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German Culture Shock: are the germans unfriendly and cold?

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Germans are unfriendly, cold or rude. Maybe you have heard about this stereotype or even discovered that by your own. But is that true? Why do you feel germans like that and what can you do, when you experience a german culture shock or a culture shock in germany in general?
In this video i will explain you the difference between a coconut and a peach culture. Within that, you will udnerstand better why you maybe feel germans in that way, how you can deal with it and what is the general attitude regarding that. Enjoy!
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@MrWho-vb6hg 10 месяцев назад

I want to shared my experience when vacation to German. I felt most of them are cold and look down people who are non white. Most of them but only one ladies who was willing to helped us for direction. After this, i learned that better to ask immigrants there (non white) who are friendly and helped us with directions. Even the officer at the airport pretends not see me when I approached them to asked for directions. It really made me felt inferior and violated. Even though I was nicely and politely asked them, I never had this kind of experience in my entire life.

@EAGYSL Месяц назад

Did they insult you for not being white or what happened?

@Bulgogi_Haxen 14 дней назад

@@EAGYSLyou can easily see the difference in their attitudes.

@Keirosqeen 6 месяцев назад

I thought it was just an Eastern German thing (the rudeness and the racism), but when I travelled to other areas of Germany, I had similar feelings. As an Asian, the only place where people were actually nice in return was Frankfurt am Main, from restaurant servers to airport officers, they were all so friendly and fast and did not give me that uneasy feeling and cold stare of "you are bothering me, go back to your country" at the cashier when I am the one who is getting service (not the other way around). Also felt the customer service was not professional at all and made me question why they were being rude for no reason, yes in Germany, the customers are not king but they can at least try. If it continues to be like this, I feel like no one will come to travel/invest in Germany in 20 years. Spain and Italy were the opposite of Germany, even when they were louder and spoke much faster than Germans, I felt welcomed and included somehow. Mannerism and eyes speaks louder than words, and people just know when someone is being rude to you or not easily, even when you are faking politeness.

@Apophis40K 2 месяца назад

The stare is a cultural misconseption. For germans looking away is the rude thing and germans stare at each other this makes many people who are not used to it belive that they are getting singled out. Customer service i can understand but most germans dont want to get bothered I only want to see the cashier twice once when ordering and paying and I will non verbaly give a sign for bouth of these situations. Staff in other shops i dont want to interact at all as long as i dont directly aproach them. There is even a president where an american company tried there american customer service in germany and they got flooded with complaines that the staff was rude by forcing them ontu the customer. In short most of it is cultural for germans it is for example EXTREMLY rude to not give a concreat answear (its comparable to lieing directly to your face) thats why a lot of asian countries, where maybe means no, are seen as rude.

@mermaidmoon2254 3 года назад

Had quite a bad experience in Germany, cannot say the same for Austria. Granted, being an Italian I was probably expecting too much LOL

@myroadtogermany5885 2 года назад

Hey Mermaid, where have you been and how did the experience look like? Greets to Italy!:)

@hiddenname9809 10 месяцев назад

I do know there are nice Germans. I had one bad experience from an old lady in a restaurant. When we came in to sit in our table, I laid my jacket to my side. So, we were chatting and eating, but then a couple of old ladies came in and sat beside us. The old lady who sat beside me, just grabbed my coat and threw it at me like she was angry. You see, I know I probably should have taken it out of the way when they came in but I was so engrossed in our conversation that it did not even occur to me at that time. I know I should have taken it, but the way she just rudely grabbed it and threw at me was just horrible. Couldn't she ask nicely? Like, excuse me, is this yours? I would have gladly apologized. Being nice, being kind, smiling at others will not take anything from you! We don't have to be friends, but we can be nice to each other.

@JohnDoe-pt7ru Год назад

I had the unfortunate honor of being born in Germany. As an Army brat, we rarely left the base. Germans were always rude and mean to us. My parents were never sure if it was because we're American or Latino, but it was not a good experience.

@tecumsehcristero Год назад

Germans never lost their belief in their own superiority they are still nazis

@diegocastaneda3829 11 месяцев назад

It was because they are/were German!

@sylviavasquez9523 9 месяцев назад

probably both.

