Gen Z is Obsessed With 'Confidence' 

I'm proud to say I'm mid now >:)

Ego is mistaken for confidence. Confidence simply means you believe in your ability to try. That's about it.

"Confidence is not a commodity. It's a process." Hit me hard. That's the big issue with these confidence mongers imo. They're trying to sell you something. I'm so tired of everyone trying to sell me something. It's the most isolating thing of all.

The need to project confidence is unironically a really insecure thing to do

“A crisis in kindness” is such a good way to describe some of the behavior you see online.

Confidence =/= Arrogance This is the thing most of those creators and such don't seem to grasp. Most people who do feel truly secure in themselves and their work don't feel a need to shove it in people's faces and assert their own "security".

As an autistic person I didn’t know we were supposed to be seeking approval and just assumed that everyone knew that they had value outside of how they are perceived. Thanks for exposing me to this new perspective

I really like the idea of confidence being the ability to move forward. I think it's hard when you're younger to separate your own identity from the way others see you. But as we age, most people gain confidence as they learn to understand and accept themselves more. It becomes easier to move forward, grow, and just give ourselves a break sometimes.

In the 1990's I had a roommate who was obsessed with self improvement with stacks of self help books, going on rants about recognizing opportunity and seizing the moment and how one day he will be among the top 1% blah blah blah. To me, I think these self help messages makes people more greedy, more selfish, more willing to stab others in the back for self gain or to get out of a jam.

confidence content is funny because it only increases this obsession of self. for some reason these people are always talking about blocking out the “haters”, essentially they make the world a them vs you hellscape when in reality I don’t think most average people even struggle with that. I think the more you obsess over yourself, the more insecure you become. To me, the most confident I was in my life was when I was a child. Careless, free, not bogged down by expectations yet or insecurities. And you know what? I also was the least concerned with myself. Probably looked at myself in the mirror once a day at most back then, I was mostly engaged in the present. This is the type of confidence I’d like to go back to, and this confidence came with letting go of my self. The more you tighten around your concept of self, the more you feel as if you are missing something. Whether you create a positive or negative self, it doesn’t matter, because there is no constant self, it’s always changing, either by your own perception or by other peoples. So clinging to any sense of solidity in identity is suffering.

It's difficult to find someone who would accept you for who you are and not based on how confident you look

21:39 crisis in kindness is truly something that i feel deeply from adolescence on. I think that recently i discovered a boost in my confidence in counteracting explicitly that. I'm a gentle person. I love to be a sweet man. I like flowers and to compare friends with birds.

I wrote in my journal a while back about how I was tired of seeing success stories. I want to hear about failure for once. I want to hear about small businesses that had to close down. People who never achieved their dreams. More of us live that way than not. Can we not share the wisdom of how to cope with the ordinary life. The disappointing life? Sad stories ending in happiness to be inspirational. How many sad stories just stay sad? Never getting better? At some point i started internalizing this idea that life was *about* success. That life was just a story centered around your own success. And all of the pain around it may be different from person to person but the end point was the same. And ,in my head, it was that failing to do anything inspirational or admirable with my life meant failing the very reason to be alive. I've been finding it hard to move forward recently.

paraphrasing alot of what was said especially at the end of the vid, I think we shouldn't strive to be "confident" but instead strive to be Genuine. Learning to accept yourself as you are and that you're imperfect i think will ultimately lead to a more authentic sense of confidence.

There seems to be a link between confidence and competition, and maybe there shouldn't be

One thing that helped me alot in regards to confidence was Dr. K's (healthygamergg) video on confidence and one of the key points that he discusses is what confidence actually is he states that everyone is born confident but as you grow and learn you develop insecurities through development which lead to lowered confidence. So in essence the less insecurities you have the more confident you can be. Confidence isn't gained, confidence is the absence of insecurity.

I feel like modern confidence is just borderline narcissism. it doesn't even solve the underlying insecurities people may have but tells people to 'get over it' and to 'stop feeling sorry for themselves'. true confidence is being devoid of insecurities and being kind and gentle. I always feel that the most confident people are the most humble. people that are truly confident don't need to be 'overly confident;' or let people know how 'confident' they are. they're just themselves and they're okay with it.

Confidence is something about “ can do “ mentality , you feel competent in yourself to overcome whatever life throws at you

Confidence is a great thing to have but most people confuse it for narcissism. Being a narcissist or egotistical is a bad thing. Having confidence is not. For example: I am confident I’m a good artist, but I don’t think I’m the best. That pushes me to become better instead of assuming I’m already the best.

