Getting engaged, married and our wedding night | Ep. 3 

We reallllly got into it this week and shared a few controversial opinions on our views on marriage and what went down on our wedding night LOL...cannot wait to hear what you all have to think about this one! Also, the comment section of these podcasts is unbelievable...if you have a few minutes, go read a few of them! This community has so much wisdom and perspective to share, love what we're all creating together! Make sure you chime in down below! ❤

After three episodes, I'm convinced TANGENTS is conversational magic! Tyler and Todd are so engaging, warm, funny and honest that I find myself wanting to listen to them forever. They have me laughing and crying and thoroughly in love with them both.

I am a 77 year old heterosexual woman and I completely LOVE you both! I look forward every week to see what you’re up to. I love your candor, your humor, and your commitment. Thanks so much for sharing your lives and adventures and deep honesty with me and your millions of fans.

As a 75 year old alone gay man who was one of those who fought for the right for all of us to marry ... I so appreciated everything about this episode. Your discussion should be required viewing for anyone who even entertains the idea to marry. It is profound, educational, moving, and life changing. I seriously hope Tangents is as therapeutic for you as for your subscribers! You two change lives. Thank you.

You guys have the most important part of marriage, you respect each other. Rock on guys.

This is exactly one of the main reasons why you guys have such a healthy connected relationship - you allow each other to express yourselves - sensitive to each other’s hurts snd moods. When you want the best for each and are willing to be kind it works. In many relationships at least one partner feels unheard. They get such an angry attack if they express their hurts and needs. This as you guys expressed causes resentment and break down. I could listen to you guys for hours. Really enjoyed all the sharing. Thanks

Tyler: "Todd and I are not people that do big elaborate things for each other" Each other: Let's drop our lives, travel across the North American continent, homestead in the wilderness and build a custom village in the middle of Nova Scotia. The Gays: We see you :P

My (now legal) husband and I met over 40 years ago and are STILL developing our relationship. As far as the nursing homes go, I worked in a couple of those - I would not wish that living situation on my worst enemy. Stay healthy and stay home as long as you can! My husband is in his 80s - recently shattered his pelvis and has dementia, but he'll NEVER go to a nursing home!

I have a feeling that you two could continue to record your hilarious, spill-the-tea, heart warming Tangents broadcasts even after you both check in to Shady Pines retirement home. I’m hooked!

I am from Estonia and this year we legalized same sex marriage. 😊

"Too bad you can't afford the rest of the photos because you don't have a job" ....bahahaha, I spit my tea across my desk. You guys are too funny!

My partner and I have been together for 38 years. Straight people used to say, “Homosexual relationships don’t last.” Gay people would say, “Yeah, I once had a relationship for ‘x’ years.” I came to think that if people had more faith in our relationships, then they might last longer. It keeps getting better.

If only more people had the compassion and respect for each other that you two have… the world would be a better place ❤ ❤

I appreciate you guys a lot. I really do. I was married to my accepting wife for 51 years and cared for her with MS for 26 years. She wasn't able to ambulate for the last 15 years. We were fully committed to keeping our wedding vows. She has now passed. I am now free to be the gay man I always was, and that has been medically proven. I was a Baptist Pastor and missionary at one point. But I am not looking for a husband. Too old now. But seeing you both together is so good. I also really admire how you manage your finances. I was also an accountant for many years. Your home is going to be amazing when it is finished. Every happiness together. Big hugs.

Some people develop a negative view on humanity. Watching you two interact should be the perfect antidote. I like people and so for me it's a conformation that basically we're OK. Although some of us sometimes might not have been so OK against our own best wishes.