@dominik9894 6 месяцев назад

If you aren't German, unconciously they sort you outside their companies and that drives me crazy! I have a feeling that I can be with some Balkan, Russian or Turkish girl, because Germans wait for what, 6 months for a fucking sex and girls aren't open to relationships and only chase their carreers.

@Meekseek 2 месяца назад

Woo imagine Germans not loving allies which bombed the PEOPLE even though the war was over, Brat.

@user-kw1qr9vd2h 4 месяца назад

They are narrow minded and local

@sylviavasquez9523 9 месяцев назад

Yes--they are cold and dictatorial. God forbid you question them! The words,"I'm sorry" do not exist in their vocabulary. "When you make friends, you make them forever" is untrue. I don't know why anyone says this.

@dominik9894 7 месяцев назад

Germans definitely aren’t the people I wanna live with but I have my parents live here and I wanna finish school and get out of here In my school in Bosnia we had more drinking coffees together and here nobody invited me for coffee, it’s disgusting They’re friendly and polite when you ask them questions but if you wanna relationship or something more serious with German girl, forget about that!!

@user-mb6vt9zo5c 6 месяцев назад

😂😂😂😂

@CS-zn4bu 3 месяца назад

lol. where do you come from? that's a group of people i do NOT wanna live with. Germans rule. They are the best.

@tonymalerba1067 2 года назад

I'm from Canada, I prefer peaches. While passing through Germany with my Thai wife,she was treated like shit by Germans just for asking for directions. As a Canadian I accept zero criticism from Germanic and Scandinavian cultures when it comes to friendliness.

@myroadtogermany5885 2 года назад

Hey Tony, feel bad for the experience you made. There are people like this that will answer "just watch on your smartphone" or things like this :) Hope you also were able to discover, that no everyone is like that:) Best for you and your Wife, Sebastian

@robinte4601 2 года назад

I think you both didn't know how we germans are. But I prefer or most of us prefer to be a coconut than a peach because they are so fake! So I will never ever accept zero criticism from Canadians or US Americans because you are really really fake human beings!

@salmineo4132 Год назад

Yeah same .....they think friendly people are fake,and Thai ppl ...western ppl too smile allot and are POLITE ....Germans don't know what that means 🤣

@magiclampboogiesdown9717 Год назад

The language is clunky and harsh and their manners reflect it 😂

@user-mb6vt9zo5c 6 месяцев назад

Very rudeeeeee and they cry easily 😅

@CS-zn4bu 3 месяца назад

holy fck the racism against germans! are you all rightwingers? LOL

@BB9_ Год назад

It's irrelevant, if you call it illness or just mentality. But one thing is for sure, these psychological traits don't lead to a fullfiled life.

@shahzoreali9812 6 месяцев назад

It means a person should do effort to make a german friend... like they are superior and if we have a german friend our life will be change to the best life .. such a waste of time and irrational suggestions.. instead of changing the thinking of superior being...

@user-mb6vt9zo5c 6 месяцев назад

And after making them your friend they treat you I’ll I prefer Americans on any day

@djmacross 3 года назад

Come to South America to experience yourself what a truly friendship means at first sight

@myroadtogermany5885 2 года назад

My girlfriend is from mexico- so even that is not exactly south america- i am familiar with that. And ofc, there are real friendships everywhere, so i believe that you have great friendsships over there!!:) I just wanted to point out in this video, that we also do so in germany, i just takes a while :)

@sebastiang7394 5 месяцев назад

The wrong assumption IMHO option is that it’s good friends vs casual friends. In peach societies people also have reliable and deeper relationships with some friends. They just also have more casual friends. Through time casual friends can become close friends. But when I talk to a lot of fellow Germans they are often even proud for only having "meaningful" connections. Like it’s one thing or the other. To be open and gain new close relationships you must allow for more loose relationships. And also casual friendships can be really helpful and good.