I think most of modern society is based on the idea that you're better than (or have to be better than) someone else. Everything becomes really easy to understand when you think about things through that lens. Even race stands as the constant reminder that you're better than *someone* (for those who aren't Black at least, and even then there are intersections to consider), and so if you have nothing left to stand on, you can fall back on that.

Think that one of the main reasons most confidence content doesn’t work is that it doesn’t focus on the right problems. Most of them focus on quick solutions like changing your body language and conversation starters. They’ll tell you to fix your posture and to stop crossing your arms and sure, that makes you “appear” more confident but all it really does is give you another thing to be insecure about, reenforcing the idea that confidence comes from how people see you. Confidence content ignores that fact that so much of the reasons why we’re insecure is because of trauma and the constant societal pressure to preform and be put together. And instead of recognizing that and teaching you to unlearn those standards they convince you it’s a you problem, that there’s an easy solution, when there really isn’t.

Here goes a comment for the algorithm because this video is important! Also: Personally, I'd define confidence as the qualities of being self-assured and in harmony/balance with yourself enough that you are neither ashamed of yourself nor super stuck up and conceited. And it gives you the ability to be open-minded to learning new things, to trying new things, to make mistakes along the way and not feel like those mistakes weigh on you so much that it makes you tumble to the (metaphorical) ground and too afraid to get up and try again. And it makes you feel like trying for something isn't inherently a lost cause. And again, even if you don't (immediately) succeeed - if you are confident, if you are self-assured, if you are in equilibrium with yourself - that is okay and doesn't immediately make you feel like you as a person are a failure/worthless. Confidence is feeling capable of navigating your life through both easy and difficult situations and not feel easily defeated by being wrong, making mistakes, being rejected or similar difficulties BUT also open to learning new stuff and being corrected. It's having the humility to consider/know yourself to be imperfect without that imperfection being a cause for you to consider yourself a failure/worthless or alternatively above having to educate yourself or being corrected. So yeah... Confidence: Being in equilibrium and at peace with yourself.

i love the wizard Liz. She has helped me ake accountability. She actually is vdry inspiring

“We eat. We poop.” - Elliot Sang, 2023

for me, confidence was not something I got from doing something someone else told me. It was mainly just realizing that im the main character in my life, but not everybody else’s and for the most people, people aren’t going to pay attention or think about what i do or how i look. and for some reason that rly comforted me and helped me be more outwardly me!

"to me, more than a crisis of confidence there's also a crisis in kindness" Truer words have never been said

Elliot and Annamarie crossover made my squishy brain feel some dopamine

Great video! And I wanted to add that as an Old (37), that sense of loneliness and social anxiety and isolation existed before social media or the Internet. As a super awkward kid, I loved the Internet. I loved AIM and chatrooms and forums. I could be anyone, any age, any confidence level. But more than anything, I could be eloquent in a way I never was in person. I don't want to romanticize Web 1.0, it was experimental and dangerous in many ways, but there was a wonder to it, too, for those of us who weren't popular or charismatic in meat space. Now we could find friends outside of our zip code who shared our interests. But it was always meant to be supplementary. Completely replacing your social life with online interactions was a recipe for disaster then just as it is now. I can only think of two real differences between then and now and they are that now we have smartphones/Internet with us constantly and back then we didn't know how or couldn't to monetize oneself online. The problems aren't new, but the way we approach them as a species has evolved. For better or worse, that's up to you.

Tay’s segment in “in the meaning of confidence” made me cry. I’m not a doomer but I definitely lived with a foreshortened future due to trauma. A lot of my loved gen z’s are doomers, and it’s so hard to see them without hope. Tay articulated their point so beautifully, it helped me have confidence in speaking to hope a little more. To me, confidence comes from a trust, faith, and preparedness. The only way you can be steadfast in something is knowing you have the tools or the know how to get through something, even unknowns. Thanks for the video.

“Unless it is Rihanna, Rihanna can’t sing” 😂 Love Foreign❤

Thing is confidence is something that you’ll have to earn.. by actually going “out” of your comfort zone.

i'm so at peace to see another person verbalizing and recognizing problems that truly matter in the modern world. thank you for being such an awesome human :')

As a person who’s really struggling rn and going through social anxiety, thank you for talking about such difficult topics! This made me realize my experience isn’t necessarily unique (in the best way)

Loved the auto tune comparison to humanity as well. Such a good discussion.