Great video. My husband and I have been married 51 years and I love him more everyday. He is my everything. Love and Blessings to both of you.😊😊👨‍❤‍👨👨‍❤‍👨💖💖

Todd: as long as there's blood pumping through our brains we will remember that tyler 1 s later: oh yeah, i forgot about that

I can not even start to convey how much I love u guys. My husband and I have been married for 31 yrs. We have 3 children and 5 grandchildren. I absolutely love our family. However being married this long has been a lot of hard work. Don't get me wrong we have had a ton of good times but iam always open to advice and I just learn so much from u guys. I can't express how much I love TTT. So funny, emotional, serious, crazy and just entertaining to spend time with u both. My husband knows when iam watching cause I will go from laughing hysterically to crying in a span of 2 secs. Love u guys keep it coming. Hope u have a good week and weekend. Lots of love❤️ Kristine in Ontario Canada 🇨🇦

I love these chats ❤. Your tangents are like colorful quilts.

My husband and I talked about getting married. I had been married before and had 3 small kids at the time. We decided to get married and went to the courthouse and got married with my kids and my mother there. We have been together for almost 10 years. I wouldn't change a thing about how we got married.

When I was listening at the beginning and you said at some point one of us will lose the other (but we can talk about that another time) I am living in that situation now, I lost my husband in December 2016, we had 43 years physically together, this year 2023, I celebrated with friends the fact we would have been together 50 years on the 8th August. The thing I am most grateful for is that before my husband died we had chance to talk about what he wanted, for his funeral, what he hoped for me in the future, and what I needed to do when my time was close. In some small way moving forward has been a little less traumatic because I know I fulfilled his wishes and set mine up in preparation, which helps me know that right up to the end, as always, we talked things through together. What I am trying to get to in this long winded way is that talking is one of the most important parts in a relationship...............thanks for these vids...... x

This is so great! I love to learn more about your guys and what makes you guys you and how you interact with each other. You both are an inspiration and I would be lucky to find someone who is even half of what you both represent. Thank you so much for being open and sharing. May you both Live Long and Prosper.

“Did you trade two pigs for me?” That was classic. You guys are really hilarious, open and honest. I’m glad i found your channel.

We need to see pictures of you two when you met, and of the wedding. I am just so curious of what you two looked like as very young men. When you were speaking about being married, and the rights of couples it reminded me of HOW MUCH Canada, the UK, Australia, New Zealand, South Africa, and SO MANY of the commonwealth and ex-commonwealth nations are so MUCH more lgbtqia+ friendly than the US, and MANY nations of the world are at this day. So many times I catch myself wishing I was born in either the UK (preferred) or New Zealand throughout my entire life. I LOVE both of them. Canada is great too, but I do not do well in extreme cold...LOL.

Love hearing your thoughts on this especially as a straight female who is so traditional with wanting marriage etc. I'm a total sap I love, love and I don't care who you love as long as you're happy and watching you two makes me so happy. I'm wishing you both make it into your 90s and into that care home together because you guys are pretty special. And what makes you special is the fact you don't sugar coat it, you have had rough times, you know they'll be rough times but you face it together never against each other I love to see it 💗

Just when I think I can’t learn more about you guys….I’m just surprised. Somehow I believe you two were already wise beyond your years at such a young age. This was just an insightful podcast. ❤️

I love how comfortable Eddie looks sitting between you. You can tell he knows how much you both love him!❤

The two of you turn my heart into a puddle of “warm apple juice” happiness!!! 😁🤗🥰

I've followed your co-adventure since before the pandemic. Since you were RVing around the US. You've been a feature of my Sunday evenings. Tangents elaborates who you each are as real people, as a couple, off-grid, yet living comfortably. However tonights Tangents' episode is an entirely new level of authenticity, and of love, humor, and resolve, despite significant obstacles. Thank you!!! Love Tangents, which by the way, is also how I tell stories.

Tea time killed me. "Too bad you can't afford the rest of the photos... because you don't have a job". Absolute gem. As always, love the podcast, you guys make my day

I don't know anymore which I look forward to the most: the Sunday video's or the Wednesday podcasts! It's truly special, guys. I love you both.

