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life can be a nightmare in many ways, there are things that are truly frightening. the mind can be a curse. one thing that scares me the most is time, the perception of time. esp if your unable to function, as if you are trapped / a prisoner in your own mind and body without the ability to interact with the world around you. its the most frightening thing for me.
As a “gifted kid” who graduated in the top 10% of my class in high school with very little effort, but nearly flunked out of college twice, this speaks to me on every level.
Literallyyyyyyy. I was top of the classes for everything (but math) all through highschool. When we took the tests for advanced classes in 11 and 12 I was literally first in the grade for English. End of year 12 came around and COVID hit through the lead up to HSC and so all my dopamine was lost, burn out struck and I almost failed my English exam 😐.
I'm a gifted kid who get into the best computer science course in my country - and top 5 in Europe - without picking up a schoolbook during high school and managed to need 4 years to finish freshman year Now I'm on the grind. And it's getting there
As a gifted kid myself, I can say this is totally true. Never had to ever do any effort to get good grades in my childhood and once I got to college I was so not used to working that I didn't even know how to do it. A lot of people see being a gifted kid as a good thing with no flaws and that often put a lot of stress in someone when being gifted is just not enough anymore.
I never had to try in any of my math classes all the way through high school, and decided to leave calculus until college so I could take more AP sciences. I hit college and immediately flunked the class. It was my first time ever getting below a B, let alone failing, and it absolutely destroyed my mental state. 0/10 experience, would not recommend.
at this moment and time i am failing college for the second semester due to not knowing how to study and forgetting to turn in work....this all sucks. going from never having to put in effort to not nearly putting enough. edit: very nice to see a lot of us arent alone
@st4rry0npawzz Thing is, learning as a teenager is way harder then learning as like a 4 years old. The brain is way less maleable. A 4 years old can be told to pick up an habit (in this case study) and will do it easily. A 14 years old who already have habits will have a harder time learning how to study. Once you have a teen, you cant learn how to study just like that, you first have to learn how to learn an habit to begin with and that makes the task much harder, so this is where a lot of gifted kids give up, thinking that they'll never be able to. It can also be very annoying, because gifted kids are used to always get everything right within the first few attempt at things. But this is something where we can just do that. In the end its becomes a task that can take a toll on someone, because it just isn't the age to so anymore. It isn't impossible, but it'll be way harder then people who learnt how to study when they were kids.
As someone who’s about to go into high school with all advanced classes (wasn’t gifted, but they might have classified me as that if I’d taken the test), I’m so worried about studying! In middle school, I struggled a bit with Spanish and algebra, not to mention how I probably shouldn’t have taken 10th grade English in 8th grade. The homework load was insane, especially since they required us to do this stupid website thing to “help” us with our math and English for half of study period so we couldn’t do our homework. When we could, I just didn’t because I didn’t want to, and now I’m really worried about what that will do for when I’m in high school in a week because it is physically impossible for me to take a lower class with less homework.
Thankfully my parents aren't disappointed in me dropping out of college, after struggling greatly for two out of three years. Fucking coding and bullshit lecturers...
I used to be so good at school and then I moved schools and started failing. My parents said that it's just because I don't care about it anymore and am just trying to go back. Anyways... gifted kid burnout is a thing that needs to be recognized.
Just remember, we are not “stupid” or “lazy” now, we are just adjusting and learning now what the other kids were forced to learn earlier. Catching up, basically. If you take the time to learn good study habits, even learn from your peers, you can do well. Dont forget to ask for help when you need it, and that study groups are beneficial. I breezed through most of middle school, then struggled through the advanced classes in HS, then in college I finally finished figuring out how to optimize my time. You’ll all figure it out too ❤
thank you, you saved my day and made me feel a bit less shitty about the fact that im totally failing in uni when high school was effortless. i needed to hear this❤
Top study tip for any gifted kids learning how to study - passively reading information is useless (it doesn’t go into your head that way). Either rewrite important information, or just do something fun with it. I learned how to understand modernism by writing a satire on it and when half the class failed the test I passed it. Getting creative with information is also way more fun than trying to learn it by bland repetition. If the teacher’s teaching isn’t working for you then you can find your own ways to learn the facts, just tick the boxes and do the required tasks afterwards. Who says you can’t revise fractions through painting, or percentages through Minecraft? As long as it makes the info stick in your head it’s all good.