Absolutely loved this video. It touched upon so much of the human condition and honestly gave me plenty of food for thought for all the things I do feel anxious and insecure about. Confidence in the mainstream sense has always felt elusive but I guess I understand it.. and myself a bit better after watching this. I feel incredibly grateful that you and everyone else who joined you in this made this. Thank you, truly!

This is officially one of the best video essays I've ever watched in my entire life. I am a person that does watch thewizardliz and uses her as my inspiration and I also watch loads of videos on"how to be confident", "how to become the best version of yourself", but I found this video an extremely important other point of view and definitely something that I'll keep in mind in this process of growing that we call life. It was so crazy that something I'd been craving for so long was also something I didn't even know the meaning of. It was very educative to view so many opinions in here. I really thank you all for your amazing and respectful discussion, it'll definitely help me a lot!

I love, love, LOVE this video. A lot of my anxiety is rooted in my lack of confidence - I'm scared of other people and what they'll think/do if I don't meet their standards. I've realized that my confidence depended a lot on and was limited by what other people thought of me, but I'm slowly working on sourcing that confidence from myself. I know that I'm smart and all of these amazing things - I can see that in myself and that should be enough for me. I'm working on prioritizing my own validation over others (in a healthy way, of course). This video opened up even more ideas for me to explore when it comes to regaining my confidence... thank you so much!

Because confidence sounds like the abracadabra of life, the medicine to all your problems(well, most)...if your were confident you could've talked to that girl/guy. If you were confident you would have done well in that interview, if you were confident you wouldn't care what people thought of you, if you were confident you wouldn't live in constant fear of what other people thought of you. I feel like people want confidence for different reasons, but at the end of the day, it's all really the same to patch up whatever insecurity they have.

I'm a pretty woman somewhat overweight and I also happen to hate having my photos taken for reasons completely unrelated to how I look, I'm simply the one who likes to e behind the lense. My Instagram is filled with photos of landscapes and cats and very little photos of myself (all of them faceless for privacy reasons) and so many people ask if it's because I'm not confident or don't like my looks. Nope, I'm just a little awkward and dislike having my face out there. This obsession with confidence comes off as an excrutiating lack of confidence.

I feel like most people who say they like confident people, just are saying they like people who are extroverted or loud... but I don't think being an introvert makes someone less confident. It's just a matter of how much socializing one actually enjoys, but otherwise has nothing to do with confidence. I know a lot of people who are introverts who are also verbally loud and seem very gregarious, and vice versa I know people like myself who are extroverts that love socializing but are verbally quiet and enjoy staying home. But the matter of confidence, I think is something that nobody else can really judge because it's an inner feeling that only you can feel for yourself. You can say you're the best person in the world, and maybe not truly believe it, or you can say you're terrible at something even if you know you're good (humble brag). I'm looking at you artists who always say you're awful, when you 100% know you have way above average skills. I know because I used to do it, when in reality I was confident in my artistic ability but just wanted to sound humble towards others who compliment me and soften any potential rejection (I attribute this more to things like adhd overthinking and anxiety than actual inner confidence). It is not a good habit to keep, though, because it discourages future potential artists if you as the veteran artist tell a newbie artist that your art (which that person looks up to), is not good enough, and that person who is still developing may start to feel that about themselves too, even if you actually don't believe that your art is bad. That's why I stopped doing it. The same applies to other things too, such as putting yourself down to make another person feel better (which doesn't, especially if THEY believe that you're better than them, it makes them feel even worse). As a woman that happens ALL the time with women saying they don't like something about their appearance, when you think they're very beautiful, maybe even more so than yourself, and that can result in lowered confidence in yourself if you know that they are considered by society to be more beautiful than yourself, especially if you are not familiar with that woman, if you don't know if she could have self image issues that only apply to herself, or if she knows she's beautiful and is just humble-bragging and maybe even thinks you're ugly. People should be more cautious about how their words can affect others especially in public spaces where nobody knows each other or their tendencies and habits, they don't know how exactly to interpret their words.