I'm 71 and when my partner and I wanted to get married, we had to go to Canada, where it was legal. It wasn't legal here in Texas, so we went to PEI in 2007, and had a ceremony there. It was really important to me to be able to call him "husband!" It took a few years before it was recognized throughout the US. Love you Canada!

Oh, I am so ready for this one. I have been waiting for this one from the first episode. Definitely gonna wake up early for this one don't want to miss the launch 😊😊

When a husband talks to his husband. What a cute moment again, like a Christmas movie for me (and you made me cry again Tyler ...). I love you so my boys

This kind of open and honest conversation about marriage helps to push the “societal structure of marriage” into the 21st century, by inspiring more people to break free of the old structure in any way that feels right to them. Nicely done!💥 Spill the Tea should be a whole weekly episode of its own. One per week isn’t enough! Whether it’s good advice or disastrous hilarity, you guys will always deliver, and it sounds like you’ve received a lot of stories that need to be shared! 🎯 😅 Also, your mutual commitment to financial responsibility, and your overall compatibility and honesty with one another are really admirable. ❤️

TANGENTS is conversational magic! They have me laughing and crying and thoroughly in love with them both.

Oh my, you guys make me laugh so much - especially re the nursing home chat! I had a very good friend and we always said we’d go to one together and create havoc! Sadly she died of cancer a year ago….I just love your Tangents as you are so open, refreshing and honest and it’s great to hear more about your personal life as opposed to just that on The Land. Worried though not to see Charlie in this episode - I know he’s due at vets next Monday so do hope he’s bearing up? And no Squirrel taking prime of place this week! xx

Saludos desde Chiapas, México. I'm an older queer and unfortunately I lost my husband of 14 years a couple of years ago. I have to compliment you two for not leaving any anger linger between you. It took me and my Eleuterio a couple of years to get to that place...(Mexicans , as many Latin American countries have a tendency towards being passive agressive and then things get explosive) We ended up going to couples therapy and got it worked out in time and we ended up so much happier for not waiting so long to sit down and talk. Love you both! Give your fur babies a big hug for me. Especially Charlie!

All the projects you made with family and friends for your wedding, all the food and decor, and courtesies provided, by your loved ones, created a wedding day with built-in love. Love was in every detail.

I love that you two have such open and honest conversations with each other .what a great partnership and marriage

I love being married . My Husband ( love saying that ) and I married ( properly , not Civil Partnership ) in 2016 in the City Hall in New York . We did it with just the two of us , without family or friends because we are together the majority of the time and it was special to us for that reason. We did have to ask for two witnesses , but that was just for the ceremony . We have been together since 1999.

There's such a thing as a Chocolate Fountain!!?? 😲🤪😋 🎉🥳Sorry I can't get past it, you guys just made my day!! 🥰 💖💛💚

I want you both to know how much it warms my heart to see and hear two people so in love. Everyone should be so lucky to experience the kind of love you two share. You have found in each other a love and deep commitment that anyone watching or listening to this podcast can truly feel is the real deal! ❤

During a majority of T Times, Todd is actualy giving a lot of ideas for "vengance plan's" not advice to get out of your problems but in fact create more problems... I love it. Thank you so much.

Some people live on a cruise ship for their retirement, it's essentially assisted living and bonus you can travel and people watch 😎

Eddie is winning the internet! ❤️❤️❤️

I am officially addicted to spill the tea segment!! When y'all described sending a pic and then the message! I'm dead! Tangents is soooooo good!

I LOVE your comments on weddings! People who spend thousands of dollars on ridiculous weddings, not worth it! A marriage is about being good friends with your partner, not just sexual intimacy. It is a partnership that can enrich your life and your growth like nothing else. Bless and love you guys❤️❤️❤️

"It wasn’t to be a third” Todd, you are so funny 😅❤

FANTASTIC PODCAST 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

I love the content of this you guys! I married my husband after three months 53 years ago. We got married at the Justice of the Peace, and honeymooned at our families cabin in Donner Lake. When we returned my Mom had a beautiful reception for us. She was a trooper. I was her first born and she didn’t get to plan the wedding for me she had dreamt of. But, it waas 1970, and to me a wedding is about the two people who are saying their vows. If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn’t change a thing!