Actually- that's a really good idea! I love writing and can retain entire pages of my favorite novel, but when it's pages of fysics that i need to remember for a test it won't go in. These are really useful tips ❤️
The fact that almost every single person here is like “haha, it’s funny because it’s true” really speaks to how well Daniel has been able to curate his audience
I am the exception, I haven't the foggiest idea what it's referring to. Is this some sort of public school reference that I am too home-schooled to get?
@@TheTrueSpottedStripe In public school they have "gifted" programs where kids who are good at school get more challenging work, often STEAM-based. These kids often excel in all their classes with little effort, and adults begin to praise them for it. Said "gifted" kid never learns to study or manage their time wisely because they are naturally good at all the things teachers throw at them in elementary and middle school, so by the time high school and college hits their grades take a hit as the work gets harder. Everyone is shocked and wonders why the child with "so much potential" turned out to have average grades or get an "average" job instead of going to an Ivy League college or getting a doctorate. Usually, the reason is undiagnosed ADHD. The gifted kid excelled in their classes and were therefore ignored when it came to getting a diagnosis. They didn't learn how to manage their disorder and therefore stop succeeding as they hold themselves to standards they cannot meet without managing their ADHD.
@@realrickyshea Imagine if running a coal plant 24/7 for a month produced solved sudoku puzzles that you could exchange for the link to a receipt with your name on it of a jpeg image.
Freshman age student here. I started to notice something like this around 6th grade, where I started struggling. It got progressively worse until I hit a wall in 8th grade, and my grades dropped drastically. I was now doing the bare minimum to pass because that's all I could manage. Everything felt too big to accomplish. I can really only set healthy expectations for personal projects now. It's nice seeing all these comments sharing experiences like mine, makes me feel less alone in all this.
This was so true for me. All throughout elementary, middle, and highschool, I was called "gifted." Of course, that set a standard for me; I didn’t ever need to study, unless I had a very important test- even then, I just skimmed material for about 5-10 minutes. I always got A's and didn’t need to worry about doing poorly. When I got to university, it felt like a truck hit me. I found myself in a sea of work- like normal- but these waves came crashing onto me, pulling me underwater and suffocating me. I didn't know how to study, and I had to figure out fast. What this has done to me, however, is that it lowered my self-esteem by quite a lot; I always felt as if my identity were my being smart, and I didn't feel like that anymore. I have improved lately, though
"The Gifted Adult" by Mary-Elaine Jacobsen has been really helpful so far. It's interesting to me, because 90% of the book just feels like she's reading a biography about me and my life so far.
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I found this randomly and reading this comment section is actually comforting. I thought this only happened to me but it's nice to know there's people who also didn't need to study and are messed up now and took 11 years of their lives to learn how to fasten their shoes😭😭 wait... that last thing was just me? okay...
My dad practically raised me on the line “I know you can do better you are smart enough” I am now facing a solid amount of depression and struggle to deal with therapists in a manor that actually helps me because of anxiety and a few other things. All pretty much because of the constant expectations and disappointment.
@@sheffieldmooseday1968 by gifted he means talented or smart, so at school he would have been really smart and found things easy, so wouldn't put the work in and then ended up not as successful as he could have
@@sheffieldmooseday1968 Not only what @Toby wolverson said. But half the time its not that kids are lazy. They do not teach what to do with themselves with all this confusion, because u cant study something u completely understand they often never learn hoe to actually study
FUN FACT!! IN elementary school I was basically in the opposite of the gifted kids program. I had to stay in for recess in second grade so my teacher could reteach me long division! And I’m still technically in it! Instead of being in chemistry like the other kids, I’m in “chemistry foundations” which I was told was basically chemistry but for “kids who need a little more help”. But a bright side of the class is that all of the other kids are just as stupid as I am and they’re fun to talk to. But the teacher looks like he’s one bad joke away from snapping :D
You’re a fish being asked to climb a tree. I’m sure there is an environment that you’ll totally thrive in, you just have to find it on your adult life because unfortunately a government sanctioned institutional learning facility where we are all treated like clones is the expectation till you turn 18
School is excellent at testing you on the lessons they teach you, but there is much more to life than will ever fit on a curriculum. I have 2 degrees, but life has taught me that finding your own way to give your life meaning and happiness is way more important than grades. Also, by the time you’re 30 years old work experience will matter way more than your grades anyway.
