This is so sad and i hope she learnt her lesson. Bless her soul❤

She need a life coach bathong, this story time 😢

Hope she's getting help coz unfortunately, she had made herself a target for these men by telling the whole world her weaknesses.

So all they can discuss is this 6 issue? Instead of the risk she put herself in. This is how people go missing, kgnati they are murder and buried somewhere. What about safety????? Unless if they to talk about it because I haven't finished the podcast. As for the marriage part I think the guy was lying about being married , just a way of getting ride of her and on to the next

Sometimes the green flag can become a red flag. Cc you need to set some real boundaries in your life, build up your self esteem and assertiveness. Forgive yourself and love again. You're a great lady with a warm and loveable personality.

You seem so sweet and wholesome but you need to take accountability for your part as well. This seems routine for you and some internal work is needed.

Sthandwa sam the problem yi gordons😮 m sorry for what you went through...

Big up to you brother for being a responsible man❤

i love this girl, all the way from tiktok i've been following her

Tough lesson, but it’ll grow you ❤

Lokhe ngithi “Yoh”😮

Ay akazwe ngiyizwe into enje😮😮im just glad she is alive

Quite alcohol sisi ,i thank God i have never consumed alcohol emzimbheni wam and i will never am so proud of myself am approaching 40 , most people loose their dignity because of utywala 😢😢

Saw her when she was narrating her story on TikTok, she is hilarious 😂

Such honesty and openness. Stop beating yourself up. Love is a beautiful thing when it is true. We all yearn to be loved and feel appreciated in one way or the other. You need to be aware of your feelings and whether they are misdirected or not. Love and desperation are a remedy for disaster

Honey , you are a good and refreshing my fellow South African person that doesn’t expect any men to keep you. I think that you are at the moment deflated, and you need to pick yourself up and you will. There are good men around and alcohol is not a demon. ❤❤❤

You need to love yourself more🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾if awuzithandi abantu badlala ngawe. Ncese oe❤

Girl, go to small claims court. The court and justice will deal with him. Yes, the justice system is sometimes flawed but the small claims process always works like a charm!

Tell me one reason to trust a drinking woman, girlfriend or wife when it comes to LOYALTY and personal SAFETY?!!

Thank u for telling us your story sis this is the reality of our lives ,pls go for cleansing Nd know tht alcohol money Sex etc comes with different energies,

Hai bo!. I'm shocked. Avela seems like a good woman. I feel bad for her.