My husband and I dated each other for two months, he broke up with me. We were apart for six months. We got back together, and after two months back together he asked me, “what do you think of getting married.” I was shocked, we never talked about it. We never said the “L” word fearing that we would run apart again. After expressing our love for each other, we knew we wanted to be together forever. Nine months later we got married. This month we will be married 39 years. Continue to love one another. Cherish each other, respect each other, and let each other be who they want to be. I enjoy your videos. I love this podcast. Thank you for being vulnerable and opening your lives to so many. Peace and Love.

Another great podcast!!!!

Tyler and Todd, I LOVE you guys. I love how open and honest you are with yourselves, and then share that with us. And I so agree with what you said about how people spend way too much on their one wedding day.Why? A dress - for the ladies among us - of however many thousands of pounds - or dollars - is just ridiculous! You're only going to wear it once! And people put themselves in debt over that! I couldn't do something silly like that and I'm so pleased to find that I'm not alone in thinking like this. Thank you, and I'm looking forward to next week's episode! BTW where was Charlie and how is he doing? And what are you going to do this winter? Because I can totally imagine that living in that dome for a fourth winter, with a dog who has just had an op on his cruciate ligament, would be way too demanding. So all the best with those decisions!

The fact you laugh together so much is your secret to a good relationship

My wedding day was the best day of my life so far. I had a fairly simple wedding, the thing that went wrong ( there's always something) was my nephew had a fever seizure and he'd recovered in a few minutes thanks to the extra water I'd brought to the church for the flowers. We had a picnic reception at my parent's home. I made a lot of the food with the help of my mom, grandma, great aunt and sister. My sister-in-law made a beautiful cake. Dad ordered the meat, lightly smoked pork loin, and bought a dozen big rattle snake watermelons and he made a huge impression with the way he cut them up. The marriage lasted nearly twenty years and now its been over 16 years, but my ex and his wife just dropped off a nightstand for me today. I am not sure exactly how much the wedding cost, but it was less than $3,000 I'm certain. We fed around 150 people and we had a great time. My aunt worked for Radisson and she gave us a night at the Radisson in Moorhead Minnesota. My sister went to our apartment and delivered the wedding gìfts and put the new sheets on our bed. My husband and I both felt so lucky that wedding day. I have not asked him about the second wedding, but i know they used zip ties for the rings. Romantic and seeing that on his finger was when I finally figured out my marriage was truly over. I socialize with them some now so I know I am so lucky she took him off my hands 😂

Such a great way to use $ received as wedding gifts - creating memories is priceless! Love listening to all your tangents - makes the rest of us feel normal 😊

So nice to see a loving relationship

Great wedding story, guys. Our anniversary is August 6th. 24 years now. Loved the funny parts. I hope you both live long and love long, too.❤

I am *SO* loving your podcast! Love that you combined tradition with practicality. Asking for Todd’s hand from his parents was just beautiful. I would beware nursing homes. Stay in your home forever. Get people to come to you ! As the population ages, there will be less attendants for more patients.it’s far off but something to consider, nonetheless :)

You have been together since you were 17 - wow! I look back upon my life when I was 17, and wonder who I would have wanted to be in a relationship back then. I'm going to have to dig up my high school yearbook(s) and go through them (modern-day swiping left or right scenario). Funny - the only people that come to mind were the twins from high school. (And I wanted them both badly back then!) Thanks for a truly heartfelt episode.

My husband and I have been together for 44 years. This episode is a MUST Watch for any couple considering a live together.