@@skylinefx049 Just because they have to struggle harder to learn more complex topics, doesn't mean they should give up on any dreams of the career they want. OP, don't listen to this fool, keep working at it and you'll get there in the end, even if it takes you longer than most to do so.
Yeah this "gifted kid" thing definitely sounds like me. I almost never study unless I have to, and I get straight A's without much effort. I'm going into 10th grade now, and while I am fairly confident, a small part of me does worry that my lack of a need to study may become an issue in the future when I actually need to. I just hope I can adapt effectively and not just die inside if/when I realize that simply trying to memorize all the information during class won't work anymore
As an elementary student who completely understands what happens in there due to my brother, I am sorry for your soon-to-be loss of sleep. I hope you can recover and keep living the perfect, easy life.
See also: Kids with undiagnosed ADHD who breezed through school when it was making dopamine but then had absolutely no skills for how to handle school when it wasn't making dopamine.
i watched this video about a week after it first came out and laughed about how much i related to it. when i saw all the comments about adhd i did some research n stuff and am now diagnosed working with my doctors to figure out meds. so daniel if you ever see this thanks for helping me get to a better mental place
The funny thing about this is that there's virtually no way to win. I see people in here saying 'I was brilliant in middle school but now I struggle in HS' or 'I was doing great until I got to college' or 'I was a genius until I had to hold an actual job.' Good news, though: you can still feel like you fail to live up to your potential even if you have a reasonably successful career, hooray! I mean, sure, I make a solid living doing a tech job for a good company. But why am I not PERSONALLY SAVING THE WORLD or something?? 🎵If your childhood expectations are high enough, everything can be a failure! 🎵
... but after breezing through everything and overachieving at most aspects, the things I do will in no way actually help the world improve! - and in fact, hardly anything will have a significant impact if not make the world passively worse... 'Yea, you just gotta not care about that'. ...
If you recycle you sorta are personally helping make the world a better one tho? And closing the tap water at home. And well maybe something bigger like being part of an association or donating. Like there’s a lot of ways to contribute now
@@iamb34 i don't think that's exactly what they're talking about, but yeah that's good advice there are a lot of small ways to contribute. but yeah, high childhood expectations = everything short of saving the world or being incredibly successful is just FAILURE :DDD
@@midnyght6397 yeah lol but I was just thinking of ways to not feel like a failure apart from just not caring at all. You just need to see that whatever you're doing your best, and always your best and that's more than enough bc not everyone can do what you do
The cure is: the moment you start to fail, suck it up and finally appreciate the struggle without forgetting that failure isn't the end, but can be a start.
the cure is actually just accepting that you are a dissapointment. Dr. K has a great video on that the whole issue is all about the gap of shame. Getting rid of that shame by just accepting that you're a useless hunk of garbage and that everything you have ever done is what you are capable of, nothing more and nothing less. Once that happens, over time, you might be able to find out what you are actualy capable of. Much love from a person who is going to be in a lot of debt at NYU
I was a gifted kid when I was a child. Unfortunately being a gifted kid meant I never had to learn how to study when finally the work difficult caught up with me.
This is me, never learned how to study, and was never taught how to study, but now I have a single exam that will dictate my life in one shot, resent test shows I basically know nothin,
Going through this at the moment, and I'm willing to change that... Has anyone here managed to study properly? Do you have any tips or pieces of advice?
What annoys me the most is that I was lucky enough to not have parents who expect that much from me but I expect a lot from myself even if I know I'll never truly be up to them, leading to me being always disappointed and feeling g like disappointing others 👌
That's sort of a cop out innit? Sure there might be some things people are predisposed to but really it just amounts to putting in the work/practice. Don't sell yourself short dude.
apparently i’m gifted in math and reading and my advanced math in very easy but my reading classes are normal level and i had to do extra work for it last year so i really just stopped caring about my answers in things this year. i literally just put down the simplest shit didn’t put any thought into it so then people are like hmmm maybe she’s not gifted in reading so let’s not give her more work. i don’t really know if it’s working yet. but honestly my parents and teachers aren’t hard on me for it and i just have to get and 85% in algebra II which is what some 10th graders are taking at my school so where i live, everyone is like holy crap that’s awesome. but little do they know it’s really fuggin easy. and that’s not even from a “gifted kid” pov that’s from an everyone pov tbh.