Incredibly insightful video Elliot! 10/10 for this deconstruction of "confidence" in the context of capitalism and patriarchal masculinity. Hell even some philosophy and ontology too. Like you said, addressing the issue of a lack of confidence means, tautologically, just that-addressing that sense of lack in the first place. And in order to identify why so many of us have insecurities and self-doubt, like you demonstrated, it's important to look beyond the individual into the inequalities inherent in our society. In our modern digital age, we're oversaturated with "junk data", wherein the cream of the crop floats to the top of the algorithm and becomes the new standard for us to compare ourselves to. Comparison is the thief of joy as they say, because comparisons essentially play out in two ways: superiority or inferiority. These comparisons are how we base our sense of self (ego). The reason you lack confidence is because you learned somewhere along the way that you couldn't successfully do something, usually from a direct experience involving failure. Then you see others do it and compare yourself, identifying with your failure/lack of capability and carry that shame with you. Ultimately, not letting negative experiences and comparisons define you is the road to eliminating the shadow of insecurity and allowing your natural confidence shine. It's not something you have to gain, it's already inside you. Just like the realization that happiness is inside you too, and you don't have to be anyone or anything else to achieve it. Work through your setbacks so you can get back (on track). Just subscribed to everyone involved and their incredibly sharp thoughts!

"touch grass" does not count if its some grass in a pot on your window

It may not _sound_ like it but Thom Yorke can definitely sing 🤣

I guess I am pretty confident. I'm good at what I do, and I have the ability to recognise areas where I should delegate to others. I also don't feel any need for anyone to like me personally, as I realise that trying to change for the approval of others would be unfulfilling. I guess it ties into a sort of philosophical functionalism; I tend to analyse things, including thought and belief, as means of achieving certain goals, and reject ideas of essential nature.

Imagine being Thom Yorke on an insecure day, watching this video, starting to feel better about yourself and then BOOM! 27:03 Sad times.

confidence is peace of heart and spirit what you those guys are after is control and power

"Confidence is not a lack of weakness, it's a radical acceptance of everything about yourself" Confident people ask for help when they need it, recognizing their weaknesses and flaws. Confident people feel shame when they've done something worthy of shame, but they listen to that feeling and then adapt their behaviour. Confidence isn't about being perfect, being the best at everything; it's about accurately assessing yourself, knowing your strengths and your weaknesses.. and accepting it all.

That last sentence really summed it up :’) confidence is to be okay with being mid

Discovering your channel has been one of the best things ever! I really enjoy how you don't just tackle real life issues with only research and theory but include real people with real problems and experiences in their lives. In a world that is seems to only show the extraordinary outliers it is assuring to see people talking about being confident and less insecure in just being. Because often times the fear of just being is what drives to debilitating anxiety. It is so refreshing. Your videos always come out with the exact topic that I am struggling in my personal life.

I love that you drew separate conclusions from your different conversations that were all so insightful. That seemed very thoughtful and appreciative.

The concept of confidence from the inside really doesn't make sense to me. Confidence for me is a product of past success, and that is almost always an external feedback. If I land a small jump on my bike I can slowly build confidence to hit bigger jumps. I'm confident at work because I can look back on my last 10 years of success in my career. I'm not confident in dating because of years of rejection and getting nowhere. I have no reason to be confident here.

Confidence isn't an infinite resource pool and it sucks that when it inevitably runs low, people (kinda selfishly) just expect you to go get more....

I’m so glad I listened to this. It is so easy to give up, but I want to live with the ability to unhitch my idea of self from my accomplishments or lack thereof.

Without making "being mentally healthy" that goal we're trying to move towards, I think we need to spend some time talking about how many people believe they're not confident specifically because they are suffering from structural issues which prevent less rigid forms of thinking. Again, without using mental illness as a buzz word, anxiety about being more confident is actually probably a much healthier reaction to capitalist patriarchy than despondency or catatonic depression. Elliot touched on this briefly, but I'd like to see this explored a bit more.

i love this whole video so much. i’m super insecure but i think i’m pretty charismatic and i never thought i could describe myself like that. i never thought charisma and confidence could be separated enough to include edit: how i feel, socially. also holy fucking shit i’ve never watched finn before but i’ve never heard another trans person so perfectly express the terror/euphoria of being trans. like yes fuck i literally came out to myself during a camping trip where i woke up alone in a heavenly solitude and one of the first thoughts i had was “oh yeah… i’m a boy” 😂 and then it still took me a couple years (and other bullshit) to really come out to anyone. and it was terrifying but lovely and still so.

I am so ready for this!!