@kr46 Год назад

I have to say The peach and the Coconut theory is old and out dated. Yes the culture shock is real especially if you are from a more open society. I am From UK I live in Germany and have a German wife, also have been respectful, learnt a good part of the language and always converse as best i can in the language. The fact I always find is customer service is Crap in most places whether you speak or try to speak German. I am always polite and have had many times in stores and especially the post office or Official government institutions where There is no connection or want to help. I do not want to befriend these people I only wish to do my business and move on so how many times must we be treated badly before the shell breaks?. There is no excuse for rudeness in any culture especially when you are paying for it. In UK if you have official documents they are available in all languages so you understand in Germany it is German or Nothing. Thank you for your video you have been very Polite.

@giuliapiperea Год назад

When I was in uk they Got Me a job I didn’t speak English , they were so welcome English people always there to help ❤

@d.p.164 3 года назад

Sorry I can't agree with what you said, they are completely narrow-minded, impolite and insipid people. This is not just a feeling, it's the reality. I am living in Berlin since 2015, and I have only foreigners friends or Germans friends with foreign background (turkish or asians). If you walk outside with a Kippa on the head, they stare at you like a piece of meat. These things doesn't happen in other countries in Europe. So Germany is a good country for working ( economical stability) but for meeting interesting people and vacations just walk away.

@FancyNaeser53 8 месяцев назад

As a German i apologize for the behavior ..i want you to know that i cant understand why Germans are so divided in the modern Times...please know that i dont want you to See Germany as a Bad country because of those people ❤

@Meekseek 2 месяца назад

@@FancyNaeser53 Stop sucking up to these people you owe them nothing.

@EAGYSL Месяц назад

Haha stop lying nobody believes that Turkish people treated you better when you wore a kippa. Muslims hate jews.

@SileDevil Год назад

you can only make german friends if you are a robot, nobody has time for that you need to be pacient and crack the shell nonsense, either you get along or you dont

@BB9_ Год назад

To find within the shell is also desert like.

@gonzalezsantelices6203 8 месяцев назад

many coconut shells in the philippines. @@BB9_

@user-rb9kp6vr4o 5 месяцев назад

Hahaha so true well said

@user-uj8fn2gs4d 9 месяцев назад

The are rude , unfriendly , cold , sorry you are wrong.

@gonzalezsantelices6203 8 месяцев назад

they sound rude because their humor is not wholesome

@user-mb6vt9zo5c 6 месяцев назад

But what can we do to help Germans ? Stupid people

@gonzalezsantelices6203 8 месяцев назад

I dont fully agree. I live here in Germany for almost 7 years. And I know alot of Germans and have contacts , but they never talk to you unless you first initiate. here in Berlin and even in the southern part, same feathers flock together

@user-kw1qr9vd2h 4 месяца назад

But what are germans willing to also do to make other people confortable why is it all about them

@TravellingAbout-i6k 2 месяца назад

Im in munich on holiday. Im solo female and i dont like it all. The waiters are ok but the people are cold and dismissive and superior. The old people are vile to me. I am a very happy and outgoing person and never had this before. Im english and love banter as used to be a comedian. Luckily the sights are beautiful but i feel alone completely. Bad vibes.

@Scribe127 10 месяцев назад

Every time I have visited Germany the people were unfriendly, and often downright rude.

@AndreaKrause-qk9cd 10 месяцев назад

Wie waren Sie denn zu den Deutschen?😮😊

@user-mb6vt9zo5c 6 месяцев назад

@@AndreaKrause-qk9cdwith y’all rude language

@CS-zn4bu 3 месяца назад

holy fck the racism against germans! are you all rightwingers? LOL

@grandmaster5443 7 месяцев назад

Of course they are...

@CS-zn4bu 3 месяца назад

nope. only some foreigers who live here. true germans behave and are friendly.

@albionmyl7735 2 года назад

I would say the older Germans a rude... It depends on the age.... I am German and this is my own experience....

@islam.peachfull Год назад

I agree

@AndreaKrause-qk9cd 10 месяцев назад

Wenn man seine Vorurteile hat, sieht man nur die Bestätigung und ignoriert gerne das Gegenteil.

@Leecriptor 6 месяцев назад

But also the young generation growing up, learn from those bad behaviours through the years.. unless the live in other part of the world, and then get back to Germany, otherwise, the vicious circle stays the same.