The cure is actually putting hard work and effort into things that now come difficult to you. Whether or not you actually have the motivation to do that when for a good portion of your life you haven't is another story.
life can be a nightmare in many ways, there are things that are truly frightening. the mind can be a curse. one thing that scares me the most is time, the perception of time. esp if your unable to function, as if you are trapped / a prisoner in your own mind and body without the ability to interact with the world around you. its the most frightening thing for me.
Boomer parents: *finds out kid is gifted* Boomer parents: “well better burn them out in middle school and keep them socially isolated by putting them in classes away from everyone else. Don’t even think about putting them in normal classes where them being able to contribute to normal class conversations intelligently from the perspective of a child may benefit the other kids”
The most healing I've heard is that gifted kids need special help to really realize their potential .. which is something parents completely overlook, they usually think a gifted kid means their parenting can go on easy mode and just impose high expectations, but gifted kids are actual special needs kids too
There's a disproportionately large number of HSC (highly sensitive children) in gifted programs. HSCs tend to be intuitive and observant, fast learners, quick to recognize patterns, and also prone to anxiety, be highly self-critical and also have high expectations of themselves, sensitive to any perceived sign of judgement, and tend to "feel big feelings", including but not limited to frustration, rage, shame spiraling, sense of despair, anxiety, as well as extremely high, yet fleeting, feelings of pride, confidence, and/or elation. They can also get overwhelmed with sensory overload and are more likely to have issues with food textures, or getting "messy". They are often misdiagnosed with things like ADD, autism, OCD, or ODD, because HSC is a fairly new category and isn't well known. It also doesn't have an actual diagnostic test, being seen as a personality trait rather than a kind of disorder. It's basically the difference between "bright" versus "gifted" in every school district's description that I've seen. I'm an HSP married to an HSP with an HSC son (it appears to be genetic), and I've read everything I could get my hands on since I heard the term 3 years ago, plus I've worked with a parent coach and 2 other counselors/therapists who specialize in working with HSC/HSP patients.
@@Snapdragonflieow, you pretty much described me. I like Mathematics and I recognized the part about noticing patterns. It's also true the not liking to get messy with food part, because sometimes I get really frustrated and I wash my hands all the time. I'm currently waiting for a diagnose, because they told I must likely have autism. The HSC and all of this is an interesting topic.
... It's times like this that I question whether I should be relieved to be on the autism spectrum, for the simple fact that pretty much every part of my education was a struggle at some point, and adaptability was the primary skill I spent my childhood learning... but, then again, I wouldn't wish that situation on anyone else either. I mean, I certainly wouldn't be willing to go through it again, that's for sure.
The problem with gifted kid syndrome is that when you get to a point where things start to get hard, you don’t have to knowledge on how to properly learn about it because you never took the time too because everything came so easily to you. Edit : Damn, didn’t expect the amount of people going through this. I’m sorry guys, I know it’s rough, but overtime you’ll always adapt. As long as you focus on your teacher/professor, you’ll do well. The fact that you care enough about not feeling gifted, or not feeling smart enough anymore, shows that you’ll do fine in this world. Just know that it’ll all turn out okay.
Yess i pass through mid school to high school my 2nd year of highschool started getting hard and i have no idea how to properly learn, i used to only just read through for 5 min and done
honestly this isn't going to be a problem for me because i am just built different ig but i know another gifted person in my school and he's going to struggle so much with that lmao
No they don't, that's very offensive considering they spend 20 hours a day developing their looks. Do you even know what it's like to be talented. 🙄🙄🙄 they all have their own Ives and families, making that comparison just isn't fair. /j
I was one of the smartest kids for a long while and so while everyone else was getting into good habits by studying and working hard I didn't bother :')
The true gift was the burnout and perfectionism it gave us so we have to live with crippling anxiety having no motivation to do anything but needing to be perfect and our biggest fear became disappointing anyone
I think it’s mostly just that everyone thinks they are above average at things in general, and parents tend to think their kids are very smart and tell them so.
I think people comment if they think that it is relatable. If you were not a genius and you watched a video about geniuses, with all these other geniuses commenting on it, would you comment about how the video is relatable? Further, would you even comment at all?
I used to be the gifted kid...no longer. Anyways I have 20 missing assignments and the courter is ending on Wednesday... so I SHOULD do that but I think I'll wait til last moment.
This song is missing the verse where you show a strong interest in something and yet you're constantly dissuaded by everyone around you from pursuing it as a career.