An insightful quote that really hit me: (from Tay at 30:15) "The engine of optimism [is] more productive to ending the things that [make] me anxious about impending doom"

This video is so perfect. So much wisdom shared. Thank you ❤

The point at 43:35 gave me a lot of thought fodder, and I think it may be one of the reasons for the obsession with (lack of) confidence - it makes our sense of unease and uncertainty seem easily identifyable, and manageable, within our control. If we think we know what steps to take to make ourselves feel better, and never take them, we always have something to point to and say, well there is the issue. Also this was not mentioned during the video, but I was wondering if confidence maybe superseded the concept of "honour", as a source/measure of self-assuredness and social standing? And how that would map onto societies where honour is central to the perception of yourself and others? Not sure, lol, keeping with the spirit of putting out imperfect ideas. Yay for being mid, and kindness, and asking for help! And yay for more Foreign collabs, seems like you two vibe so well!

i think it’s because confidence is INSANELY attractive. like this girl made me realise i’m bi just because of how confident she was like omg

Bro you give me hope and make me feel a little less suicidal. Thanks, man

Nf said it best "there is a big difference between confidence and arrogance"

i often come across shy bc I'm just not very loud and generally very introspective, observant and just love to be by myself (while also liking people). internally i'm very confident and just a happy person. people might not believe that bc they somehow connect confidence with loudness. great video, thank you :)

honestly i notice it helped if i already had some confidence while viewing self confidence content. i am a big believer in manifestation as in-what you tell yourself and the messages you feed yourself you will do or subconsciously agree with. thewizardliz also believes in this, and i think it only works to a certain extent. her personal likes of material things are ok as long as she’s not pulling an andrew tate and claiming it’s what defines a woman’s worth the way rate thinks a man’s worth is defined by fancy cars. it’s clear she’s well off and feeds into the system of capitalism, but so many of us have to just to afford an education and career to survive on more than just the bare minimum. women are often socialized to suppress their needs and act out our hurt in discreet manners, so i truly don’t think she can ever be compared to someone like andrew (not saying you are, just that many do) let alone any male confidence youtuber catered toward men. it can’t fix world wars and political conflict, but having basic self esteem and self worth is a skill many people lack when only consuming media agreeing w/ their politics and never doing any self reflection. a constant defeatist attitude is just as unhealthy as a never ending sigma grindset. i think some of this self confidence content is a good stepping stone to eventually implementing that in real life and learning healthier habits to socialize properly.

I don't have a paragraph this time. I've watched it twice now and the ending warms my heart to the core. Thank you, Elliot.🥰☺😄

Dude your videos are always so current. Good job!

Thanks for this video ! Adding my little take on how I figured out what kind of self-love I am searching for : My ideal would be being confident, and humble at the same time. It can seem like a contradition, two extremes of a spectrum, but I picture them on two different axes. 1- the Confidence to Insecurity axis 2- the Ego to Humility axis Insecurity (shame, lack of confidence, salf-hatre ...) is the "evil twin" of Humility (being self-less, able to receiving criticism...). Ego (pride, narcissism, self-absorbed, a type of self love that is conditionnal to success/goodness/expectations on identity...), is the "evil twin" of Confidence (actual self-esteem, unconditionnal sense of self-worth, acceptance of who you are as an "objective fact" without jugement, healthy self-love...). Ego and Insecurity feed each other. They are also fed by validation, excuses, jugement (positive and negative). They come with/from a "self-conscious" type of introspection. Whereas healthy Confidence and Humility feed each other, and come with/from a "self-aware" type of introspection. Hope this makes sense ! It's kinda simple but it took me a while to organise those concepts in my mind. (This explanation is very systematic and caricatural since this is how I comprehend complex things the best but I try to keep aware that reality is more nuanced.)

You are a great listener. It was so refreshing to hear multiple perspectives. Thank you for this video

So many interesting points in this video! Thank you for the great work

I loved this video so much. The discussion was super engaging and enjoyed the different perspectives approaching this topic. Also, super excited to see befly on your channel again!

True to that. Like with everything else, the point is not being confident about everything all the time. It's about learning to act despite your doubts. And it's also s process. Lack of confidence is not a badge of shame (or honor), it's only the badge of experience.

I love this video. I just love it. Thank you so much, you put my exact thoughts in such a good wording and in this piece of art. I have been thinking how much the confidence moguls were letting these teenagers get a god complex thinking they own the world because "they think highly of themselves" . Confidence comes with experience, with growth. It's not being the best where ever you go, it's about being ok if there are people who are better than you (in any type of way). Of course you can fake it until you make it but it may take more time than really gowing through pain that could possibly get to you. It makes me actually pretty mad how most of the fake confident people think being rude, mean and disrespectful is the epitome of confidence because it's not. There is no way these people are actually confident, considering they treat themselves exactly like they treat you. For me personally it helped a lot to do charity, help others and be more empathetic

The quality of your videos is astounding. Thank you for doing what you do.