@AshGTE Месяц назад

I'm English and have lived in Germany for 20+ years. As soon as my Son is old enough, Tchuss! The miserable behaviour from Germans was manageable until the pandemic happened. Now they are increasing hostile and have shocking double standards. Example: Ring a bike bell at you for being slightly on the cycle lane and give you grief for it. Then immediately ride through a red traffic light. It's a rich country and it's easy to make money here but you best have any deal with a German in writing. They will try and rip you off if they can. As there is no real small claims court (600€ max). You sometimes have to hire lawyers and sue people who don't pay even with a written contract. Tough decision if it's actually worth the hassle. Its definitely getting worse here right now.

@desidesigning 4 месяца назад

Just returned from Frankfurt. Totally, I agree with this premise. The immigration offer had a face of a dead fish. The sandwich shop keepers face went red when I paid with my credit card. My goodness!

@martinwilliams9776 3 года назад

Hi.Gruss aus Wales.Ich habe vorher in Deutschland gewohnt.Aber ich habe leider viel Deutsch vergessen. I have never lived in Latin America but found your video interesting. I lived in Germany for 15 months.I did not make any life long friends with Germans.Which is a shame.Maybe I an not the only one who failed in this way.I found it far easier to socialize with non-Germans like myself.Maybe I should have joined a Verein.

@myroadtogermany5885 2 года назад

Hey martin, thanks for your comment abd sorry for the delay regards to my response time. I feel you and I think it is definetely not easy to make friends abroad and as mentioned, can be especially in germany. Wish you all the best and greets to Wales!

@Kotikjeff 2 года назад

At present we are in a 5 star hotel in Rhodes. Surrounded by Germans. It’s a daunting experience. We may stay and capture a smile but I heard the hotel closes for winter. The sun is about to rise and warm the towels on the loungers. What I wouldn’t give for legs like John Cleese for my entrance into breakfast.

@LindsayKay 2 года назад

There's no sugar-coating that xenophobia

@TravellingAbout-i6k 2 месяца назад

I spesk a lot of german and they still despise

@ShaeDerEinzige Год назад

Dein video ist wunderbar mein freund! Danke schon aus London!

@sevenstepsurvival 3 года назад

Nice video and analysis. Germans are definitely more reserved, however birds of a feather flock together so if you happen to crack one coconut they most likely will introduce you to similar coconuts who will crack more easily!

@myroadtogermany5885 2 года назад

Hey Sevensteps, thanks for your feedback, happy that you liked the video:) I also definetely agree to what you say regarding the "warm intros". Do you have other tips and tricks how to "crack the coconut"?:)

@EAGYSL Месяц назад

Yes being that reserved also has historic reasons especially in the east where the "Stasi" had many normal citizens spying for them and they reported you if you talked bad about the government. So you couldn't even trust your neighbour.

@jorgeslani7413 Год назад

By approach you ment hate? One only has to talk with someone on the street in language that is not german and he will get such bad reactions from people walking by like he would be observed with such hate in that eyes that he will be affraid. Do that and you will see what's it all about. This guy lies.

@hephaistion3 6 месяцев назад

Humans are complex structures, coconut or peach, Germans or Latinos... They don't matter and they are not gonna teach us how to approach each other. If you're interested in getting to know someone and make friends, simply let them know. If they opened up the shell for you and accepted you as a friend, embrase it. If they didn't, respect them and move on to another person. Easier said than done though! Cheers!

@CS-zn4bu 3 месяца назад

animals are complex creatures too, and more intelligent than humans

@IbnIslamiyya16 Год назад

@My Road to Germany. Sebastian, das Beispiel ist perfekt und lässt sich auf andere Kontexte genauso übertragen. Nicht-Deutsche sind zu höflich, um ehrlich zu sein. Deutsche sind zu ehrlich um höflich zu sein.

@dimavlasiuk4220 Год назад

Little tip: Germans will appreciate you far far more if you ask in German

@user-ix3yh8yt7r 19 дней назад

Really?

@AndreaKrause-qk9cd 10 месяцев назад

Ich bin Deutsche. Ich habe selbst Unfreundlichkeit erlebt. In Deutschland, in Spanien, in Frankreich, in Polen, in Holland, Italien usw. Aber: Ich verallgemeinere nicht, da ich überall vor allem freundliche Leute getroffen habe.