Get out of my head lol. The only thing i was ever interested in was computers and on career night i told the teachers thats what i wanted to do and they threw so many reasons as to why that was a bad idea i gave up and ended up taking the first job i could get. I left school in year 11
Painfully real. But one thing I've learned lately is that you can try to pursue what you want at any time. Even if you just start by watching youtube videos on how to do it. (I wanted to go to school for art, but was told I'd never make any money doing it so it was a bad idea - pick something else.)
As a mother of a gifted kid I make sure she learns how to study and how to stay focused on one thing. And she has at least one hobby that she is not allowed to give up when it is getting harder. She is good at everything she starts and that is the problem. Lots of aws and ohs from everybody on how talented she is but no one knows that this is just beginners luck or simply gifted kid syndrome. They don't see what comes after that first great success. Disappointment, self-doubt, excessive demand. It is so painful to witnesses this as a parent. I hope I can teach my kid what a wonderful person she is and that we love her just the way she is. But our obligation is to make sure she learns how to work on a thing and get through the hard parts to experience the great feeling of success.
Sounds like you're doing an amazing job @Frenzy Coming from a former gifted kid based on my childhood experience and what may have helped me: 1. 'she is not allowed to give up when it is getting harder.' , this is amazing and may help build a growth mindset. 2. If she's good at everything things may not be challenging enough for her (potential solutions: sports, music, harder problems at her intelligence level) 3. Make sure you show her how much you love and value her out of grades accomplishments etc (this was the biggest thing that would have prevented many mental health problems for me)
@@frenzyreinholz4391 that's a good, when her first disappointment eventually comes, make sure that she won't give up, I wished my parents did the same when happened
Well this is often undiagnosed ADHD, so, uh, talk with your dr about if microdosing speed is right for you! (No but actually look into potentially getting assessed for ADHD and/or autism because both tend to have this effect, especially both combined)
@@Tim_flips good luck! Caffeine can help in the meantime but be careful cause it's easy to develop a physical and mental dependency. Took me a month for my blood pressure to stabilize after quitting back in high school. Oh and ADHD peeps need more sleep and more time doing things we enjoy or else we get super destabilized and overwhelmed by everything, the burnout is real. But it's all about figuring out your needs and how to accomodate for them. Like for me I naturally tend towards being nocturnal, forcing myself awake early just leads to sleep deprivation. And my brain is slow with task switching so I have to schedule time to switch modes and/or relax in between major tasks or else I either run late or my brain feels fried all day from forcing a quick shift in mental state. Like, it sucks, but I have to start setting alarms to wake up an hour before I actually have to be awake because it takes my brain an hour to actually wake up. If Im awake from the first alarm, it still takes that hour to feel ready to get up and out of bed.
@@Alex-fc8xn A lot of those things you mentioned also feel very relatable! I think I will go get assessed. Luckily I'm in a pretty good place mentally/in life, so I'm not stressed about needing medication or anything. Thanks for the kind tips!
@@Jesus-101 it doesnt mean you have to have adhd or add (or other neurological condition), but as someone who is now going through the process of getting diagnosed, i always thought i couldnt have it, i did great in school, i could focus well when was interested in the topic (my brain luckily finds most of the time an interesting aspect of whatever we were talkin about) but i just thought i was lazy when i never were able to study for exams or do homework or start literally anything that didnt give me instant dopamine. After actually learning what adhd/add is and how it can look and feel, i started to recognize other stuff i did, stimming, always having to move a part of my body if i wasn't in a situation where i shouldn't, getting hyperfixated on stuff etc. I recommend doing that, it can turn out it doesn't match and you dont have it, but at least you you know for sure.
Actually a lot of psychologist believe that "giftedness" is a special needs thing and a form of neurodivergence. Probably because it shares a lot of traits with ADHD, ADD, and OCD.
i was a gifted kid so this hits... however you failed to mention that when you get to high school you find out that nobody cares that you are smart because literally everybody has caught up to you at this point so you aren't smart anymore but you;re so used to being "special" that it feels like you have to be better in order to have any worth whatsoever. and then you also feel like emotions are irrational and awful because they get in the way of getting stuff done. at least that's my experience...
As a person labeled as "gifted", this hits hard. It just takes one big fail for your parents to roast the hell out of you. Also the fur elise reference at 1:51 caught me off guard
I don't even get yelled at by my parents; I'm so harsh on myself that getting a bad grade, even if it means nothing to everyone else, can extremely break my own mental stability. Woo. Perfectionism.