Nothing feels worse than seeing a person who's younger than you are being more successful. I am 19 with absolutely nothing going for myself, I have no skills, or talents, I probably want graduate highschool (I'm still in school because I got held back), I work a job where I take 9.50, I still can't drive, and I have absolutely no idea what I want to do after school. Meanwhile there's these 17 year olds making more money than I ever will in my life and living my wildest dreams

Confidence comes with self awareness.

Great analysis!! I’d like to add that society’s heightened sense of “confidence” is actually masked insecurity, reads like a reaction more than a response to life experience. I’ve always believed that confidence is silent or it’s a deep inner knowing of perceived self not an outward display of righteousness..

It’s all about knowing your self value in a balanced way. Don’t overvalue yourself or you’ll become an insecure narcissist. Don’t undervalue yourself because you obviously don’t want to do that. Just have a value where you respect yourself in a humble way and only accept fair respect from others and not tolerate nothing less. That’s how I see it. I loved this video btw :)

legit so thankful i've found your channel, i feel like you put words on so many things i've been thinking about

Lots of insightful points here by all contributors..

I’m so happy that this video was longer than usual, loved it 🤩

This was amazing thank you ❤ it's great to know I'm not alone in these feelings.

Really needed this

It’s so refreshing seeing normal people and not hyper attractive , Hollywood esque figures. Hopefully the next pendulum shift is towards this type of content and away from the current status quo.

Great video. I've loved listening to all the different perspectives :)

Such an amazing video thank you so much 🙏

Foreigns Thom Yorke slander lol 😂❤️

Amazing video! This came at a perfect time for me thank you elliott, keep it up!

I’d be more confident if I wasn’t such a stupidass all the time and I’d probably make a stupid ass of myself less if I felt more confident 😅 This feels like one of those “can’t get the job with experience, can’t get experience without the job” situations.

I feel this all goes back to the fact we're used to instant gratification now and to be confident you need to except almost everything is a process and so you need to act and keep on doing so. ❤

Perfect timing!🖤

Youre a great channel, one of a kind

finally watching!!! love a long video essay

wow! great conversations this video healed my soul just enough to take action in my life. keep doing whatever ur doing its great stuff

I'll definitely come back to this video, really positive message that's very needed as a reminder of how complex ones confidence can be

“Our desire for a better world should not ruin our process of living in this one” WOW

It’s like people forget con man is short for “confidence man”.

just subbed. excellent video man, thank you. confidence is not nearly as important as authenticity and cultivating interests. passion. curiosity. these things are substantive. confidence can be completely vapid. imo it's important to get away from relative states of being.

Barring death, poverty and assault, most of the motivational talk from affluent people living in first world countries with less pollution, quality diet, well paying jobs, wealthy parents, good education at a university, hold no value to those struggling to make basic human needs met. Yes pain is pain, but some pain are bigger than others, and I think people are forgetting that. Comparison is the thief of joy, they say, but sometimes it's needed to humble one's self by looking at real human struggle for daily survival, and be grateful for what one already has in posession, that a majority of the world's population might never will. Also it's a matter of visual attraction. If you're good looking, wealthy enough to afford good cameras and audio equipment and record videos in your pinteresty room about "how to be charismatic yada yada", it'll automatically pull in more audience, than say a person speaking on the camera in their tiny little disorganised bedroom with poor lighting. As you say, what's on the inside is created because of what one faces on the outside on a daily basis since childhood.

This was really interesting. Today, during Religious Studies, I learned about Immanuel Kant's legitimacy principle, although really really simplified. It was about living with (a set of) principles and rules that you sticked to. You can see this in Christianity and other religions but also in these things (Villain Arc, Manosphere, 'It' Girl, High Value) on social media that promote progressive confidence. I found that it's based on insecurities and anxiety (using translate here in Dutch it's 'angst'), anxiety about that that we can't control namely life. It's simple to stick to these rules without much thought, but we have this intrinsic question we ask ourselves "why?". Why do you follow this rule? What is it about? etc. But that why is suppressed by your anxiety and insecurities. You'll be intolerant, because of those questions you'll ask yourself after standing still about those principles and rules. It may be that accepting that we live in a chaotic world would be more freeing than denying it by the Top G or That Girl.

Impressive work; the effort and research you put into making this video is evident. Excellent commentary 🎉❤👍