The biggest reason I adore you two is because your relationship reminds me so much of he one that this widow had with her husband. He died unexpectedly shortly after our 38th anniversary. He was not just Amy lover, but my best friend. He told jokes that only I could understand and laugh at. He genuinely put me first in everything. He cared for my family as if he were born into it. I have missed him every minute of the past 11 years, but I smile each time I watch the two of you because it restores my faith in love.

One of my favorite proposal videos is of a couple in Disney World with their families. When the first woman got down on one knee to propose, her GF like ran away and everyone started to freak out. But all she was doing was going to get her purse that someone was holding for her so she could get the ring that SHE had brought to propose with. Talk about being on the same page. Do you know how much joy I get from watching you two together? You are so good together.

An absolute pleasure that you guys spent this time in sharing special moments with your online family. Your ability to share and connect not only with each other but also with all of us makes your podcast very much appreciated! I personally find your ability to communicate with each other outstanding; and that ability challenges each of us as individuals/couples. I look forward for further podcasts that you will share with all of us - your online family.

LOVE! LOVE! LOVE!!!!! The tangents. Eddie steals it today, but you, Tyler and Todd, the funny, loveable duo, start my Wednesdays off with a smile. ❤❤❤❤❤ I've never really gotten in to too many podcasts, but I'm hooked. 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟 I've been married 38 years this month, and you two are smarter and more evolved than we are. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Keep up the great work. Regarding the tea, I would be too frightened to say something that quick, but I'd snark and drop hints. 😮😂 Loves ❤️ to you all. ❤️

I love this xx my wife and I have been together for 16 years and married for 5. I still giggle when I say "my wife". I think having visibility and sharing our experiences is so important.

Omg you’re both hilarious!! I love every second of Tangents with Tyler and Todd!! I would love to people watch with you at that retirement home!! I’m sure my neighbors are wondering why I’m laughing so hard at 11:32 pm! ❤😂😂😂 keep going!!

I enjoy knowing your back story of how you met and up to now! Thank you for sharing!

I’m loving these tangents. Thank you for starting the podcast. I could listen to you both all day.

The Boudreau photo giggle....is EVERYTHING!!

My cheeks hurt from smiling so much. Thanks guys!

I really enjoyed this video!! My husband and I have been together 16 years and married for 14 years. We had to go to a neighboring state to get married since the one we lived in didn't allow it. We just went in front of a judge but plan on renewing our vows on our 15th wedding anniversary. Both our families are very accepting of our marriage and we both knew from the beginning that it was going to happen. You two have figured out how to keep each other happy so I can see you guys growing old together and we will watch as it happens as long as you post on youtube lol

Another juicy episode from Tyler and Todd ☕️ I'm here for it 🤩

Right on you guys!!! My husband and I are 28 years together and 7 years of that married. What a journey.!

Lol I don't even know 75 people! My partner died 17 years ago and I miss her every day. I've been by myself since because once you've had the best there is no one else. I prayed we would be together forever. We were together 10+ years. I miss her every day.

Now you made me cry talking about your vows. Just so cute and so real.❤

I love these new podcasts guys. Each one we're all getting to know you so much better. The usual vlogs about the homestead are great but here we get a much better insight as to who you are. I love it!❤

LOVE THIS. I just love the free flowing conversation. I feel we get to know Tyler & Todd on a whole new level. Thank you for doing Tangents and glad it is going so well!🎉

I live in the UK. I'm 70, I still haven't fathomed why I love these fab chaps so much. But they fill my soul with good vibes. I also love the odd giggle. Keep it T and T xxx

Love listening to you both just chat back and forth. Eddie is so comfy laying between you two. Love your idea of going small and inexpensive for wedding and cash for gifts!!

I so enjoyed this pod. Touching and funny, and informative too. Target leaving Canada without giving it a chance? SMH Have a great week, guys!