@@erezsolomon3838 it is tho! It's just funny they said " ignoring everything" to me cause technically everything is great if you "ignore everything". Idk
I don’t understand…you’ve gotten A’s on all of your tests but you somehow have C’s in all of your classes…. Ah…yes, the whole “homework” thing never panned out in favor of the gifted kid.
being the smartest became my personality. it was all i could count on, and then 8th grade hit me like a train. i went from all As to As and Bs, and then I recovered for high school. Took up all the AP and honlrs courses and aced them, but had no work ethic when covid hit. I got out of high school with a 2.9 GPA, and it doesnt matter at all that i was so smart as a kid. I lost that huge part of my identity, and felt a bit lost.
Side effect of gifted kid syndrome are: Self-doubt Laziness Feeling of unworthiness Crushing parental expectations Worst case of imposter syndrome Feel free to add more.
Sounds like ADHD to me if you put "laziness" in quotations cause everyone thinks we are lazy but holy shit we are trying so hard it just looks like laziness
As someone who went to middle school with Daniel, and was also in the gifted program there, I took that personally. Seriously, I was in a band with this guy...
The chemistry between the father and son is something I feel almost every day... Don't know why my father forces me to watch 80's educational videos but whatever.
As a former "gifted kid" that didn't turn into a disappointment, I'd really like to learn that cure you cut out. I'm still struggling with motivation for most mundane tasks even at 26. On the other hand, I did figure out how to manage expectations, which makes life easier. Anyway, from my experience so far, the best way to get motivated is to be around people that are also working.
Lately I've learned that this "Gifted Kid Syndrome" that Wu-Tang Dan rhymed about might by just simply undiagnosed ADHD and it don't disappear when one becomes and adult, so if you fell that you had this "syndrome" then maybe it's worth to go to a specialist. Problem is, that on ADHD it's hard to stay commited to one task and actually complete it xD
It may, or may not be. Everything Daniel listed as "Gifted Kid Syndrome" fits me to a tee, and I was actually tested for ADD/ADHD when I was in grade school and they determined that I didn't. My teacher insisted that I must have it because I would stop taking notes before copying everything down, and before even testing me the doctor immediately realized I have Familial Tremors which were causing me constant pain whenever I had to spend too long writing. He still tested me but found no issues that would point to ADD/ADHD. Personally I think a lot of it comes down to this: being constantly praised and told how much of a "genius" you are as a young kid sets expectations in your mind, being effortlessly successful at tests and getting fantastic grades without doing all the homework (and not seeing any *real* consequences for failing to do that homework) and without any actual studying stunts your drive and work ethic. And then, eventually you hit the point where your natural talent for absorbing and regurgitating information and easily understanding concepts either hits its limit, or stops being all you require to be successful, and by that point, so many bad habits have been formed that unlearning them and forming good habits can feel almost impossible, especially for someone whose bad habits include avoiding boring things that require self-motivation and effort.
@@Roman-ji7iu essentially it's "the shakes". It affects different people in different ways, but for myself, it's mostly "shaking" and sudden twitches in my arms, making it difficult to do things that require fine motor skills. It also causes my arms to get sore doing anything that requires precision because I have to strain to compensate (at least that is how I understood it when the doctor told me about it, although that was around 20 years ago or so. It's hereditary (thus the "familial" part) and my grandfather, uncle, and great grandmother all have/had it, much more exaggerated than my own at this point, but I know mine will get worse as I age. It gets worse when I'm stressed out or sick, and can be very frustrating when doing things like cutting my nails or, as I said previously, writing.
This is way to relatable, easily got through everything without much effort, but i also dont have any work ethic now because i never actually had to work hard. My sister on the other hand is somehow both smart and disciplined
Literally lol, currently on a comment hunt to go poke everyone lamenting and relating to this too hard rn to go and get an assesment if they havent already
What most people mean by being gifted is actually a curse. Grinding is a skill you need to develop from childhood. But because we get away with too little efforts, we never learn how to do it. We are too young to know life won't work that way and the adults around us are so busy telling us we are gifted that they fail to guide us too. By the time I figured out what I did wrong, it wasn't too late but I have wasted so much time. This is what I always tell young kids now "only gift is being able to work hard. Hard work beats talent every single time in life." Unless you are a prodigy, innate talent doesn't mean shit.
Seriously, though, one of my grandmas was wondering why I was failing school, and she just couldn't seem to understand that there's more to academic success than just intelligence.