Ok, Tyler, Todd is on the mark with Apple Juice. I was a coffee addict until my doctor told me i shouldn’t drink it anymore for my heart. I love the taste of coffee but it was horrible giving it up. And when I needed coffee to wake up and be in a good mood, I found that eating an apple in the morning woke me up just as well but without making my heart race or flutter. So eat an Apple! As for the Nursing Home, y’all need to build one, off grid, affordable, vegan, and I would so be there! Have a community garden for all the old people to have something to do that would keep the price of food down. But yes they are expensive! When you have couples finding it cheaper to book cruises year round because they are cheaper than living in a retirement home, that’s too expensive.

I love listening to your life story, my dearly departed husband and I got married in 1988 we didn’t tell anyone (only are boss to get off work for the day) then told everyone, it cost us £35 for the wedding and I bought a new dress, shoes and a hat xx

I just smiled my way through this whole video. Thank you for sharing your tangents.

I am just loving y'all having a podcast. This was another great episode!

I know your secret to a wonderful marriage, you guys do such a great job of communicating and respecting each other. Your love for each other and life just permeates my TV! Love you guys…

'too bad you can't afford the rest of the photos cuz you don't have a job' hahahahahhaa!!!~!~OMG I laughed really loud at that!

I love your proposal story. Big elaborate proposals or worse, public ones make me cringe. I can’t bear them.

LOVE hearing these stories boys ! This is such a great insight into you both. ❤

My mother, when she was in her mid 90s, moved into a small assisted care residence where one of the other residents was only 67 and not in need of any "nursing" or any kind of care. This woman was single, without family, well-off but lonely. However, she was childhood friends with 3 of the other, older house residents and wanted to live with them. She contributed a lot to the quality of life of all the house residents as she could perform tasks, such as driving to the beauty salon or post office, that not all others could. She was an enthusiastic bridge player - and teacher. Plus she was a marvellous and tireless baker who was always whipping up treats for breakfast, birthday cakes, or whatever, for everyone in the house. And she loved to organize everyone to decorate for and celebrate every holiday known to the calendar - and others she made up especially for the house.😊

I'm happy that you have your podcast avail here on RU-vid in video form. I never get thru an audio-only podcast without several naps . . . then having to find where I left off is really hard. Thanks! I'm really enjoying your tangents

I’m so ready for it! Bring on the tea ☕️ 😊

My husband and I have been married for 16 years (also homosexuals) and your wedding night was similar to ours and brought back some fun memories….we ordered late night pizza & wings, we were quite inebriated, so my husband ate pizza and was sick and fell asleep on the hotel washroom floor while I ate wings and opened every single gift (mostly money in cards). After opening each gift I tossed everything on the floor and moved on to the next…needless to say waking up was quite the mess and shock, my mother in law carefully helped us clean the hotel room and collect all of the cash & cheques strewn about the room….thank you for sharing yourselves, it’s fun to follow your journey but also get to humanize you both a bit 💖

I volunteer and have a buddy (Judy 90yo) friends for 32 years. Assisted living, church and lunch every week. I love it. I’m 73 and feel really great glad to see her weekly, take her to dentist, nail and doctors. Gives me purpose in life. Occasionally my partner will come. Assisted living is pretty decent if it’s affordable.

Your view of mutual commitment, relationships, and marriage is realistic. More than tangents this is a stream of consciousness. The background behind Todd is very Star Wars.

I hope Charlie is doing well

Wait a minute. It’s the high holiday for gays! Happy Halloween everyone.

I have 2 gay couples that I enjoy viewing your love for each other and that is, Tyler and Todd and the other is Niecy Nash and Jessica Betts. My upbringing taught me differently but you can’t deny the love and how freeing it makes you feel because you are being seen and accepted. I really enjoy you guys.

Omg! You need more than one episode a week!! I am loving this podcast!! Maybe even one with the beginning part of you sharing tangents and another full hour a different day of you reading peoples tea stories 🤷🏼‍♀️. I just love listening to you guys so much😅